My lady and I have been quarreling all day. Not over the "cat", but it made a lovely segue discussion to a topic of discussion we had earlier in the week that seemed at the time like it was a non-issue. It clearly hit her harder than I originally had thought it would, and honestly it's my apprehension and assuredness that she wasn't going to react pleasantly to the info that caused me to "get caught" with my porn interests. Not that porn is the issue (so she says), but the fact that I prefer asian women's looks. It's not the "personality of the typical submissive asian woman" or anything like that, it's the general appeal of appearance that gets me. Also it's pretty much a non-issue as far as I am concerned. I have no interest in leaving my her for anyone, I have no interest in cheating, and I have no interest in making my girl feel at all bad about herself. Although, this has devastated her because she feels she is holding me back from what I "truly want" (She is a whitie after all), and also she feels that she will never know how it feels to be "hungered for" so to speak by way of my personal preference to "yellow fever". Which I honestly can't say is at all true. I find her to be the apple of my eye. We have been together for 5 years and have dealt with some pretty rotten issues as far as relationships go and have carried on with decently smooth waters since...
My quest for advice is this; how much shit am I really in?
Alright, am stoned so shall I bite.
1. How old are you two?
2. Did she see a porn vid on your screen or did she read your browser history?
3. If browser, was it ALL Asian porn?
>>16509489
It wasn't all asian porn, she has known I watch porn and recently has been watching it with me. Also, 30.
>>16509425
First, please stop typing with a fedora on.
Second, how would you feel if she watched porn of black guys all the time? Wouldn't you feel like you aren't enough?
>>16509425
Explain to her (and to yourself) that erotic fantasies frequently have nothing to do with real life tastes.
Many men, for example, fantasize about women with bizarrely gigantic breasts but fall in love with - and are sexually satisfied with - women with more normal bodies. Many women allow themselves the fantasy of submissive sex and even rape, without wanting either in real life.
So your enjoying Asian porn says nothing about your real life tastes or your feeling for her.
Probably.
Just say you have some asian features and that you must be one of those descendents of genghis khan. Make it more credible by saying you're from some eastern european tartar tribe or some shit like that. If you got brown hair and brown eyes you'll totally manage the bullshit. Then say that's why you find an attraction to them, it some tribalistic, animalistic thing but you're also white, you also like her, that's why you're with her. Tell her to think of every time you've fucked the shit out of her, does she think that could have happened if she wasn't the asian of your heart?
>>16509537
I am oblivious to the reference... so sorry. This point was brought up and honestly a little. But she doesn't watch porn really, I can see where she's coming from, and feel like shit that it's harmed her so. I can't help that I am more attracted to asians, and she can't help that she is not one. And the point that she deduced and I owned up to (moronically) the fact, kind of fucks plausible deniability in the ass whether or not I would or would not have lied... I think we're in some shit. But at the same time how is it any different from if I were into huge tits or chicks w/ dicks or anything she can't change about herself readily? When did fantasizing become so taxing? If I were in her position I doubt I'd be ready to throw away a 5 year relationship with her.
>>16509589
Heh! The latter portion makes an interesting point despite your efforts to dick with me. Thank you. Perspective is everything I suppose.
>>16509555
This is a fair point. I shall ponder a while. Thank you.
Oh hai. Checking back in gimme a sec to get caught up.
Next question. How long have you guys been together?
>>16509425
epic.
Since I don't know how long you'll be I'll give you my opinion so far.
First off, never apologize for masturbation and (legal) pornography. Sex is fun and fantasy is fantasy. If that's the root of the problem then she will have to get over that but it doesn't sound like it is.
Fact: you had a choice to guard her feelings and lie or choose to be honest and confirm her fear. You chose to be honest which is cool, but appreciate what you said is pretty devastating to hear from your partner.
You told her you PREFER Asian women. Did you make her feel better by reassuring her that you PREFER her MORE than Asian women? She's your partner, so if you didn't you obviously need to think about why.
So far it seems you have a choice. If this is a long serious relationship and you eventually see yourself with her permanently then it is your responsibility to help her through her insecurity if she does the same for you. I'm assuming monogamy is your thing. (other wise wtf are we talking about)
If you really do PREFER Asian women or whatever then quit wasting her fucking time and go find some Asian women if that's something you want to try.
Again fantasies are allowed so you are allowed to watch porn, but if you really like her she better be damn sure she's number 1. Otherwise she'll leave you or hurt you...or both. That's just people man. So far you really do sound fedora, no offense, just being honest.
Speaking personally, who gives a fuck if you watch Asian porn? the way you fix it is you show her you hunger for her. She said she wants to be hungered for. Sounds like she wants you to "man up" and fuck her stupid so she knows she's number one.
bait thread is bait
>>16509673
Thank you too for being one of the few cunts who actually says thank you around here, and being a bro about me dicking you.
