Welcome to the NEET and Shut-in advice thread!
(Version 121, running since Oct. 31st, 2013)
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Drop out of school due to anxiety? Haven't left the house in a few years? Maybe you have a job, but don't leave the house or talk to people for any reason outside of it? Finding a job sure is hard these days.
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>>16559671
Posting the thread from a phone is such a pain. I won't be doing this again. -_-
Coming up on four years.
Dear lord that was fast.
How does one actually become NEET? How do you guys survive?
>>16576273
One way is to buy a bunch of buildings and rent them thorough a company, so you basically do nothing and receive money, but this requires a huge starting budget. Or royalties.
But let's be honest here, most neets are supported by their parents.
I don't know if this is the right topic but here I go.
Call me... T, I'm 28 years old... still living with my mom due to my assburgers, Trying to get a job/apartment for myself but it's super hard out here
and now well with my mother's work jerking her chain with her pay and such we're in deep shit with our landlord.
I'm trying to be strong for her but I feel like this is my fault in someways... maybe I wasn't looking hard enough, maybe I'm just a burden... I don't know what to do.
I want to be independent but...Argh!
4chan is such a terrible and shit site but it's literally the only place I visit.
>>16576320
Did you finish high school or college?
For those of you that still try, have you had any luck meeting new people?
>>16576529
I finished high school and I have some college, before having to drop out due to family financial issues.
As of now I'm trying to gain employment through something called DVR In my state. It's been an up and down battle but now, well I don't know... I'm trying to keep an optimistic attitude for my mom
next year im 20 yrs old and i dont want to keep going i had fun till this last year i feel so old :(
>>16576558
>next year im 20 yrs old and i dont want to keep going i had fun till this last year i feel so old :(
>20
>old
Shut the fuck up.
Truly hate my job, but don't want to lose it due to mind fucking horror and humiliation of being stuck, alone and doing absolutely nothing, living in my old room in my parents house, forever.
>it gets better
>>16576729
I think similar things, but I dont truly hate my jobs (i work 2 part time)
I hate not getting paid much, working a lot and wasting entire days.
When I have free time, its better to get paid to then not and I tend to appreciate at least the service I do, the people I've met.
I stick with it, but that doesnt mean im not planning for all kinds of changes like applying for a single full time job and I'm applying for college now. Just need 2 years to get a bachelors degree, but probably longer since I can't go full time.
I just want to get some shit out of the way, I will retire soon enough by working hard now when im young.
>>16576531
My hours were cut this week...the miracles of a zero-hour contract. Gonna in the house for a week.
Anyway I want an anime recommendation but with certain criteria:
>From the 80s-90s
>Something along the lines of Secret of Blue Water but not like a studio ghilbi script edited by a pedophile.
>Has to be dubbed.
>>16576390
mutual feelings abound.
>>16576320
most peoples lives are filled with having to eat shit and like it 99% of the time it's time to get a jawb or the autismbux, welcome to the life.
>>16576548
How long have you been NEET? Have you ever held a job before?
>>16576030
Is there a way to make yourself look more attractive to employers when seeking a stay-at-home job, or is the only real way to get it to work in-office long enough?
>>16577176
I've had some training, but I've never held a steady job and best believe I've been applying out my ass for years but it's usually you have too much experience or too little, I had several interviews but no hires.
I've been a NEET Since 21.
>>16577226
If you're a strong programmer it's pretty easy to find a remote job where you can work from home. But you have to put the time in to get to that point. I don't really think you can have a legit permanent work from home job that doesn't pay like crap.
Quackerson's Needy NEET guide
http://pastebin.com/4YeJAUbT
This guide was posted in the links section awhile ago. It has a few options for making money from home but none of them are going to be a long term solution.
>>16577238
Seven years is a long stretch, I'm sorry anon.
How have you been passing the time when you're not applying? Do you live in a small town or in the middle nowhere?
Your goal is to move out but will your mother be able to make it on her own?
Hopefully this DVR program works out for you.
>>16577274
I help my mom out with her work, and well I have some friends but it's a small cadre, I do go to Conventions and Do Larping
And I live in the shithole known as Milwaukee.
>>16577325
I wonder if Growing Power has some volunteer opportunities there that could possibly get you a job.
When I first started my five year NEET stretch in 2010 I thought about moving to Milwaukee for a job at Growing Power but decided against it because I was too nervous dropping everything and leaving to some unknown place. I think they're way bigger now than they were back then but it might be worth checking out. They do good work.
>>16576992
Anyone? It easier than trying to help me get a job that's not a dead end.
>>16577409
Tough set of criteria. Plus most people here aren't old enough to have watched 80s/90s anime...
Try Outlaw Star or Record of Lodoss War.
How do you deal with feeling of not having progressed at all since highchool when most people your age are now starting their careers and living the best years of their lives ?
>>16577536
Get off social media or stop logging into it. It will just get you down. Focus on yourself and your education so you can get your life together. There's always someone out there who's going to be kicking your ass in the game of life. Don't waste time with jealousy, it's the most worthless of emotions.
>>16576058
Welcome to my nightmare. That's why I don't do it every time.
>>16576531
Not really. The person I want to talk to most hasn't been replying regularly for the past month+. The one I was the most excited about getting to know just blocked me because she's getting back together with her ex. Been spamming /soc/ and lurking OKC/tinder/whisper with no luck.
Nothing left to do but keep trying.
why haven't you gone full white kid and assimilated into normie-hood through death grips?
>>16577536
You're focusing too much on where you are relative to other people that you know nothing about beyond what they post on Facebook rather than focusing on where you are relative to where you want to be in order to be happy.
>>16577478
>no pedo crap
>drastically reduces options
kek.
Outlaw star seems promising, though does it have that stupid anime shit where despite the characters being grown ass adults they act like kids/autists when it comes to romantic relationships?
25 yo here
i've decided i want to become a semi-wizard.
semi-wizard as in I am still going to fuck women (and also pay for escorts if i don't feel like going on dates) but i am not going to bother getting a gf.
i'm gonna go full manchild and drown myself in games, movies, anime, comics, books tv and music. going to become a /toy/ buyfag and i'll even collect ecchi/hentai figs. i'll spend all my free time out of work engaging in my nerdy hobbies.
i'm also going to buy fleshlights, onaholes and ass/tit mouse pads.
this might sound pathetic but i feel so fucking happy now that i've decided to stop pretending to be a normie. this is the future that i want and i can't wait until i move out and get a job and my own place
i tried to become a normie when i was younger but instead i got rejected and ridiculed extremely badly. fuck all that shit.
the only thing i hate about being a neet is the not having a job part because not having a job = poverty = depression. i want a job so bad. this is going to be my #1 goal in 2016. to get a job.
tfw Christmas music brings you to tears
>>16579020
It's way better than most anime in that regard, Gene at least acts like he's in his twenties.
