>doesnt like giving bjs

abort immediately
bad lays should be shamed into improving themselves

>>16455580

maybe your crotch stinks

do you take showers before seeing your gf ?

>>16455592

>bad lay

she's a "great lay," incredible when it comes to fucking. she'll climax 2, 3 times even when I'm not even trying, and more if I'm putting some real work in. but, she just "doesn't like" giving head for some reason

>>16455623

>maybe your crotch stinks

yes, I shower before we do that stuff. a lot of the time, it's even part of our foreplay. before going to bed, we go fool around in the shower for a bit, then head to the bed, get busy, and fall asleep. but, no bjs in there, and that would make it SO MUCH MORE FUN

>>16455580
you cheat on your gf.

If she finds out, you say, but I was just getting BJ's

If she dumps you, you find a gf that sucks dick.

My wife tired of giving me head. I told her I needed it. She said that if I started taking my lunch to work instead of buying it, I could save up the $$$ from lunch to pay for BJ's

I get 2 BJ's a month for $40/each from a very cute and nice woman I met on Craigslist a couple years ago. Sometimes, I leave her a tip and sometimes she gives me a third for the month for free.

>>16455634

what the fuck

>>16455639
I adapt to my environment, son.

My wife doesnt care as long as I don't put it in the other woman.

Win/Win/Win
I get muh dick sucked
Wife doesnt have to do it
This other woman gets $80-$100 for basically 20 minutes of work

"I really enjoy getting blowjobs from you. I know you told me that you don't enjoy doing it. Is there anything we can do to get those back on the table once in a while?"

honestly my reasons for wanting it are pretty selfish. I have a decently large member, and she's small (<115 pounds) and hot. it's like watching a fucking porno, that is live, and happening to me. all my other girlfriends have been normal ~135-150 pounds, but with a girl this small, my cock is easily as thick as her forearm, and it's hot as fuck to watch her play with it.

Do you eat her out?
Stop doing that

>>16455680

5 star adv. that's what I needed, but for some reason just couldn't think of anything that sounded that good, and less demanding

>>16455695

I do (did), but stopped because she told me to stop.

I enjoy doing that because I love making her squirm and it's so easy to make her climax that way, but she says that when I do it, it makes her feel obligated to return the favor, which she doesn't want to do.

so, I don't do it any more, at her request, because it makes her feel guilty when I do

>>16455697
Good. Try saying it after you guys have sex and are cuddling in bed together. That way she's in a pleasant mood and you can establish that you're not holding your sex life hostage over an occasional request.

>>16455709

brilliant

>>16455580
Become flexible enough to suck it yourself.

>>16455744

tried that

i'm almost there but honestly I can't see it being that pleasurable

saw someone mention once that sucking your own dick feels less like getting your dick sucked and more like you're sucking a dick

>>16455752

but yeah, since I'm pretty big already I'm almost there

I agree with >>16455680 but want to add that there's probably stuff you can do to make it more enjoyable for her. Maybe you're an exception but a lot of guys are pretty stony and poker faced when receiving head, which is a huge turn on. We women like noise, too. When she does give you head, make sure that you let her know how good it feels. You can talk dirty to her during (how sexy she looks, how good it feels, how soft her mouth is, anything... also great for giving subtle pointers about how you like it), cup her face when she takes a break from having it in her mouth, keep her hair back for her, if she's into dominance put a heavy hand on the back of her head, grunt/moan/curse/whatever you naturally do or if all else fails at least do heavy breathing and sighing... anything that makes her feel like she's not sticking a dildo against her gag reflex but engaging in a sex act.

And I'm guessing this is no issue because you haven't mentioned it but if you never go down on her, you don't really have a leg to stand on here, and you'd better take the "how about we both try to re-introduce oral into our bedroom" angle than just requesting blowjobs.

>>16455580

Break up with her and find a woman who gives head. It's literally that simple. It's only going to get worse the longer the relationship goes and god forbid you two get married.

You can also refuse to give her oral or anything like that and see how she likes it.

