>I did some horrible that hurt her
>She was so hurt she was freaking out and when her mom texted me asking what happened I didn't answer (It was 1am and I was tired)
>We don't talk for awhile
>I try to apologize so I put roses and a apology card on her car
>I learn from her mom that she had to go to the ER because she was having chest problems (because of me)
>I rush over to her house to see her to apologize but only end up talking to her mom
>couple of days later she left a majority of the things I gave her on my car (letters, clothes, jewelry)
I don't know what to do I know I should just give up but I miss her and the pain won't go away. What should I do?
You know you're going to have to tell us what you did before we help you, right?
Her mom is super involved in your relationship. Are you in highschool?
What did you do?
Wait, are you saying you PHYSICALLY hurt her, or emotionally? It's super unclear from the way you phrased your post.
If you beat her up and sent her to the hospital, you're a psychopath and she should never see you again. If you had an argument, she got upset, and then later she was having "chest problems" because she was mad at you, then she's a manipulative drama queen who would do anything to win an argument.
Either way, it doesn't sound like a great relationship
>>16573038
We have to know, what did you do to hurt her before we can advise.
>>16573044
This was at around 11 the day before thanksgiving (I'm 24 btw)
>My sister lives with friends near her college 4 hours away
>it's Thanksgiving and she is left there alone since she has work
>My mom wants us all to visit her
>I tell my gf I was thinking of going (testing the waters)
>gf gets mad and doesn't want me to go telling me my sister is 20 and shouldn't have decided to live out there
>I get mad and a bit shocked at her insensitivity
>She thinks my family hates her because she didn't get invited (but really it's because this was last minute)
>She starts crying and I tell her I won't go and to calm down
>She crys a bit more and hangs up
>I call her a couple of times then knock out
>At around 3am my uncle says it's time to go and I look at my phone to see the texts from my gf's mom that I miss
>Being stupid I figure I am already in the dog house for missing her freak out so I might as well just leave
>I spend thanksgiving with my family instead of my gf
>>16573045
Yes but I'm 24 and she is 18
>>16573057
Emotionally but with her diagnosed mental problems it might as well have been physical.
>>16573060
>>16573064
>>16573064
Wow she went to the hospital because you drove to your sisters for thanksgiving with your family? And her mom was harassing you as well?
You need to break up with her. That's a super unhealthy relationship.
I am absolutely terrified of approaching her house, although I do drive by every now and then, I am a bit crazy myself.
>>16573046
>>16573064
Let me know if you need more details
>>16573064
she sounds like a mentally unstable jealous kid. Congrats on sticking your dick in crazy.
she's only your girlfriend for or fucks sake, why would you ever pick her over family? She sounds like a girl with issues, nothing worth missing desu senpai
>>16573075
>>16573079
That is what everyone tells me friends and coworkers. But in my mind all I can focus on is the good times we had and it kills me, I have a lot of her stuff she game me in my room and car.
>>16573064
Your girlfriend is controlling, manipulative and entirely self-centered. You're in a very bad relationship right now. Not all women are like this. You should be wary of people who like to guilt-trip you, play the victim, overplay their hurt and make big cries for help and attention. She's taking advantage of your kindness and tricking you to get the things that she wants. Deep down, she doesn't really care about YOUR feelings or your desires, and probably isn't even emotionally capable of doing so. You don't have to live this way. You'll meet a lot of people like her out there, but there are a lot of other types of people too.
But trust me when I say this relationship isn't going anywhere good, and there's nothing you can do to fix it. She's just a certain type of person. I've seen this exact kind of shit before, many times.
>>16573079
This. Nice catch, op. She sounds mature enough for ya
>>16573089
look m8, she's simply a basket case. And you are a fool to go afer 18 you drama queens being 24 yourself. Give her back her shit and find a normal girl
>>16573094
>>16573095
>>16573110
I guess that's it then, maybe it wouldn't hurt so much if this wasn't my first real relationship and I gave her all of my heart not to mention my Instagram is full of her. But even before this thread I knew there was nothing I could do. Thank you everyone for your help
>>16573120
if you were charming enough to get a first girlfriend, you wont have any problem getting a second
hopefully someone a bit more emotionally balanced
>>16573120
Maybe try dating an older girl. And it'll be tough op but I promise you it's for the best. It cannot end well or with you guys happy. I've been there and seen this. She drives the guy to hurt her or himself. Isolates him. Then is devastating when it finally blows up in their faces.
