nearly got caught upskirting my sister, family strongly believes i wouldnt do something like that to my own sister. and now im crying everyday feeling guilty because they deserve a better son and i feel like a fucking monster, i can tell they feel bad for asking me.
i cant even look at any of them in the eye since it happened and neither can i look myself in the mirror.
should i give them the truth and potentially hurt them and never be seen the same and my sister would never completely trust me again? or should i just try to move on and swear i never do it, which i never will. im desperate for advice because i nearly threw myself in front of a car today after work. tell me how it is please thanks..
>>16588554
Are men really this uncontrollable Jesus christ
You're fucked. Time to admit to your wicked ways.
>>16588559
no.. it's just me
when my parents found out my older brother had been stealing my panties and taking pictures of my while I sleep, they put two locks on my door and tried putting him in therapy and I kept as far away from him as possible. when he turned 18 he refused to do anything, so they kicked him out. I never go over anymore if he's over there too. but he was also borderline NEET with other issues do
if you can control yourself like a functioning member of society, then don't say anything and never do it again. if not, move out and get into therapy. telling your family would only make them hate you
>>16588595
see I couldn't do that.. the site of my sister's panties grosses me out. I don't know why I did it. I did it and then deleted it.. which doesn't make it any better but I kinda hate myself right now for doing it.
>>16588554
everyone's got weird sex stuff that they don't talk about.
you're not a monster, OP.
you're just a kid. you're not hurting anyone.
just don't do it again. or at least, don't get caught.
and definitely don't tell them. jesus.
>>16588616
ill never do it again. I feel the worst because of how my sister feels. I don't know why I did it. I guess I just feel so bad because I know how much my family trusts me. im just trying to find a way to get past them feeling bad for asking, they shouldn't have to feel like this because of how fucked up I am.
>>16588630
just forget about it.
nothing you can really do.
it'll blow over in a few days or whatever.
Lying is supposed to bad but in this case it seems selfish, you're the only one with something to gain by telling the truth. Live with it.
>>16588554
It is good that you feel bad. You deserve to.
But the rest of the family is not obsessing over this. Just be quiet about it and they'll forget it.
How did you almost get caught. So close they are suspicious?
>>16588685
her friend saw my phone turn over to camera and then told her when they left the house
this is what 4chan does to already-autistic faggots
Are you attracted to her? I guess obviously.
>>16588708
im not no. I haven't done anything else apart from this.
I have a fetish much much more shameful and non-socially acceptable than yours OP, and I'd trade with you in an instant.
I've hid it from everyone I know my entire life, and I'll take it with me to the grave. It isn't anything that's illegal, and that's all I'll say about it.
Once when I was 15 my parents saw a video left open on the shared family computer. Fuck I was stupid then, thank God they were essentially technologically illiterate. Anyway my dad flat out asked me if I was looking at the kind of porn that said video was. I lied through my teeth, and said it must have been a virus associated with some internet games I was playing. He seemed to buy it, but I wasn't totally sure. That night was among the longest I've ever had. But my parents never asked me about it again. 10 years later and I doubt they remember.
If I can man the fuck up and live with it, so can you OP. I will tell you something that nobody ever told me, that I had to one day realize on my own after years of suffering with guilt and shame. Read these words very carefully: You can not help what gives you a boner. It is not your fault. You can spend years hating yourself and eventually arrive at this conclusion, or you can just accept it now and save yourself the hassle.
Best of luck, OP.
>>16588713
Yeah but what fetish is it
>>16588713
thanks.. that makes me feel a little better..
I need to know what fetish it is though.. the state I am in right now, trust me, I will not judge you. I don't mean it in a bad way but you people are the only people in my life I can talk to about this. My family would never look or trust me the same again if I told them and I feel bad enough lying straight to their face, making them feel bad for asking me.
>>16588725
It doesn't matter what it is, it's what I'm telling you that's important.
>>16588737
No I think this is important, so I can imagine the scenes
>>16588554
You are not a monster, OP. You nearly did a terrible thing, yes; the only reason you didn't go through with is that you were caught first. But you understand this, you feel bad about it, and you have resolved never to do it again. A monster would not do that. A monster would try again at the next opportunity.
You cannot balance the books, but you can move forward on a better path. You seem to have resolved to do this. Good for you. That's the right way to go.
