>bf is porn addict
>sex has always been shitty
>months of no sex
>tell him I want to break up
>cries and tells me he will change
>no change
>break up talk again
>tells me we can try poly agreement
>getting ready to meet guy for a hook up
>bf cries and says he didn't think I would actually do it
>still doesn't want to break up
why won't he just let me break up with him? this is bullshit.
i don't know what to do
He probably assumed that things would change, like you would still focus on him. Has he made any attempts at reconciling with you? (taking you out, making you dinner etc.)
As well, if you wanna dump him just do it and don't be swayed by his pussy ass
>>16499438
>Has he made any attempts at reconciling with you? (taking you out, making you dinner etc.)
no
>>16499433
It's not his decision to make, if you refuse to break it off permanently at this point then you're just as weak as he is.
>>16499445
fuck him then, unless you feel like he can change. It sounds like you are fairly over this relationship though
>>16499433
you should just do the poly thing even if he bitches about it. Then he is either motivated to change so you'll stop doing it, or he'll want to break up, win win desu senpai.
>>16499433
I mean usually blame the other partner (aka you)
But if he just won't stop its beyond you to blame, I'd say let a nigguh be and leave his ass for someone that'll appreciate yours
Short version: This guy isn't ready for relationships. Maybe not even for sex. This isn't your fault: he was this way before you met him, and you couldn't have known. He needs to not be in a relationship, but is desperate to remain in one, and so he will say literally anything to make you stay.
Solution: Leave. He needs to be alone before he can experience the personal growth he needs. You cannot help him, because you have been with him. Again, this isn't your fault -you couldn't have known- but the logistics of these things are what they are, and they can be cruel. You need to be out of there, and he needs you to be out of there: it will hurt him in the short term, but this is actually a very, very good thing you can do for him.
There is a chance that he will threaten to kill himself if you leave: like I said, he's desperate enough to say literally anything. If this happens, leave anyway, then call the police and tell them he is threatening suicide. He will not go through with it, even if you don't call the police; you can rest easy about that. "I'll kill myself if you leave" is the only kind of suicide threat that is safe to ignore. But calling the police is your insurance policy against the one-in-billions shot, and it may push him in the direction of actually getting the help he needs.
>>16499433
>bf is porn addict
>addict
Do you know what that means? He won't change, if you don't give him the reasons and the means to. But if you do, you become his mother and therapist, not his girl, so either way, the relationship is mostly lost.
Leave him, and make sure to find a guy who isn't an addict of any kind. As to your current boytoy, tell/show him how he needs to improve, to prevent the same thing happening with his next love.
porn addict that doesnt want to have sex? just cut off the internet and you wont be able to hold him back
>why won't he just let me break up with him?
In what world does he have any say in the matter?
>>16499433
holy shit OP is a legitimately terrible human being
>>16499487
>>16499489
>>16499453
heartless bitches
You aren't compatible and you're both hurting each other trying to stay together. Just end it
>>16499798
cool bait bro
>>16499433
>still doesn't want to break up
What do you care what he wants? It's his actions or lack thereof that you're breaking up with him over, right?
>I'm breaking up with you
>But I don't want you to!!!
>Oh, shit. Guess I'm stuck in this relationship, then
Just drop him. You don't need his permission for it.
Of course he won't let you. He's comfortable with this arrangement.
Time to leave, his feelings be damned.
>>16499798
IT'S FAPPENING
My boyfriend is a porn addict and we are on a break and I don't think I want to go back to that.
Everything everyone has said is true, you need to walk away.
>>16499433
>why won't he just let me break up with him?
Fuck sake, if you want to break up, do it. Its not up to him. Just walk away.
The fact that he watches porn has nothing to do with whether you are sexually compatible together. If you want him to like you more then you have to seduce him, not shame him. If you do not come naturally to this conclusion then you are not emotionally mature enough for a relationship.
>"Our sex life is bad, it must be because of porn!"
>>16499433
>>16499433
>getting ready to meet a guy for a hookup
Seriously? That makes you like a whore. Also sounds like you haven't helped him at all with stopping.
He doesn't want help, he just wants you to be miserable while he fucks himself.
Leave him in the dust and fuck guys that put out. If you stay you're only enabling him. Do not take him back, regardless of if he says he can change, because he won't.
>>16499798
Beta detected
>>16500783
Virgin detected
>>16500893
Never had a serious relationship detected
Yeah, he can't actually prevent you from breaking up with him. Don't wait for him to "let you break up." Leave him if he doesn't change. It sucks, but it's not actually hard, unless you live together or something.
>>16500933
>>16500942
>>16500947
Samefag detected
>>16500958
Well yeah. Duh.
Retard detected.
>>16499798
>heartless bitches
On the contrary. Leaving this guy is the most compassionate thing she can do for him. Get him out of a bad situation that has trapped him in a stagnant, dysfunctional state, and into a situation where he can perhaps grow as a person again, alongside some prompting to do exactly that.
We tell the children that compassion is about being nice, but that's an oversimplification. Compassion is about understanding other people's pain, figuring out what it is that they need, and helping them get it. Note the lack of words like "want", or " like", or even "agree" in that statement, though. Compassion can be a terrible thing. But the people who deliver such painful mercy are not heartless. Indeed, they may have the biggest hearts of all.
>>16499433
get a new boyfriend, he's not up to scratch
>boyfriend cries
Nope, stop reading there. This is a reason to dump already.
since when a break ups consensual? It's not something you have to agree on. If you're not into the relationship- that's it. It's over. You just have to stay committed to your decision
