gf can't come when we fuck. she says she does come when masterbating. should i throw away all her toys?
How often does she masturbate?
Why does she masturbate?
>>16488159
once every other day, or after we fuck and she didn't get off
>>16488144
>gf can't come when we fuck. she says she does come when masterbating. should i throw away all her toys?
You should try eating her out. Read the .pdf She Comes First.
She probably needs clitoral stimulation to cum. Just try harder, and try different things.
No, they're not yours to dispose of and are probably not the cause of her not cumming. It's more likely that you're not putting in the work to get her there.
>>16488175
truth be told i hardly ever eat her pussy. she never asks for it either. i thought her clit got used to the vibrations of the toys
>>16488144
>gf can't come when we fuck. she says she does come when masterbating. should i make sure she never comes ever?
>>16488166
Sounds like she's spoiled by her toys. Also sounds like she's not that into you. Why masturbate when you can have sex? Sex should be better than jerking yourself off. If you stopped having sex with her, would she even care?
>>16488199
Not OP but obviously if she didn't masturbate every other fucking day she could probably get a little hornier and maybe find more pleasure in sex.
You can't throw them away because they aren't yours. Most girls don't come during vaginal penetration. Your girlfriend is statistically average. You want to improve your bedroom activities? Ask her what she does when she masturbates and do it for her. Use her toys on her. Have fun together.
>>16488206
Not necessarily true. It sounds to me like he doesn't know how to properly stimulate her and she has an above average sex drive. I have the same issue and am only able to orgasm if I stimulate myself during sex, or if I grind myself against him while on top. I don't use any toys at all and my clitoris is actually too sensitive.
keep trying and be patient. alot of women have an issue with reaching orgasm with just vaginal intercourse its not you its and its not her. mutual masturbation is an option or like the comment above eat her out guys reallys cant do it enough. Or just ask her what turns you on!Dont take the toys to personally she wants to get off to and if thats how she can then become apart of that, goodluck i definitely can understand
When you make food that people don't like, the answer isn't to throw away every other food so people don't have any choice but to eat yours. It doesn't make it taste better. You're supposed to listen to what they want to eat. Then you can improve your menu. Otherwise they'll go eat elsewhere.
>>16488225
>woman can't cum
What's wrong with the guy??
>man can't cum
What's wrong with the guy??
Let's not forget this double standard that people easily fall into. Maybe it's not the guy's fault. Don't you think the issue might be a little deeper than the guy just being bad at sex?
>>16488187
>>16488187
>used
what are you saying nigger
>>16488200
>>16488206
dont jump to conclusions. toys dont "spoil" you, some women just need more stimulation
>>16488225
this
>>16488244
We established that the girl can orgasm when masturbating. Therefore she has a sex drive and it works and she knows how it works. Her stimulation gives her orgasms. OP's stimulation don't give her orgasms. Maybe it's not about sexism. Maybe it's about how the fingers that can't bring her to orgasm are connected to OP's hand.
>>16488215
Best answer (vouched for by a girl that doesn't come during penetration).
>>16488262
I hope you're right. I really do. But there's only so much a guy can do.
>>16488269
If she can come by moving her fingers then a guy can make her come by moving his fingers. It shouldn't be outside the realm of possibilities.
>>16488289
i can cum like this too desua
>>16488144
have her masturbate while you fuck her..
>>16488289
She uses toys though! Have you seen how complex those have become? Do you watch porn? They vibrate, they spin, they penetrate, they do all kinds of things! They do more than what a couple fingers can do. He used the plural on toys, keep this in mind! She has multiple devises! And she's using them every other day, on top of whenever she fucks her and she doesn't cum!
Back to what I have said earlier, there is probably a little bit more going on, than this guy not being stimulating enough. I think she masturbates too much, and I think that she is simply not attracted to him anyway, but she doesn't have the courage to break up with him.