I am torn on whether or not to tell your parents. On the one hand, the act of hiding this is clearly eating you up inside, maybe even worse than what you did. The truth would certainly set you free, if nothing else. On the other hand, it would create a lot of strife and drama, to a degree that frankly is not useful unless you feel a strong need to do some kind of penance.
Perhaps a good way to phrase it would be to delay it a bit: don't hit them with this out of the blue. Instead, tell them you need to seek professional help (which would be useful for you anyway). When they ask why, tell them it's partly about the guilt you feel over something you did, and THEN tell them what you did. This line of argument frames you as guilt-ridden and apologetic even before you cobfess, which should help put your parents in a more receptive (or at least less quick to judge) frame of mind. It's probably your best shot.
You need to tell your family.
First, because it is the right thing to do, and it was an impulsive moment of weakness. Second, this guilt, and revulsion, will eat away at you otherwise. Third, they are your family, and will understand. Fourth, it really isn't so terrible, but hiding this adds a different type of layer to it.
>>16588554
NO dont fucking admit this jesus christ you dumbass
If you tell them, you are being a selfish asshole and only acting to absolve your own guilt. You were being selfish upskirting your sister, try to just do the right thing here and put your feelings aside for your family. It is much better to not say anything and never do it again. Get into therapy and work on yourself.
i am a female btw if that makes a difference
>>16588713
It's scat, isn't it.
>>16588737
hahaha you are good
you almost got me senpai
>>16589089
no fuck off retard
OP DONT FUCKING TELL THEM ITS STUPID YOU WOULD BE SO DUMB TO DO THAT
>>16589103
what the fuck you are so stupid
>>16589103
>they are your family, and will understand
are you a troll AM I BEING TROLLED
OP, do you think monsters are people who do something stupid, then feel bad when they realize how their actions affect others?
Or do you change your definition of monster when you're talking about yourself versus other people?
You can do bad things and still be a good person. Saying you can't is saying everyone is absolute good or absolute evil with nothing in between.
>>16589111
>>16589118
>>16589120
>>16589123
Is this samefag bait?
Never trust a female, much less one that identifies as such on 4chan.
>>16589103
>First, because it is the right thing to do, and it was an impulsive moment of weakness.
Talking about it might relieve some of the guilt, but it changes nothing for the better. It will likely just ruin his family.
>Third, they are your family, and will understand.
I think this is where you're wrong. Your family may or may not be the "understanding, stand with you in fire" type, but don't assume that OP's family is that way. People can have very harsh, negative knee-jerk reactions to things like this, even if no one was really hurt. It's more likely that his family will be disgusted by him and that he'll ruin his chances at having a healthy, happy family relationship. It doesn't make them bad people, most just aren't capable of comprehending such a situation because it's something they'd never do themselves.
>>16589135
i posted all of those, yes.
>implying youre not the one trolling here
i see u nigga
I can only imagine you're like 13 years old if something like that bothers you. Surely you've lied to your family dozens of times over the years. You're not even abnormal for wanting to look up your sisters skirt. It's condemned by society and it will definitely freak her out, so whatever you do, by god do not fucking admit it. However, human beings are essentially animals and most people have wanked to more fucked up shit than that before. When I was 13 or 14 I used to always go and steal my mom's underwear and masturbate into it. I would also take my aunts/cousins underwear and wank with them when they came to stay at our house. I got very close to being caught numerous times but got away in the end.
Point is, you're not particuarly abnormal. Everyone feels strange urges they have trouble controlling - especially during puberty. Don't risk doing it again, but certainly don't admit to it. If you pretend it never happened, everyone will forget in like a week and your life will continue like normal. If you tell them, your life will be permanently changed and you'll do irrevocable damage to your relationship with the rest of your family members. It'll probably fuck up all of their lives somewhat, because they'll all be stressing about it.
>>16588554
OP man the fuck up.
Go tell your parents. Have your sister out of your own mess because she actually has nothing to do with your problem. It's just about you being a dick watching porn and not being able to hold off to your inner desires.
Just like many moms have their nipples hard while breastfeeding or dads may have boners while suddenly watching their daughters naked when they've grown. It's impulsive.
Face the things that should not be, will you?
>>16588554
This is bait, in this case literally.
OP posted this so someone would say "Oh, I do that too" and he lure that person into self-exposure. Notice the "What's your fetish?" exchange above.