>>16579061
>if i don't feel like going on dates
hahahahahahahHAHAHAHAHA
yeah good fucking luck getting laid without paying for it freak
>>16579067
I know, its magical isnt it? ;_; greatest time of the year
>>16579193
I think we're crying for different reasons but sure, i-it's magical ;_;
I ruined my life by getting two misdemeanors, tearing up the cartilage and ligaments and tendons in both my wrists, and getting tendinitis in both my knees. I tried applying to colleges but I'm afraid I won't get let in and my mom will kick me out.
>>16579193
i've had 3 different girlfriends before, fucked 2 of em
stop projecting your worthless ugly self onto me lol
Are you anything like your father? Me in some aspects yes, in others fuck no
>>16577338
I haven't checked that out yet, I'll look into it and well a friend might put in a word for me at Fed-EX.
but now to compound my troubles, my mother and I are looking for a new apartment to move into by New years since we found out our landlord is going to raise rent.
I like where I am now because it's in a convenient location and links to some major buslines but also A part of me feels like if I had a job I could have helped with the rent.
>>16579373
Fed ex would be a good job if you can get it. You can climb the corporate ladder there with time.
>>16579358
I'm a lot like him, so much so it scares me a bit because he had some serious flaws that ruined him over time and I've got a few of the same ones myself.
>>16579193
>>16579238
You're still as smug as ever btw, it sucks being on the receiving end of it though.
So I'm a 26 yo, been jobless now since 2011. I'm temporary up in Canada with my parents since I live with them. No work/student visa so I cannot get a job.
Now whenever I have to leave the house I have serious anxiety attacks. Throwing up, stomach aches, dizzy, jelly-legs the like and crying. I take klonopin for it but lately they haven't been working just make me tired.
So generally I just lay in bed because to see the doctor I have to drive ~2 hours down to the states for the insurance and I can barely make it without having to stop the car to puke 4-5 times.
Anyone have anxiety this bad for shutins? any advice?
>>16576558
Wait till you're 32 and a shut-in.
>>16576899
I just want to get some shit out of the way, I will retire soon enough by working hard now when im young.
Joke's on you, we're never going to be able to retire. Generation X is the last generation with that privilege. Gen Y and beyond are doomed to work forever.
>>16579460
He works as a parcel guy at a warehouse, if I get the job I'm not going to fucking complain because work is work, Hell I'll be willing to work weekends and holidays.
>>16579545
I'm your age and working for the singular goal of having it easy once your body is ravaged by age isn't enough in my opinion. You need to enjoy your youth while you still have it.
>>16579638
I'm not enjoying my youth to the fullest extent. I'm probably only enjoying 1%-10% of it, max.
>Only friend 2 hours away. Haven't seen in years
>No relationship
>No sex
>Make enough money to stay broke and hate work. Treated like shit there
>Saddled with debt
>Live with mother and her lazy ass, loser of an SO
>>16579061
>bullshit
What you going slam whales or something?
>>16579631
Just remember astronauts arent allowed to complain or they dont go to space.
>>16579787
sounds like me but just hang in there and make the best of it while you can.
>>16579638
im 24 actually and like I said i think its a good idea to get shit out of the way as soon as you think of it. I should be able to have many freedoms later in life.
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>>16579950
o-oh, i-i'm 24 too h-haha
>>16580108
it doesnt matter what youre age is just move towards bettering yourself
its never too late to explore new interests. for me its interests like work and school.
>>16580108
>32 and still on 4chan
I seriously do not want be here in my 30s.
>>16579950
>work throughout 20s and be free afterwards
That's all well and good but your 20s are supposed to be the best years of your life. No doubt some people say that's not true and they aren't wrong but it's basically it's that point where you have the most freedom from responsibilities and you're in your prime.
>>16580821
I didn't want to be either, really. I should have left here in 2007 when I stopped going to conventions. My life is a flaming wreck now, I'm not even exaggerating, I really need to stop coming here.
>turned 25 today
>did nothing
i want to die
>>16581502
It's your 25th birthday. You aren't supposed to do anything.
>>16580835
I'm 32 too. Want to hug?
>>16580967
i know that feel chichi bro i really do ;_;
>>16581502
>tfw 25th birthday 3 months after Jesus's birthday
I'm probably going to also do nothing
>>16581999
o-ok :_:
>reminder: this isn't /r9k/ or wizchan
It is though.
>>16579070
Finished watching Outlaw Star and it kinda sucked to be honest. Started skimming through episodes about halfway. Story sucked but it was the character relationships or lack of, that made it suck more.
>It's way better than most anime in that regard, Gene at least acts like he's in his twenties.
Just barely and even then in episode 23 you get your standard anime autistic pervert moments.
And what was up with that episode they kill that kid?
>>16582483
Once Hilda... it's downhill from there, she was the show and the only real adult of the whole group. The first four episodes were enough to make it not total shit.
>>16582483
And yeah,what's anime without a fan service episode haha I forgot about that I haven't watched it all the way through in years... I stop after episode 4 every time.
>>16582483
Also, thinking about it some more aisha really brought that show down too, she was just straight up annoying.
>>16582322
only because you make it that way.
>little cousins whom last time i saw were in middle school and just starting high school are now all grown up
>one of them is going to move in with their SO and continue going to community college full time while working
>the other is heading off to a big university in another state
>they're 18 / 20 and have done way more with their lives already than i have in my 25 years of age
And this is why I stopped going to family gatherings years ago. I can't bear to look them in the face knowing that they've been constantly doing stuff for years and years while i've stayed exactly the same.
I can't handle these feels
>>16582501
Are/were arranged marriages common in Japan or something?
It seems like most anime character romances/relationships were written by autists and/or perverts.
>>16583352
>It seems like most anime character romances/relationships were written by autists and/or perverts.
just now realizing this?
>>16582496
>Once Hilda... it's downhill from there
I was almost unsurprised that she died. Probably better that way otherwise we'd get that weird apathetic, zero chemistry relationship from Black Lagoon that Remy and the main character had.
>>16583419
>just now realizing this?
I was hoping to be wrong and I hoping to dig up something from the 80s/90s that didn't have that shit but it's clear all the stuff we got from Manga Entertainment and such was carefully selected ones.
>>16583173
iktf
>>16583173
>>16585120
I too know those feels
>tfw paying the price for years of bad life decisions.
>tfw having to start life over in your thirties.
>tfw going to be the person that gets gossiped about during Christmas dinner because of how much you've fucked up in life.
>tfw the only thing that wants to be around you is a cat who's too scared to come out from under the bed because you had to take her from the only home she has ever known.
This will be the worst Christmas ever, I just wish the holidays were over already.
>>16585655
well with THAT attitude
Going to make some cookies and watch some anime. Highlight of my week because
>tfw no gf
Any advice to a NEET trying to learn Java and make income by making android apps?
Right now, taking the Alza27 pill (Methylphenidate Hydrochloride 27mg, ER) and even then its on the weak side. Plenty of mental problems.
