I need some relationship advice (yes, like 95% of all other threads here).
I try to give you the TL;DR
>be me, 31 years old
>have only ever had one gf, lasted very long, but broke up half a year ago
>meet woman of the same age through tinder, instant attraction, which is kinda new to me as I've always considered myself as not so interesting for women
>fuck and hang around for 3 months, by now we're pretty much in a relationship, she keeps telling me she loves me.
>i love her too, she's the most interesting and fun woman i've ever known.
>she's also educated very well, has a good career and is definitely not looking for a beta provider as she can take care of pretty much everything on her own.
This is good but there is one huge problem I have with her, and that is the fact that she's a complete degenerate. She's literally had dozens of cocks up her ass and God knows how many up her vagina. She's even fucked niggers which, even though I'm not racist, I find deeply confusing.
She's the 2nd woman I have ever been with, I was a kissless virgin before my first gf and this 'imbalance' bothers the fuck out of me. I don't really care what other people do with their dicks and pussies but they can't expect from me that I'm okay with being number 56.
I'm not a christfag, fuck, I'm not even a conservative but I just can't do casual sex; it is too much connected to my emotions.
Should I call it off?
pic unrelated.
>>16457739
>Should I call it off?
no. you _should_ get over it.
wether you are capable of that, who knows.
chances are youll never find someone who is like her minus the history. especially at your age. so that gap in experience will always be with you and you better learn to deal with it.
>>16457739
dont have kids with her, pls dont fill the planet with even more degenerate genes pls.
just imagine if you really want to see your future daughter as her. guess no, well, there is your answer.
but for a period of time its ok.
the best way to leave her is finding a new one.
Literally and honestly sounds like a personal problem.
Do it in her butt and get over yourself already or go back to being alone.
>>16457739
>a complete degenerate. She's literally had dozens of cocks up her ass and God knows how many up her vagina. She's even fucked niggers
She openly told you all this ?
My suggestions...
a) Fuck her off
b) Be another cock up her ass until you find something better
>>16457750
>>16457755
How can I get over this?
Is this /b/ and /soc/ talking?
>>16457752
>>16457758
Why should I listen to you guys instead of the other two? Is this /pol/ and /r9k/ speaking?
I am confused as fuck.
Also, about the niggers: We're in a central european country, there's not even that many niggers here. They're like less than 1% of the population.
I mean, fuck.
>>16457763
>How can I get over this?
shit i don't know.
you are 31 but still think with terms like
>complete degenerate
> 3 months, by now we're pretty much in a relationship, she keeps telling me she loves me.
this doesnt soud so casual to me, either try it with her or if you think or feel you can't do it and you will find someone better for you act accordingly.
dont let outdated societal norms come between you and happiness.
>>16457775
pic very much related
>>16457775
>you are 31 but still think with terms like
>>complete degenerate
English is not my native language and I probably browse /pol/ too much.
>this doesnt soud so casual to me, either try it with her or if you think or feel you can't do it and you will find someone better for you act accordingly.
I didn't say I'd consider it casual. I've tried for 3 months now. I had been telling myself that whatever happened before we met had nothing to do with us etc. but then I realized that even though that was true, I still feel uncomfortable with it, no matter how much I try to rationalize it.
>dont let outdated societal norms come between you and happiness.
I browse 4chan. I laugh at pozzkekold stories, gay porn and ponyfaggots. I don't give a shit about societal norms.
Ok, well, it was a big mistake to throw all that out there for you to deal with... but what was the point? Seeking acceptance for past mistakes, or testing your sense of quality control for potiential mates? hmmmm.
It's perfectly OK for you to be disturbed by her past. Freedom to make bad choices never equals freedom from consequences, and the consequences of being the village bicycle are many; sluts have a terrible time forming stable pair-bonds, although this doesn't truly come out until after the fact when they try to invest in committed relationships.
There's a pertinent question here as to her attitude regarding her past. Shame, repentance and commitment to change are all 100% positive here. A woman of worth has to hold value in giving access to the lukewarm hole between her legs. Why invest in a woman who doesn't value herself? She's certainly not going to value you, either. This is where that question about post-slut attitude should be a deal-breaker for the discerning man.
