Pleasure as in "feels good" or as in "fuck fuck fuck i'm coming!"?

>>16516844
While some women report orgasmic pleasure from penetration, many do not. The general pattern is that penetration at best "feels nice" and is psychologically and emotionally fulfilling, but the real purely physical pleasure is primarily clitoral.

So the point is relax, you're very normal.

>>16516844
Tell him to rub it duh.

Play around have fun let go.

>>16516860
just "feels good" but coming would of course be nice

>>16516972
It's better when I rub it

Also I'm talking about penetration here not rubbing my clit

There aren't really that many nerve endings inside the vagina. We used to think there was one spot, the elusive g-spot, but that turned out to be part of the clitoris that stretches more inwards.

Being penetrated is more of psychological turn-on than a physical one. Maybe try someone with a bigger dick to give you the sensation of being filled up.

>>16517538
so the actual fucking is really just for the guy's pleasure?

>>16517546
male virgin here, wondering the same thing

>>16517546
Thats not what they said, are you being retarded on purpose?
>you better not be

>>16517546
Yes, just like making a sandwich, now get back in the kitchen.

>>16517672
Well if you're not really meant to get pleasure from penetration then really it's just for the guy right?

>>16516844
google "g-spot" and "anterior fornix"
youre welcome

>>16517726
I already know about the g-spot, I don't have one

The anterior fornix area is painful/uncomfortable, I don't like being penetrated that deeply

The g-spot is real, but most guys can't hit it. There's a technique to hitting it when you thrust and pull back for the next one, but it takes practice.

>>16517735
I don't have a g-spot just a spongy area that isn't sensitive

>>16517741

Have you tried doggy style?

>>16516844

I had a girlfriend like you, had to do a lot of work to get her off and it would take a minimum of thirty minutes.

Sorry

>>16517748
sure, why?

>>16517749
what kind of work

and how good were her orgasms?

>>16517546
a bit yes, but as I said there's also the psychological aspect of being fucked that is a turn on for many women. this is why a big dick in itself is a mental turn-on, but also gives the feeling of being filled up.

porn usually shows women moaning uncontrollably from PIV, but that's quite a stretch really.

>>16517769

A lot of clitoral stimulation, licking her neck, rubbing her legs, just general stuff.

She would have really good orgasms where she would seize up and grunt and such, it just took a while and sometimes she'd get sore before I could get her there.

>>16517821
I just wanted to say you're good boyfriend and your post made me feel warm. A lot of boys won't even bother with trying.

>>16517918

A lot of kids have probably had their brains rotted by porn and think that jackhammering is the only way to have sex. It is really sad.

Hey OP I have the same. My ex and I would hump each other as foreplay. It works.

It's normal to not be able to orgasm from penetration. Most girls can't. The guy can try performing cunnilingus on you and make you cum and then try penetration. Normally girls are more sensitive after cuming and it actually gets easier to cum as you become increasingly sensitive with each climax. Try cuming a couple times before actual penetration and see if that helps, you should be much more sensitive then.

>>16517949
>It's normal to not be able to orgasm from penetration

Who said anything about orgasm? I just want penetration to be pleasurable

I can't cum more than once.

>>16517821

My currect GF as well.. So much fucking work... not 30 minutes though. Like 15-20 mins...

>>16518254

If I, a male, can cum twice in 5 minutes if I haven't shot my load in three days, then you can most definately cum more than once. I think. Do you get too sensitive?

And pleasurable vaginal sex is a bit of a twist: if you don't really get pleasure, you need to stimulate your clit while being fucked, if you feel pain/soreness/discomfort, then you guys are not doing it right. he should get you wet as a fountain before fucking you. If natural lubrication is sparse, then use some water-based or silikone lube. Try out some beforehand to see if you have allergies, or if a certain brand disagrees with you.

>>16518254
I think a lot of it is about mindset. Stop trying to think of sex as a hugely pleasurable thing in itself, and approach it more as something to learn and become good at. You are half of the sex that happens, build in a lot of foreplay (time to get in the right mindset and let your arousal and wetness build), just push him back up if you don't want penetration yet, tell him to work for it or that you want to be teased or that you love this part of sex as well, make it sexy or playful which is easier and less weird than stern. When you do have sex, actively look for positions you enjoy, talk dirty or fantasize in addition if you're into that, finger yourself or let him finger you(r backside?), or pull your hair or spank you, whatever you enjoy. I think putting too much pressure on penetration itself can sort of nervous kill it like with getting a boner, where you can mentally block yourself. That doesn't mean you are in the average realm in terms of sensitivity but at least it will help you enjoy the overall experience more, and our mental expectations influence the way we perceive the new experiences. It's also just intimate and fun. And I'd try to find a more specific forum and ask around for vaginal sensitivity. Maybe training your kegels could help, or practising with edging so much that you become extremely sensitive then building up bits of penetration? I'm sure there's things to try at least.

>>16516844

Everyone has their quirk or requirement.

My gf can't ever come from penetration. While I'm penetrating, she usually has a vibe right on her clit. She increases the intensity of it to the point that I can feel it and it feels amazing for both of us. For her, the combination of the penetrate/vibrate get her done real fast. She actually finishes even faster and more intensely if we do missionary, since I have a slight upward curve, so she feels it right on her G when i'm penetrating and pulling out and it intensifies it for her to the point that she's gasping and moaning for air like she's dying, it's just not enough stimulation on it's own.

She honestly doesn't even care if I finish before her (which is nearly impossible since she finishes in about 8 minutes and her orgasm lasts about 2 minutes in entirety, in which she prefers I finish during that 2 minute time frame, doesn't mind if I finish before if I help her finish with fingers, and doesn't not at all want me to continue when her O is done since she becomes sensitive to the point of pain.). When she first told me about her specifics, I almost laughed because of how absurd it seemed.

I pretty much had to train myself from being used to hours of sex to literal minutes of sex to keep up with her. I don't mind at all since we both enjoy the time after with just random bed chatter just as much as the actual act together.

So yeah, what OP has is pretty normal.

>>16518394

> When you do have sex, actively look for positions you enjoy

What do you mean by enjoy? If penetration isn't really pleasurable, what is enjoyable about it?