An old family member, who joined the marines a few years ago, came to visit today. He saw our deprecated family, other NEETs (I'm the third NEET, there is one part time who is a shut in, then our parents, all living in a two bedroom apartment, moving to a one bedroom soon on someones charity) and I couldn't pretend everything was OK. He's still here, and I'm just trying to learn an Intro to Java. Hate being here. My entire motivation is making enough money to live alone, and isolated, to have my own private space, control over my own life.
Sorry for the blog. Pic semi-related. Maybe one day I study game design if I have the money for it. Or learn enough to make something cool.
>>16586566
Anyone?
>>16586544
I really detest you.
Is there a pattern to /r9k/ overspilling it's board? I've noticed a lot more of it this past month.
>>16586566
Make a GitHub account, and treat it like a portfolio. Put lots of interesting projects in it, and when you start a project, make sure you finish it!
I've just found out that the circle line no loops (since 6 years ago). I was planning to take an alternate route home from work and sit on the circle line and read a book.
What still loops in London?
I need help from a NEET
So I am still in high school and I can feel myself slipping into a NEET.
I used to play a very time-consuming sport, then due to an injury I had to quit said sport. Now instead of hanging out with my friends from that sport I now sit in my room all day and I don't go outside. I am losing my friends and now I only have a few that I play online with. All I do is sit in my dark, messy room all day watching anime, masturbating, and playing video games. I am very mentally unstable now and get severe anxiety and nervous moments. My grades are slipping too. I now get very awkward in public and social situations that the old me would have never gotten awkward in. It has been 8 months now, and I am stumbling down into the web of a NEET.
I have a chance to join a new group of friends, but there are two reasons I am hesitant about it:
1.) They are weirdos and freaks. Some of them are tumblr and all they do is drink and smoke weed, which obviously wouldn't be good for me. There is only one girl who I am friends with that I like (not even sure if I like her as a friend or intimately), which is the reason for me joining them.
2.) The other reason for me being hesitant is that they are all one year above me which means that next year they would be in college and I would be alone.
NEETs of 4chan and /adv, what should I do? Please answer the NEET question and the friend group question if you can. I am in dire need. If you could have done anything differently in the past to avoid your NEET status today, like in my situation, what would you have done?
>>16587139
you dont need those bad friends, you dont need the old friends that abandoned you and you should definetly should get away from your parents. What you need is an adult who has his shit together to help you, i got a flat you can crash, how old are you 14? i will set you up with a pc with as many games as you can play and get you as much mcdonalds as you want. You can lure i mean befriend other kids in the building and invite them here to party every night, does your injury allow you to run?
>>16587139
Having any friends is better than none, weed smokers can be decent people as long as they don't pressure you to do things with them or put you in positions where you can get into trouble. If they are assholes then avoid them.
What kind of injury do you have? Is there any chance for recovery or maybe playing a different sport?
But really, you shouldn't be asking NEETs on 4chan for life advice. A lot of us are great at destroying our own lives and the lives of the people around us. I'd recommend seeking advice elsewhere.
>>16587596
top kek pedophile impression anon but no it doesn't allow me to run.
>>16587642
No I cant recover
>>16579519
Ger medication.
>>16586754
That's cool. I detest me, too.
>>16585655
One last feel before bed
>tfw you've destroyed the life of someone who loved you
>>16585655
Some old lady from the buildings g I live in died and her car who never went outside is now roaming the streets scared to go anywhere and starving he is going to die in a few days probably won't make it to Christmas, this is probably going to be the fate of your cat
For those of you suffering here is a tip
Go for a walk in the middle of the night until you are really far and really cold then when you can't walk anymore just take a nap
It will give you some perspective
>>16588242
Here is another tip
Don't go with anything worth more than a can of soda because you won't have it after.
Hey anons, do any of you that work from home have a way to use craigIist without a phone?
They ask for a number instead of a cap cha to confirm you're a person, but
>No phone
The free phone number sites aren't free (it's just free to sign up, then you have to pay which is the catch)
You need a phone to receive the random 4 digit number via text and they offer no other way to confirm. Anyone know a way to receive this random text? Is there a throw away number site or something? Don't know anyone in town to even ask as far as having them receive it. Just own a comp, no other devices which is making this tough. Just need someone to receive the text and forward it to me, or some way via comp to do it. Figured you work at home peeps might know a way since you've had some ideas in getting around these situations before.
>Won a PS 4 in a Street Fighter tournament a month ago
>Never opened it
>Getting rid of it to get the younger brother some shoes and pants he's been needing for some time
VERY broke and don't have much to get by other than getting rid of this, best chance at any gifts for the brother and mother.
Going to use a bit to get back home too, to be hiking with a random. Wanted to ask you about that too.
>Find person who says 40 bucks can get me home across the country
>Say they don't have a phone either
>He said he had a 2014 Subaru WRX
>We meet up
>He has an ancient Saturn Ion
>Says he wants 100
>Refuse because wtf man
>Say 60 or nothing
>Agrees but guy is pretty mad now
Is this a good way to wake up a kidney short? By Grey Hound or train is going to be pricey but no one is going that way but this guy for under 150. Bad idea?
Going to try and get rid of this PS 4 and use a friend's store discount for gifts if this works and just use a bit more to hop on the Grey Hound. What do you guys think?
Didn't mean for this to be a story but this Christmas stuff is nothing but pressure and just trying to get back home and not disappoint the bro and mother.
Anyone have any experience with Leapforce?
What happened to the old NEET forums? Was hoping to use it to crowd source a project.
I'm hoping to start writing a script next year, about being NEET basically. I have my own experiences written down, and I'm planning to get it workshopped over time until its good enough to pitch.
I have a general structure laid out, what I'm looking for are experiences/anecdotes to write about.
I have dreams that, if I pull it off right, it'll have a similar feel to it as GLEE, except everyone in the show is an even bigger loser.
tldr: Share me your NEET life, narrate it to me
>>16588532
>Feed me your work so it can be passed off as my own!
Fuck off.
>>16588532
Also just to give a bit of structure (not required)
>Tell me your hobbies, passions, or general interests (if any).
>What have been your hardest experiences?
>Do you have any memorable or recent funny moments, or times where you've smiled?
>>16588564
That's fair, I can see where you're coming from.
It just doesn't really feel genuine if I only used my own experiences then made up the rest. It'd be nice to do that, but it wouldn't be as real or meaningful.
>>16588582
>It would be nice to do my own work but lack the actual work ethic or creativity
>Seeing as it's easier to just take other people's work and ideas, let's just have you guys do it
Fuck off.
>>16588592
Do you think it'd just be better to make up the rest? It feels like the only other option after using all of my own experiences. Genuine question
>>16586754
Get over it you sour cunt, he does more for this thread than you ever have
>>16588566
I don't particularly mind. Rather, I hope what I've written, and it was probably more than you'd care to read, can be helpful. As an impossibly lazy would be author I know full well the desire to learn from a second hand what I do not hold with my own. To take individual experiences of others and to slot them comfortably in some story.
>Tell me your hobbies, passions, or general interests (if any)
I play music, I write. I watch anime and play video games. And while I would love to claim some overriding burning, obsessive passion for the first two, I cannot. They are just things that I occasionally do, that occasionally make me happy.
