If you'll pardon the pun, you need to bite the bullet and just do it. Bear in mind that he's likely going to be pissed because you've been lying to him. You clearly know how to get out of your situation, you're just whinging and looking for someone to give you a magic formula.

You're a human being and it's quite normal for you to lie, I can understand how faking a few orgasms turned into many years. It's fine, but you really owe it to him and to yourself more so if you want to actually sort it out. It might be a good idea to make it clear that you really enjoy sex with him, whether you cum or not.

Tell him you want to try something new and then direct him the ways that feel best.

I can guarantee this will tear you two apart if you leave it silent. Soon thoughts of breaking up or cheating will creep around in your because he doesn't get you off. It keeps happening.

Just TALK TO HIM.
Be as honest as you want.

Lots of women can't cum from sex

>>16482795
sorry for the poorly written info, this problem started a few months ago, i used to be able to cum with him even more than once per fuck session.

i really don't wanna tell him, i was hoping someone knew if ditching the bullet forever would help, kinda like nofap for guys

>>16482783
I agree with other anon. This is gonna require a talk with your man about how to get you to come. Most girls don't come from just a jackhammering, so it's not like you're broken. He just needs to learn how to fuck you, and get your clit involved. And honestly, without a girl letting him know, most guys aren't even going to have this cross their mind. It takes some thought and work to be a good lover as a dude. Chicks have the easier road in that dept, dudes are notoriously easy to please.

>>16482798
I've even tried using the bullet while we're fucking. No O. I must admit I do feel he's waiting for me to cum so he can get off so i feel i need to hurry.

>>16482805
maybe we could do more foreplay. note taken...thanks

>>16482800
but i used to, that's the thing

>>16482783
Does he wear a comdom during sex?
Cowgirl/reverse cowgirl don't work? (With you moving your hips back and forth rather than up and down)
Have you used the vibrator during sex?
Have you tried both water-based and non-water-based lube?
Do you watch a lot of porn? Does he?
Does he know about your sexual fantasies?
Have you tried anal stimulation/penetration?

If he's secure, he doesn't care about your orgasm in any way other than normal quid-pro-quo politeness and will be happy to let you do what you need to do to get off, so won't matter if you talk to him about it.

If he's insecure, he's already paranoid about it and is devastated about it anyways so doesn't matter if you talk to him about it or not.

>>1648283>>16482838

>>>16482783 (OP) (You)
>Does he wear a comdom during sex?
no

>Cowgirl/reverse cowgirl don't work? (With you moving your hips back and forth rather than up and down)
no

>Have you used the vibrator during sex? yes, didn't work

>Have you tried both water-based and non-water-based lube? we don't use lube

>Do you watch a lot of porn? Does he? we both do

>Does he know about your sexual fantasies? yes, i am his sub

>Have you tried anal stimulation/penetration? love it, even fucking withmy buttplug on. no O

>>16482847
he always waits till i cum to start worrying about himself. sometimes that throws me off because i feel he's waiting for me to cum so he can get off so i feel i need to hurry

maybe i need a wand

>>16482850
Stop watching porn for a bit and then try again with lube (very important). I recommend starting with water-based.

>>16482889
but i am usually really wet down there...wouldn't it be too wet? i really don't know, we never use lube, not even for anal.

>>16482783
OP you're the exact reason I don't like girls that watch a lot of porn and use vibrators/sex toys. You guys have unrealistic expectations and can't get off due to desensitization. Take a break from the bullet and the porn, stop masturbating, and let your body "reset " itself.

>>16482783
Why don't you use toys in the bedroom?

>>16482889
To add, he might be lacking girth and he might be moving too much while you're on top. (If it's this difficult for you to orgasm you shouldn't even bother being bottom). He might also be too aggressive when touching your clit so watch out for that.

>>16482902
we have, but not always. maybe we should have more of that

>>16482901
so there is such a thing as desensitization!!!!! eureka!

i shall stop using the bullet for a bit and tell him to do more foreplay.i guess I can do this without having to tell him i can't cum?

>>16482904
he's got girth alright...:) but yes, he is a bit rough on the clit. note taken

>>16482904
back when i did always cum for him it was in missionary, so now he always makes sure well do that a bit till i "cum" and he can then focus on himself

Why is the question of what has changed not asked??

You said he used to make you cum? Why does your pussy fail you now? Did the sex change?

Focus more on you. As other anons pointed out, a guy will cum so much easier. Ride him as you use that bullet, with the intent of you getting off.

>>16482783
use the vibrator while fucking, dumbass

>>16482920
no you should tell him. If you don't honestly communicate to him what's going on during sex, it's disrespectful. It sets a bad tone. He might think if you can't even communicate what you like in the bedroom, what else are you hiding? Just be honest with him now and be more honest in the future. Respect is something that men value deeply. Worry about being respectful, rather than his feelings.

>>16482926
I get that he's doing the whole dom thing but there's no way in hell you're going to get there when you're both focused on him all the time; he can dominate you while you're both focusing on you. Let him choke you, slap you, etc. As usual but tell him you want "another one" if you catch my drift. Also make him cum before you, this seems to be a part of the problem.

>>16482939
tried that already, didn't work, dumbass

>>16482954
we're no spring chickens here, after he cums, that's all folks!

>>16482942
gonna have to talk to him. everyone seems to agree on that. ugh i do dread it...

>>16482936
adulting got serious and we have less time for foreplay. not that i needed much before....but i guess as the pussy gets older it needs more tickling...

>>16482926
all that i read is that you cum for him... apart form the fact that sex is for both partners, you should consider to cum for yourself and talk with your man to get the pressure off of you... is you pressure yourself to cum that he can cum is very contraproductive... imagine a man standing between 2 other men at the toilet...(i mean the pissoirs, not the regular toilets, dk if thats a thing for you muricans) if you try to pressure yourself to piss, it hella wont happen...

tr;dr just relax a bit

>>16483233
yeah i totally should. i just wish i could let him know to not wait for it so obviously without actually having to say it...but men are most definitely not mind readers, so i should talk.

thanks

>>16483259
Your a moron for faking it anyway.
Im not sure why women even think faking it is a good idea... if the sex isn't working for you then why not say something to him? Surely better sex is a better outcome for everyone involved. ..

>>16483277
cuz we're silly. I was one to always tell other women not to do it, yet here I am. However, why i started doesn't really help now. The thing is stopping.

>>16483289
Just tell him OP things won't get better until you do.