how many times you jerk off per day?

>>16504725
If you do it every day and it interferes with your life, you are addicted.

>>16504735
Like this guy said, if it interferes with your life and you try to stop, but realize that stopping isn't as easy as simply deciding not to do it, that's when I would consider it an addiction.

Bad addiction can be SIMPLY defined as when it negatively affects your life or others around you. If you don't hurt yourself or others, keep spankin it!

>>16504743
>>16504751
well let's put it this way. I want a girlfriend and to talk to girls in real life and have a dating life and all that. But I find masturbating so much easier. I tell myself I will try and get more motivated to talk to real girls and masturbate less but I never succeed. It's just so easy to jerk it, and it's so hard to meet girls.

If it prevents you from living your life. If you're missing appointments because of it, if you don't eat because of it, etc.

>>16504725
If it's more than a substitute for real intimacy, I'd call it an addiction.

>>16504767
I'm not sure if I'd call that an addiction, but I would try this:
Only masturbate on days where you talked to a girl you're interested in and didn't do something you thought was embarrassing. That way you end up using it as a reward for one of your goals.

Like, next time you're out and there's a girl you want to talk to, just tell yourself that if you don't do it, you won't get to masturbate that night, and if you bitch out, don't masturbate.

If you have trouble not masturbating that night, you're probably addicted.

>>16504829
yeah i've tried stuff like that before and failed at it. Guess I am addicted.

I could try again and try harder. But did you have anything in mind for someone who is addicted?

>>16504846
Yeah, I used to be addicted actually. Quitting was pretty hard, but it's possible. I started by laying off the porn. Try only using it every other time, then just once a week. When you get to the point where you can use it once a week, try fapping less often, too, maybe just every other day. After about a month you should be porn-free and only fapping two or three times a week. At that point I would plan a day where you have one last good fap session (Don't go back to porn, though, or you might fall back into your old habits) before taking a break for as long as you can.
The point of this break isn't to "gain health benefits" or "improve your ability to talk to girls" or whatever. I do believe in those things but many people don't. Whether they're true or not it's not the point of your break. The point of taking a break for as long as you can is to prove to yourself that you don't HAVE to masturbate. Your goal should be to go until you get blue ball. If you reach that point, fap, and then go until you get blue ball again. Keep doing this until you get to the point where it takes you 14+ days to get blue ball. At that point you'll probably feel fully in control, and you can start doing whatever works for you.

Personally, I still fap 2 to 4 times a week. If I'm very busy one week and I don't get to fap at all, it doesn't bother me very much. Some weeks I have a lot of extra time and I'll go 5 times. I'm off porn completely though, and I no longer feel like my urges control me.

>>16504857
This is good advice in that it encourages self-discipline and promotes control of your life. Excellent examples provided as well.

>>16504896
Thank you sempai I do my best.

On another note, if you happen to relapse on your schedule, you'll probably feel ashamed. You know that feeling of shame you get sometimes after you fap? (some people get it, some don't)
That feeling is probably going to be a lot worse if you break your schedule. I'm not saying you're going to relapse, but if you do, remember that feeling. Keep it in your head. You won't relapse again.

>>16504767
>It's just so easy to jerk it, and it's so hard to meet girls
Why do you connect those two things? One is human interaction, the other is physical pleasure. If you only care about an orgasm, certainly stick to jacking off. Eventually just buy hookers when/if you have the money.

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