>What have been your hardest experiences?
This is difficult to answer. I'm keen to simply say everything, rising from bed, making myself food, insuring I have said food.
Anyway here it is. Most of it is leading to being NEET, and the periods between. As I am fairly certain being NEET is more or less the same for everyone. Stay in house/room, self hate, and seek escapism.
http://pastebin.com/1EPgwfTF
>>16588899
That was actually really great to read. I think you're right about the common patterns being more or less the same for most, but the family issues really struck a chord.
Tbh even though I'm fairly ambitious about this, it's a pretty mammoth task that may not go anywhere. Got a name/tag you might want me to include as a shout out years down the line?
>>16588235
Ugh, please take that cat to a no kill shelter so it doesn't die, if you need money for food and a trap to catch her and take her there then let me know and I will send it to you.
And don't worry about my cat, she came out last night, she held out for almost an entire day though. -_-
>>16588532
Data mining the forum was one of the things I didn't want to happen and I'm glad the forums are still down for that reason. I regret not making the forum completely anonymous from the start and not making the old posts expire after a certain time. I know I don't want my life in some half assed documentary for a few thousand more people to laugh at on top fop of the people that already are.
>>16588963
its not really my problem and i dont want to get bitten, that cat is scared as fuck and it runs when you try to aproach it it will definetly attack if i try to
>>16588532
>writing a book about the average neet
how boring
you should write a book about me instead
all good books have deeper themes, nhk had satou and yamazakis friendship
I'm that anon who had two job interviews last Friday. Never again will I allow two interviews to be scheduled on the same day. Anyways I at least got them done.
For anyone going to a first job interview, or first in a long time, keep in mind, you may be asked a few hard questions if you have been NEET for a length of time. I wasn't prepared to answer those well. But interviews are good practice for future interviews at least.
>>16588792
Yeah, his imaginary NEET farm has really come together.
>>16587139
its better to be alone than have shitty friends. sounds like theyll just fuck your life up more.
try to get back your old friends. just because you cant play the sport anymore doesnt mean you cant still participate in other ways. being a fan of the sport you still have a lot in common. dont walk away from everything you had.
and this is the worst place to ask for advice. unless you want tips on how to be a fuck up.
>>16588792
>>16586544
>Samefag
Nice try.
>>16589049
Right, I forgot I was on 4chan where no one has empathy. ffs just go online and email a local rescue to come save it at least. The cat is only aggressive because it's scared.
>>16589131
How did you answer them?
>>16589527
how did
>he is going to die in a few days probably won't make it to Christmas, this is probably going to be the fate of your cat
not give it away from the beginning?
>>16589554
Because I always try to see the good in people even when hit over the head with how shitty they are. It's one of the many tragic flaws I have.
This might be a better place to post than the opposite sex thread or /b/.
Sorry if I didn't read all the posts. I'm posting this before reading up. Just pasting my two posts, guys. I need advise.
1.
>be me
>25
>2.5" dick (erect)
>notevenachode.pptx
>terrible hygiene
>neet for 2 years
>depressed as fuck
>fat (not hamplanet but flabby heavy)
>can't self discipline for shit
>shitty memory
>really insecure about these shit
>just being a parasite
>not even trying to find a job anymore
>stuck in 3rd world shit country
Help me fix me, guys. I don't know what to do anymore. Fuck, I even have an an hero plan already. But I don't want to quit just yet /b/. But I've tried. For years I've tried, but I just don't know what's happening to me. Maybe I'm stupid. Maybe I'm hopeless. I don't know. I need help. I feel like 2016 will be the year I quit everything, and that would fucking suck.
2.
I'm to meet up and have sex with a girl I met on the internet. We've talked about stuff. The problem is she's an alright girl, and I'm fat and have a nearly microdick. Like, 2.5" erect. She prefers penetration and hates oral.
And oral was gonna be my weapon. I'm really insecure about my dick but this situation just hammers it in. This is my first real attempt in getting with a girl, too. Any advice? Should I just not do it?
>>16589619
She knows about your dick? if no, i think its a good idea ask her about it.
It might save you from being humiliated and her getting frustated
If she is ok with it, then just go for it.
>>16589619
Get surgery for your dick.
Hit the gym.
Stop being a pussy.
>>16589626
Thanks. I've considered it. Might be what I do after all.
>>16589628
2poor right now. Can't even hit the gym because no income, but I'm cutting down on food. Not a lot of progress on exercise. How do I even stop being a pussy, man.
>>16589632
There's nothing we, as complete strangers, can do about you being a pussy. It's something only you can deal with.
Putting the dick matter aside, just... stop being a fatfuck. The only person who can change something about that is you and you only. Go out running 2-3 times a week. Stop eating shit food and SODA. It will take some time but results will come, and you'll feel better as a person and physically.
You having a little dick is most likely the result of being a fatfuck during your puberty. You won't get anything done if you don't accept the fact that only you can change yourself right now, and you can't make excuses.
Read the /fit/ sticky.
>>16589658
Alright, thanks. I've tried multiple times before, but I just ended up spiraling back to where I am now. I'm gonna get it this time.
>>16589663
Just don't be stupid and want immediate results, you will only get discouraged. After ~2 months of cutting on soda and burgers, you won't crave for it ever again.
21yr old and senior in uni here. sort of realizing that I am a shut-in.
Grew up with a stutter which led me to not really speak much growing up. Still don't speak much because the stutter is still there. It's really controlled my life. restricted the amount of friends i've made, who i open up to and who I spend my time with. A big reason why my last relationship ended was because I never opened up to her friends. They couldn't see the person who she was so excited for cause I'd never speak to them.
I also have clinical depression. Been hospitalized twice. Most of the time, I spend my time alone on the internet. Sometimes, the thought of being alone and living in my mother's house is so intense.
but i've been trying my best to start making changes. I've learned in my psych classes that making new choices and new behaviors need to be reinforced. Everyday (when I remember), i read these "15 skills for confidence" & "10 things successful people do" clickbait lists from Lifehack and idk if they are making a difference, but i do it everyday. I can't see the horizon but I'm still sailing onwards.
idk i guess I'm just introducing myself to you all. Letting you all know that you aren't alone in your struggles
Got a BS in IT (focused on programming, not actual IT. Terrible at both.) Worked for half a year at a decent company for shitty pay. Quit. Worked at a shitty startup for even shittier pay. Quit. I realized I don't like IT at all. Tried applying as a teacher in the lowest tier school. Pussied out a week before classes. Possibly developed some sort of anxiety after this. I don't know what I want, and now I've been a NEET ever since. I'm 24 now. Feeling like not doing anything anymore. I'm just being supported by my cousins, and eventually they'll grow tired of it.
Am I just stuck in a rut or should I be getting a new career?
