This is pathetic but here goes.
Every relationship I have goes great until sex. I under perform and they break up soon after.
I go to 'body rub escort' and was wondering if I should go full service with her but ask her if she could teach me how women like to have sex. The goal wouldn't be for me to enjoy it so much as to try lots of positions and for her to guide me through doing it well. I figure if we do that a couple times I'd be more confident and prepared for the future
I know it's beta as fuck but how else can I overcome this?
you just need practice. probably better to get that from fat/ugly girls than from a whore.
>>16552827
This makes no sense. Don't learn from inexperienced land whales.
Practice with the escort.
>>16552818
What do you mean under perform? You either have sex or you don't.
If they're breaking up with you after the first time you have sex you're probably doing something weird or being really weird. Or changing personality or something.
Practising positions is fine, but it's not really going to help you since you already know what to do. I'd suggest you fuck the escort if you're so concerned you can't have sex with a girl properly since an escort doesn't care no matter how bad you are. But I'd also strongly suggest just having sex with a few more girls and asking them what you're doing wrong or why they're breaking up with you.
And the trilby looks awful. Burn it. Get a haircut while your at it.
Fuck dude you really look like the worst sort of wannabe hipster douch.
>>16552852
I hear from everyone you have to fuck the hell out of your girl and be some sex god but Im really nervous, unexperienced, and as result sometimes get ED too. I imagine they bail cuz the sex is lame. Also trilby pic isn't me
>>16552934
Take it from me you don't have to fuck the hell out of her or be some sex god or confident alpha. You just have to make a connection with a girl and like each other enough to fuck, then have some sex.
They wont bail, the worst that will happen is you'll be really bad in bed and they'll give you a weird look and forget about you pissing all over yourself or whatever after a few days.
If you just want to have sex to get it over with then you're going to set it up as a big thing and get scared. Instead aim to have sex because you want to have sex, cause it feels good and you're willing to get past the fear of looking and sounding like an idiot. That's just your ego talking, it's scared of you looking like a beta. She doesn't care, she usually just wants a dick in and out of her. Feel free to ask what she likes before you fuck, and go from there. It's pretty hard to fuck up sex, but it also happens a lot, who cares.
>>16552934
OK so it seems like your paying way to much attention to what others think instead of talking to your partner. Porn isn't real so just get that out of your head right now. Your sex will never be like that sex because that is scripted and edited fantasy. Relax, don't think and enjoy eachother. Neurosis aren't sexy.
>>16552934
everyone lied to you or is a faggot trying to sound alpha.
going wild is something that comes from going good, not the other way around.
first of all: penetration is overrated! it's good, but it's not all there is, it's just one aspect. Don't be in a hurry to stick it in, if anything leave her longing for the D as you cuddle, kiss and rub her.
second: you are responsible for you having good sex, she is responsible for she having good sex. It sounds selfish, but if you don't say what you want or just do what you want it'll be one big spergfest where you're both wondering what the other likes and failing to achieve that cause you don't know what the other likes. You're doing her a favor by enjoying yourself.
third: people are different, what worked on her previous guy may not work on you and what works on one women does not automatically work on her. hence refer to point 2.
fourth: don't try to "perform" or "compete" or whatever, just do it as you like. deep gentle thrusts can be just as satisfying as going hard and you can increase the tempo whenever you like. Instead of worrying about "underperforming" just enjoy yourself. at least if she dumps you for whatever reason you've enjoyed yourself instead of gone trough a hell of stagefright.
my pro tip to relaxation: sleep with her, cuddle her, spoon her and don't even think of sex. Just the nice warm cosy feel of cuddling. after a few hours, or by the morning or next time or whatever, you'll be so comfortable that it won't feel like performing anymore, just a more intense way of being together.
>>16552818
Besides of what other people said here, telling your partner you dont have much experience and/or telling tem to take the command might work as well.
