It seems that I have had some kind of an epiphany today.
My boyfriend can't handle truth. Anytime I tell him something that is factual about his behavior, he goes on a wild and very angry emotional venture.
Example:
Him: I would choose to be with you over anything else all the time. (while talking about me going away for new years with my family)
Me: That's not true baby, you wanted to spend 2 new years with your friends instead of me, but couldn't afford to go with them ...so you spent it with me.
>He proceeds to get angry, arguing that it's not true and refuses to talk to me for a few days.
Example:
Him: Cheaters are immoral
Me: But you cheated on your last girlfriend and tried to two time me with another girl at the start (he was seeing a girl I didn't know about when we met)
Him: WHY DO YOU TURN EVERYTHING NEGATIVE AND AROUND ON ME
>proceeds to ignore me for a few days
Example:
Me: She is so perfect (about a porn actress)
Him: Ew she is gross, men don't really want that, it's just tits and ass.
Me: Then why do you watch her if she is gross? I have tits and ass and we haven't had as much sex as you have watched her.
Him: Because I was horny and you weren't here? (with a snappy attitude)
Me: I came over an hour later, we could've had sex instead of you watching this "gross" porn. (snappy back at him)
Him: HERE WE GO JUST LEAVE. SERIOUSLY. YOU ARE RIDICULOUS I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU RUIN A GOOD NIGHT.
Rinse and repeat.
Are we fucked? Should we just break up? This happens all the time. We can never manage a calm discussion because he gets so angry at me.
>>16566569
Plasser
>>16566569
Honestly I can't understand why you'd want to date this person.
"Example:
Him: I would choose to be with you over anything else all the time. (while talking about me going away for new years with my family)
Me: That's not true baby, you wanted to spend 2 new years with your friends instead of me, but couldn't afford to go with them ...so you spent it with me.
>He proceeds to get angry, arguing that it's not true and refuses to talk to me for a few days. "
Actually, here he came with facts and you told something that was your opinion.
You said always, but he had shown it not be true by stating actual facts.
>>16566569
That last one in particular you could have avoided. And I'd imagine that he doesn't feel great about having cheated. Just because he did it doesn't mean he doesn't think it's immoral. He's probably trying to learn to be a better person.
Sounds like both of you have given up on having pleasant conversations. He's extra reactionary, but how did you expect those conversations to go?
That first one was stupid though, him trying to guilt you out of spending time with your family.
>>16566582
she's only showing her side of the story, it's not that easy to judge
even a robber could look like a saint if he told only his side of the story
>>16566587
It's literally the other way around m8. Learn to read.
>>16566569
Well, I agree that he is childish. However, it seems like you're just blatantly trying to pick fights with him. I mean, everyone knows they're a piece of shit, and isn't perfect. When he makes these over generalized claims, he's just having a good time. No need to throw shit back at his face. However, his pent up responses are pretty stupid too.
Sounds like you two should break up. Neither of you are mature enough to shut your mouths, and just enjoy the moments.
>>16566587
That is what happened though.
He wanted to go with his friends at new years and he couldn't afford it so he opted to stay with me. If he had a choice, he would've chosen to go with them.
>>16566602
>>16566607
just learn't how to read
i flipped her and his messages
These examples seem like you're honestly picking a fight. Let the man be nice if he wants to be!
Bringing shit up in this way helps no one and if you have a problem with something he does or did then dont bring it up hoping he'll bite so you can make him feel bad it'll only end on a fight. If you genuinely have a problem actually sit down and talk about it.
>>16566596
>>16566606
I agree with you both. I used to ignore a lot of it until it started bothering me. He says one thing but does another and he will make claims forgetting his own nuisances in the past.... So now I feel compelled to point out that he is being a delusional idiot.
>>16566607
That should've been reason enough to end the relationship. New yrs should be enjoyed with the person you love. You some sort of a chump?
>>16566619
I know I could just shut my mouth and agree happily but his hypocrisies sometimes outweigh my ability to just shut up.
You think he's an idiotic animal. You don't like him. Just go. He's not going to change. That is his knee jerk reality. If he learns to be different he'll still regress here and there. And he doesn't even seem willing to try.
Leave.
>>16566623
I disagree with you there, I don't think I have the right to object to how he wants to spend his new year. He doesn't see his friends often either.
>>16566650
I think we all know your judgement here, is lacking :/
>>16566653
>>16566653
pmsl
Can't argue there Anon.
So what now? How can I stop picking fights with him and how can I make him stop saying shit that isn't true?
>>16566683
Well, you can't control people. You can only control yourself. However, sounds like you can't stand his BS self righteousness. Either just realize that he's full of shit, and laugh it off inside knowing that you're a better human being to him in every way shape and form! Or walk away before you do something you regret, and not lose anymore precious time on this relationship that will surely implode. Or just keep doing what you're doing, and hang on for a wild ride!
He has anger issues. I would break up because he sounds like my ex who was a very confusing person. I bet he's really selfish too and everything is somehow your fault.
