/adv/, I lost my virginity yesterday to a girl who wasnt a virgin. Were the same age and basically friends with benefits. I expected to last only a minute like the stereotype but instead I never came and it went on for a while. Basically, I couldnt tell I was having sex, I couldnt feel anything besides the initial push in where I could feel my dick pushing her open, and I could only barely feel that.
She said she enjoyed it besides me being awkward, but I dont know what to think. What the fuck happened?
>>16502315
Maybe your condom was too thick or she was too big/you too small? That's not normal
do you watch porn, do you mastrubate? what you describe is typical for a solid porn education. seek help if you want any kind of relationship long term.
>>16502320
I didnt wear a condom for a while because I didnt feel the urge to cum, but then realized a little later that I couldnt tell so I put it on. I definitely felt worse with the condom on but still, it didnt...well I dont know what to say since that was my first and only time. I dont know what it is supposed to feel like.
>>16502315
that's very normal. it gets better each time.
>>16502326
Yeah I do both
What do you mean by "typical for a solid porn education"?
>>16502327
no worries, i only came from fucking like the 6th time.
>>16502329
>>16502333
So this is normal for a decent amount of people? What is even going on then? Is that other stereotype of guys cumming instantly the first time just a minority?
*shrug* The common go to response is: "Death Grip". If that's the case, easy fix.
I don't know if I have death grip, but personally, I'm pretty desensitized (not sure what it is, I think it was a circumcision that happened in my late teens; supposedly they're not supposed to hurt too much, but I was floored for like a solid two days, and I have a normally high pain tolerance). I can last for literally hours if I want to, and never was able to come with any girl but my girlfriend (they'd usually come after like 15 minutes and then and then want to stop).
Over time I've learned specific positions and modes of stimulation that got me to come (a certain angle on reverse cowgirl gets me every time).
So even if it's that way now, doesn't mean you can't find ways to cope or get better.
>>16502338
I just looked up Death Grip.
Is this a joke. I literally fucked myself over?
>>16502342
So looking more into it it doesnt seem like Death Grip is that real of a thing, since I dont have literal callouses on my dick. However I dont know what else it could be, and I do masturbate pretty frequently so maybe it is worth it to try and not for a while.
You're fine OP. I didn't come until 4th sex session. Keep practicing with her and you will naturally relax and enjoy yourself. Did she give you bj?
It's not death grip either so don't worry.
>>16502402
She did and that felt fine, and strangely, when she tried to stroke me with her hand in the middle of having sex it hurt. So I dont understand
>>16502443
Either she was too dry or she gripped it in a manner you aren't accustomed to.
>>16502315
Pretty much exact same happened to me the night I lost my virginity, but later on I started enjoying it normally. Most likely you're not accustomed to the feeling and the surprise, tension and self consciousness you were feeling made you unable to feel pleasure. It happens.
Sex is not as inherently pleasurable as people make it out to be, otherwise even being raped would feel good. A very large portion of it is what your mind puts into it, and if you're not feeling good about it you won't enjoy it.
also
>friends with benefits
>lost my virginity yesterday
l m a o
