>>16554007
no u can't learn to, everyone just gets off on different stuff. it's anatomy. i can only orgasm from clit stimulation but penetration in tandem makes it way more enjoyable. never in all my years have i come from penetration tho i enjoy it more. sucks man

>>16554019
It happened to me one single time in 11 years of sex and I feel like I'm just doing sex wrong if I still can't get it.

Clit stimulation with penetration works every time, but I've always wanted to just let go and cum without having to touch myself.

I've tried to let my partner touch me during but it's like no matter how he tries it just doesn't feel right.

It's really frustrating.

>>16554045
I feel you. I don't have as much experience but I always have to stimulate my clit. Feels bad because my bf wants to make me cum on his own and it makes him think he's not good enough at it or something.

>>16554045
>>16554688
Can relate so hard, sadly.

I don't know if they can learn to or not, but I do know lots of girls don't come from penetration only

>>16554007
This thread is relevant to my life!!! It's nice to hear from other ladies that I'm not the only one. I thought maybe there was something I was doing wrong!

I always felt like I missed an important time-frame of learning how to masturbate. I can't finger myself out of disgust(nothing helps), and all is left is clit stimulation. I have no idea what to do, it is either too sensitive, or feels like nothing. Where do I touch? What kind of motion should I make with my fingers?

I can orgasm from penetration my boyfriend lays me down on an angle that hits my g spot the slower and deeper he goes the easier it is for me to orgasm.

>>16554763
Maybe full hand rub down? I'm in the same boat. I have to use a vibrator and I hate it. I want to at least be able to get off by hand.

>>16554019
>>16554045
>>16554688
Basically this.

I can only cum if my clit is stimulated, 90% of the time it's when my bf is going down on me and fingering me at the same time.

For some reason just vaginal penetration can't make me cum, it's so frustrating and I know it makes my bf feel like shit, like he's not good enough. I actually faked it every single time before I met him, and then I still couldn't cum for ages when I was with him, so I faked it with him a lot too, for 2 years. I finally told him the truth last week. Now he has performance anxiety and can't keep it up as much, but he has always been the only person to ever make me cum (even before I told him I faked it so much), and he's the best sex I've ever had.

Since coming clean about it, I've cum every time. But I still feel like shit because I don't think our sex will be the same again, and I'm pretty sure he feels the same way, which just crushes me.

From everything I've ever read and heard, there's very few women who can cum just from penetration without clit play.

>>16554774
>>16554763
Two fingers, press down on the area just above the clit, don't touch the clit itself if its sensitive. Rub up and down, increasing pressure as it starts feeling better.

Don't start from 0, watch some porn or something. There's erectile tissue in the clit, and it does get noticeably firmer when you get aroused. If you are not suitably aroused, it's not going to feel good.

>>16555339

Now why would you go and say something as dumb as that

>>16555339
I just use my fingers to do clitoral stimulation while having sex. That way I always get off.

>>16555353
Not them but how is that dumb? I'm the same, most of my girlfriends are the same.

I don't know many females who can get off just from a dick in their vag.

>>16555355
I try doing that but sometimes I just can't get off, no matter what. I'm really self conscious so I have no doubt that plays a big part in it.

Personally I don't give a fuck if I don't get off. My goal during sex is to make sure my partner is enjoying themselves, if my bf can't get me off then that's fine by me.

But I think I will try that more though. I just feel so guilty when I can't get off, especially now that he knows I used to fake it so often.

>>16555401
I also don't mind not cumming when I'm fucking my bf.

I think for guys the goal of sex is to get an orgasm, which is the reason they feel bad when they can't give one to their gf, even though most girls are perfectly happy just feeling good during the sex itself.

It wouldn't be hard if you didn't suck, OP.

>>16555424
Exactly what I think!

My bf's even told me that his only goal when we have sex is to make me cum and I'm just like 'but.. Why..?'
I can kinda understand the logic behind it but no matter what, I'm still going to love the sex, regardless of whether I cum or not. I'd rather have amazing sex and not cum at all, than have sex where I feel like I have to cum just to make it 'worth it' to him, if that makes sense.

>>16555438
It's because most guys have a girl at one point in their early life that cums multiple times from penetration alone and that is the best feeling I can imagine short of a few. There is literally nothing better for the confidence in your balls than knowing you made some random slut cum on your dick 3 or 4 times just by grabbing her hair and fucking her like an animal. Not being able to make your gf cum like that either makes you want to go find a girl like the one that makes you feel the best again or makes you think you suck.

Honestly, stop being such a frigid bitch.

>>16555442
Believe me, I am far from a 'frigid bitch'. If you're trying to insult me, for something I can't control even, try harder.

>>16555474
I'm not trying to do shit, I'm telling you what you already know.

>>16555483
You think whatever you want faggot, I have a higher sex drive than anyone else I know, includomg my bf. I'm most definitely not frigid lmao

I get off from just penetration. I have multiple orgasims too. My average is 14 per 30-45 min session. I don't touch my clit, it is far too sensitive.

>>16555566
Fuck I wish I was you

>>16555594
It's not all good. Whenever I orgasims my muscles clench so hard that it forces out my husband. We are having s hard time getting pregnant because of that (I have posted sbout it here before),

I don't get any pleasure from penetration, the guy might as well not be there at all.

I'm FTM, but I suppose I can offer my two cents.

Vaginismus is really bad to deal with, but that can be worked around. Liking it psychologically, on the other hand, really can't be learned. At best, you might deal with it because there ARE nerves there, but it still feels off.