You said yourself that you're not into casual sex, and that's OK. Differing values are important to note but not all are dealbreakers. If she's looking to be a reformed slut (a unicorn), a man with your attitude is important to find, as it will allow her to try monogamy and investing time in one quality man vs. fucking 20 low quality men for validation and the thrill of strange dick.
Anyhow, I'd suggest keeping an optimistic view and not being too harsh on yourself. Be clear that the dick stops here with her, that you expect monogamy as the price of admission. You can't expect her to conform to your ideal, so calling her a degenerate sloot might not be the best plan. If you do love her, emphasize the need for her to place a higher value on what she brings to the table.
Rarely are whores and sluts able to be so without cost. The whole looking into the abyss thing and all.
>>16457739
To be honest mate, it's just one of those things we have to accept as we get older. When you're seventeen it's not unreasonable to expect a new model in showroom condition with delivery mileage only, but when you're in your thirties it doesn't work like that. Most of us have been around the block a few times by now. Imagine if it were the other way round - picture yourself being 25. Three blonde haired scandanavian college girls come up to you like "we want you to bareback us all then go ass to mouth while we drink each others piss" (or whatever the fuck you're in to, idk) - would you have said "thankyou for the kind offer ladies, but there's a possibility that 10 years from now I might meet a woman and she might not like it if I don't save myself for her so I'm going to go home and read my bible instead"?
>>16457789
Quality post, thanks m8. I'll reread it a few times and think about it.
>>16457790
Other women have hinted at being attracted to me in the past. But due to my social anxiety issues I turned most of them down.
Dude, why do you even care about how may partners she had? She could of had 2 partners but that doesn't mean they didn't have sloppy hardcore sex over 100 times with each guy. No matter how many partners she had you would of been uncomfortable. Plus if she's around your age, 56 isn't nothing. Women like sex just as much as men do(more even), if she's having safe sex and keeping herself out of trouble then power to her.
You may be insecure about her loyalty or your ability to please her bed, you're probaably trying to compare yourself to some of these guys, i'm sure you asked her how big was the black guy's dick, didn't you? lol.
A good/healthy relationship is way more important to a woman. The way you make her feel about you, comes first.
>>16457790
> Imagine if it were the other way round - picture yourself being 25. Three blonde haired scandanavian college girls come up to you like "we want you to bareback us all then go ass to mouth while we drink each others piss" (or whatever the fuck you're in to, idk) - would you have said "thankyou for the kind offer ladies, but there's a possibility that 10 years from now I might meet a woman and she might not like it if I don't save myself for her so I'm going to go home and read my bible instead"?
ha beautiful post, too bad OP doesn't get it -_-. Op women get tons of temptation, they are the pursued after all and they love sex just like us. I'm sure you're just as much as a slut you claim her to be, you just didn't have the opportunities.
You're being a macho asshole OP.
>>16457891
>as much as a slut you claim her to be, you just didn't have the opportunities.
That is where you're wrong, you fucking faggot.
I'm an 8/0 and I would have had ample of opportunities but passed on them due to autism.
This thread made me laugh, thanks op
>>16457739
Don't date a degerate woman OP. Sooner or later you will regret it
>>16457769
so they're probably more well adjusted than the niggers /pol/lacs whine about, it takes a top-notch nigger to pay for smugglers and migrate to central europe (poland?)
what is actually the problem? Are you afraid you can't satisfy her being a newbie? or do you think she is "less value"?
either way just put it in context, the first option is her problem really,if she runs off you have just gained good experience. The second one means you might have bagged one that's top value in other areas which you may not otherwise be able to obtain.
Just don't assume it to last very long untill further down the line, enjoy while it lasts though...
>>16458007
>poland
Switzerland.
>>16457739
>is definitely not looking for a beta provider as she can take care of pretty much everything on her own.
>This is good but there is one huge problem I have with her, and that is the fact that she's a complete degenerate. She's literally had dozens of cocks up her ass and God knows how many up her vagina.
OP, you can see the conflict here right?
>>16458029
No, please elaborate.
>>16458036
You are the beta provider!
>>16458036
You think the hot, well adjusted guys that fucked her are willing to settle down with her?
>>16457739
>I just can't do casual sex; it is too much connected to my emotions.
Get over it, or break up with her and keep thinking about what could've been. I don't know you personally but based off of this post I can assume you're autistic and won't have many chances for love.
What are you even afraid of? Just take it easy, see where it leads.
