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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.
Guys:
How much do you care if a girl is a virgin? I'm scared that I'm going to end up too nervous and starfishing for my first time
>>17360964
Im always scared of blood because my penis is on the bigger side. I would just close my eyes and ask if im hurting her.
>>17360964
>How much do you care if a girl is a virgin? I'm scared that I'm going to end up too nervous and starfishing for my first time
Uhh...
Do I seek it out? No.
Would I be pissed a girl was? No.
I'd just be kind of...neutral. Wouldn't really care one way or the other.
I guess the only thing that'd change is i'd try to be more gentle and considerate than usual.
If you want some tips for your first time:
Be vocal and communicative (don't be afraid to give and take directions)
Relax
Have fun and try to laugh (it's hard to be nervous when you're laughing)
Look in to his eyes (it creates a greater sense of intimacy and is kind of hot as fuck)
Girls and guys, do you think we are seeing the beginning of the Third World War?
Hi, advice generals. How do I become a straight male pornstar without bringing shame to my famiry?
>>17360964
I'd like to fuck one, but it is no big deal.
>>17360998
No, we'll probably never see it. :(
posted in old, it died.
Ladies, am I being too demanding with something... Basically, I asked my GF (long distance for 2 more months) to please tell me whenever she is leaving her apartment or if she is out and to let me know when she gets home.
Now, I only asked her this because she kept disappearing mid-conversation(texting). Like I would be talking to her about whatever it is we talk about and then she stops replying. A couple hours later she finally replies again. Or I will sender her a message and for the first few replies it's quick but then her replies start to become 20-30 minutes between.
So when I finally get frustrated with the stagnant replies she will tell me "Oh, I'm out running errands" or "I'm doing work stuff". Which is completely fine, I totally get it. I work in the same field as she does and it requires a lot of concentration or going out to get materials(we both work from home. She lives in another country right now). Here's the thing though. I find this to be extremely frustrating because she never ever tells me when she leaves. I believe there are different kinds of conversation levels you can have with people. Deep conversations, sharing conv, or just light "weather" talk. She disappears at even the more meaning conversations.
So heres my question for you. Am I being clingy asking her to just tell me when shes leaving so I know not to expect quick replies? Not a constant stream of updates, but if we are talking a "Hey, I'm heading out now." or a "on my comp now". Again, if we aren't currently messaging one another I don't care if she doesn't update me on her every move but to let me know if we are currently engaged in a conversation that shes going to be busy.
Its happened a lot where I will be trying to share her videos and pictures or talk about more intimate things and she'll just leave me hanging. If I knew she was out or busy I wouldn't give a fuck at all but it feels like if I want to have a fuller, undivided talk I have to guess.
>>17361035
I understand the frustration, but that would get very tiring for me. If you are having a serious/meaningful conversation then it wouldn't be asking too much to want to know if she can't reply for a while
In a few days, I'm going for a walk in the forest with a female friend
I'm pretty sure we both want to fuck each other and I feel like she'll try something or that I should try something
Any tips on how to initiate sex outdoor ? And tips on actual outdoor sex ?
So how should I take his warning? I became friends with my guy neighbors and we hang out from time to time. I think one of them called Alex is cute but I was talking to his roommate dillan who was complaining that Alex sleeps with almost every friend- girl who comes over. Alex doesn't seem to be a typical player since he's quiet (around me?) but is nice and teases me sometimes. So I'm not sure what to do because maybe he does that to every girl, I don't know?
>>17361072
Bring a blanket. If u end up not having sex u guys can just chill on a comfy blanket in a Forrest. If u do end up having sex, being on a blanket is much nicer than on sticks and leaves
This is for everyone
Do you think it's important for both the guy and the girl to start a convo cause I feel I start the convo too many times
>>17361001
As far as i know it's really hard to be a straight only porn star, much harder making it your only job.
>>17361080
Yes, whatever ship you have it's supposed to be mutual.
>>17360964
It's not really a big deal imo. Lack of experience is something easily solved, never did understand why it had such a big stigma unless the person was a virgin for a reason (e.g. is an asshole).
>>17361080
If I was the only one initiating I'd probably back off for a bit to see what they'd do. If they never respond, I'd just figure I was the backup plan probably.
>>17361035
I think its more reasonable to ask her when she has to go take care of things mid conversation, rather than telling you whenever she leaves.
>>17361176
Yea I'm in that situation as well, I'm just waiting for her to start. It's been 5 days
>>17361178
>It's been 5 days
Yeah I'd probably start working towards moving on and meeting new people if I was in that position.
>>17361180
Alright thanks man
Girls and guys
If I go chaste throughout all of my 20s.. Would i regret it? My friends criticize me a lot about it
>>17361237
Depends on the reason.
Seems like it's a bullshit one if it's only during your 20s.
>>17361302
Well, I say 20s now because I'm only 26, and I haven't had sex since 20.
I quit girls cause I do not like the Feels Train. My friends give me lots of shit about it tho
>>17361322
>feels train
Wut
So the age doesn't matter then. If you couldn't get women then how can you regret it?
>>17361337
>>17361322
Wait i read it wrong.
People change their minds all the time, you can regret it, doesn't mean you should. I mean, it is your decision now amd your future self should respect it.
Girls, do you find it weird or gross if a guy likes sniffing your butt during sex?
>>17361344
Oh ok
Last sort of serious relationship I had was when I was 18. I'm currently 24 (it's not like I slept around or anything, just focused on my own stuff), and my friend thinks its like employment history where a large gap in your history can make people think twice.
Is there actually something to that or are they just speaking out of their ass?
Guys:
I don't ever want to have sex because of issues, do i have a chance of ever having someone love me?
>>17361405
Not really. Lots of people can't fathom not being in a relationship but it actually speaks volumes to the right people if you're able to be by yourself. I myself would wonder the reason why you were single that long, but if you seemed cool And said you were focusing on work it would be fine. I'm the same as you. Hold your head up
>>17361438
>I myself would wonder the reason why you were single that long
Eh, got out of an emotionally abusive relationship and dating just never felt right. I can't really imagine it being appropriate to bring something up like that until things were already somewhat serious.
I also wouldn't quite say I was focusing on work, but more of personal development.
>How much do you care if a girl is a virgin?
Chastity matters more than men let on, we care, many of us a lot, but many men are okay with being okay with it, even when it hurts.
