Borderline disorder, how do you deal with it?
I find myself getting so so upset about things that literally don't mean anything.
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I've heard I should get along swell with borderlines
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Use cognitive behaviour therapy to (somewhat) control your fear of rejection and abandonment, which is the core of borderline
if small things are meaningful to you, then so be it
don't deny it, don't deny yourself, but be aware of the subsequent thoughts and behaviours which can damage your relationships with others
>>16549960
>be aware of the subsequent thoughts and behaviours which can damage your relationships with others
This is exactly the issue, if my friends go somewhere without inviting me, I immediately start feeling abandoned. If my girlfriend doesn't have time to hang out or chat with me, I get sad and start thinking that she wouldn't like me anymore... I know that's not the case and I know how incredibly stupid this sounds. I just don't know why I'm still feeling like this.
>>16550014
>I know how incredibly stupid this sounds
I understand what you mean, but try not to denigrate yourself, because that's a dead end
perhaps you are still feeling like this because you have made it a habit over the years to tear into yourself to make sense of a senseless world
over time thoughts like "she wouldn't like me anymore" can become "I am unlikable" if allowed to coalesce
breaking a thought like that apart and dispersing it takes time, time and kindness
be kind to yourself, even when you feel that the whole world is being cruel, even when you whisper to yourself that it might be justified in doing so
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is pretty much the best intervention. I work as a therapist. You can go to the NAMI website to find more information. CBt is not an effective intervention.
>>16550053
thank you for the suggestion, this is very interesting
>>16549946
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>>16550045
I don't denigrate myself, I know that people like me. I have a lot of friends that I wouldn't trade for the world. They wouldn't be there for me if I wasn't important to them.
The mood swings are really rapid though. Even the smallest things can honestly ruin the day for me. Sometimes it's just if my friends don't respond to my texts after they read them. I know they might be busy with something and that's why they don't have the time to chat. The most ordinary things people do, even I do seem so offensive when others do it.
