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Hello /adv/, i have a girlfriend of one year (1st in my life) and recently im starting to have thoughts of breaking up with her to get a better looking girlfriend.
My gf body and face is nothing special, 5/10 tops. Also, she doesnt care about her body very well (nipple hair longer than mine, some times have facial hair... Etc), her excuse is that she can only get rid of it by doing laser in aestheticist (sp?). She also doesnt have a sense of fashion, dresses mediocratly.
The problem here, is that she have a 9/10 personality. She is very kind to me, treats me like a prince and i know she really loves me. My love for her is not as strong as the one from her.
Another problem is that she lives 150 km from me.
So, the problem is, i dont know if the neighbour grass is greener than mine if i only get to see mine. And im afraid if i jump the fence the grass is not really as green as mine.
TLDR: having thoughts of breaking up with gf
Pic related, its me and her
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>>16464189
All women get ugly as they get older, but her personality is less likely to change. If you're thinking long term keep her, all those problems can be fixed easily
>>16464200
She is also a flat chest. Is that a problem that can be fixed easily? No, its not.
>>16464235
Personal taste mate, I love flat chests, but my gf isn't sexually active at all......
As of your problem, you should think about consequences, you may end up alone or with someone with terrible personality, making you regret your decision
So, if her physical beauty really bothers you, you can try to give her some fashion advice, try to change her (she's cute and has potential) or dump her
It's up to you
>>16464189
Answer these questions first bro
1. How old are you
2. Are you cool with one night stands
3. Are you cool with clubbing and picking up chicks randomly
4. Do attitude matter when you fuck
5. Are you willing to work hard to gets lots of pussy
6. Do you really want new pussy or do you want your gf to try to work on her appearance.
7. Have you talked to her about your concerns
If not this is the first step
If you have and nothing changes drop ultimatum
How far is she from being attractive to you? Why are you in such a long distance relationship? Is that her picture?
>>16464324
Oh it's long distance!
Dude fuck other chicks she'll never know.
Or be a man and dump her and work hard.
Be scumbag or be a man the choice is yours.
>>16464189
9/10 personality?!
You won the freaking raffle.
Imagine how happy will your kids feel.
Sit down, and ask yourself "what problem do I want?"
You need to think about making a tradeoff. Do you want a hotter girl? maybe finding someone better off in your local area is a better choice. You should realise that your indecisiveness is costing your current gf's resources as well as your time and energy. If you feel like you are missing out, and that you can have someone better, then go for it. Adopt an abundance mentality, there are plenty fishes in the sea.
Let your gf have someone that appreciates her and you can find someone that you want. Isn't that true happiness in both of the party?
Why would anyone do a long distance relationship is beyond my comprehension but whatever rocks your boat man.
OP, it'd be great if you could work out a (likely conditionally) open relationship with her.
>>16464324
1. 25
2. Yes
3. Yes
4. Yes
5. Yes
6. Can´t i have both?
7. Yes, i tell her all the time i hate women with hair, she gets it, but doenst really work hard on it... didnt talk about the possibility of dumping her.
>>16464334
well for me she is 6/10 max. The thing is I enjoy more blond girls, or at least blue eyed ones. How do you call a girl a average joe? thats what she is to me physicaly. We met at a mutual friends party in her town. I cope with this for months because she studied in a town near mine (70 km) and she had a place. This is not the case anymore.
Yes.
>>16464387
I also think finding someone in my area is the best thing to do. But what I fail? Thats what really scares me.
>>16464403
I dont think she will agree.
Me and her.
Should i just forget this fellings and try to live a happy life with her?
>>16464478
>I also think finding someone in my area is the best thing to do. But what I fail? Thats what really scares me.
You are a wuss then. You are acting like a women. In your head you are thinking "shit what if I cant find someone better than her". Its either 1)keep her, continue on being insecure like a wuss you are, and keep hating yourself on the fact that you are too much of a pussy to pursuit even your own happiness and self-worth or 2)grow a pair, take the risk for your own happiness like a man you are and find someone better.
>>16464189
break up with your gf because you fucking suck
/thread
>>16464482
she has really nice lips. and nice hair.
you're not the best looking either though. I def wouldn't say you're better than her, in terms of looks atleast...
>>16464482
actually, you might be worse...
gf 6.5/10
op 4/10
this selfie is just a bad angle of her. in the first few pics of her she looks good.
also you're a fucking jerk for sharing her pics without her permission. I doubt any girl would want to be with you if she sees your true, shitty, personality like we do.
