Almost same feels as I have except that ive never had a gf.

>>16490722
sounds like you're depressed. Try finding the cause or changing something in your life.

>>16490752
Yeah I was thinking that too... but not sure how to go about it to my partner. Like i still joke and laugh and that...

bump because im on a similar situation like op

My advice, tell your family to shut down your Internet, stop doing things inside, you'll become so bored no matter how social awkward you are you'll(hopefully worked for me) try getting into social situations and you won't regret it anon, once you feel comfortable with your social life slowly ease back into what you enjoyed and keep a balance of both, life is about equilibrium man, sometimes a helping hand can do a lot more than what you would think,
Tl;Dr lazy fuck read
Nah, spend a month with no Internet you'll feel better

>>16491086
Thanks, that sounds like a start. Also porn, I think this is killing my expectations in my sex life. My girlfriend is an attractive lady but fuck, I think porn has desensitized me.

>>16491086
Also I dont live with my family

>>16491106
Well your gf man
And I agree take a break from porn
I hate sounding like a religious person but a good cleansing sounds good, no internet, or porn just you and some people you enjoy or just your gf man if that doesn't help I'd talk to a doc and get meds also think of what could possibly be causing your depression man, any tragedies? Do you ufeel inadequate? Unappreciated? Cast out? If you do try fixing it share all of this with your gf if you aren't, if she cares about you she will help you

>>16491120
Inadequate, I feel like that a lot. Even at work or with friends, just not as confident or optimistic as I used to be. It's hard to tell this to my girlfriend when we are going through ups and downs. I'd like go to a doctor first, maybe try talk to her about it later.

>>16491133
If you two really trust and care about each other you share your ups and downs and try to make this shitcoaster called life a litter easier, trust me talk with her about how you feel, it will make you feel better, if you trust her why wouldn't you tell her?

>>16490722

I have a word doc on my desktop named "What's with me lately?" And in it are all the things that I notice tend to be happening around the same time when I feel lazy and unmotivated and just want to unplug.

That doesn't really prove these things cause my feelings. Might just be an indicator of some other thing. But making each a priority seems to help, at least for me.

The word doc asks:

Are you getting to bed on time?
Are you drinking enough water?
Are you eating too much junk food?
Are you fapping too much? (once a day is too much)
Are you having too much alcohol?
Are you having too much caffeine, or having it too late in the day?
Are you wasting too much time on 4chan/videos?
Are you organized? (is the house clean? Is the week planned?)
Are you overstimulated? (are you not making time to stop and do nothing but think?)

I answer each of these questions as honestly as I can, and then choose which ones I can make progress on, right away. Water is a really easy one, but taking any action at all to bring how I feel back under my own control feels good.

Start with these, anon. If you can honestly answer all of these with a "healthy" answer, but still feel like shit, then it's time to bring a doctor into it. Feeling like shit when you have no reason to can be a sign of something else going on. But feeling like shit because you stay up too late and drink too much caffeine is also really common, and easier to fix.

ok sounds reasonable, I'll answer


>>Are you getting to bed on time?
Used to go to bed around 9 and feel legitemately tired but i now i stay up till the am watching hockey or youtube

>>Are you drinking enough water?
Mostly yes, I drink water for most meals, sometimes I'll have a beer on the weekend

>>Are you eating too much junk food?
On weekends, during week days i buy cold meat for sandwiches etc

>>Are you fapping too much? (once a day is too much)
usually once a day or so, sometimes i'll skip but I havent gone a week without doing it, tried to

>>Are you having too much alcohol?
no, dont drink too much and when i do its just to enjoy myself

>>Are you having too much caffeine, or having it too late in the day?
drink coffee everyday usually morning and early arvo

>>Are you wasting too much time on 4chan/videos?
Not 4chan but mostly youtube and videogaming and reading gaming news. Also hockey news a lot

>>Are you organized? (is the house clean? Is the week planned?)
I suppose so but lately our house has been messy but we usually clean it all up the following weekend

>>Are you overstimulated? (are you not making time to stop and do nothing but think?)
Yes this. I think about what book should i read or what game should i play or what video to check out.. etc and all i end up doing is nothing.