Don't worry bruh. Alot of chicks do that. Or should I say feel that.

>>16553763

so they weren't real orgasms or what?

she honestly spazzes out. a few times it's been quite jarring, looks like she's having a seizure.

Femanon here, the exact thing happens to me.

My ex was super into giving me oral and using his hands, and I just wasn't a big fan of it. I got an icky feeling from it because I'm so sensitive down there, and I usally couldn't cum no matter how long he did it for. I would shake and get really into it for a while, but I couldn't get over that hurdle.

However I did cum once from it, and that was after I tried my best to let him keep going even if I was feeling uncomfortable. It really does feel like your about to pee in his face, and it makes you very self-conscious, which for girls is a big deal and will make them lose focus immediately.
It did take a while though, and I didn't really wanna try it again.

Maybe clit stuff isn't your gf's thing op. Its got nothing to do with you. Can she orgasm some other way?

>>16553795

i doubt vaginally and i have no idea about anything else.

she is very tight, even when soaking wet and says it's uncomfortable

>>16553803
>>16553795

this is effectively me
few women can orgasm from penetrative sex, however the ones who do need to do so in a way that people don't really understand. It's not just in-out-in-out. That "need to pee" feeling and sensitivity is the "gspot" being worked, but not properly. It's generally not the right position or she's too self conscious about the urinating feeling.

She should empty her bladder before sex and try not to drink anything right before (I know, it's often spontaneous and that's hard to time, but it's worth it). IMO, missionary is best for penetrative stimulation just because of the curve of the penis and the shape of the head. Then she has to stop clenching the pelvic walls and floor (which she's doing when she's nervous about peeing) and relax and kind of let it take over.
Just assure her you aren't too worried about a little bit of urination/make sure she's very comfortable and has had plenty of foreplay/maybe put a towel down if it'll make her feel less anxious

>>16553825
Its jus a state of mind

Im a girl and i cum from penetration all the time. My boyfreund doesnt eat me out or mess with my clit but I usually have multiple orgasms from our sex

I just have tk be relaxed and feel mt horniness and feel sexyal

>>16553803
Ask her how she masterbates.

One thing that some girls do is "scissor" their legs together. Its not really something that you see in porn so I think some girls might be shy about it.
There are some other ways as well, communication is key here.

>>16553842
How long does he have to last for you to cum like this? I've never cum by penetration, but then again my bf doesn't last longer than around 10 min

Man, get that Gspot. Look it up!

You stick your finger in, palm up, and do a "Come hither." motion along the top, a few inches in. There's a little rough spot you can feel - just do the motion on that with varying degrees of pressure (varies, girl to girl) and see what happens. Mine was blown away when I hit that for her.

Something that should help ease her mind:

The urethra closes itself off during arousal. If you've ever tried to pee immediately after sex, it's very difficult, because of how the urethra has clamped shut. It's pretty much impossible to pee near or during orgasm.

I'm familiar with that heightened sensitivity as you get close thing. For a long time I thought that was an orgasm, because I got too sensitive. It took patience and experimentation to find the right amount to actually bring an orgasm instead of just being too much.

How are you pleasuring her? She might be really sensitive and just need gentler stimulation. Making sure the area is lubed up either with her natural juices or an added lube can go far in reducing uncomfortable sensitivity.

If you're stimulating her clit with your finger, the roughness of the finger can be too much. Tongues are softer. If she's really sensitive when you pull back the hood of her clit, leave it on to reduce sensitivity to manageable level.

And some clitorises are so sensitive that they can't take any direct stimulation at all. If this is the case, find another way or only occasionally go for it.

She needs to become comfortable with her body and the feeling of impending orgasm. Reassure her that her body will stop her from urinating. If the feeling is really strong, adjust the place you're stimulating her to try and reduce it.

And also just give it time. You're both new to this, and sex is a learning experience even if you both have done it hundreds of times before, because you have to learn the specifics of their body. She also just needs to become more comfortable, and that should happen with time.

>>16553982
Also, I would like to add that if you're going at the sex hard and fast right from the get go, it's easy to overstimulate. You want to start slow and ease in. Lots and lots of foreplay. Don't even consider it foreplay, because that stuff is just as important as the actual penetration, if not moreso, for the female orgasm. Most women cannot orgasm from penetration.

>>16553982
this is such bullshit, i have to get up in the middle of good sex all the time to pee

have you ever had sex or only read about it on 4chan?

>>16553998
I am married with a good sex life and a medical background.

I used "pretty much" in an attempt to avoid an absolute, since there is always a case that takes the norm and turns it on its head. Apparently that wasn't sufficient to express that.

I'm sorry you have to go through with that, but your case is not the norm. In most people, the body prevents urination during sex.

Do you have something else contributing to your need to pee, like a UTI? Have you been checked for one?

>>16554016
i know what a uti is, and i can tell when i have one

>>16554016
Well there's no good way for me to diagnose over the internet. I suggest you get that checked out, though. Especially if your sex sessions only last an average length of time, because unless you drink an enormous amount, frequent urination like that is not normal.

>>16553749
Sometimes it happens during orgasms sometimes it doesn't during organsms jfc