>>16464482
gf is a seven in previous pics and op is maybe a three lmao
>>16464555
>gf is a seven in previous pics and op is maybe a three lmao
He doesn't know his place. Or rather, too lazy to improve his own value to actually try to get someone better.
>>16464551
Nobody would want yo be with you either if they could see your true shitty personality friend. At least he has the balls to put himself out there and ask for advice.
>>16464189
My, you are one of nature's true gentlemen, aren't you? Your mother must be so proud.
>>16464555
>>16464561
No way that's a seven. I could settle for 4 or 5 out of 10 but trying 7 is too much of a stretch. Not that OP is some sculpted Greek god either, they look like a good match to me.
>>16464564
>hey guys! my gfs got a great personality but i want some new better pussy without breaking up with her because i want the best of both worlds
>i dont even love her as much as she loves me i just want to string her along
op should go fuck himself desu
>>16464571
Which is exactly my point. If he wont actually do something to better himself, I think he should stay happy to have someone like her.
Honestly OP, I think you should really reevaluate your priorities. Your gf is not bad looking. You're not bad looking either, but to be honest, if we're going just off looks, you probably can't do much better unless you get insanely lucky. A lot of times when young guys first get a serious girlfriend, it'll raise their confidence to the point that they go through a "well, if I got her, I can get someone hotter" phase. It very rarely ends well, especially if your girl has a great personality. Alll the time on /adv/ you see posts along the lines of "I broke up with my gf for new pussy, I regret it". You might not necessarily, but you could be throwing away a good relationship and a nice girl just for the chance at finding a new hotter girl.
Try watching less porn. I'm serious. It may sound dumb to you, but whether you consciously realize it or not, that shit CAN give you unrealistic physical standards that will not be met by 99% of gfs. Particularly in the realm of shaving/being hairless. In serious relationships, very few women are going to want to consistently shave everything for you every single time they see you. It's a lot of work.
>>16464581
That we can agree on.
>>16464482
She's hotter than you.
>>16464564
lol are you serious? did you even read what he wrote? OP is delusional.
>>16464482
Try hiding his eyes and forehead with your hand.
Suddenly he could be actually handsome.
Conclussion: your eyes show something that lowers your puntuaction.
You just need to fix personality stuff. Not physical.
>>16464482
you both look fine, ignore the "MUH OP 0/10 GTFO" posters.
OP break up with her. She deserves better than your Sid the Sloth looking ass.
You look like brother and sister, naughty naughty!
>>16464585
The only good piece of advice here, thanks.
Another pic for the haters
Why doesn't she want to laser her hair? What if you pay for it? If she did that would you be happy?
>>16464784
OP, I'm being honest here. You're pretty fucking ugly. Stay with your girl.
>>16464189
>9/10 personality
>fairly good looking gf
>should I break up with her?
Oh boy OP, that's a stumper. Sounds like she's not perfect so yes you should!
>>16464784
Those eyes are unsettling.
Do you kill people in your dreams?
>>16464784
You look like a bean OP. Kill yourself.
She may have a "great" personality, but she's lazy/can't reason putting effort into bettering herself?
Insta-dump. FWB at best, that way you can keep her in your life, fuck her but not commit (and she'll spoil you 2x as bad).
aw, don't be an ass, she's pretty and sems to be such a sweetheart. also Fuck you for calling her a 5/10 too, you're probably a 4/10 from other girls, OP's girl's at least a 6.5
fuck you, you little squirrely fuck. Dump her so she can be with a real man.
>>16464784
>>16465291 cont
OP is a 7/10. Maybe 7.5-8/10 if you're fit/work out and got a good job. and maybe get a better haircut.
GF is indeed a 5/10.
I'm a guy in your situation op. Same age. My gf is honestly less attractive than me and I can do better, which is your situation as well telling form that pic. I'm with my gf because her personality is fucking amazing and she's the best mental wife material I've come across. I question the attraction often, and I'd say overall if somethjng were to go wrong I'd be less inclined to stay.
What you need to ask yourself is basically, is her personality worth her looks? In my case, I think it is. In yours, maybe not but you have to find out.
>>16464482
Looking at your teeth you look like siblings...
Actually your dimples too. Are you sure this isn't in fact your long lost sister?
woa i feel so bad for her, break up with her you ugly sad piece of shit. even better go kill yourself.
>>16464189
If you're getting these feelings of doubt now, it's only going to increase later on. End it quickly and painlessly, the sooner the better.
And don't kid yourself, you know you're going to do it sooner or later.
>>16464189
Sister-fucker.