>>16589632
>poor right now. Can't even hit the gym because no income
You can work out at home! That's what I did. You can get weights for next to nothing second hand, and walking is free. It's literally all I did, and I went from 90kg to 70kg :)
>>16588532
>>16588566
Congratulations, you've blown your only opportunity to hear the NEET story, by not showing them any respect. You won't get another shot at this. Move along.
>>16576030
Never forget this is a shit thread with a shit IRC and forum, its a hugbox worse than reddit and /lgbt/ they practically fuck any girl that walks into the room while marginalizing all the male problems.
Good job asphalt child, more like ass child cause this you came out of an ass and so did this abortion of an idea.
Hi, it's my first time posting in one of these threads so I'm sorry if It's a little lengthy.... I was taken out of school at 11 and "Homeschooled, which is a loose term since basically all I did was watch anime and play WoW. This continued for 5 years before I was forced to go back to school. I went to an accelerated e-learning school, all my work was done on the computer and I graduated HS in about a year. Started college on scholarships, dropped out due to financial issues, got a job, quit my job, got a job, quit my job, got a job, quit my job, It's like a cycle. Whenever I'm at work I get so fed up with shit and just want to come home and sit on the computer.
I'm currently working at a decent job, I make a living wage, and there's prospects to move up etc. etc. however I can't help myself just wanting to quit and stay at home.
How do I get rid of these urges?
>>16590050
The forum is dead, there's literally one female in the Irc and ac would agree with you that the thread is shit. The hug box days are long gone, it's not 2013 anymore.
>>16590059
why do you quit?!
I work and I would never quit unless I had something better. Dont take a job for granted.
The shit you take from your job comes in waves.
Its not always shitty I think. It helps to resign yourself to your duty and at the end of the day once all is said and done you feel good.
>>16590050
too bad i dont use any of that shit and prefer to remain anonymous
>>16589684
You may be alone, none of us may be with you, but we understand.
I like this guys blog, he wrote something on lonlieness.
http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/5/monastic-life-i-on-loneliness
It seems that whenever I'm at a high point in life the thread is dying and when I'm at my lowest is thriving. Almost like it feeds on negativity and desperation.
Though luck I win
>>16590518
in other words you shitpost here way too fucking much when you're sad. get some other hobbies holy shit
>>16590518
I feel like I've been adding to a lot of the negativity here recently and I'm going to stop. Venting here isn't helping me and it certainly isn't helping anyone else. My life has bottomed out and I'm still myself more or less so I think I'm capable of going back to providing somewhat sane advice to people instead venting and looking for sympathy pats.
But yeah, I know what you mean, the holidays are coming up and the people whose lives are in shambles feel it a little harder around this time. I'm not surprised that the thread has been more active than usual this month.
>been searching for a career-level job for over a year
>only ones who reply to my applications are sales gigs pretending to be marketing firms
I swear to God, the last time I interviewed for one of these jobs they had me in suit and tie going door to door in Atlanta trying to shill AT&T Uverse.
What site do I need to use so I can avoid these fuckers?
>>16590761
Are you applying to jobs through craigslist?
almost there
>>16590548
personal pissing ground singularity
in other words you fags cant get enough of me
>>16590585
we may be experiencing a wave, a suicide wave that is, go on, join them and ride the wave
>>16589973
>the neet story
droped out of highschool
locked yourself in your room
after a year you got depressed
5 yeas later you are still doing nothing
there, big whoop what an amazing story
>>16590761
consider a career in prostituttion then
>>16590844
You can tell the quality of a person by how they conduct themselves when they're at their lowest. You don't see me telling others to kill themselves, threatening to kill myself, or trying to bring other people down to feel better about my shitty life decisions.
Eh, why am I even wasting my time? I really need to just leave this place. Maybe today's the day.
>>16591239
Maybe then again it isn't a matter of people being just people, these are people compl tely unwilling to change. You can't guilt them into changing, you can't scare them into changing
For all the shut ins here you fell for a trap, neets are the lowest of the low this isn't just a neet general, it is a neet and shut in general because they need to hide themselves behind you not because they want to help you.
Neets just like to ass layers to a simple problem, you never see one saying I can't get a job. There is always a big tragic story behind and a thousand reasons why it's impossible then when you call them out on it they hide behind you and say some of us do work, when there isn't an us, they say some of us are me tally I'll again when there isn't an us because being a neet isn't being part of a collective and if you can't answer me wrong with your personal case then you lost simple as that
>>16591562
And to clarify an employed person, any employed person belongs grouped with a bunch of neets the same way Islam can be grouped in a women's rights movement. Having you here is almost an accomplishment for a neet, they can tell see? We managed to bring a working person to our level. If we can make him feel as useless as we do then that prooves us all right
Lately I've been pondering or thinking about my aimlessness in life. I don't really want to detail my life story. But I work a very low paying menial job (lots of hours tho) while also collecting welfare, and spend all my extra spending money after rent (I don't drive, or have a gf or friends to spend money on) on games, junk I don't need and eating out all the time, and really have no plans on doing anything else. What would you guys do in my shoes? Assuming you can get where I'm coming from, I'm basically a huge fucking jerk, have no friends, or family who I'm in contact with and basically want to keep it that way. I was thinking maybe starting to save money and go on a vacation overseas (I've always wanted to travel) or maybe just visit the US (I'm Canadian, but love the country) or even Just another province. Or just saving money and investing it smartly. The past 6 months or so since my living arrangements changed drastically and I have reduced my interaction with people to practically nil (outside of work) has lead me to have a lot of basically disposable Income which I spend really stupidly on said stuff.
Also any suggestions on how to get motivated to eat less, exercise and just get fit. I'm not fat, a lil chubby but I have a feeling it has something to do with my lack of drive to do anything meaningful. I dunno tho. Also I have a really good body type, so if I actually did work out I'd look beast. Dunno why I'm so damn lazy and have no drive to do anything tho.
>>16589706
Do whatever you want. I think you have a better life than I ever had. I'm the same age as you. I'm still unemployed and I only have high school as my highest education back in 2008. You are doing well. Don't think you are crap at all.
dont reply because you might catch my stupidity
I wish I had more NEET friends so I didn't feel so inadequate compared to all my friends who have jobs or are going to school...
Maybe I should just suck it up and get a Wal-Mart job. Then at least I could start saving money.
>>16591608
save up and travel
you know what they say, "It's not just the travel, it's the personal journey"
people that spend their money on experiences and not just things tend to be way more fulfilled since theyre constantly growing as a person.
unlike all the neet fucks in here that never do anything but buy onaholes
>>16591721
I've never enjoyed travel, even before I did it for a living. I go sightseeing out of obligation due to my available opportunities, but I've only come away from it feeling enriched for the experience twice in the last 5 years.
I'd much rather be exploring the world through the Internet, because my mind processes the visual experience just the same.
>>16592481
oh no, its retarded
>>16591626
do people actually feel competitive like that?
I might be resentful of someone who doesnt make time for you, but not that they work.
Is there any way to get welfare money as a student? At this rate, I can't afford both food and antidepressants.
