So I have been in love with this guy for a long time, he does not know it. I think he is very good looking, but all of my friends I showed a picture of him to said he was not very good looking... am I just deluded?
Whether he is considered ugly by popular vote won't change how I feel about him but I don't like/want people to make fun of him, and I will just stop showing a photo of him. I just don't understand why people react by teasing me and/or telling me he is not very good looking, and I wanted objective opinions.
Picture is of the guy.
>>16481501
I think he's cute
Pretty average imo. His style is pretty faggy tho
Looks gay.
>>16481506
thank you at least 1 person on my side
>>16481508
>>16481509
is this kind of response just common among guys... I just happen to like guys who look like that I guess and i do not know if I am considered normal ._.
and you are sure he is not a homosexual?
>Whether he is considered ugly by popular vote won't change how I feel about him but I don't like/want people to make fun of him, and I will just stop showing a photo of him. I just don't understand why people react by teasing me and/or telling me he is not very good looking, and I wanted objective opinions.
If it's male friends saying that, they're jelly
he looks cool, not very masculine, but a beard and a bit less carefully styled hair would make a big difference.
>So I have been in love with this guy for a long time,
talk to him. don't wait for senpai to notice you!
>>16481538
Don't care about what other people think. If you like guys who look like that, somewhat gayish, and you like him, be with him and be happy. Just don't bottle up your feelings because that's toxic. Express them somehow, like talking to him.
ugly
>>16481544
omfg not sure how to respond to that
>>16481545
Um i am the senpai and I assure you I have noticed him
>>16481549
when i try to do this I just end up asdfksjsking ._.
>>16481573
>when i try to do this I just end up asdfksjsking ._.
Confidence is key. What do you have to lose? Your unrequited love? That's something that will make you miserable anyway, especially if he gets a girlfriend.
Why do you like him? Because he's cute? What matters in a relationship is personality, you will never know him if you don't talk to him.
>>16481573
>when i try to do this I just end up asdfksjsking ._.
then let him talk, just ask him stuff. If he notices you're spaghettying because you like him he might even find it cute.
also, do you know anything about him? cute looks is just a start, he might still be an ashole and it's up to you to find out.
>>16481575
confidence is way more importand for guys who ask grills out. but most of what you say is true.
There is no such thing as an objective opinion, so you're going to have to settle for subjective ones.
I think he's a poof, and that his hair is stupid.
>>16481584
Confidence is important if she doesn't want to lose it and want to have a meaningful conversation.
Um for the record I know him through an mmorpg, we party together a lot... our age gap is 9 years. That is why I won't say anything to him. Which comes to the other point: he doesnt have a beard cos he has chin fluff.
And wow so much aggro pulling from the hair should I have chosen a pic where he didnt have his hair like that
>>16481625
>9 years
Then you're a kid. What are you doing o 4chan?
I'm a man, and I think he looks good.
>>16481625
I hope you're older than him because it's becoming creepy...
>>16481501
simple answer is, FUCK everyone else and their opinion! like the dude says "well, that's just your opinion man".
opinions are just like assholes, everyone's got one.
if you like him, go for it!
>>16481625
>And wow so much aggro pulling from the hair should I have chosen a pic where he didnt have his hair like
it just looks a bit to carefully styled, but who cares. I ca see why you find him cute.
> our age gap is 9 years.
you 9years younger or 9years older? i assume older as you said you were senpai and younger would mean you'd be 8 or something.
girl older than guy can work though the differenci is quite big i must say. i had a wonderfull time with a women 10 years older than me but i may have mommy issues.
usual guideline for weirdness is half your age+7.
> doesnt have a beard cos he has chin fluff.
beard would give him more conventional manly looks, but that doesn't seem what you're aiming at. you seem to be more into a cute little toyboy. do you happen to be a dominant/ motherly kinda person?
I know there's plenty of young guys into that but it takes a certain type of guy. just like most women wouldn't be interested in younger (cute) guys but some are...
only way to find out is talk to him really.
>Um for the record I know him through an mmorpg, we party together a lot...
you met him irl or not?
>>16481628>>16481632
I am the incredibly creepy woman who is 9 years older than him ok i am glad we got this sorted.
>>16481642
nothing creepy about it. what do you think this whole MILF thing came from? a lot of guys are into older women.
dont let society dictate your life. if you like him, give it a go. what everyone else thinks doesn't matter if you're truly happy!
>>16481501
him being good looking is relative to your looks. If you are dog ass ugly he's a catch
>>16481642
It's not creepy if you're older. He might even be more interested in you.
>>16481643
This.
>>16481625
>be a woman
>thirst after a guy 9 years younger
How desperate can you get? This guy looks really young, 17/18, if you are around 30 then you are way too old for him.
>>16481642
Then how come you are shy and can't express your feelings? People could be teasing you because it's very strange for women to fall for boys 9 years younger than them, also because you are acting like a proper creeper.