>>16464200
>but her personality is less likely to change
how young are you
>>16464189
Are you looking for marriage material? If so, stop wasting your time with this woman and leave her. Next spend a couple years working on yourself so you don't end up screwing things up with your future wife like you are with this chick.
Don't exert all your time looking for the right person, instead use that time on yourself becoming the right person and like magic she will appear.
>>16464482
She's an 8/10, you're a 5/10.
>>16464482
you look less attractive than her to be honest.
What kind of woman are you looking for at a physical level? Honestly i feel like that is the best you can do. If you leave her she may find someone better looking than you and then what? you lost her probably forever. i'm just saying think about it.
>>16465298
lmao bullshit, he looks like a fucking hillbilly. not unnatractive, but a 6/10 at most, more likely a 5/10.
>>16464189
hey op leave ur gf to me ill fuck her nice in her tight pussy
>>16464482
Dude. You're judging too harshly. 4chan will do that to you.
>>16464482
she can get better than you tbqh
>>16464482
op shared this pic because its bad angle of the girl and he thinks he'd look better than her lel
Most of the people replying to OP are dicks, probably jealous. OP is ugly? Serious? Not being fat in the US is enough to make you minimum 5/10, and that's if your face is hideous (his isn't). Secondly, a guy's looks don't matter as much to the woman as hers to his. Is this a revelation to you guys?
Thirdly, he's entitled to his feelings about her attractiveness. You're telling him how to feel, wtf?
And lastly, dumbasses, "my significant other is meh looking but great personality, should I stay?" is a very legitimate concern for someone in a relationship. I bet most of you are fat.
>>16467375
>he isnt
stop samefagging
It's your first gf, if you're already thinking about leaving her you should do it, is unlikely you'll be together forever if you already feel this way. There's probably nothing wrong with her, she sounds okay especially with winning personality, and its true she needs laser to fix her hair problem (I have similar problem). But if you can't deal with it, that's not her fault, its just incompatibility
OP, you think long and hard about doing this. You best think long and fucking hard about this. My ex-girlfriend and I had a year long relationship until May this year. The relationship was great, I had the time of my life. She was a 7-8/10 with a 9-10/10 personality. However, she was controlling in ways and really needy. But now that I broke up with her, I can't stop thinking about her for the past few months. All the mistakes that I made she always forgave, she always put me first, while I always put myself first and her wherever she fit. I broke up with her right before high school graduation(In college now), right before her birthday, and right before our 1 year being together. Just now i'm realizing it was probably the worse mistake of my life, because I will probably never meet someone that has cared and has been as amazing as she was to me. Right now I am listening to shitty sappy music feeling sorry for myself after dreaming about her 3-4 times a week. OP, don't make a mistake like I did. My girlfriend may have had some things that I may have not liked, but you know what? that's just the way she was, and if I really loved her, I would have sucked it up and seen the good outweighs the bad. Especially since I don't make an active effort to get with women, especially since I don't like the idea of one night stands, emotionless fucking and what not. You have to sit down and think about how much you love her, if the good outweighs the bad. Sometimes, being held as the most important person in someone else's life is what matters, because you made a big impact in that persons life to make them see you that way. Don't be blind like I was. Good luck OP, whatever choice you make, I hope you make the one you end up happy with.
>Pic related, it was the last dinner we had together.
>Pic related, its me and her
>ME and her
OP...are you...a vampire...
>all this hate about my looks
U mad?
For those who cared, than you. Im going to stay with her (unless girl of dreams appears in my life *.*) (and ofcourse, if i get a chance with her)
>>16467866
Get a better hair cut you'd be ok
If you don't like her than break up. Don't just lead her on hoping to get laid tho, that's mega dick. Also the 150km thing doesn't really help. At the end of the day it's really up to you to decide if you like her a lot.
>>16464482
Cute couple
would invite to bbq/10
please break up with her.
Looks wise you are at a similar level, but it sounds like she's got you beat overall since she's got a 9/10 personality and you have a 3/10 personality.
Seriously op- do you realize what a dick you're being? You've got a great, pretty, nonpsycho gf that you're unhappy with.
Break up with her and screw around and then try to win her back when you've had your fun. You'll be a lot more content that way. Otherwise it's just a matter of time before you leave her for a girl that you think is hotter and turns out to be a bitch.
>>16464189
Why the fuck are you posting pics of your GF on 4chan while posting personal shit about her? I am 100% sure you didn't tell her you'd be doing so.
Just for that alone you are a scumbag and I hope that girl fucking dumps you.
>>16467866
I'm sorry, but your face is a bit scary.... I'm surprised she hasn't left you...