>>16591721
I think you're right about traveling being healthy for personal growth. I'm making it my goal to travel outside the country for the first time in my life this coming year. I'm thinking of going to France and maybe some parts of Germany too.
>>16592481
Nice bIog, but nobody asked about how terribIe you are at taking in Iife, anon.
>>16592859
I don't quite feel competitive. But if they talk about their jobs or school it makes me jealous, like life handed them a better hand. Maybe I am resentful?
I just want to complain about being a NEET to someone who actually understands what it's like. But I realize I'm being grumpy and selfish. I'm glad I even have friends, a lot of NEETs seem to be completely friendless.
>>16593670
im not even neet and have no friends
it sucks balls
be friends with who you can is what id do.
>>16593670
>like life handed them a better hand
because they worked harder or hell even bothered to apply for a job while you did nothing but mope and whine? yeah. totally unfair
>>16593715
>yeah. totally unfair
lt's actuaIIy fair since they put in the work.
>>16593722
He's being sarcastic you moron.
>>16593715
>>16593749
>Samefag
>TroIIed
And you're caIIing other peopIe "moron"? Stay mad IoI
>>16593697
Yeah that's what I do. I'm thankful anyone talks to me. I don't think I'd want to be my own friend.
>>16593715
I know. I don't disagree with you. Like I said, I'm being selfish. It does feel a bit unfair that my European friend gets paid to go to school though. I didn't realize early enough that a STEM degree is useless without a focus, so I wasted my student loan and I can't afford to go back. Things were going so smoothly until I graduated and none of the jobs I applied to would give me an interview.
Like I said, I should give up on that and just get a retail job. It's not like everyone is in a job they want. It's just difficult because of some excuses I know you don't want to hear.
>>16593789
>It's not like everyone is in a job they want.
true, but you can still use your time to to find a job more towards your preference.
To the anon that was using the web lessons from a few threads ago:
Let me know if you still need them. I'm ready to take them down for good for privacy reasons and you're the only person I know who still uses them. If you're still working through them that's fine too just let me know when you're finished.
>>16593815
You're right. I don't feel very hopeful but it's been a long time since I stopped applying so there's bound to be different employers hiring nowadays, I might still have a chance. The biggest problem is where I live (the only nearby jobs are retail).
>>16593830
adding web lessons to the big list of failures? how is not facebook coming?
>>16593755
>>16593858
I'm sure thats not the case, Look locally at everything going on.
Unless you dont have transportation to get out of what sounds to me like a mall then there is all sorts of shit out there to open you mind.
>>16593905
>M$ paint edit
>l'm reaIIy fooIing them!
Stay mad IoI
>>16593890
The web lessons were a trainwreck from the start and I have written maybe 200 lines for "not facebook" so you can probably at that to the pile too. Programming has become a burden instead of something I enjoy doing since I spend most of my day doing it for $$. Coming home and coding all night too with nothing but my thoughts to keep me company isn't exactly my idea of fun even if I'm working on something I like.
Even though you're trolling it's nice that someone remembers my ridiculous ideas even if it is to just poke fun at me when they get the chance. :/
>>16594420
That was me btw, I just forgot to capitalize a letter on my trip code.
>>16594420
you sound like a beaten women in an abusive relationship.
take that as a hint.
>>16594435
I feel pretty beaten down by life right now so I'm not surprised it comes off that way. If you were a serious troll I would have just ignored you fwiw.
>>16593830
pls leave em up
I finally found a job but due to my crippling social anxiety I became the "weirdo" in the office and everyone avoids me and looks at me weird. Why is it so hard to be normal?
>>16594487
the point was the first step to recovery is leaving your abuser. you clearly missed it
>>16594574
oh... OH
Well thanks for hitting me over the head with it, I'm ridiculously dense as you can tell. I see what you mean now. And yeah... I'm planning on leaving sooner rather than later. Maybe it will be my new year's resolution.
>>16594522
There's a guy in my office who wears a dogecoin sweater every day, people like him even though he's weird. He doesn't try to be something he's not I guess. Maybe the more you're trying to be normal the more you're going to come off as weird to everyone else.
>>16594420
well at least you are making cash out of your skill, and working on a project two. I have been trying at this art thing all year and im still not closer to my end goal
well i am a bit closer but when the bar is so high i need a 200 hour long course on 3d plus another year of drawing just to make a portfolio it gets a bit overwhelming
>>16594699
i mean the higlight of this christmas is that i made a christmas card for my friends i havent been able to see in 6 months haha kill me now
>>16594522
That's a hard label to shake off. I'm the quiet, unnoticed guy, which as lonely as it is, is decent to be .
>>16594522
One of the upsides of trucking is your cubicle has wheels. I never met any of my superiors, and very rarely a peer when I was a company driver. I was just a cog in a machine, and it was great.
I have major anxiety issues and I'm currently seeing a personal trainer any tips on quitting?
>I'd like to try getting fit on my own and try and save some money
>>16594522
its because you are too reserved
I deal with it daily, get insulted or ignored
a 60 year old man yesterday said these words
"I dont like you" (I laugh) "No, I dont like you, just incase you thought I did"
I dont know what i did wrong, but ive been there a while and people just dont like me and tease a fuck load.
It hurts my feelings, but I just tell myself i dont respect or trust these people anyway.
>>16596536
how weird are you?
>>16593670
>I just want to complain about being a NEET to someone who actually understands what it's like. But I realize I'm being grumpy and selfish. I'm glad I even have friends, a lot of NEETs seem to be completely friendless.
Go to a therapist. You will lose friends if you complain to them too frequently, especially if it's about the same things over and over again.
>>16593670
Try the IRC channel, it might help.
>>16596295
>>16594496
Fine fine, I'll keep them up a little longer -_- it's the season for giving after all.
Hopefully you guys find them helpful. If you have any questions about something I didn't explain well send me an email at [email protected].
I'm just introverted and reserved. Probably too kind too, guess people dont like that even though i just am kind, not trying to get attention.
People rather treat me like a verbal punching bag, finding more worth in that than anything else I consider myself worth.
Everyone gets teased and shit, but it sucks cause people from each part of my life does it and I have no friends to fall back on. No way to vent. Getting it out here is my best attempt at venting the stress.
>>16597136
this post meant to respond to
>>16596767
>>16597066
you know its just because they want more time to download and upload them elsewhere for mocking purposes right?
Want to socialize online but too anxious to say anything. Everyone already knows each other on chats. End up lurking without saying anything. Fuck.
>>16597300
start with "hello"
>>16597303
I'll try it on IRC but I don't think it will go far
>>16597313
Nevermind, can't even do that
How do I get myself to quit something by myself? In the past I've dropped out and had my parents do it.
>t. Beta Autist
>>16597318
what are your reasons for the fear ?
I myself abstain from contact due to firmly held beliefs of actions and consequence but i have always wondered why anyone would do it consistently out of fear, i mean sure a few times in a row i can understand but to always not sack up is strange to me.