>>16573120
Be strong mate, she's really going to pull out the big guns on you when you try to leave. Maybe it won't get this bad, but you should be mentally prepared for threats of suicide, "panic attacks" and "chest problems" aplenty, overt sexual temptations, attempts at revenge, attempts to use other guys to make you jealous and get you back, whatever else she can think of.
It's all a trick. Stand your ground and don't waver.
>>16573125
Yeah it's just my social circle is very weak and limited to coworkers who don't really go out and mingle, but I'll figure something out
>>16573130
That is exactly what happened, I let go of many friends male and female because of this relationship, it wasn't completely her fault but it feels like a waste in the end.
>>16573131
I'm not really connected to her on social
Media anymore but I'll be sure to stay away from even those close to her.
>>16573131
Op listen to this guy and do not give in. She says she's going to kill herself? She won't. And if she does it had nothing to do with you she was already that mentally far gone and you couldn't have done anything anyways. Don't go for the sexual offers or let her know you're jealous. Best bet is to completely cut off contact. Don't cave! Good luck. You'll find someone better one day.
>>16573064
Assuming this was a last minute decision as yoy mention. You seem to have been in the right, but you should have offset it by offering to take her on a fancy dinner to make up for not taking her or offered to come back early and spend time with her. As for her mom just explain what happened. Assuming you are still on her good side she may talk some sense into her. On the other hand. Do you really want the hassle?
>>16573165
Honestly if she straight up says "I am going to kill myself" to him, he can call 911 and give them her location and get her hauled away.
In theory if someone says that and the person doesn't report it they can get in trouble (mental health specialist at my unit told me), but I wouldn't be worried about that with her.
More of a calling her on her shit and fucking up her life for a few days so she'll stop using that you fuck with you. And that's all if she even does that.
The more you know
>>16573184
Smart.
>>16573165
Got it. Thank you.
>>16573181
I was too angry and tired to try and compromise and I knew we would be out with my sister all day.
I did explain to her in a text that if this was a normal thanksgiving that I would've gladly had her over my house and I would visit her family as well but this was before I got angry.
>>16573181
The hassle is what stops me from knocking on her door. I feel like it would just cause a scene and nothing would be resolved. It sucks because I was close to her dad and brothers so I feel like I let them down.
>>16573193
True, but in the end, be honest with yourself, is she really want the hassle? If the answer is no, then I think you know what you have to do. Just be strong and stick to your decision.
>>16573210
I think she is worth it but there is too much hurt already there, and she is the type to question me for not visiting her sooner.
>>16573218
Like I said, if "you" think she is worth it, just go thru with it. Honestly, I think you are in the right, but for girls like these, you might be better off cutting off contact. Right now, she is feeding her ego on the attention you are giving her. Make her be the one to apologize and/or have her the one wanting back.
OP, do you isolate her from her friends?
Is this why she is so needy?
My ex made me stop talking to my one and only male friend because he was jealous and then would leave me alone to do his own thing all the time. This made me very needy and jealous, I would get upset if he left for the weekend to spend time with his family and didn't invite me.
I eventually broke up with him because he wanted me all to himself but still have his bachelor lifestyle too.
I could be projecting, but why is she a mental case? Unless it's a clinic disorder, there is always a reason why she is acting like this.
Did you promise to spend thanksgiving with her or something?
>>16573069
6 years is allot.
you cant expect an 18 yo to commit that early.
its mathematicaly best to start committing at age 33.
>>16573089
Why are you talking to coworkers about your relationship? Bit weird...
>>16573120
>I gave her all of my heart not to mention my Instagram is full of her.
holy shit you're garbage. quit fucking children.