>>16509874
>>16509874
>>16509874
I couldn't possibly take offense to something I don't follow, so no worries there. I appreciate your time to type that all out with me. She is numero uno in my book and nothing is changing that until the end. I did make sure that she left with the idea in her mind that I do want her more. She's just way too pissed and that was probably the worst I've ever witnessed of her being that pissed. She doesn't roar... This time she did... We have been in a really bad way before, although different situation altogether and purely her doing. So maybe it's just a chord that really struck her ego . I've always felt strongly that the truth is the best route in relationships for the most part, I just didn't have my head on me and just answered immediately, no filter. Which I hope wasn't a mistake over-all. Time will tell, I just can't believe the severity of the reaction. That shit was like I fucked every best friend she has ever had plus her mom or something. And this fedora business? If you are refering to me "being the smartest guy in the room", which I think you are, it's possible, though by my understanding of said "fedora" you are refering to me being outwardly self-rightous?Hardly. I'm far from it. I just enjoy being thorough and well versed to extend my reach to people and to hopefully beat back the rising idiot base. There's way too many. =}
>>16509660
tl;dr
fix your autism first
>>16509998
a working man's spirit
>>16509984
I'm on track to do that next monday.
Another relevant question. Are you satisfied with your sex life with her? Truly? No point in lying we're strangers offering unbiased advice advice.
Advice
>>16509959
Cheers
>>16509889
This also is a non-issue, simply put.
>>16509425
>It's not the "personality of the typical submissive asian woman"
This is the most bizarre part because that is literally the only remotely fetishistic thing about them. Asian women have the bodies of 12 year old boys. Are you a gay pedo? If I were your wife I'd be apprehensive too.
>>16509489
>>16509528
>>16509537
>>16509425
Jesus Christ man, the way you type alone makes you look completely revolting. Take it down a notch.
>>16510073
It literally sounds like you should be typing under my name. Oh wayt! I see it! 12yo boy, yupppp
>>16510077
>>16510076
Awe! there's that famous 4chan warmth I've been hearing about.
>>16509979
One who is "fedora" is pseudo-intellectual in a cringy or annoying way.
They make statements like "my dearest ladylove, I shall show you that I am a gentleman!" Or "my intellegence is unmatched by anyone on this board", but they frequently contradict themselves and treat women like objects. Image related.
They were pointing out that you speak in a way that resembles how these guys speak.
>>16510034
Definitely. I mean she is taking a medication that is well known to cause a loss of sexual appetite. But over-all, most definitely.
>>16510128
Ahhh, thank for clearing that up.
>>16510036
>>16510034
And just like Beetlejuice, Advice comes out to play.
>>16510076
>>16510118
And there your decent reasoning. Whoops! Defended, idiot. Hope it didn't take too long to be a shitbag faggot. Tripfag relevancy, A her da der!
quit a sophistocated webcomic, if i daresayso myself, to be quite perfectly honest, lad.
I don't think anyone would like to find out that physically they don't fall into their partner's usual preferences. There's nothing you can do but stress how attracted you are to her and how much deeper that goes, and hoping the hurt wears off on her part and she realizes in time it doesn't affect your feelings for her.
>>16510357
This. Except don't make it up with all talk or she'll think you're trying to just placate her.
Side note: if you said something stupid while you're emotions were high you can come back and clarify if you didn't say what you meant. Make it up to her or you're an inconsiderate asshole, plain and simple.
she's obviously insecure within herself.
Stop being a retard. When a woman find out you usually go for a different kind of girl, there's only one appropriate type of response:
"You're right, I prefer asians, but I'll overlook that if you behave nicely/I'll let you be by my side if you keep me pleased."
>>16510876
to add to that
Stop being a beta fuck letting her shame you for your preferences. You don't even owe her an explanation, faggot.
If this is the kind of petty issue in your relationship that she keeps bringing up (because you keep enabling her), then it's clear she has you wrapped around her finger and convinced you you can't do any better than her.
>>16510018
for the love of fuck, he means stop typing so goddamned formally. it's annoying and a waste of time.
you've created a massive trust issue in your relationship. you've probably also torpedoed your girlfriends self worth for the time being and nothing you say can fix this in the short term.
how can she be expected to trust anything you have to say right now? you'll just be doing damage control.
from her perspective, which you haven't really considered because you're too inflated to figure it out, is that she's been with someone for the last five years who either doesn't really like her that much or has settled for her because he just can't find any good asian woman to replace her with so she'll just have to do.
you've not only wasted her time, you've established that she's someone to be settled for.
hahahaah you're in deep now opie.
this one is easy, tell her your relashionship is not based on looks, and that you'd rather be with one (beautiful) lady you love rather than a thousand asians
>>16511742
Beta as fuck.
This response would make her lose attraction and/or get fat/lazy about her looks.