I BET CHAD COULD MAKE HER CUM IN ONE MINUTE
REEEEEEEE
>>16488200
she does. we have stopped for a month at the time when i go away for work, and after a while without dick she tends to get clingy and snappy. she says she likes the cuddling and fondling just as much as the actual fucking. she says she's still very much attracted to me.
>>16488200
>guy fucks her and leaves her lying in the wet spot if she didn't climax by fucking
>hurr she can't use a toy on herself
OP, if you can't be fucked to finger or eat her out after sex you don't really have a leg to stand on saying she cannot use toys, as far as you had that to begin with.
Either way it's normal for women to not spontaneously climax from penetration. If she cannot cum ever in any position and it makes no difference whether you or she herself adds fingering for the clitoral stimulance, she's either desensitized or an outlier, but not having an orgasm from sex itself (without any clitoral stuff) is more common for women than the other way around.
>inb4 all my girlfriends so and so
It's extremely common for women to fake them.
>>16489160
but i guess if i suggest to her that she uses the toys less AND eat/finger her more often it could help, right? i just want to help us sort of relearn how to make each other cum
>>16489254
It's absolutely completely okay to tell her that. Just don't throw out her toys or tell her not to use them. Focus on the positive, that you find it arousing to make her cum yourself, or that you find it more intimate to share that moment together after sex.
>>16488259
female death grip
My girlfriend can't come from vaginal sex, but from clitoral only. So o make sure I go down on her until she finishes. The only thing is it can take forever. My girlfriend take between 30-45 minutes to come
>>16488200
Spoiled?? Lmao no.
It's probably something similar to what you dudes have when you can only come from having an iron grip on your dick.
I had the same problem. Just ask her not to masturbate with her toys for at least a month. If you can time your date of intercourse around the time she'll start her period she'll be super horny and ready to go. It should be fun~
>>16488144
use the vibrator on her while youre fucking her, idiot
Lolol the stupidity of men. Im like your gf, i can only cum with clit stimulation. Its not because she uses vibrators too much that she cant cum with regular sex. Most woman are like me and her. But that doesnt mean that sex doesnt feel good because it does, just not to the piont that we can get off.
>>16489779
the confusing part is she used to cum from sex before, even multiple times per session.
Realistically talking, you are either not good enough in bed, not interested enough in making she cum or just not attractive enough.
You can stop caring.
You can get good.
You can try harder.
Or just give up and find another girl.
>>16488200
I came in this thread just to see how many angry replies you got from "le sexually liberated womyn (not whores)".
It was as expected.
You see in the 21st century, we're expected to wear robotic devices and bring other objects into the bedroom rather than just putting a penis in a vagina.
Good heavens, what did women do for the thousands of years prior to now?
>>16490280
Fake it
>>16488144
yes, tell her a random guy on the internet told you that she gets no more toys until she comes by riding you on top of your cock. that's the easyer way/position.
>>16488144
>should i throw away all her toys?
Why fight them when you can harness them? Use them on her in bed, and make sure she has 2-3 orgasms before actually having intercourse. It is literally impossible to be disappointed with the sexual performance of a guy who has just given you multiple orgasms.
This doesn't have to be forever. Once her subconscious starts associating you with orgasms, she will probably find that she no longer needs the toys when you are around.
>>16490280
They didn't orgasm.
>>16490280
Sex toys have been around for thousands of years. We have artifacts dating back at least as far as ancient Egypt, and records to prove that yes, this is in fact what they were for. Even vibrators date back to Victorian times; they weren't the handheld kind you see today, but they were used in doctors' offices as a medical procedure (for all their infamous prudishness, the Victorians could be a surprisingly freaky bunch).
>>16488144
Who are you fucking if she can't come?
>>16490286
at this point I'll never know if she has faked all the orgasms she said she had with me back when she said she had them
>>16490875
not sure i get this question
>>16489863
EXACT PROBLEM YOU HAVE op EXACT TO EVERY POINT. WTF
>>16491124
the confusion is real... but we shall overcum!
