So my boyfriend is recently conversing with this girl who was his ex (they're "close" friends) because she's having some personal problems atm, her father died, and she reached out to my boyfriend for comfort. The first time my he told me, I let it slide since I kinda felt sorry for her and the time that he told me they've been talking on the phone I felt uneasy. I'm not comfortable with my boyfriend keeping touch with his ex but she's in a tough situation. I'm just worried that he might comply to whatever she asks since he feels so bad for her. We're currently in a secret relationship and nobody pretty much knows about us except our families.
What should I do? Should I just let it go? I trust him but I'll probably die of paranoia.
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>talking with his ex
>no one knows we're in a relationship
There's no way there's nothing shady going on here
How about talking to him about it?
>>16442438
> this girl who was his ex
First mistake
>(they're "close" friends
second mistake
> she's having some personal problems atm, her father died, and she reached out to my boyfriend for comfort.
third mistake
Yeah I would be concerned.
>secret relationship
Is he ashamed of you? It sounds like someone or both of you still want to play the field
>>16442445
I just talked to him about it and he was like "but she's my friend she needs me!". For fuck's sake
>>16442453
Actually we both agreed to it since I just got out of a relationship and I don't want people talking about how complicated my love life is. We talked about the right time when to tell everyone
>>16442460
Sweetie, this whole situation is a giant red flag. It doesn't sound like you've been together long, you can get out with minimal emotional damage now. Better than finding out down the line that he was fucking her the whole time IMO
>>16442470
I know. We've actually been together for almost a year, we've had on/off moments and we got back together when I broke up with my ex.They were pretty close when we broke up but when we got back together they didn't hang out and message each other much anymore. I know because I have his fb acc. It's been just recently because of her problem that they're talking again.
>>16442438
>We're currently in a secret relationship
Sounds like you have bigger problems. If you're such a bed hopper that you have to keep new relationships secret to save face, then yeah I'm not really sure what advice I can give you. You don't exactly sound like you're above reproach.
I say trust him. If he's not trustworthy then he's not worth keeping as a boyfriend to be honest. I'm still good friends with one of my ex girlfriends and have absolutely no romantic feelings for her any more.
If I were your boyfriend I'd be offended that you don't trust me.