It has never been a deal-breaker until I outgrew hooking up, then I realized there is a kind of person that is okay with it, and I'm just not that kind. I think this is pretty normal depending on age, so a younger male will generally be more accepting.
We care though, we really do, especially in the long run.
>>17361434
Possibly but unlikely, most people aren't fucked and when they are they aren't good partness.
If i loved someone like you i would try, but i think it would fail for many reasons besides this.
>>17361499
Projecting: the post.
What is the deal with this "breast pumping" thing?
Do women do this before they have the baby or after?? Is it just a way to get breastmilk without having to nurse the baby or something?
Just curious about it after a conversation that briefly mentioned it.
How many girls wouldn't mind dating a guy who was raped by a girl when he was 11
>>17360964
Guys don't give a shit if a girl is inexperienced.
If you're an inexperienced guy though you're totally fucked.
>>17361511
Rape is a sad thing. It would make no difference to me in a decision to date someone or not though, unless their scarring experience prohibited me from getting cuddles in the long run
>>17361434
Maybe. I could see some guy into poly shit rolling with it possibly, but I can't see a normal monogamous relationship working out.
>>17361509
Just seems convenient to me. Like maybe the baby is hungry but the woman doesn't feel comfortable with nursing for whatever reason.
Guys
Do you prefer round cheeks on a girl or flat/defined "thin" faces
I've seen really skinny women with round chubby cheeks and I've seen fat women with really flat and pointy faces so this isn't a trait exclusive to one type of woman or person
Personally I just can't find those really pointy faces that look like they have no cheeks attractive. this is probably a nonissue for most people, just wondering what you think is more cute
So I've been talking to this girl and I'm kind of weirded out.
I've always desired a deep meaningful relationship with someone that is going to lead to marriage and a family, something with stability etc. and this girl.. Well she seems like someone who would allow this to be a possibility for me. I'm 23, she's 25, I'm not looking to jump right into a marriage though if in a few years we were still together and things were fine I would not oppose it.
My issue is, she seems way too attracted to me. I've suffered from insecurities and low self esteem my entire life, my last two relationship were ruined by this and both were with women who for the most part were satisfied with me - id assume. Now I meet this girl, in terms of looks, she's in between the two other girls I've ever had serious relationships with, in terms of having her shit together, she's definitely in first place. Her last relationship was with a guy who she found out had been married the whole time and this really bruised her ego, I can only imagine what other lasting effects it had on her. Been close to a year since she was out of that relationship and my usual insecure self finds no way to ever doubt her. The usually paranoid me always asking my exs who they were with, were guys there, accusing them of cheating etc. I don't even feel like I would have a reason to do that with her.
I can't tell if it's because I'm not as attracted to her, if I've matured enough to not give a fuck or it's the way she looks at me. I'm not sure if most people can relate to this feeling, I have no clue how normal it is but its never happened to me at least - but the girl looks at me as if I was her first new born child. It scares me, she's just absolutely too sweet and genuine and for the first time I feel like I actually believe the girl is as good as I think she is. But it has me running away a bit? What could it be?
Guys: There's a guy I'm friends with and there is sexual tension between us that other people have picked up, but I also feel disgusted and gross in my heart when I touch him(like if we're sitting together or I high five him) and I don't get it. We play fight all the time and I like hanging out with him but he does have some things I don't agree with(like drug use). Maybe my heart is telling me he's not the one for me?
Sexting a girl, and she said she'll end up addicted to my cock. Is she a sex animal or is this normal shit for a super horny girl to say?
>>17361742
Disgust is a strong emotion. I'm guessing his drug use is something more significant than shrooms and weed on the weekends? I mean I'm assuming it has to do with that, since you're not giving other reasons why you might be uncomfortable with him.
I mean thinking back, the kinds of things that made me feel disgusted touching someone stemmed from some pretty major moral issues.
>>17360964
don't really care, but i prefer partners with experience
>>17360998
i fucking hope so
>>17361080
yes
>>17361434
doubtful
>>17361663
no preference
>>17361742
maybe
>>17361176
>I think its more reasonable to ask her when she has to go take care of things mid conversation,
Anon I am very tired. Its late at night but I don' understand what this means.
Are you saying I should ask her "hey, when are you heading out?" during a conversation? The thing is. when she leaves I have absolutely no idea that she had to go out in the first place. She absolutely never ever tells me what plans she has made, who they are with, how long they will be, nothing.
Like, I could message her one day with a "Hey, how ya doing? What's up?" and she will either reply immediately or after an hour or more but it will always be something like "ah nothing really." After that she will send a few messages not that far apart. Simple Messages like "Been working, saw a fat guy wearing a funny hat.", "had a dream", and just other light talk(seriously, just a few messages at most). She had mentioned that dream left her feeling self conscious about my mom not liking her and I replied with "No that's not that case at all!" She replies with a simple " :( " so I go on to tell her a cute story about my mother asking about her. I assured her that my family loves her and then... she doesn't reply anymore.
Before I even GET the chance to say "so what you going to do later?" She will have stopped responding.
When she finally replies to my messages, she will tell me something I will have had NO IDEA was going to happen. 2-3 hours later, "Oh yeah I'm at the TV station doing an interview for the news about my event tomorrow". She saw my good morning message, told me about her dream, and how it made her feel insecure, only to then go do something IMPORTANT I had no idea about leaving me hanging.
It's not that I don't ask her about this stuff. When she IS able to talk to me I ask her "So what are you going to do tomorrow" or "anything coming up this week?" and almost always her reply is "no, nothing interesting". Im completely in the dark.
>>17361786
Hmm he used to do Xanax and still likes blacking out a lot but I think he just drinks now and does shrooms. He's going bald at 21 so maybe that's part of it? I overheard him talking about how it's natural that a guy and a girl who are friends will eventually fuck because it's natural progression(he was also really drunk though) but I don't agree with that. I never talk about anything serious with him. It's more aversion than disgust. Like, I am sure fucking him would feel great but it would feel all wrong in my soul. I still don't get wtf. He also looks at me in a way I feel uncomfortable with, it's a very intense look sometimes. Maybe all together it adds up?
>>17361765
Need input please
>>17361818
Literally why Is this an issue either way?