>>16597313
say Hi, I'll talk to you
>>16597288
Ugh, I didn't think of that, now I'm back to being conflicted as to what to do again. Thanks for feeding my paranoia. -_-
inb4 you're one of the people downloading/uploading and posting links in cringe threads haha, just make sure you drop a link so I can laugh at them too ;_;
>>16597597
Anyone?
>>16598001
Either cut it off cold turkey (which is really hard to do if it's something you're addicted to) or try to ease yourself out of it little by little until it's no longer apart of your life. What are you trying to quit?
>>16598011
Sorry I meant a uni subject not drugs or anything, I've got to talk or message the lecturer and I'm really anxious
>>16598021
It's a pretty quick process, I've withdrawn from a course or two myself and had to have an awkward talk with the professor about it. It's usually a pretty quick process, don't worry too much about it. It's not that big of a deal.
>>16598021
You could try and tell him you have some personal problems going on right now and you won't be able to continue the course if you feel like you need an excuse. Might be better to do it over e-mail if you're scared, that's how I like to deal with stuff like this.
>>16597714
>due to firmly held beliefs of actions and consequence
What does this mean? And hmm, refusing contact out of fear is partially a choice and more like an impulse, at least for me. I've had bad experiences socializing before, so whenever I try I just end up feeling uncomfortable enough that I give up on it because any possible future gratification doesn't seem like it will outweigh the immediate discomfort. I rarely talk to people besides family, so that it always feels stressful. It's like instead of a normal conversation like "this person just asked me "how are you?", hmm, how to respond? Oh, I'll say I'm fine" your mind goes "oh shit oh shit oh fuck they just asked me something fuck I can't think fuck think of an answer goddamnit why are they even talking to me, fuck off, shit I'm sweating already"
seasonal depression is hitting me so hard right now
i dont know what the fuck to do. i'm going crazy here thinking about my fuck up of a life and the fact that i have no relationships with anyone in real life. i do talk to one person online but we rarely speak about anything at length and it's never personal. this person also has a ton of friends and i dont want to bother her with my depressing fucking shit.
the constant rain is making things worse it seems like and when its not raining the gloomy skies are fucking terrible.
>>16598886
>due to firmly held belief of action and consequence
It's funny how the description you just gave has some similatrities to my own reasoning:
I have a mental illness that makes prolonged social contact and continued relationships nearly impossible and given my previous experiences being littered with unhealthy coping mechanisms and spiteful people i have sworn off putting any effort into developing new coping mechanisms or attempting to help people to understand me enough to maintain contact ( anonymous chinese cartoon boards don't count ) especially given that 8/10 people are self absorbed narcissists. But my own shit aside i hope you find a solution to your problem that isn't chemical.
>>16596961
Considered it but can't make myself do it. The idea gives me anxiety.
I try not to complain too often but I'm not sure how much is too much. I haven't lost friends because of it though. What's worse is that I have a habit of publically venting on social media and then deleting it later. I'm trying to cut back on that.
>>16597032
I idle there sometimes but I'll never chat in there. Basically I'm too scared to. I'm only now getting used to posting on 4chan after lurking for 9 years. I also don't think I have much in common with those who frequent the irc channel.
>>16599296
> 8/10 people are self absorbed narcissists.
Most people aren't though, you just have shit luck, me included. For some reason psychopaths are drawn like flies to shit, to us, usually cos we're they only ones they can spew their bullshit to for a prolonged period.
There's good people around it's just that now, at this point in life, you are really far behind socially and it's not really other people's problem to bring you up to speed.
>>16599026
kill self
Have 6 or 7 weeks till exam, I haven't studied at all. How do I get myself motivated to study?
>I'm a NEET I have all the time in the world, why can't I motivate myself to do something productive?
>>16599026
Want to be friends?
We can compare scars and play vidya or something.
[email protected]
>>16599026
How old are you?
>>16599472
Lurking for nine years!? Jfc that's a lot of lurking, if anyone tells you to lurk more you better tell them to fuck right off. haha
>>16599569
Do you even know what NEET stands for?
Merry Christmas NEETs!
>>16599844
Nobody in this thread does since its reddit incarnate
Remove the heretics
>>16599546
nope, i have had experience with a wide gamut of work places and social groups over a decade, but there was always one constant. No matter how nice,unkind genial or aloof you were people where cunts, no matter if you were in the kitchen, front of house, contacting people, filling documents data entry answering calls, working at reception, from skyscraper to kiosk people were still cunts. So forgive me but unless you have had experience other then family and school life i find it hard to fathom that your anecdotal evidence will change my own evidence based findings.
How does one become NEET. It's interesting to me at least on how it even works. How are you able to survive(money, home, food, car, etc). Where does this money come from? Is it worth it? Would you recommend it?
>>16600715
1. cease any and all education, employment, and/or training
2. mooch off government or family
3. obtain disability certification from cleverly faked mental illness/injury
4. enjoy neethood. at last, you are free
not everyone is cut out for the neet way. some people are happy with it, others arent.
>>16600773
What do you do to occupy your time? It appears I am headed down this road for a legitimate mental illness and if I moved out, what would I do from there?
>>16600875
Not the anon you replied to but most people take to some form of escapism or another. Usually gaming, watching tv, browsing the net, making online friends, or focusing on a hobby. There are other things but that's the general trend I've seen. You could also try to use the time to improve yourself but you have to be able to motivate yourself and stay focused. Which is easier said than done when you have endless time and endless distractions.
>>16600715
And no, I wouldn't recommend it, I've been NEET long enough to know it for a fact at this point. If you're burnt out from normal life and take a year off to travel or something that's different. But once you get into the 2+ years of NEET life things just kind of go downhill no matter how hard you try to not let them.
>>16600631
sounds like a personal problem. as in youre so shitty to be around that you bring that out of others.
if youre attracting that much hatred from so many different demographics than its definitely you. hell i dont even know you and i already dislike you
>>16600389
Merry Christmas to you too anon and merry Christmas to everyone else in the thread.
This will be my third Christmas here, it's crazy how fast time flies and how much can change in such a short period of time. I never would have guessed I'd be where I am today since last Christmas. Don't give up, so much can change in a short period of time and hopefully change for the best.
I had to dig through my external hard drives to find the old santa hat NEET bear image I made back in 2013. Those were the days. ;__; Ugh, I'm such a sappy, sentimental idiot. If you're still lurking around cpucake I hope you're doing well.
I will be doing the NEETworkout tonight in about 40mins if anyone is interested although I'm not expecting anyone to show considering the occasion. If you're interested the synchtube link is in the thread OP.
>>16601032
That is incorrect, what i'm saying is that i have seen people be cunts not only to myself but to others on a consistent and enduring basis albeit due to different modus operandi(muh children,muh family,muh money, muh image, muh possessions) but the results toward others where abhorrent none the less. As for your personal dislike of me, i doubt my above statement will have changed your opinion of me given that you have already relegated me to being a shit person with so little evidence and not being able to even give anecdotal evidence to back up your analysis. Then again being a hypocrite is all the rage these days, so have a merry christmas and a happy new year.
