My gf has had sex with 12 guys before me. She is 21 y/o she tells me she has never loved or liked any goy before me, i mean liked liked with feelings and all that, she wants to start a family with me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me. I do love her, but the number 12 bothers me alot. Do you guys think this will be a problem in the future, will she think about some of the guys she have had sex with in the past? Does she think about them when shes alone? I really need help with this one. I want to not care, but at the end of thr day it kinda eats on me.
>>16463342
No nobody thinks about people theyve fucked in the past if they didnt love them or if the sex wasnt like spectacular
Ahahaha she won't be thinking about those guys in the past. but she probably will miss being a whore eventually and cheat on you with that high of a number. Especially if you ever slack off satisfying her. She'll be in another dude's bed faster than you can blink.
12 isn't the number of people. Anyone with a number over 10 lies about it. If it bugs you and you decide that you can't live with it then don't man.
Here is something that inexplicably blows people's minds: sexual liberation means that while she has the right to screw or reject as many consenting adults as she wants to, you also have the right to reject her for any reason or no reason. Don't like a chick's highlights? Turn her down if you want to. Don't like her driving? You're free to not get with her for that reason. Don't like her sexual history? You're free to not get with her for that reason as well. If anyone gives you lip over it, point out that if it's not valid for you to have your preferences then how is she free from criticism for fucking 12 guys?
If you watch porn then you're no more virtuous than she is.
How many sluts have you watched get railed and wished you were in there? Same concept. She was never in a relationship with any of those guys, you are a first of sorts.
>>16463342
>she tells me she has never loved or liked any goy before me,
That's bullshit.
>Do you guys think this will be a problem in the future, will she think about some of the guys she have had sex with in the past?
Most likely it won't be a problem, but she does think about the other guys.
>Does she think about them when shes alone?
Probably.
>I want to not care, but at the end of thr day it kinda eats on me.
If you get married, it'll eat at you for the rest of your life.
>>16463355
Iv'e done that, then i get the; but you sre not better than me you've fucked tons of girls. So she makes me feel gulty for even blaming her. But the thing is, i don't want the mother of my children to have had 12 dicks in her.
>>16463369
Your preference in a woman's status as having more or less sexual experience is no different than the preference for a partner of a certain race or an older or younger partner. Don't let her guilt trip you over your preferences.
>>16463362
Listen to this man, OP
>>16463360
lol, dumb sloot detected. That's not how it works, even if the guy fantasizes about "wantin to get in on that"
>>16463342
yes she thinks about them, yes she might not love them, yes she's fucked all the bad boys and got used up and she might be using you now or is actually settled down it's a classic tale that happens too often except it happens generally past 25. Which leads me to believe she's still fucking around and trying to make you feel secure, it's likely your relationship wont last anyway. Just fuck her, focus on your life and don't marry any one. just fuck a bunch of people, settling down isn't good in today's modern society.
>>16463342
Well, I can somewhat relate to your gf. I was with several guys before I met my current bf. I wasn't sure what I was looking for so I tried a bit of everyone on the way. However, the difference when I met "the one" was massive and I knew from the start that yes, this guy was it for me. That rather makes me think your gf is probably telling the truth that she hasn't been in love before and that makes all the difference.
Still, of course she might think about the people she has had sex with. They have been a part of her life, however briefly, and therefore they have made her into who she is in away. Even so, that doesn't mean that she misses any of them or even compares you to them. She picked you when she could have picked anyone else and that means something. It has happened and if you keep worrying and wondering about it, it will only drive you crazy. It's obviously not a big deal to her, so you have no reason to worry.
>>16464392
Guys quit accepting this you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to get to a prince excuse. Promiscuous is in the dictionary, look it up.
>>16463360
Lol that's some bs guys do it in carnal pleasure women can to but emotions mix a bit more.
Guys pussy is like pizza good or bad pizza is still good.
Girls it's like egg salad she has to feel and want that specific dick she gets another and she's unhappy.
Then comes the justification for said fucking.
>>16463342
Aside from that Op you can date a hoe but don't make her a house wife.
Just lie and go along with it. Find a more conservative girl wiggle you fuck this chick.
If you want a reason I got one if she made you work to fuck her butt or suck your dick didn't let you slap her with your dick she let those 12 other guys.