>>17361765
she just tries to make you feel wanted. don't humblebrag on adv
>>17361805
Some of the shit is understandable to be uncomfortable with. I certainly wouldn't be interested in spending a lot of time on a woman who likes getting blackout drunk. But some of it is weird on your part like the quip about balding as well as the "its so wrong but it would feel good" stuff. Balding is a natural thing rather than a personality statement, and the other part sounds like you're having an internal debate on casual sex or something.
>>17361820
Idk sounds weird but I'm basically autistic and I'm paranoid she's making fun of me, but we sexted for almost two hours so probably not
>>17361826
Thanks makes sense. I have nothing against casual sex I've done it a lot actually. I guess it's cuz he's balding but still keeps the rest of his hair instead of shaving the whole thing off, with a large noticeable bald spot. I think maybe I'm nervous he'll want more if we did anything? So I guess I'm waffling about casual sex but with him? We might kill each other if we dated and he's not what I'm looking for anyway in a bf...
Sort of off-topic but these threads tend to give goo advice no matter what so I'll ask anyway.
I smoked weed on an average of about once/twice weekly for about a year straight. 16.5 to 17.5 years old. Would mostly smoke using a bong, rarely had joints. From 17.5 to 18.0 years old I started smoke less and less and it would usually be every now and again at parties along with drinking. As I stopped, every time I went back I kept having sort of bad experiences. Getting 'trapped in the abyss,' becoming a 'potato,' wigging out; however you choose to describe sort of getting trapped in your thoughts while high.
Anyway, the reason I explained all of this is because the last couple times I smoked (especially the last time, about a month ago), I got really stuck there. Smoked a pretty big joint pretty much to myself, first time smoking in like a month prior to that.
And what happened was really weird. It was like my ability to empathise with others and recognise what would normally be subconscious 'social queues'/body language was exponentially enhanced. Sort of to the point where I kind of was just quietly observing everyone else talking and shit, noticing a weird amount more than I usually would but in a really anxious, weird state where I didn't want to speak up or really engage in any sort of conversation.
It kind of scared the shit out of me but seemed to wear off as the effects of the joint usually would, smoked from a bong afterwards and didn't get anything like it.
That's been the last time I have smoked, and might be the last time ever to be completely honest. It just put me in a state where I don't really want to go back to.
Anyone have any insight on what might have gone down in my brain? I always hear that weed can trigger underlying mental illness and I have a feeling I'm sort of depressed, isolate myself, socially anxious and sort of anxious in general (none of them diagnosed or anything though). Was it just a one off bad experience?
>>17361845
You basically fucked with your brain by putting chemicals in it while it was still growing. What did you think would happen? Now your brain chemistry has changed and I suppose you can't smoke anymore. A lot of people are fine with smoking and doing mdma/otherwise fucking with their brain. But a small amount of people will experience adverse effects from it because their brain can't handle having stupid shit being done to it. Looks like you are one.
>>17361845
I quit weed because of pretty much that exact same feeling. Whenever I would smoke with friends I would retreat to my brain and just observe my surroundings and think. I think it was anxiety combined with not having full mental control due to the marijuana. Very scary for me, probably will never smoke unless I'm alone again
>>17361800
Just tell her how you feel in a well worded manner. let her know that you'd like it if she told you more about her day and what she's doing throughout. Asking for that is totally reasonable I think. But asking her to tell you everytime she leaves the house is excessive
>>17360964
I prefer virgins since I'm not just in it for sex.
>>17361001
You don't, unless your family are all degenerates.
>>17361080
Yes, it shows that the relationship isn't one-sided.
>>17361237
Celibate myself, and I catch shit for it too, but I prefer it this way.
>>17361434
You might be better off going the waiting for marriage route if you can do that.
>>17361663
No preference
>>17361845
Also, this is sort of concerning to me because I think my Dad is a little autistic. He understands a lot of things really, really well but lacks the ability to pick up on social queues, he's really bad at generally socialising and will explain unrelated things really in-depth for like 10 minutes straight despite the fact someone is obviously just saying "mm-hmm," "okay," "yep" to what he's saying, or looking at their phone or something.
I guess I'm just really scared of becoming that but already do things which I fear are throwing me down that path.
My social life is introverted as fuck, the social equivalent of lurking. I'm part of a couple really good friend groups but rarely put in the effort to socialise and seem to just isolate myself constantly. Never have had a meaningful relationship with any girl really, let alone a girlfriend, I feel it's partly due to a different factor but that's probably me just trying to justify things.
Anyway, my family life is pretty fucked so I'm just really scared of going down a similar path which will lead me to being somewhat similar to any of my them I guess.
This started off relating to smoking but now I feel it's branched off into a whole other can of beans. Relationships, socialising, family is all just so overwhelming. I just want a comfy job, a comfy house so I can begin slowly making baby steps to building my own comfy life with some good relationships. Until then I'm just stuck in a really bad cycle of unsupportive, probably mentally unstable family members :(
>>17361850
>>17361851
Yeah, I don't think I'm smoking ever again to be honest. Not unless I'm alone like you said, everything is a lot easier to deal with that way. Feel free to give more advice on my tumblr essay above if you want
>>17361840
>So I guess I'm waffling about casual sex but with him? We might kill each other if we dated and he's not what I'm looking for anyway in a bf...
I'm a conservative person so I'll admit I'm biased, but this is screaming horrible idea to me. You're admitting you're a bad match and that you're afraid he'll develop feelings. In other words there's a good chance someone will be emotionally hurt, or a toxic relationship could potentially develop.
>>17361866
Oops I think I wasn't clear, I am very aware it's a bad idea and don't want to do it anyway(it would be a terrible fucking decision) I'm just , trying to rationalize my feelings of aversion.
To girls: Do you mind if a guy doesn't use social media? The only thing I use is WhatsApp and I'm always afraid that people'll think I'm an antisocial or stuff like that.
>>17361856
what the fuck kind of difference does it make personality wise if a girl is a virgin or not?
I'm a virgin and I'm a horrible person.
>>17361903
I rarely use facebook except for networking and keeping up to date with coworkers, so yes, I find it weird if a guy or person in general doesn't have social media.
To me, as someone who uses it for work, it makes me think that the person doesn't know how to network and most likely doesn't have a good career.
