>>16594824
Building trust after it was breached is near impossible. It will always be in the back of your mind.

>>16594838
That is so true.
Trust is earned and never forgotten.

Why put the word deeply there? Now it's word porn. This anon is fucking annoying. Get rid of yourself, already.

You're not deeply in love if your trust is broken more than once.

>>16594848
Please give me more quality advice "A girl that will break the rules." I think we've seen enough of you recently in these latitudes.

>>16594848
Agreed

>>16594854
I dated a Muslim girl
Everything was perfect
It's easy to mess up when you are Halal
I messed up
Love of my life dead to me now

>>16594863
I guess love comes and goes and in my experience it went.
I fully do not know yours. Keep in mind, time is cruel but also a savior.

That depends entirely on why trust was broken, and what the trust was about.
I realized I took things too seriously sometimes. I've had plenty of bad experiences, so I think there's always going to be something in the back of my head that says never solely take someone's word for something, you need to match actions to it. Because I grew up thinking no one cared, keeping a lot of my thoughts to myself, and only letting bits out to different people. I think everyone does that to some extent. Sometimes you're forced to deal with someone who refuses to compromise, and the easiest thing is just pretending for them.
So I'd catch lies, and I'd feel like I wasn't trusted. That hurts. But I had to pull myself out of my own head enough to realize the lies weren't actually against me or my capability to handle them. They were about how much my partner felt comfortable opening up about after likewise having bad experiences.

If you can relate or understand why your partner breaks your trust, you can work together to improve it. If they don't know why or can't answer, then they don't even know why they do things and then can't answer.

>>16594838
I know it'll always be in the back of my mind, I've accepted that. What I don't know is if it's possible to have a healthy and happy relationship after trust is broken, if both parties are ready and willing to put in the time and effort to rebuild that trust.

>>16594880
Thank you for your advice and for sharing.

I know mostly why the trust is broken, but it's hard for me to communicate that with them. I've been working on it though, and I think we're both getting better/more comfortable at talking about things regarding trust.

I'm like you, I've been given so many reasons not to trust anyone, and when my bf came along I had to push myself to open up, and he did the same. Everything was great, but not long after that he broke my trust and has only done it more, and I guess worse, since.

I can see that he is genuinely remorseful and apologetic for hurting me. We've discussed it many times, I know he's trying to change for the better and is trying to earn my trust back.

But it's just so hard. I have abandonment and trust issues enough as it is, so it's really hard trying to build that trust back up again.

I know we'll eventually get there, but I'm afraid of being hurt again. Is there anything that could help? Should be be doing something to help me? Should I?

Sorry if none of this makes sense, I guess I'm just struggling with a lot of things but I appreciate any and all advice.

>>16594841
>>16594848
Maybe they're not "deeply" in love, but they still could be in love.
It's just a word, get over it.

>>16594927
>Is there anything that could help? Should be be doing something to help me? Should I?
I can tell you my personal beliefs, but I'm not sure if it would help. Ultimately we need to make a choice in life, and that is believing we make some sort of difference or we don't. You can't decide for someone if they will change. That has to come from them. And that is where most struggle comes from. You can give up everything to try to change someone and not manage. Yet, you know that people have changed you. You can't control how you change someone though. So it's best to try to support them and show them they CAN change, and hope that they decide to for the better.

I'm what I guess is an agnostic theist. I don't know if everyone is good deep down, but I like to have faith. I have faith in people, and that people can change for the better. I don't think I can exist in the world without trying to do that. Because although there's plenty of people who just say "I hate humans," I know that if I truly felt like people were bad and couldn't change, I'd be saying the same thing about myself. And whether or not any of it is true, if I believe it I'd stop trying.

>>16594824
no

>>16595713
Care to evaluate on that?

Bumping for advice on this too

>>16594824
girls thinking too much about things: the thread

>>16596468
How is wondering if trust can be built back up again 'girls thinking too much about things'?