>>16455580
Honestly, just dump her get new girl. Girls dump guys for less reason.

I personally don't give a fuck if no bj if she's gorgeous. But whatever.

>>16455580

offer her sexual favors in return, something you dont like but she does.

and if that simply does not work, simply offer non sexual favors. like a really good back massage or whatever she wants.

>>16455771

Don't fall for this shit and let her hold sexual acts hostage for shit. That's keked shit right there.

If she won't then don't deal with it and leave it's plain and simple.

>>16455762

I love talking dirty. I make noise, I hold her hair, grab her tits, tell her how good it feels, tell her how hot she looks when she plays with my dick... I do that a lot, actually.

but for some reason, she says she doesn't like doing it. I definitely try to make it very sexy and fun for her, but Idk why she doesn't enjoy it. starting to feel like it's more her than anything I can do about it.

also, I did mention here >>16455701 the "reciprocation of oral" part of the equation

>>16455770

I mean I don't really give too many fucks either, because she's great in many other aspects, aside from being sexy as hell and the best sex I've ever had, but I would like blowjobs to still be a thing because I enjoy them.

I could go without them but I don't necessarily want to. it's fun, I enjoy giving and receiving oral, and it's gone. I would like to be able to do that is all

>>16455785
That's a shame, not for lack of effort on your part then. Honestly some people are just kind of lazy with sex, they want to get to the parts that rub their genitals and the rest is noise to them. She could be one of them, or be psychologically freaked out a bit by the whole having a dick in your mouth and taste and smell etc thing. Still though, that doesn't mean it's set in stone, acquired taste is a thing.

I still think the post I linked was quite good but another idea would be to have a good night together where you get a bit tipsy, and use it as an excuse to be more forward with her than you'd usually be. Make sure you get her really turned on then moan in her ear that you want her to suck you off while you taste her (ever tried 69 before? it's pretty grand). As long as you back off when she says no, you can just play it off as heat of the moment passion/dirty talk, and you can always still have the more serious talk later. Just an idea, take it as you wish.

>>16455762
>>16455785
Also obviously meant that no reactions is a huge turn off, not on.

>>16455798

we've done that stuff before, we just don't any more. she brought up that she doesn't enjoy it, so I stopped asking, but kept giving her oral because I enjoy doing it. then she asked me to stop doing that because she feels guilty that she's not reciprocating.

and yeah, 69ing is awesome, but I'm not sure she enjoyed it because she is REALLY sensitive, and has told me (back when we used to do it) that it's hard for her to concentrate on sucking my cock when she's getting so much stimulation at the same time.

>back off when she says no
she almost always says no, which is the problem. I just haven't had any way to introduce the serious talk part afterwards.

>>16455827
>she almost always says no, which is the problem.
I realize that, it was mostly for the chance that not requesting it but letting her feel your arousal and how much this is a sexual desire of yours in the heat of the moment would get her in the mood for it.

You could start talking about sexual bucket lists, and if the topic is thoroughly on the sex life you already have (which should flow naturally if you start from what you are willing to try and experiment with - of course only works if oral is just her meh thing and she isn't in general uninterested in new things), ask her if there's anything she would like more of, or like you to try etc. If she returns the question, gush about everything you do like and end with saying the only thing in everyday sex life is that you really enjoyed the oral sex and still kind of miss having that be a part of your sexual repertoire. That's where you say how great her mouth felt and whether there's anything at all you can do or try, or you can try together, that would make it a better experience for her.

Honestly there is no way to absolutely guarantee she won't take it the wrong way or feel a bit hurt... but these are your desires and if you have a good relationship you should be able to express them in a non-accusative way without that causing a shitstorm. It's not like you keep going on about it day in day out or expect her to shit on your chest.

>>16455691
If this is your main reason, then try to explain to her how hot it is to see/feel her play with it. Tell her she doesnt have to actually suck it much, but icking it and getting it all sloppy and stroking it it super sexy.

>>16455893

also good advice if I can't get her to be totally into it