Is anyone else triggered when their s/o leaves them on read and replies way later
>>17361906
Yeah I have no clue what that guy was insinuating
As if being with a virgin is somehow more difnifiable simply because they haven't had sex
Yet this directly contradicts his point about not caring about sex
And if he cares so much whether or not another man has been with the girl sexually he's probably a virgin himself
I'm >>17361072, had to go to sleep
>>17361077
Thanks
She wants to do kind of a "picnic" there so I think we'll have one
Anything else ?
>>17361922
stop acting so entitled, people have other things they're doing and they're experiencing life without you, whether you like it or not. it doesn't mean you're not a big part of their life, just that at that moment there's something else that has their attention.
their lives don't revolve around you and that's the way it should be.
Girls,
I've been seeing this lass for a few weeks now, and we get on like a house on fire. We've talked about everything under the sun, both have the same ambitions for the next 5 or so years (we're both 25) and I can really see this relationship going somewhere.
She has intimated that she wants to have sex (and i'm totally down with that, she is straight up 10/10) but I'm kinda worried what she will think when I wear a condom? I guess its a little bit of a different situation than sleeping with a girl I met the same day, and I really don't want to make her think I think she's dirty or unclean.
I think talking about it beforehand would be a bit of a mood killer and super weird to plan it that far. What would you women expect or find acceptable?
Thanks
Girls:
I have a friend who has a bf, and she knows that he's cheating on her, yet they still stay together and she talks very casually about that. Can somebody explain me her line of thought here, because i really don't get it.
>>17361349
No. My last lover loved to smell and lick me there, it felt strangely comforting and nice.
It won't be everyone's thing though, probably mostly because of shame, it takes trust to let someone do that to you.
>>17361966
Make sure you don't get gang raped by bears.
>>17362152
Maybe they have an open relationship but she doesn't mention that because she thinks people might have a hard time accepting it
Maybe she lacks self esteem or otherwise can't bring herself to leave him
Maybe she genuinely doesn't care
>>17362114
No sane woman would be offended if you wore a condom in that situation
>>17361509
After they have the baby. Breast milk typically starts because of the hormones in the latest stages of pregnancy and after birth.
You pump so the baby can drink breastmilk when you aren't around to nurse. Another factor is that the breasts become swollen and tender when they are full, and it starts to hurt (and can result in nasty infections) if it then takes hours before they are drained, so you pump them and save the milk for later.
Breast milk is vastly superior to other kinds of milk, it doesn't just contain stuff that helps the baby's immune system, but also prepares them for the flavors of solid food because there's a very faint hint of what the woman ate in its flavor. That and breastfeeding is a powerful bonding moment that makes the baby feel loving and safe, being close to her heartbeat and latched to her body, almost mimicking the pregnancy itself. It is also more difficult to drink from a breast than from a bottle, which stimulates the baby's suckling and makes it grow stronger to prepare for other foods and drinks.
Basically, you want the baby to drink breastmilk, not another kind. So if the mother is not physically able to nurse, she pumps her breasts so they at least get the same nutrition if not the same experience.
Another factor is that when babies are bottlefed too much, they often refuse the breast because it is easier to drink from a bottle (as I said above, the reason being that nursing requires the baby to train their muscles). So once a woman starts giving them bottles, there's a chance she has no choice but to stick to bottles, and then the most preferable scenario is for her to pump her breasts so the baby doesn't have to also go without that milk.
Girls, is Darth Malgus attractive? He's basically a not burnt up version of Darth Vader.
>>17362200
Forgot pic
>>17361765
Neither, it shows that she's comfortable enough with her sexuality to not worry about putting a guy off. It's not something that the more timid and repressed girls would say, but for someone without hang ups or a low sex drive it is perfectly normal to think/feel.
>>17362114
Unless I am exclusive with someone, we talked about topics like abortion and we both got tested, I wouldn't let a guy fuck me without a condom.
>>17362152
Could be different things. Some people just have zero sexual jealousy, and sometimes that only comes to light after a partner confesses cheating and they completely shrug it off. It's also possible that this is a specific arrangement, an open relationship or even her not being that interested in sex and agreeing that he can get that on the side as long as she gets his cuddles and love and the couple-y stuff.
It can also be that she has zero self respect and has convinced herself that no man would be loyal to her, but then I doubt she'd casually discuss it with others around.
>>17362182
I didn't have sex in months, you can't rape the willing
>work with girl for past 2 months 2 days a week
>barely spend time with her, never even ask her name
>for a while she just comes in where I am and does her work, then goes
>she's been laughing and smiling around me a lot recently and we chat
>still don't know her name but want to ask her out
Would it be weird to do that now?
Girls:
I'm 22 yo virgin (no complexes about it, it is the way it is) and a girl I've been dating said that my 15.5ish cm cock is small because she wants cervical orgasms. I'd like to know how important these orgasms are to general female public and how much of a problem would it be for a girl to date someone who can't give it to her.
Girls and guys:
How do I make friends? I'm trying to become a more normal person and I am wondering how someone can make worthwhile relationships with people around them.
>>17362279
You should get to know them more.
Both genders can answer this.
What partner sounds more appealing and why?
>Fat 5/10 partner. Likes literally all the same things as you and conversation flows well. Has little career prospects and a mid-low sex drive.
>Fit 7/10 partner. Has few common interests, but has good career prospects and a mid-high sex drive.
>>17362340
That's not even close. Option one may be a solid friend choice, but not at all a relationship option.
>>17362344
Do you mind if I ask why? It's nice having someone who likes all the same things as me and being excited for the same things, but he's just getting so fat and he's not listening to my pleas to lose weight. I also have really good career prospects and he's on a minimum wage job, although he jokes that he'd happily be the house husband if I got pregnant.
We went out drinking last night (first time we've gone out in months) and a drunk couple picked a fight with him saying "How the fuck did you manage to get a girl like that?". He's pretending it didn't happen, but part of me really wants him to listen to what they said.
>>17362340
>>Fit 7/10 partner. Has few common interests, but has good career prospects and a mid-high sex drive.
This one.
Few common interests doesn't turn me off from a potential mate. I like it. Because then my partner can introduce me to new things.
Not sure if right board and thread.
[Note, I'm asking this question from a country where 16+ is legal]
I'm a 22 (soon 23) year old guy. There's a girl who is 16 or 17 years old at my workplace temporarily, she'll be gone in 2-3 weeks. She's really sweet and I'd love to date her, but I'm not sure how to approach this.
The age difference might be considered a bit taboo, but biologically speaking there's nothing wrong with that age difference between men and women.
