Sex is only better than masturbation when you have feelings for the person you're with

>>16480306
>year of our lord 2015
>being this fucking autistic

>>16480306

Okay, let's try and break this down. How did it happen? How long did it last? Who were you having sex with? Were they experienced? Was there any foreplay?

There's a thousand and one reasons why your time could have been just bad.

>>16480381
I've been having sex for a year now and I've fucked people with many different levels of experience

Foreplay doesn't really do anything for me I don't have erogenous zones despite people trying to find them, the only thing that works for me is rubbing my clit

I don't get anything from oral sex either

These days I cant even be bothered to have sex with someone it's just a waste of time

>>16480306
You've got issues.
>the only thing that works for me is rubbing my clit
>I don't get anything from oral sex either
These two statements are in direct contradiction to each other seeing as how my tongue is doing what when I eat you? OH YEAH, rubbing your fucking clit. And my fingers are doing what? OH YEAH, supporting my tongue in... you guessed it, rubbing your fucking clit.

So if you get off on clit rubbing... but the activity whose MAIN PURPOSE is to RUB YOUR CLIT doesn't "do anything for you" then you've obviously got some other issue going on.

>>16480426
Rubbing my clit with my fingers feels good, someone's tongue is just soft and wet and doesn't feel good

>>16480443
>someone's tongue
>And my fingers are doing what?
>Rubbing my clit with my fingers feels good
>And my fingers are doing what?
>... you guessed it, rubbing your fucking clit.

I can tell you've got other issues going on because this math is pretty simple and, by your own admission, works on you:
>Fingers + Your Clit = What you need
So what's the REAL story here Anon? What's going on that you "don't really like".... what you yourself admit that you like?

>>16480398
The problem lies within you, not the world.

>>16480426

Why are you getting personally offended at someone's sexual problems, man?

Anyway, OP, the many different people you've fucked - how much did you care about any of them? Were any of them people that made you think "I really, really want to fuck this guy" or even "I really, really want to make this guy come", or were they just convenient dicks on life support?

Speaking as a man here: when I have sex, I am much more interested in getting the other person off than myself. In fact, I generally have to finish myself off if she wants to see me come. Some people just do a better job themselves than other people can do for them, and you might be one of those people.

>>16480464
Someone eating me eat out is really a very different sensation from rubbing my clit with my fingers, I don't see how they are the same

I've never gotten any pleasure from someone's mouth no matter how confident they are that they will make me scream they usually get spooked after an hour of eating me out and I looked bored, they say they're used to girls enjoying it

As for someone else rubbing my clit, there's really no point is there I can just do that myself and more efficiently

>>16480471
I didn't really care about any of them but I waited for someone to care about to have sex with and they never came, so I finally lost my virginity in my early twenties through casual sex

>>16480475
>Someone eating me eat out
We're past that, we get it. We're on to clit rubbing with fingers. You know how I know you've got issues? You're still on the eating out part when this: >>16480464
was exclusively about fingers. Issues everywhere.
>>16480475
>here's really no point is there I can just do that myself and more efficiently
Because the point to sex with another person is... efficiency?

Issues.... emo issues. I recommend trying to understand what the real problem in your emo/mind is Anon because you're super duper focused on convincing me (and yourself) that sex is useless to you.

why? because it's not "efficient"?

You realize that sex can be about things like love and emos and expression right? You've got issues. Get to the bottom of them. Soul search.

>>16480471
>Why are you getting personally offended at someone's sexual problems, man?
I'm not. You're interpreting it that way based on capitalized words and telling someone she's got emo issues.

She obviously has emo issues. That's not me being offended.

Why are you so sensitive?

>>16480485

If you didn't care about any of them, why did you fuck them? If it's just about having a great orgasm, then, well, sorry. Real life isn't porn. Sex isn't just necessarily great. I don't know anyone who can just hand out orgasms to someone they don't really know the ins and outs of.

>>16480485
>but I waited for someone to care about to have sex with and they never came, so I finally lost my virginity in my early twenties through casual sex
BAM EMO ISSUES. Knew it.

You should work on the emo side of sex anon and really focus on why you feel the need to defend yourself by convincing yourself that
>it's never gonna work
>it's not useful to me
>etc. etc. etc.
If your heart isn't there anon, why would you expect your body to be? Of course sex sucks for you when you've got these issues fucking with it.

>>16480306
Short Answer: You're addicted to porn and your mind no longer finds regular sex mentally stimulating. If you give up porn, your brain will begin to find normal sex far more pleasing.