OP has posted this twice before, unless he's also the "I want to rape my sister" guy, in which cast it's dozens of times.
He gets off on our believing him and imagining us being aroused by his story.
>>16589120
Why? He needs help, and while I could be wrong in this next guess, he probably needs help getting help. Not only that, but he himself says that ths act of hiding this is eating him up inside: he can't live with the guilt
That is why I suggested framing the discussion as a cry for help. He needs it anyway, and this helps him get it while also resolving the hiding issue. His family doesn't sound toxic, so I don't think there's much need to worry about them turning on him, especially if he approaches them in this way.
Tell your parents but make sure you tell them it was an impulsive thing, you immediately regretted it, "why the hell did I do that", "it doesn't make me happy or anything", "I think I'm sexually frustrated or something, I don't feel like I wanted to do it, and I will not do it again". and apologize to your sister personally if she knows. It's going to be embarrassing, but it's better than carrying that weight on your shoulders at every family gathering for the rest of your life. If you're in a good family they'll probably make fun of you for it, call you Cleetus every once in a while, and move on. You need to make sure they know that you're not crazy, you are very remourseful, and you know it was wrong. Get it out in the open, because it will eat you inside if you don't, believe me. The weight of that guilt would be horrible to carry. Make up for it. Also, don't ever fucking do that bullshit to anyone. Not because it's creepy, or gross, but because it is fucking pathetic. That is what you should feel shame for, that you're so pathetic that you can't control your perverted impulses, said to one man from another.
DO NOT TELL THEM
NEVER EVER DO IT AGAIN
DO NOT TELL THEM
NEVER EVER DO IT AGAIN
DO NOT TELL THEM
NEVER EVER DO IT AGAIN
>>16588554
The only outcome you'll get by telling anyone that you did this is being ostracized by your family.
The only course of action I can recommend is to not do it again and instead move past it, it's over, dude.
>>16589512
Everyone agrees he should never do it again. But how do you suggest he keep the act of hiding this from eating him up inside, other than ceasing to hide it?
I'm sorry, man, but sometimes the only way things can get better is if you face the music first. It sucks in the short term, but the long-term payoff is more than worth it.
>>16588713
>It isn't anything that's illegal, and that's all I'll say about it.
Come on man, it's an anonymous image board.
>>16589151
Read the thread, OP got his phone out and started filming under her skirt.
>>16589522
>But how do you suggest he keep the act of hiding this from eating him up inside, other than ceasing to hide it?
Therapy. Seriously, if OP is able to get linked up with a therapist then do it. You can just tell your family you're depressed or whatever. Tell the therapist everything you've said here.
>>16588713
Why not tell us, we're all Anonymous here.
>>16588559
Are women emotionally uncontrollable? Yes. Men and women are different.
Everyone has some dirty sex-related secret that they don't tell anyone. Let this be yours. Take it as a lesson next time you want to jerk off to something you maybe shouldn't. You don't even have to stop, just be more careful next time.
There is nothing to gain from telling them. Why make your life and theirs more difficult. I'm with the caps locks anon, keep your mouth shut.
>>16589645
/thread
Did this spread beyond her and her friend? Did anyone ask you anything?
>>16588554
Just push her down and do whatever you like dude everybody will forget about the upskirt thing
you only feel bad because you were caught.
if you got off scotfree youd just keep on doing it like the sick fuck you are. do your family a favor and distance yourself from them
Keep it secret. Keep it safe.
>>16588559
>one guy is weird and fucked up
>blames the entire sex
You're what's wrong with the world
>>16588559
Repressed society == uglier underbelly.
Men keep getting creepier and more chaotic with each passing year, perfectly parallel to how society keeps cracking down harder and harder at males who try to find females.
>>16588559
why generalize, you stupid bitch? Not all men are like OP.
>>16590726
I see what you did there
>>16591430
"Not all men"
>>16588554
OP can we get a related pic to the story unless she isn't white
>>16592616
We're told to take #notallwomen, #notallmuslims, #notallblacks, and similar statements as gospel, and rightly so. Indeed, it is the foundation for a non-prejudiced philosophocal and social outlook, not reliant on sterwotypes and similar poisons. This, in turn, is taken to be one of the core aspects of being a good person.
Why, then, if #notall_____ is such a compelling argument in all other situations, should men be the only group exempt from it? This is transparently self-serving bullshit.
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