I try to initiate conversation whenever appropriate, often while working and we happen upon eachother. Besides an older married guy with his own kids (her and my "boss"), I'm the person she has spoken with the most at the workplace (despite there being guys better looking than me, but they're even older than I am). She smiles and laughs, and she doesn't "shy away" or anything like that, although she herself doesn't go out of her way to initiate conversation with me or seek me out. She says hello and good morning and has her own questions and comments during conversation so it's not just me asking questions and she answering.
I'm not very good looking, and I've still got some acne left but they're disappearing as I'm using the medicine "Accutane" or whatever it's called, and I can hide the scars and stuff. I've got medium length hair that I direct backwards and a mosutache and beard, which I'm considering shaving off and also getting a "normie" haircut (first time in 10 years).
How do I do this? I've been considering approaching her on one of her final days here and telling her it was very nice to meet her and I've love to stay in touch so we can perhaps go out for lunch or something sometime. Is that how I should do this? Or what should I do?
I haven't felt this feeling since I had a crush on girls my age when I was, well, around her age.
>>17361922
Not really. If I messaged my bf something semi-important, and he doesn't answer. I give him a few mins then call him if he absolutely needs to know what I have to say. But that rarely happens because if he needs to know something, I usually just call.
If it's just an unimportant text that he doesn't reply to, I just assume he's busy and he always gets back to me in reasonable time.
>>17362315
Just be nice and don't be a douche
>>17362357
Certainly.
When I picture a "5/10," I am not picturing someone attractive to me. Not disgusting, but not atteactive. The career stuff is just icing on the cake. There's a word for people we like hanging out with but don't want sexual/romantic relationships with: friends.
As for the second, it might be feasible, it might not. But at least a 7/10 is attractive, so it's possible, though we may not choose to be close friends otherwise.
The major fallacy here is the suggestion that it is a binary choice. But there are billions of people on the planet, and if neither of these two fit the bill of a long term partner, I move on to other options.
>>17362388
It still a bit of a difference, it's not just about being fine 'biologically'
>>17362463
Would it be considered more than just a little bit taboo is what you're saying then? I've seen young girls with older guys before though.
One thing I'm afraid of is that I'm underestimating the taboo of this, maybe it's very much taboo but maybe not at all. I don't know. I'm afraid of how she'd react if she considers it very much taboo herself. But she doesn't seem creeped off by me, she's fine speaking with me, she smiles and laughs and doesn't shy away. I don't know. Is she looking at me as "an adult" so to speak, and just being courteous?
>>17362315
The cold truth here is, that you don't. If you didn't have friends 5 years ago, you won't have any 5 years from now.
Girls and guys:
I (a 27 YO man) just created an online dating profile. Been through about 100 profiles in a 25 mile radius. One girl I'm interested in. One.
That's not relevant though. What I want to know from girls is: What's a typical first message, and what can I do to stand out? I have a lot in common with this girl so that's a good start, but should it be short and simple, a couple of jokes or references to a shared interest?
How soon would you expect to be asked to meet up? Should I wait for a reply and then ask, or just put it in the first message?
Men: What's your take on the above questions? I'm interested in seeing what girls would expect and what men would do.
>>17362549
I like when guys start with a joke about something I have written in my profile. Something short-ish and funny.
I guess I'd prefer to have some good conversations before someone asks me to go out. Like at least 3-4 hours of texting.
>>17362315
There are many reasons for people to not make friends, you are going to have to expand on this a bit.
Also >>17362397 doesn't grant anything and >>17362545 is totally wrong.
>>17362559
Thanks. 3-4 hours of texting seems insane to me because I don't even text my friends that much, but OK.
Do you not find that you've exhausted a lot of what you could have talked about in person? Maybe I'm old fashioned, but to me a phone has always just been a way of arranging to meet people so we can talk (at least texting, anyway). I have a string of messages from my friends on my phone which are as follows:
Pub?
7?
Yeah.
---
Pub?
5?
See you there.
And so on.
>>17362564
I do understand that, but when I was on dating sites I got asked out by many guys every day. So why should I say yes to someone I don't know anything about? After a few hours of texting I know something about you and I'm sure you are okay.
>>17362574
That's a fair point, yes. Hadn't considered that I'm going to be in competition, as blindingly obvious as that sounds now. Should I offer my number first or would you do it to show interest?
>>17362581
I usually try to talk on the dating site for a while. If the conversation goes well, I usually offer my number - but I don't know what other girls do.
I guess that I wouldn't mind if a guy offered, tho.
Questions to any straight people, girls specifically: If you have a friend who's homosexual, do you sometimes feel uncomfortable about that, or as if she's/he's attracted to you, simply because they're gay?
I recently had a friend tell me exactly that, and I did politely explain to her that short hair and piercings aren't my thing, but it makes me wonder how common that train of thought is.
Thanks!
>>17362595
guy here, i tried to kill my 'friend' for making a move on me once
>>17362595
I know people that do, specially females; i don't understand why but lesbians get a lot of shit, secretly, from straight women, at least here.
Is there somewhere else I should go to for advice and help on the issue I posted about earlier? I'm the guy who asked about this girl a few years younger than me.
>>17362586
Thanks. Hopefully some other people can offer their perspective too.
>>17362543
It's taboo because there's a big difference in experience and emotional maturity. You learn and change a lot between 16 and 23 so it makes a big difference
>>17362595
I do, and no I don't
>>17362604
What a complete overreaction
>>17362654
If she is perceived to be mature for her age then? It's a summer job for her but it's physically demanding work that she performs well in. It sounds insane perhaps but so far she just appears very mature in her behaviour amongst people older than her (me) and much older (other co-workers).
>>17362661
Maybe you are the one immature for your age.
>>17362661
I would find it hard to believe that someone at 16 could be the equivalent of a 22 year old, even if they are mature for their age. I know you don't want to hear it but just stick to 18+ dude
>>17362604
What the shit dude
>>17362605
Yeah it's weird. I went to an all-girls Catholic school and surprisingly enough I got way less shit for being gay than I do now at university.
>>17362660
How do you mean?
>>17362665
Hardly. It has always been quite the opposite growing up, I've always been more mature than people of the same age around me. One of the chiefs at my workplace is a 25 something woman that actually sings out loud and thinks it's funny to say things like: "WHATZUP BITCHEZ?!?!" and "GODDAMN MUFUKKAZZZ!", for example.
