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We talked about it and she couldn't really explain anything what she feels.
One point she brought up was that she's scared that she can't suffice my desires.
She thinks I'm sexually very active and needing, which is true, obviously, I'm a man and I can't live in celibacy, I need some sexual intimacy, I can't curb my lust just like that, especially if she has an amazing body like she does.

It feels to me that she is scared of being close, physically, but she denies it. I ask her if she feels bad about me, which she immediately denies again. I ask her what is it, she says she doesn't know. She just can't give me anything to work on and this just tears me up inside. Makes me feel lost and empty.

She asks me if I've dreamed of sex with her. I say yes, all the time. She tells me she's never, ever even dreamed of it with anyone. She never really has sexual desires or lust for anything ever, really.
Clearly her libido is non existant, while mine is off the charts.
I've no idea what to do.
We've known each other for months, almost half a year and I'm still being blueballed hard. Normally I'd move on, because of heavy incompatibility, but the relationship has been feeling so amazing on every single other front.

Does anyone have experience with something like this?
Would the best course of action be just moving on? I can already tell that many of you will say "just talk to her", but I've no idea what to say. We sat down today, looking at each other; normally I am good at expressing myself, but this time I just had a complete tumbleweed in my mind. Empty. I've no idea what points to bring up with her, what to say, what to ask.
Her avoiding the topic so much doesn't give my any clarity either. It's just hard to find an anchor.

Sorry for the lengthy post.

tl; dr
gf has extremely low libido and is absolutely terrified of sexual intimacy to the point of mentally and physically seizing up like a stone

she can't talk about it, I don't know what to do, I really like her

My best advice to you would be communicate when you start kissing ask her if you can take her shirt off or kiss her in certain spots and just explain that she's under no pressure to say yes and you can stop at anytime.

Let her feel like she's in control of the situation as best as possible so she's feels most comfortable and maybe talk about trying to take small steps.

>>16444775
She may be afraid of her sexual desires. Sometimes a bad experience or even religious indoctrination can do that to you.

>>16444791
This.

Also, you need to try to help ease off the pressure from her. I'll also tell you that it's hard as heck to feel nervous, tense, or scared if you're busy smiling and laughing your ass off.

By far, some of my best experiences were ones filled with smiles, jokes, and moments so ridiculous that we stopped being able to do anything else but laugh until our lungs were empty.

Thanks for the replies so far.

>>16444791
It doesn't feel like it's going to lead to anywhere. When she's seized up, I stand off, go easy and just cuddle a bit. I let her dictate the tempo and at the end of the day, I just curb my need for sexuality and intimacy, just to cater to her.

>>16444794
She is slightly catholic and not sure about the experience. I don't think she's ever been assaulted, but her family was somewhat strict, toxic and odd, so maybe it's that.
I've asked her about this, only to get "I don't know" back.

When we have a go at it, I can clearly tell that she likes it, not only she tells me so, but you can see it. But there's also a great deal of discomfort and lack of counter-desire. It feels as if she complies so far as she does only because she wants to slightly cater to me or feels pity towards me, even though I know it's false, but it still just feels horrible.

She kinda has the "want". But there is a thick wall somewhere.

I can relate a lot to your gf so I'll speak from experience. I'm still a virgin too (I'm 21) and I broke up with my last Bf because he kept pressuring me into having sex with him after 1 week of relationship so please don't do that to her.
That said, maybe she is insecure about her body so if you think her body is amazing then tell her. She might also be afraid not to meet your expectations, it's normal when you're a virgin since your only references are probably porn.
If she says she doesn't know why, I think it's because uncounsciously she must be viewing sex as something bad since you said her family is pretty strict. There's no other way than to take it real slow until she trusts you completely, if you think she is worth it.

>>16444804
Thanks. I'll keep that in mind. Come to think of it, today the atmosphere might've been too tense. I welcomed her with the idea of simply spending some good time together.
However she might've felt like I expect sex now because of all the previous failures. Boom. Grim atmosphere.

>>16444823
>sex after 1 week
We've been together for almost half a year. And no, I won't pressure her into anything, because I don't want to simply get off. I can masturbate to do that. I want her to feel good, be really into it.
Her body is indeed amazing, I think she knows it by default and I've told her compliments about it as well. She wears yoga pants all the time and is fit and that doesn't exactly help with the situation.
But I'll take your advice.
Come to think of it, I haven't made her laugh a lot since out last failure at it. I guess she gets a somewhat depressed aura around me, thinking I have huge expectations of her.

>>16444816
>Asked her about this

Asked her about which one? Religious indoctrination? Family? Sexual assault?

>>16444843
About how she's been raised. Could it have anything to do with how shy she is. She somewhat avoided it with "I don't know".

>>16444839
Yeah he was an asshole anyway I've been stupid.
One other thing worth mentioning is that she might feel so content being with you that sex doesn't come as a need or a priority. I have experienced this, I just felt so content I didn't even think of sex, I know it sounds weird but I was just happy and felt so calm just by cuddling.

>>16444845
It isn't merely shyness. I don't know is an odd response. But then again, maybe for her it isnt.

I know friends when asked to introspect about something say "I dont know" and it is a genuine answer, they really havent thought about it. You could ask her to think about whether her family is an issue, give her a couple of days. If she still doesnt know, higher probability of her either having a low iq or she doesnt want to tell you (which means it's a family issue)

Once you've identified the problem you can work on a solution, probably.