She's trying to move past her hoe days she should have faked your brains out you wouldn't be thinking about this.
>>16463360
I just want to give this post more attention in the this-is-complete-bullshit kind of way. I don't think there have enough people here that have noticed the absurdity of this statement. I hope no one actually believes it.
>>16464604
OP here bro. Agreed. Still don't know ehat to do with gf.
>>16463342
Studies show that women with more sexual partners before marriage tend to be less faithful in marriage. By a lot.
Best to dump her now, OP. Don't waste time on her.
>>16464428
/thread
12 for 21 is too high, sorry. Don't let women fool you with that "I was trying to find myself" or "hoe phase" bullshit, there's tons of girls who want to one-and-done or tightened up after they realized the first few guys weren't working out.
>>16463342
>she tells me she has never loved or liked any boy before me
OP, why do you see this as winning the lottery? Your girl has low standards to begin with. It's like you're the tallest midget in the room.
Keep dating her, but:
>she wants to start a family with me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me
Jesus christ man don't do it. As a matter of fact accept that it's probably going to be over rather fast. From personal experience I found that most promiscous women can't hold as table relationship.
Sure, maybe she's different, but do you really want to take that risk? Don't get attatched to a whore and just date casually.
>>16463342
>She is 21 y/o she tells me she has never loved or liked any goy before me
I guess there's a dozen flavors of love.
>>16463342
It's probably mostly just one night stands. Personally, I don't think that would be a problem for me, but I don't know.
>>16463369
So your the kinda shit bag who has slept with a good amount of women yourself and hold your own shitty standard towards her.
Dude just move on. You sound like a shit person. You will be the one to instigate most of the fights anyways with your logic and low esteem.
I'm biased here, but I personally don't think it should matter. There's a reason she's with YOU and not those other dudes.
I've slept with ~20 guys, and I'm 22. I've never cheated in a single relationship, and the thought has never crossed my mind. I just like to get the sex out of the way beforehand. Like if there's an emotional chemistry, I want to try out the sex end before I get emotionally involved and stuck in a relationship with shitty sex.
That being said, if it bother you, it bothers you, and you'll be happier if you break things off. In the future, don't ask the "what's your number" question, because it seems like you don't really want to know. It's also tacky af imo
>>16464696
your relationships aren't really relationships but serial dating and fucking isn't dating but serial fucking.
>>16463348
This
As a guy of the same age with the same number it wouldn't bother me. Most guys are insecure when a girl has a higher number than them because they're little bitches. My rule is whatever my number is give or take 50%, but i wouldn't advocate this to everyone because again,most guys are little bitches who cry ablution this kind of thong. The more sex you have and the more people you have it with, you'll have a clarified and better understanding of what the act means to you,which is different for everyone. As long as she's std free, on bc and exclusive to you while you're with her, who cares what the number is.
>>16464709
Tell that to my boyfriend who I live with familia
>>16464715
a roommate is not a boyfriend either but a fool
>>16463369
You seem to have already made up your mind. Don't let someone convince you to marry them against your will, that's no good for either of you. Think about why you have this preference, and if it's really non-negotiable then leave her and search for someone who fits your needs. Don't need to be a jerk, just tell her she's not who you're looking for and it's time for you to move on.
>>16464668
This is just what i stand here feeling.
Or that she gave everything a chanse. Like im the reason for giving her my love, when all the other guys just fucked her.
>>16464680
Im not naiv, i think shes different but, the number bothers me too heavy. I find myself filling with hate trowards her at some times. She has also moved in with me this month.
What does it matter? She's twenty one. You won't be together in ~eight years time and you are fucking retarded if you plan on marrying her (or anyone else if you are the same age) in a few years' time. It's just a puppy love relationship, enjoy it.
>>16464689
Yes it is. Most of them, she had like 3 relationships where she did not even liked the guy. She is a 8/10 and too kind. She has daddy issues so she has a feeling of not deserving the good things in life, where the low standards comes in. Her dad never botherd to meet her ever. And shes half black so she grew up up ina fuck hole white suburbia. And delt with rasism, feeling she did not fit in anywhere.
>>16464693
Yea, pretty correct. OP.