>>17362668
Ignoring taboo then, how would I best approach asking her out?
>>17362674
The top reply? I do have a friend who's a lesbian and no I don't feel uncomfortable or assume she's attracted to me because she's gay
>>17362685
Oh okay, my bad. I was confused and thought you meant it in the "sometimes I do, sometimes I don't"
>>17362688
Yeah sorry I could have been clearer
How do you move on from the guy
>>17362679
This doesn't prove she is immature or that you are mature. In fact it might weight against you.
>>17362693
You make him lose his 10000 Hit Points.
you two fall for,some,low quality b8
I'm a 28 neckbear who lives with daddy and mommy. I'm afraid to start dating because I don't know how I'll explain it to them.
What do I tell mommy when I go see a girl on the other side of the city?
>>17362694
I don't know how else to respond to baseless accusations. I have no reason to lie. I'm telling it like it is. I am mature for my age, she is mature for her age. Of course this is compared to other people around our age.
>>17362736
Why do you live with your parents? I do because I can't afford to move out and I work full time. Hardly unreasonable.
>>17362759
Not him but same here. Let's just put it this way, the people in power don't have much interest in europeans being able to live independently.
>>17362764
Yeah, I live in England and at present the best chance I have of getting my own place is saving up about £30k for a deposit and living in a poor part of town.
I refuse to rent because it's just dead money.
>>17362746
See, why would you believe it''s an acusation at all?
Just because you believe you are mature doesn't mean you are
>>17362698
Sorry Senpai, teach me your ways.
How do you move on from someone who used you for sex but who meant a lot to you
>>17362788
>See, why would you believe it''s an acusation at all?
Because that's what it was?
>Just because you believe you are mature doesn't mean you are
This is not a question of "believing" one is something or not, you either are, or you're not. I am, as is she (from her behaviour at the workplace atleast). Or are you injecting something else into the word "mature" other than emotional maturity, behaviour, etc. .?
>>17362797
If only there weren't things called cognitive biases...
Girls or guys:
I just got this message from a girl before our date tonight.
I met up with her 3 times for 2 hours at 9am due to her picking one of her kids up at 11am. The messages at the start were good. Flirty and interesting then her replies got shorter nearer the date today.
1st time I met her I was rubbing my hand on her leg and she didn't really respond to that. 2nd time there was no touching with her. (I asked if I could take her out). 3rd time I had my arm round her whilst we were watching a TV show we both like.
What more could I have done if she didn't respond to me touching her? I feel creepy if the woman doesn't respond.
>>17362855
>I met up with her 3 times for 2 hours at 9am due to her picking one of her kids up at 11am.
>kids
She did you a favor
>>17362855
It kind of sounds like she had been uncomfortable but didn't want to be a cunt about it.
I generally do the same thing, but I wouldn't let someone touch my leg or put their arm around me if I didn't feel anything.
Perhaps her having kids and you not fitting into her lifestyle?
>>17362877
Not everyone hates children.
Maybe a lot of people do. But hey, man, not everyone.
Okay maybe like 99%...
>>17362855
>kids
Motherfucker, she did you a favor
>>17362887
Not him but...
I know hating kids is popular on 4chan, but it's not unreasonable when they're somebody else's. Not in the "my wife's son" kind of way, but in that you will never, ever be her priority. Ever. The kids will. No matter how much she means to you, you won't matter half of what her kids do to her.
>>17362887
I love kids and I can't wait to have tons of them, but I wouldn't date a single dad.
It's not because I don't like kids, but it's because I would never, ever be his priority (rightfully so), while he'd be mine.
>>17362562
Really, I'm just looking for people to play smash/ do stuff with and to remember my birthday. Joined a local pick up Frisbee group, but I'm not sure how to really be their friends. I kind of just show up.
>>17361001
Become a reality star
>>17362877
>>17362890
I was actually prepared to see how it would turn out but like you say, her kids would get in the way.
>>17362879
>but I wouldn't let someone touch my leg or put their arm around me if I didn't feel anything.
We had flirty conversations over the phone like us both sharing a bed together so I assumed she wouldn't have minded at least.
I just feel like if I didn't come across as confident, then she would've turned out to be one of those women that wanted to be touched then if it was someone else and I wasn't touchy enough etc. I can never win.
>>17360946
How do I get a girl that's already got a boyfriend?
Apart from the usual shit about asking a girl out, now I gotta deal with competition as well.
>>17362895
>>17362917
I get your point but, do you think that your own kids somehow won't be prioritized over your significant other when you do have them?
If I honestly had feelings for someone, kids wouldn't really bother me.
I have a lot of patience, though. I'm generally not one who needs constant attention.
It's nice, but not necessary.
Just as long as I'm not "expected" to be in the child's life as a parent figure if I'm not willing or ready.
>>17363021
Yes, but it would be mutual - both me and my SO will prioritize my kids over each other. In this way is unbalanced.
>>17362954
I honestly think its the lifestyle thing, to be honest.
Otherwise, she either had a change of heart, realized there wasn't chemistry or just didn't see it being long term.
>>17363035
I think we would've fucked one saturday night cause I was going to go round and watch tv in her bedroom with her but she had to work late that night and she did say she was looking forward to it.
The more I think about it all, the more I think she wanted to fuck to be honest. I've most likely fucked up once again.
Dude here, I'm fat, should I be allowed to date?
>>17363049
Sure, lose weight for more interest but there are girls into chubs
Beware of feeders
>>17363057
>Beware of feeders
Huh?
Are you implying an implicating implication of what I think you're implying?
And why am I curious and bonered?
>>17362814
Okay, so this is what I'm getting from you:
>You're lying! You're immature! That's why you think she's mature!
Did I get that right?
>>17363049
No bye
But fat women?
Don't dare say they're undateable!
Tits
OR
Ass
>>17363101
Can girls answer too, because boobs.
I'm a 21 yo kv guy
This question is for guys and girls
How do I get better at flirting/expressing my sexuality? Specifically, in a school setting or even a bar setting. I feel being able to do that adequately is my biggest barrier between myself and sex.
>>17363101
Uhhhhhhh
Arse
It can be so firm and unf
I've had sex with 3 people and been in relationship with 1. I'm 23. I feel like I'm missing out. Is it too little?(femanon)
>>17363188
You wanna keep it that way unless you wanna unleash the inner slut within you. Do you feel like you wanna be "adventurous" and have sex with other people?
