Hey so this is a bit embaressing but I really hope I can find answers. I am 19 years old, I am currently in a relationship with a great girl. At first i diden't mind cause i thought it was a good thing. But I struggle to reach orgasm when having sex...First time I ever had sex was like a year ago and it lasted hours. I fap pretty much almost everyday at least once. And it worries me that it takes me so long. to the point I almost do not enjoy having sex. Now good news it isen't too late cause I at least came once with my girl sround a month ago but now it's starting to mess with my head and i get nervoud and afraid i won't get it up. I wanna if anybody ever had to deal with that and if they could help me out. I know it isen't too late but while I never thought I would say this, I need to last less long in bed.
bump of shame
Stop fapping so much
I have this same problem, unfortunately I tink jerking off makes it worse.
For me I find the best thing to do is relax and focus on what feels good and keep things simple. Changing position a lot can be awkward and kind of a turn off if it gets too clumsy.
Also, dont try to overthink what youre doing. It's an annoying suggestion I know, like "be more confident" but I find 9/10 times stress and tension are the key factors.
Sorry for not having a more clinical answer but this has been my experience. I sometimes get self conscious about performance or something, which makes it hard to get off, which makes me more self conscious. Its tough but hardly insurmountable. Just remember the number one rule for sex: it should be fun
>>16516126
that's the thing, I always wanted to please the girl and I do(humble brag) but I need to learn to make it enjoyable for myself. Im thinking of stopping fapping completly for now. detox time. and also get my head toghether.
>>16516073
stop fapping. take a month off, no self-love, and it could turn around for you.
if that doesn't solve it, see a doctor
>>16516073
>to please the girl and I do(humble brag) but I need to learn to make it enjoyable for myself. Im thinking of stopping fapping completly for now. detox time. and also get my head toghether.
What???? I have trouble keeping it in.
What's your secret? are you cut or uncut?
>>16516194
uncut mate. I don't know what it is I think maybe it's the porn? psychological perhaps? First time I did it I was worried I would cum fast...
>>16516073
Google "delayed ejaculation"
It is not all that uncommon.
>>16516073
>I fap pretty much almost everyday
stop that
>>16516073
No fap, stop it
Stop porn especially
Boost your testosterone, you'll want to have sex all the time
Can do this with, more sleep, zinc, vitamin d3 , compound weight movements that are heavy to YOU
I'm doing all these things now and feel great, more energetic, higher libido, more focused, way way way more confident
>>16517890
I have officially started today no fap!
>>16517890
Did you struggle with the same problem?