>>16480496
It would be nice to have sex with someone I have feelings for but that's not an opportunity that I have, I'm making the best with what I've got

>>16480505

>If you didn't care about any of them, why did you fuck them?

Because masturbation wasn't satisfying me and I was tired of waiting for someone I cared about to have sex with

> I don't know anyone who can just hand out orgasms to someone they don't really know the ins and outs of.

I've had friends with benefits who I've had sex with over a long period of time and they've explored my body and found NOTHING

>>16480506

>why would you expect your body to be?

Because plenty of people enjoy casual sex

>>16480510
I don't watch much porn anymore

>>16480468
This, something is fucked up with you. Go to a doctor and try to figure things out. Sex with another person should pleasurable not only because they can give you more stimulation but also because you get to share extreme closeness and connection with them.

For that reasons for 99% of people tgat's why sex with a partner is better than masturbation. So you are the odd one here.

>>16480590
>more stimulation

See this is what I thought, but I've run out of things to have partners try out

The people I want to have a close connection with don't want to fuck me

>>16480468
But what exactly is the problem? Am I just unlucky?

I've never understood people like you. How can rubbing you dick feel better than a women's soft skin pressing against you? The kissing the sounds. Sex is far superior to jacking your dick off seriously.

>>16480306
>>16480398
It sounds like you're having issues with desensitization from too much rubbing. I had that issue when I was younger, before I entered a long-term relationship. Once that happened, and we had sex often, I didn't masturbate as much anymore. Sex began to feel much better.

>>16480426
>These two statements are in direct contradiction to each other seeing as how my tongue is doing what when I eat you? OH YEAH, rubbing your fucking clit. And my fingers are doing what? OH YEAH, supporting my tongue in... you guessed it, rubbing your fucking clit.
I'm not the OP, but I'm the same way. Fingers feel nice, and when you're rubbing yourself, you're doing it at the right speed with the right motion and the right stimulation. My clitoris is too sensitive to be licked, so I have to get most of my oral stimulation through sucking or licking over the hood. A tongue is either too rough or too soft and wet, and another person's fingers are going to feel very different because they're not using the same pressure (or touching the "sweet spot"). You have to realize that the clitoris is a hell of a lot more sensitive than the head of a penis.

>>16480959
The thing is I thought desensitization might be the problem so I quit masturbating for several months, went back to it and there was no difference

For you sex began to feel better, meaning it already felt good, for me sex doesn't feel good at all

I wish my clit was as sensitive as yours :/ I have to rub it directly and even then it's not super sensitive like most girls

>>16480982
>I wish my clit was as sensitive as yours
I used to think it was a great thing, especially when I would masturbate, but it made most sex acts uncomfortable. It took about 10 years before my guy was able to make me orgasm from oral, because it was too uncomfortable/painful.

>for me sex doesn't feel good at all
Are you properly turned on before penetration? Do you masturbate during sex? Both really help, for me, but it takes a little bit of work. To set the mood, I have to have certain music on, the right lighting, and tons of passionate kissing.

>>16480311
Deep

>>16480306
sex = validation = good feelings.

It's not about the actual pleasure of the act it's about being what you are expected to be and feeling wanted/

>>16480606
> I've run out of things to have partners try out
how about you try out that one thing that some people do when having sex? loving eachother....
it's not easy i know, but honestly that's the only thing that makes sex more fun than masterbating.
well that, and bdsm if you're into that.
I know it's not easy to find someone you love and such. one parameter that somewhat indicates that you may love someone is that cuddling actually makes you feel nice and warm inside.

>>16480306
It feels like a 1000's bees coming out of your dick all at once.

For the female it feels like a 1000's bees entering your vagina all at once.

>>16480306
Have you ever had someone Jill you off? Does that feel good?

>>16481734
I disagree entirely. There is an unimaginable amount of freedom and experimentation in sex but there's only so much you can do while masturbating.

This thread is full of delusional keks. You all need to fuck off back to tumblr with your Twilight fanfiction tier advice. "Love each other" fucking top kek.

>>16481000
Not as deep as vaginal penetration though.

>>16481790
Ayyy blamo

>>16480306
had my first relationship this year, close to 30, with a stunning 22 year old blonde

the orgasm oftentimes wasn't as great as it could have been when I was masturbating, but the other shit she did almost felt as good, if not better, than the actual orgasm

her biting my ear, neck and shoulders, kissing my nipples

Pretty hard to replicate that by yourself. Also I love cuddling.

Yeah i see your point OP but i like havong a gf for the other stuff cuddling. Haveing a friend. Someone to talk to etc.
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