I'm exactly the same. Had sex with 3 people but been on one 1 relationship but I'm 24. I'm a guy by the way.
>>17363188
Guy literally 2 posts above is complaining about being a KV. You're relatively fine.
My first girlfriend was like a 6/10 at best and my gf after her was like a 9/10
The current girl I'm talking to is like a 6/10 too but I feel like I can't be satisfied with her after having such a good looking gf even though she's an amazing girl and would probably be better for me than any gf I've ever had
Should I go for it
>>17363206
It's a risk you take.
I was with an 8/10 (in my opinion) girl for 2 years but I ended it cause she was too paranoid about me cheating on her.
I sometimes regret the choice and think that I'll never be with anyone as good looking as her but whilst I did love her, I was always walking on egg shells with her.
Still waiting for that gf that could surpass her.
>>17363188
Exactly the same here.
I often thought about whether I'm "missing" out since a lot of my friends are way more promiscuous than me and sometimes I think I ought to give it a try.
But then whenever I seriously think about it I just can't bring myself to do it, since I just seem to need a strong emotional connection to enjoy sex.
>>17363226
>I just can't bring myself to do it, since I just seem to need a strong emotional connection to enjoy sex.
Not the person you replied to but that's how I feel.
I had 2 chances to have sex with different people. First one I was flaccid within 20 seconds. 2nd person I got flaccid within a minute. Mostly due to nerves but I feel like I want to at least know the person.
I feel like a failure of a man.
>>17363253
I'm a femanon but I don't think that's a failure at all, honestly I'd love it if more people were like that.
>>17363197
I do, but I don't feel like having sex with strangers. Makes me feel disgusting for some reason. And I could fetishize it I guess, but it feels too much like forcing myself. And after that I'll just walk away and not even have a good story or memory out of it. As opposed to floating on closeness and happiness for next few hours.
>>17363264
I'm in the same situation. I want to experience other women but obviously for a guy, I find it happens once in a blue moon and the times it happens, I fuck up like I said in >>17363253.
I can't really give you any advice cause I lack experience myself unfortunately.
>>17363253
I'm like this.
It's a shitty feeling being in a girl and not feeling anything, condom or no. CLimaxing can be painstakingly tedious to the point of why bother.
>>17361903
I don't use any social media so I love that my boyfriend doesn't either.
what are bras like?
>>17362340
7/10
>>17363049
some girls like chubs, just not a lot of them...
>>17363365
Personally, I hate bras. I'm sorta between B and C and I rarely find bras that are really comfortable to wear (you can have them "tailored" but its pricey) and once in a while the wire comes off and pokes you.
So, basically first thing to go as soon as I open the door is my bra. I feel much more comfortable without one, but that might just be me.
A female 'friend' of mine back stabbed me a few weeks ago and it caused me to fuck up and hurt this girl I was dating. I only found out she back stabbed me a week later. I want to send the girl I was dating an apology text but I want it to be sincere. Can you give me tips on how the text should look?
>"X, I hope this message reaches you. There's something important I need to tell you but never got the chance to."
>*Explain how female 'friend' back stabbed me*
>*Show screenshot evidence*
>*Explain how I fucked up and what was going on through my mind at the time*
>"I should've done y or z in the situation which would've been better, but instead I made a poor judgement. I'm sorry."
"This situation hurt you a lot, and I want to make it up to you somehow. If you do want to slowly restart things or you have questions then let me know. Anyways I hope you're doing well. Happy Birthday in 4 days."
On the last line I was thinking of changing "this situation hurt you a lot" to "I hurt you a lot". I'm unsure about the whole "hope you're doing well" and "happy birthday" bit, it's been a while since we last spoke which is why I added it in. Should I explain how I want to make it up to her, or should that wait for now? Femanon advice would be very nice.
>>17361434
I'm a guy who would say yes because I think sex isnt the most important thing in a relationship, but at the same time I'm in the vast minority, so it will be hard for you though. Don't let anyone change your beliefs.
>>17363365
Depends. Either uncomfy or you don't feel youre wearing them at all.
>>17363365
An inconvenience
>>17362934
That's some shit info to work with.
Whenever i enter a group of people nobody ever dislikes me but nobody likes me enough to actually talk to me outside the group. I imagine it's the same with you.
Sorry anon i got nothing.
>>17363071
Anon, i...
>>17363101
Ass
>>17363365
I think if i was a female i would be braless all the time; wearing a shirt is a hassle already.
>>17363399
I hurt you" is better and i would remove the restart part.
>>17363188
I've had sex with two people and I'm 22, I've dated both of them, I'm not interested in sex with people I'm not in a relationship with.
Has anyone ever been, or known someone who was in a relationship they had to hide from their family?
How was it? How did it end, if it did?
>>17363812
I've known a couple. One of them is still going (it's an LDR so it's easier to hide, I guess). The other two that came to me immediately broke up independent of the hiding from family.
Guys:
I like my guy friend's roommate, what do I do? I met a friend of a friend and became friends with him. He's sort of cute but I don't think I'm that into him. We hang out every now and then, usually with his other friends, text each other silly things and technically it's all been platonic (but I guess maybe you wouldn't be texting a girl if you didn't think she was cute?). then I met his roommate Dan who I have a thing for, and have also become friends with. So I'm not sure what to do or if I should just not even touch this potential mess. But maybe i'm overthinking it?
Does this girl only want to hookup/sex? A brief history:
>we snap each other usually each day, but it's mostly just random stuff
>she occasionally will send like a nude but it's once in a blue moon and there's no message in the snap nor were we having a convo leading to it
>after months of just snapping she tells me her friends and her going to a local bar
>go and chat,talk, there's some flirting/touching/even non-makeout kissing but her older brother is included in the entourage etc
>she goes home with brother and girl friends, I go home with my brother (neither of us have our own place to go etc)
>continue to just random snap/talk the next two weeks, but she usually doesn't reply when I ask her a question relating to the snap
>last weekend just get a random text at 1AM about how she's "at the bar"
>go there, she gives me a hug but then pretty much ignores me the whole night, I chat with her brother and his friends, she's not talking to other guys or anything at the bar either just hanging with friends from hs.