>>16481643
>>16481648
Come on, it's creepy that she's interested in a kid.
>>16481653
no it's not. you're just to dumb to understand because social boundaries extend into your head.
>>16481650
this tbf
>>16481656
>that thirsty whiteknighting
>>16481650
bet OP is a land whale
I'm 18 and I have trouble finding girls who are 2 years my senior genuinely attractive
He will never fall for you unless he has some kind of fucked up mommy issues or some shit
>>16481650
can you count? if he's like 18, she's liek 27
there were definetly some 27y/o womyn i had a crush on when i was 18!
it is not the standard however so people will be judgemental but fuck them.
also he might be just as spaghetti or thing he has no chance because of the age gap and womyn usually going after older men...
>>16481662
>I don't find older girls attractive
>therefore no-one does
Okay, can we all stop pretending that we don't know that OP is the guy in the picture? Was funny and all but it's getting kinda awks now
>>16481656
And you are too dumb to understand that real life ain't a porn film. This guy looks 18 at best, there's a big gap between 18 yo and 27 yo in terms of maturity, life experience, life goals, badically everything that counts in a relationship. If the guy was 25 and op 34 that would be less crepy because 25 yo ought to be mature and have enough life wisdom and experience to keep up with 34 yo.
In this case OP is a pathetic woman who can't get a dick of her own age because she must come across as a creep, so she goes after teenagers who will fuck anything with a hole
>>16481666
Yeah, contrary to you I talk to guys my age and believe it or not but we tell each other whom we find hot
But fair enough man, whatever
>>16481650
He is 19 and I am 28. And the whole thing kind of started because he started sending me messages and chat to me often then devolved into stuff like him telling me that he wants me and cannot live without me which is ambiguous as fuck (I play a healer).
>>16481652
It is creepy isn't it? I am fully aware of how the situation is. So I will not say anything to him.
this
>>16481683
I say do it.
If I never did things because they were creepy I'd be so bored.
>>16481683
>He is 19 and I am 28.
out of the ordinary, but not wrong or anything. I'd say the same level of strangeness as being into bdsm or wearing goth clothes or someone actually loving a fat person or something.
>And the whole thing kind of started because he started sending me messages and chat to me often then devolved into stuff like him telling me that he wants me and cannot live without me which is ambiguous as fuck (I play a healer).
sounds very good, just talk a bit more and see where it goes, i see you haven't had irl contact right?
>>16481683
>It is creepy isn't it?
No, you didn't say that he initiated it. If both of you are into it there is nothing creepy about it. Just be receptive of his advances and express your feelings if you are into him.
>>16481683
It's the best option to remain neutral. Also try looking for a bf within your age, this kid can only fuck you over
>>16481694
no he lives on the other side of the world from me. Given his age it is likely that unless I shell out thousands of dollars for a plane ticket we will never meet.
>>16481695
this photo is one of many he sent me so I would "dream him at night".
Just fucking do it. Just because OTHER PEOPLE don't like the way he LOOKS doesn't matter. That would be a stupid reason not to do it. If you like him and like the idea of being with him then who cares. Looks don't matter, it's personality and being this apprehensive about dating him because of it kind of makes you look like a superficial bitch to be brutally honest. Just go ask him out or something and don't care what other people say. Make yourself happy, make him happy and just stop giving a shit like everybody else.
>>16481702
So you've never met him and never will. He is 9 years your junior.
Yet you showed friends a photo of him?
Do you have no shame?
>>16481683
Ok OP, I'm a guy and 19. If he's flirting this is going down if you want it to happen.
I feel that it is important to tell you that, he is 19. Which means he is in college and even though he plays mmorpgs and is a nerd, college girls are a reality to his life. If he is not in college, he will get to college which means he'll fuck things up even harder.
I am in college and was dating up until a few weeks ago, so I can assure you, it will be good in the beginning, so end it right in the beginning.
Meet, fuck, do whatever. But then don't go in with this, because later on it will simply hurt you way more.
>>16481706
Nice ideology you got there, yet you don't have to force it on everyone.
>>16481709
This, wtf, that's something creepy and obsessive
>>16481709
>>16481728
How dare I talk about stuff with my friends huh, I think you are going in way too far with this.
>>16481713
Basically why I never will say anything.
>>16481795
Talking about stuff with your friends isn't the same a showing them a pic of some kid you don't even know well and asking hurr durr is he handsome because I want to ride his dick though :^)
>>16481501
How good someone looks is an individual preference once basic facial symmetry is accounted for. It doesn't really matter at all past that.
>>16481835
That is just putting words in my mouth. If you are going down that path, then you posting here is useless because why should I give a shit about the personal value systems of someone I never met and never will?
>>16481501
This is a cute looking guy, OP.
Your friends are faggots with shit taste.
>>16481866
If you don't give a shit about our opinions, why the fuck did you make the thread?