>>16599844
Seeing as I haven't been studying or attending, I'm making a solid attempt
>>16600715
I just quit my job and mooched off the gf for 6 months then when she got fed up with me I mooched off my parents for another year. I was able to survive by cutting almost all of my cost of living. It was probably the worst year of my life and would definitely not recommend being a neet.
>>16600631
> but unless you have had experience other then family and school life
I'm 26, you patronising cunt, I've been out of school for a while now and working a wageslave job and I've meet more than than my fair share of dickheads in my life so far.
I still know that most people are good, it's just dickheads are attracted to easy targets.
Quick question: How do you know if you qualify as a shut in?
I have a job, and it pays well enough that I live on my own without financial worries. However, I feel like I've fallen into the trap of being a shut in. In college I always either shared a dorm floor, an apartment, or a rented house so social life was a built in. I never had to go out to do anything. I now live in a city with a full time job and everything I could ever need within walking distance. I don't really need to leave beyond a few blocks for anything.
I am now approaching my first year anniversary of living in this city and in turn I also am coming up on the one year anniversary since the last time I got laid. College was easy in comparison. All the freshmen just left their old social circles to go to college, we were all in the same boat, and we all circle jerked together. Getting out and knowing people was built in. I was also in a longer program so by my last year, I was the guy hosting parties at a nearby farm house no cops would ever disturb so I was the guy to go to for fun. New and worthwhile connections was easy.
Now I am stuck in this city, getting paid $100k/year, but but doing shit otherwise. There was no obvious forced socialization like at college here and my job is a tech one so it's a sausage fest there. There's no cheap farmhouse to rent with no one else around so I can host massive parties. I'm also probably too old now to go hang around the local college campus as a non-student. Just a situation I am not used to and so I just found myself shutting myself in.
Merry Christmas bump!
>>16601570
Going to work and coming home with no social life counts as shut-in in my opinion. Some people here think a shut-in is someone who never leaves the house, and it is, but you really can be a shut-in who goes to work and comes home to nothing every day. If you don't have any friends and you only see family on the holidays and spend your free time mostly alone it's pretty safe to say you're a shut-in.
Making friends in your late twenties and early thirties is extremely difficult. You're in that range where everyone has paired off and is doing their career, marriage, having kids thing and friend making takes a back seat to all of that.
I don't really have any answers since I'm in the same boat myself. I'm doing what I can to meet new people by trying different things but it's not easy since I have a hard time opening up to people in real life. Hopefully you have better luck.
I'm trying to crawl my way out of NEET status for the past 5 years. I've made some progress in all areas but I'm still having a roadblock with relationships. My biggest issue is body image issues. Been fat my whole life, got uber obese in Highschool and college and my state of mind has always been "Who would want to be with a gross fat fuck like me" and that basically mentally shuts down all my attempts at forming a relationship. Whenever I think a girl might be interested I'm constantly second guessing myself "She's just being nice" "She's just flirty" "Oh she's just drunk, she doesn't actually find me attractive/interesting" I've worked to improve this lately as in the past year I've lost a little over 100 pounds and while I still have maybe another 80 to go, it's something and I definitely look much better, I've tried to clean up my beard instead of letting it go wild and I've been more diligent about monthly haircuts. I had my first experience with a girl a few months ago (at the tender age of 27) where I made out with her and fingered her a bit in my bed. Didn't take it farther because I got really insecure about everything all at once. My weight, how I looked naked, being a virgin, small dick, all of that came rushing into my head and I was content with myself to take this experience for what it was. That relationship has since disintegrated because I was still scared of being intimate and insecure so she lost interest the next time we hung out and it got to that same point a few weeks later and I didnt escalate. I haven't heard from her since.
As I try to find some sort of connection with the opposite sex, my question is this, how do you turn perceived interest into something more? I'm surprisingly decent at flirting and making girls laugh/carrying a convo, but don't know where to go after I've sussed out some interest. All the insecurities flood in and I dismiss the interest, but even if I held them off, I wouldn't know what to do next.
>>16601527
>you patronising cunt
>my fair share of dickheads
>it's just dickheads
It doesn't sound like they're the prob. You need to fix yourself.
>Your mad is showing
>>16601096
wow... I figured you were a bit of a fedora but this is fedora max. you type like a sperglord. well that explains everything
>>16602880
How did..
>him using cunt multiple times in the same post to describe people
not give it away from the beginning?
I guess we're even now.
putting aside all of your apparent usual gifts of humiliation and despair what kind of haul did you guys rack up this year? any cool gifts?
>>16603077
I got some new gloves and a balaklava for when I visit my parents in Alaska a few months from now. What did you get?
>>16603077
So far just humiliation and despair but I see something with my name on it under the tree. I'll report back when I know what it is.
>tfw you walk in the door and everyone gets quiet and looks at you like "oh he actually decided to show his face after all ."
It's going to be an awkward next few hours until I leave .
>>16603315
where the fuck are you that it still isnt christmas morning? you better be in hawaii for that to not be open yet
>>16603492
We don't open presents until the evening because everyone shows up at different times. The last person just showed up so I guess we'll be exchanging gifts here soon. It's 4:30pm where I am btw. It's blasphemy I know.
>>16603315
>tfw you walk in the door and everyone gets quiet and looks at you like "oh he actually decided to show his face after all .
I hate that so much. Like I'm here, so just treat me normally instead of a fucking anomaly. Makes me not want to come at all.
Christmas is at my parents house this year so I'm just locking myself in my room with food and piss bottles. My mom isn't happy about it but my sister is going to be there and I can't stand to look at that piece of shit. My Christmas would've been fine and all I wanted to do today was enjoy some new vidya.
Pls help anons
>>16603648
Why's your sister a piece of shit?
>>16601096
thanks a lot jerkwad, because of your fedora tipping ass now this random fucking anon >>16602967 thinks im retarded for thinking you were only mostly autistic and not fully autistic.
>>16603679
Stole from me constantly in childhood, shoplifter, takes advantage of parents in every way possible and parents don't do shit about it, disrespectful, violent.
And now I'm made out to be the villain because I don't want to participate in this.
>>16603648
At least my family loves me, but everyone else is a dick. They know all we have is each other and respect me a lot.
I was scared i'd get treated with apprehension, but nah. Had a good christmas this year.
didnt get much gifts, but ye.
>>16603787
>They know all we have is each other and respect me a lot.
They respect me and want me down there but I don't get the 'all we have is each other' feeling. I feel like an alien from Mars when I'm around them and don't feel like I fit in at all. I just want out.
Any advice for an underage up and coming NEET with group of friends disbanding currently? Only interest are vidya really, and an autist when meeting new people
>>16603849
go to reddit and stay there
>>16603849
Get used to being self-sufficient.
>>16603315
Got a nice carrying bag, a 100$ amazon gift card, and a 40$ jcrew gift card. Not bad considering I figured everyone was too pissed off at me to bother getting me anything this year.
>>16603900
leave this board and stay there
