Chances are he likes you.
You should try to refrain from accepting invitations to go out places with him, unless you want him or want to break his heart

>>16450733
How can I reject those invitations, just fake busy/sick? If I make up a significant other and talk about them suddenly, is that a really obvious way of showing disinterest?

>>16450779
"No thanks, I don't want to"

Any other answer is you leading him on.

>>16450692
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>>16450851
Non-sequiteur?

Set boundaries or there won't be any.

>>16450692
Lady, you can take almost any single one of the things you posted and yes that is flirting. Especially to an older man.

I mean this from the bottom of my heart, most men would take any of t hose kind of things as flirting. Is it wrong/gross? I think so. But that's just how things are.

No bra is huge for some men, especially older men.

Texting at all is almost always a sign of interest in today's day and age. Especially a man his age.

Hanging outside work IS dating, you are dating this man.

He's buying you gifts for fucks sakes.

Take my advice. Nip it right in the bud. Start wearing a bra, ignore a text or two or cut the conversation off quick and to the point.

Start to reject gifts, and stop baking him things.

Don't go out with him outside of work.

All of these things reject him and so a lack of interest without hurting him seriously.

>>16450692

>am I flirting?
>I'm spending time, effort, and money on a guy after he does the same to me

You're literally retarded. Unless you bake cookies and shit for all of your friends all the time you are very clearly flirting.

>>16450846
Won't he be offended and feel slighted?
>>16450898
Is there a way to gently set boundaries? I feel like they're sliding right now. I thought he realized that he crossed the line after we hung out together the other day, but the next day (and the next) he's had a little something for me as a gift, so obviously the boundaries are still not in place.

>>16450911
Thank you, anon. Really thank you.

>>16450914
I actually do. I was assuming that he would never try anything inappropriate with me and so treated him as a friend. This thread is really helpful though.

>>16450916
I don't know what slighted means but the feelings or not the longer you don't tell him how you feel the longer this goes on

>>16450921
I'm the guy that wrote the big wall of text. I'm going to be honest, I thought this may have been a troll post.

How old are you?

By the way you describe yourself and the things you do, I'm super surprised you haven't had lots of encounters with men harassing you. One of those situations where someone is way too sweet for their own good.

Men, as much as men won't admit it, love to see everything as something for /them/ because they are powerful or desirable. Even little things many men count as kind of a score.

I know I definitely do sound bitter, but I've had way too many people hit on my girlfriends over the years.

I mean it in the nicest of ways, being able to set borders and shut people down is a fantastic skill for you to have. You sound like a sweet and trusting person, which is fantastic, but be careful of people and don't be afraid to say no. It's your right.

Also worth noting, you aren't being/don't have to be a total bitch when you turn people down. Stop bringing in baked goods or accepting as many gifts, ignore some texts, be a bit shorter with him in general. It's probably the most effective ways to get men to fuck off without causing hurt feelings. Just show a general lack of interest.

I'm amazed at how you can make it through the day without being robbed or kidnapped, girl.

>>16450922
Good point. To feel slighted means to feel upset with a person; to feel like they have done you wrong. Thank you!
>>16450932
>>16450947
>robbed and kidnapped
I mean, I guess I'm a very cold type of person initially and it takes a long time for me to warm up. And I'm happy alone, so I don't have a lot of people that I'm close to, romantically especially. Which I suppose explains why I got so close to my boss (we work long hours together, kind of have to, and we've known each other for over a year and it's just starting now). I'm 19.
It's definitely true that I'm bad at saying no, even ending conversations. So it makes a lot of sense that I'd be so quick to dismiss everyone's good advice, to say no and set boundaries! You guys are so smart, thanks for your insights.

>>16450974
I know it sounds kind of like basic advice, but really and truly the best thing you can do in these kind of situations is not be afraid to distance yourself. He doesn't seem like he's aggresively pursuing you, so that will work great in this situation.

You're still young, but I can promise at some point a guy will try to pressure you or harass you into getting with him. Be prepared to straight up shut people down right from the get-go. It'll help you out a ton.

You seem like a great person, don't change who you are. Just stand up for yourself.

>>16451009
You give great advice. Thanks for all your kind, helpful words this evening, I'll really really try and apply what you guys helped me establish ASAP. I wish you all the best! /thread

>>16450947
plot twist: op's a hamplanet, delusional.

>>16450692
It's work. You gotta set some boundaries.

A bra and no baked goods would be a start.

>>16451875
This. This isn't some porno you're starring in, it's real life. Why are you not wearing a bra in a professional environment?

>>16451875
>>16453031
Bras can be uncomfortable to wear. If OP has the right shape of boobs, it may not even be noticeable. It's not her fault if her creepy boss can't control himself.

>>16450974
>19
If op's 19, then her boss is at least 40. He should know better.