>>16464826
>find myself filling with hate
>for living her life in a similar way that I did and not denying herself the pleasures that I sought out and enjoyed
Dude... no one will force you to be with someone you don't want to be with. All that matters is that the reason is valid to you. Obviously this is a deal breaker to you so that's end of story. But realize what a massive holier than thou hypocrite you are being. Not by not wanting to be with her because feelings are mostly irrational and you can't help not wanting her as a partner anymore, but by the way you talk about her while she has done nothing you didn't do. Just dump her already, she deserves someone who doesn't despise her and you should be with someone you deem a suitable partner.
>>16463342
>she tells me she has never loved or liked any goy before me
But seriously, if it's bothering you now, it'll bother you forever. Drop her ass.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gw8luwwwXzc
>>16463342
>My gf has had sex with 12 guys before me. She is 21y/o
What? That's definitely a problem. Maybe had she said that and she been like 27 it would be ok, but at 21..... no. Even if she is hot, that's a pretty obvious sign she aint loyal.
>>16464696
Im not afraid of her cheating on me. That is not the problem her at all. The problem is my ego and that i don't want my chosen one too have had all those cocks inside her.
> She is 21 y/o
> she wants to start a family with me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me
end it for this reason alone jesus christ you really are a goy
>>16464829
25 here. OP.
>>16464856
Dude she aint loyal, I'm just saying. 12 at 21 yah she wants to have a family, but think about it. 12 at 21 y/o. I'm not good at math but that's a lot of men for her age.
>>16464845
Agreed. OP.
>>16464868
Yep, it is.
12 at 21? That's way too much I would not trust her to stay loyal to me. The best girls are virgins or have had at MAX 3 guys at that age and even that is pushing it. Once a girl falls into the sex culture you can't love em it only leads to pain. Fucking American girls man that shit is ridiculous I mean do you really want to be kissing 12 dicks every time you kiss her?
>>16464822
she did give just about anything a chance and they hit and quit, you should too
>>16463342
ITT: Insecure men who have unrealistic standards.
dated someone who had been with 27 other people. turned out to be a sociopath. I recommend paying close attention to her actions rather than her words. Does she always treat you well? Does she hide anything from you? How well do you two communicate?
I'm 18 f and I've had sex with 9 people. didn't consider it to be very much before seeing this thread.
>>16463342
How long you even been with this girl OP? Already moved her in, wtf.
>>16464884
TopKek I wanted to say that, but didn't want to hurt OP's feelings
>>16464909
I's not a big deal. You're just a whore
>>16464895
that's right goyim
man up
us 21 year old, town bike, obese, single mother cashiers need a provider
>>16463342
Damn OP, every neighborhood and school class has those few girls that everyone knows is a sure fuck but no one is crazy enough to make them a gf. They're the one's you fuck at the party, or sneak over and fuck in her parents house or in your car after work, you know revolving door girl. I love em but you don't try and save em or marry them.
>>16464895
> ITT: Men who have any standards at all
Fixed that for you
It is not unrealistic to expect a girl to not have slept with 12 guys by the time she's 21
>>16464895
Imagine how much of a slut you are if you think those standards are unrealistic.
>>16464884
Eurofag here. No thats bothering the shit out of me. And antoher thing is, if some of these guys she fucked right before my time, didn't just fuck her like a slut and wanted something more of her she would be with them. Its just me cuz i wanted her as a gf. I wanted her as a gf cuz i beleved she was not a slut. Shes been very silent about it and no one knows. All think she is a real good girl tho. So when she told me the number i was alredy in love with this human.
>>16464904
She always treat me well i guess. Never said a bad word to me or tried to hurt me in any way
>>16464890
This, this right here is what i feel bro. OP.
>>16464910
7 months.
>>16464924
No obe knows about her.
>>16464895
>Unrealistic
I meet tons of girls that are virgins at this age my ex was a virgin before me. It's just American girls or maybe western women that slut it up this hard with pride. One of my friends has never held hands with a boy before.
>>16464987
What place is this?
>my girlfriend says I'm not like the other over9000 fucks she has had before, I'm special
This is the same thing male players say to female suckers. She's the player and you're the sucker in this case, have fun sucking before she gets bored with you.
>>16464714
I agree with this guy.
But remember 21 year old - marriage and starting a family are both different. This girl is 21. Statistics show getting married young results in much higher divorce rates. Prime marriage age is around 30.
