Wasn't sure where else to post this, but sorry in advance if this isn't a good place. I wanted to post somewhere anonymously where, since I'll get judged, I won't get recognized.
I'll make this short and sweet and to the point as possible. I've been on 4chan since about the third month its been around, but I stopped visiting about five years ago when things here started to get really bad. Had a lot of family issues as well, which is partially why I'm making this thread.
Back in about 2000, my wife left me and our daughter behind for another guy. Don't know the guy at all, but he's a lot older than me, and I guess she'd been cheating on me with him for awhile, not sure how long. But he's the CEO of a company (won't name it) and makes a fair amount more than me. I met my now ex-wife when I was about 14, we had our daughter at 16. I am now 33. (switching numbers around a bit here so I'm not as easily identified) and my daughter is just about to turn 17.
Sorry, I'm droning on too long. Really anxious about all this and I have no idea who to turn to without getting my daughter taken away from me or being accused of molesting her or something.
This is going to sound like a really shitty porno or fantasy or whatever, but I'm not making any of it up and I don't want to have anything to do with it and I don't know what to do. But I woke up to my daughter essentially jerking me off. I'm a really heavy sleeper and I almost felt like I was going to blow my load, so when I woke up I thought I was having a wet dream at first, but then I look down and my daughter's under the covers with me. I freaked the fuck out and yelled at her and she's at school now and I don't know what the fuck to do.
I would say this came out of nowhere, but I'm putting two and two together and I've noticed for the past few months I've bumped into her way too often while I was trying to get changed or coming out of the shower. Sorry if anyone thinks this is a troll, seriously not sure what to do.
>>16545345
oh jesus christ, this has got to be bait
>>16545345
this cannot be serious
>>16545345
Be a man for once in your fucking life and talk to her about how it isn't right to jerk off your dad. Move on.
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>>16545347
>>16545351
honestly don't know how to prove otherwise. not posting pictures, not describing my daughter, trying to desexualize it as much as possible so it doesn't come off as fake smut. If you can point me in the direction of legitimate help (anon help) I would appreciate it. That's mostly what I'm looking for
>>16545354
Obviously I am going to have a talk with her about it after school but I feel like that's so far gone that I need to seek help. I love my daughter dearly and I'm terrified that she'll think this means I don't love her or something.
>>16545345
If anything you posted is true, you should know what she is doing.
This is the only way she has of competing with her non-existent mother.
Explain to her, calmly and kindly, that that sort of behavior is not acceptable. She's just starting to come into her sexuality fully, and hormones suck. DO NOT YELL OR DISCIPLINE HER FURTHER. This is an incredibly fragile time for her mentally and the wrong approach can really mess her up. See a family therapist if that seems easier. This sort of thing is more common than you think. Good luck.
Damn...
I mean I'd never fucking touch my father- I'd prolly just throw up everywhere....
So I'm trying to imagine what state of mind she is in, and all I can think is that you must be an attractive dad and she must be... trying to fill in the Gap your wife left you in?
The fact that her mom bailed out on her might be really stressing her mentally and she may not even know it.
You gotta tell her its wrong, ask why she did that and talk about.
I mean she is your kid, you forgive her obviously but you gotta get to the bottom of that behavior and prolly get your two into therapy....
>>16545361
>>I love my daughter dearly and I'm terrified that she'll think this means I don't love her or something.
Motherfucker, one thing does not imply the other. I don't believe you're mature enough to be 30 years old. When you have a child you understand that you have to do things that your child will not like, but that you still love her.
I strongly believe that you'd either do not have custody of the brat, that you're just fucking with us, or you are actually a miserable man that does not know how he got through 16 years of a girl's life. How the fuck did you deal with her puberty then?
I call fake on this shit.
>>16545368
Yeah no yelling or discipline on this one.
You are both in a very sad place right now.
Tell her that you both need to accept it that you are both probably very sad about her mom.
Then start asking what she wants, in life, right now- let her know your always gonna be there- and its your job to take care of her, not the other way around- never the other way around like that...
>>16545363
I'm not a psychologist, how would I know that?
>>16545368
Thank you. This is the answer I was looking for, partially. Still open to others, but this is good. I don't have a family therapist, but I will do what I can to make this happen.
>>16545372
I would think that it would have nothing to do with attractiveness. I don't feel like mentioning what I look like, I don't want to add to anyone's sick fantasy. I will have to go the therapy route I guess, sigh.
>>16545374
Ok.
sounds like plot in which she'd get your semen on her and then accuse you of molesting her, probably to further fuck up your life. When it's something like this (even though this is probably fake, but for you other anons, always assume the worst first
>>16545345
I don't believe this.
>>16545396
You guys are morons. Shit much worse than this happens. We have people who have, multiple times, posted that they were going to murder a bunch of people, and then did *just that* that the next day. What's so fucking bizarre about a dude who's daughter blew him?
And even if he is lying, just move on. Fucking losers.
>>16545345
You're going to have to be a bit more gentle, but I'm not saying freaking out was wrong- she's your freaking daughter. As kinky as they read, real life isn't a manga- you need to have shields up here to keep the stupid from happening, and fucking your daughter(or her fucking you while you are asleep) is definitely stupid.
You're both hurting over what happened with your wife. Sit her down and have a talk. She is trying to get more from you than you could ever offer. She needs to know that you aren't going to leave her, or intentionally hurt her, but what she did isn't okay and almost permanently altered your relationship. She needs reassurance right now, not punishment.
>>16545389
Also this.
Therapy might be a good idea, but so far you seem to be in control. If things were crumbling(fantasizing about daughter, etc) then it would be time to ring the bell.
>>16545434
It's funny you mention that. When I was younger I had a father/son fantasy that never played out, but I never did the sibling thing. In hindsight it was pretty weird, and I grew out of it.
But no, I never sexualized my daughter. Ever.
>>16545429
Thank you, good post.
When you talk to her, use "I" phrases. (I think...I feel... Ect) "you"phrases (you did...you think) will cause her to get defensive. Remember shes probably just as embarassed as you are.Only seek therapy if its something you both want and agree to. If not, I'm sure you can find one that will consult with you privately. Dont be shy, they are professionals and genuinely want you and your daughter to have a long, happy, non sexual, relationship with eachother.If you have a female friend or relative that she trusts, consider bringing her in when you speak to her.
fuck me mate what the fuck messages did you send to her you fucking queer
Therapy time.
I wouldn't even know how to bring the subject up. Is there any other female influence in her life? aunt or grandparents? I don't think it's something you're going to be able to deal with alone.
Too much text be shorter next time.
>>16545345
Talk to her dude. I mean I know its going to be a super awkward fucking conversation but you gotta do it. Stay confident and don't lose your head no matter what she says. Also don't yell at her. Just stay calm DO NOT LOSE YOUR HEAD be kind and act like you just want to help her.
I mean kids these days are fucked up dude you know that.
>>16545347
Wasn't this posted yesterday too