>when bar is closing she wants me to give her and her best friend a ride to her house
>do so and she's got her hand on my leg, talking etc, and when I drop them off she gives me a hug and kiss (obviously doesn't invite me in as her parents and family are home)
>still continue to snap this week but she still doesn't usually respond to any of my attempts at convo, except once she initiates but only gives one word responses and no reply when I ask about her day.
So do you think she only wants to hookup? I don't have a problem with it but I wonder if I should send more sexual snaps etc to her.
>>17363830
ehh I'd say go for it, especially if you haven't like hooked up with the initial friend but then again I admit I'm pretty cool about this kind of thing, I have a mindset of "well if she likes him more and he does I don't wanna stop it do what makes her happy" etc but I'm sure a lot of guys wouldn't like it.
>>17363837
She's mildly interested. Who knows. She might want you to make the first move.
>>17363845
Ok, no I haven't hooked up with my initial friend nor have I ever flirted with him or anything. i've just treated him like I do all my friends. He did mention to me when he was drunk that he thought we'd 'become really good friends'...which I didn't know how to respond to.
You know, i don't think he'll like it since he was bitching to me earlier about how his roommate gets with a lot of the girls that come over to their place. i'll just try and become better friends with both of them and see where it goes then. I have the same mindset you do, so let's hope this goes ok
>>17363830
>but I guess maybe you wouldn't be texting a girl if you didn't think she was cute?
What the actual fuck
>>17363850
yeah that's why I was debating if I should maybe send some sexual snaps etc to show that I'm interested...I've invited her over etc before but I'm 99% that's never happened just because of our schedules etc... but yeah for example when she texted me last week with the most barebones "Im at the bar" out of nowhere I assumed she was interested but then I was a bit thrown off on how she pretty much ignored me once I got there even when I was trying to talk to her etc...though it probably didn't help I was sober (and couldn't drink since I drove) and she had been drinking steadily for like 5 hours at that point.
>>17363856
I'm sorry I'm slightly autistic and i don't understand social things. In my head i just text people if I think they're cool people and it doesn't matter if they're ugly but I guess that's not true for other people
>>17363864
as a guy (I'm asuming you're the girl with that problem/situation) 99% of the time if a girl's like not obviously fat/unattractive so it's definitely just friends then the guy is definitely interested. That 1% is rare but it happens, hell I'm friends with a girl like that she's basically a total bro. The other times that has happened has been like my best friend's gf and such since that's one of the few times you can find yourself getting to know an attractive girl so well with no intentions.
>>17363864
You text whoever you want, there is no rule.
>>17363878
Oh ok. Yeah people tell me I'm really cute, but it just doesn't register to me like it would a normal person? i've had really bad luck with guys just wanting to string me along so i've defaulted into 'we are just friends until they explicitly ask me out' and I get excited when people text me and such, so it probably does look like I'm into people or encouraging them. Thanks. I wish it were different but at least i'm more aware of what I'm doing
>>17363879
That's true, i'll tell myself that. But i will be more careful about not leading people on
>>17361682
If it makes you uncomfortable than don't do it. I've never seen her so I don't know what she's like but if I were in your shoes I'd get to know her first but not make any serious commitments until you feel comfortable. She could be genuine but you'd never know unless you give it a try.
Girls am I ugly?
>>17363942
You look like a fucking q-tip.
>>17363954
Haha my hair isn't like that usually, I just brushed it out.
>>17363942
Do something with that hair and you'll be fine
>>17363969
Alright then you look fine.
>>17363970
>>17363978
Thanks. I currently have a frohawk, and I don't know what other style. I was thinking of braids or dreads.
I dont want to cut my hair off because my forehead looks big, even with long hair.
It only looks normal there because I brushed it down.
>>17363862
Don't send dick pics unasked, it's very confusing when a guy who wasn't even flirting with you send you his body parts out of nowhere
>>17363942
i think you could really pull this off well. Yeah do something with your hair it's atrocious rn when's the last time you cut it?
>>17363994
I havent cut the top in about a year, and the sides for a few months.
I have a Mohawk so I only need to cut the sides, I haven't cut it because I was thinking about dreads.
Guys, why am I completely unable to grow non-patch facial hair? I have a weak jawline and I want to at least grow some stubble to make it look more pronounced but I end up looking like a neckbeard.
>>17363991
I mean I wouldn't say it's I'm not flirting, I just can't tell if she's either
a) just likes attention and playing with guys and doesn't like me enough to follow through with anything or
b)she doesn't think I like her enough or something because I wasn't like overtly handsy with her last time I saw her at the bar
so I guess a sexual pic (not a dick pic, I have a policy of "have to see it in person first before seeing it via snap") solves this issue, whether that means she quits talking to me or not.
How do I flirt with a girl over text? I just don't know what to say.
>>17363997
please don't do dreads. i can't help but think 'thick worms' whenever i see them on someone.
>>17364010
I really don't know then, and last time I got a fade my forehead looked so fucking big.
>>17364012
Try cornrows.
>>17364008
>How do I flirt with a girl over text?
You don't.
>>17362759
Because it is cheaper. That's not the problem, though.
Do you tell your mom where you are going and who is accompanying you?
>>17363101
TITS (natural or fake) > everything else
>>17364016
I have considered that, just have that concern.
>>17363101
Tits.
>>17361511
If I'd really love that person I wouldn't mind.
Also I think most girls would be understanding about it, because we grow up hearing how awful it is and how we need to protect ourselves all the time.
>>17363998
Low test
>>17360964
It's a minus but not a deal breaker.
>>17360998
No. Calm your paranoid ass.
>>17361035
>Basically, I asked my GF (long distance for 2 more months) to please tell me whenever she is leaving her apartment or if she is out and to let me know when she gets home.
It would be fucking insane in a normal relationshit, it's fucking insane and bizarre in a long distance thing.
> or talk about more intimate things and she'll just leave me hanging
Is the only scenario where it's somehow rude but going by the rest of the post, you just sound like an annoying insecure faggot. No offense.
>>17361072
Sounds like a prequel to a rape...
>>17361080
Depends on their personalities. Nobody over 16 should keep that shit on their mind and count.
>>17361237
Most likely. Might stun your emotional development.
>>17361405
Just like with employment history, the reason matter.
>>17361434
Yes. Although it will be pretty hard to find the person. What makes the issues so permanent?
>>17361499
How about not dragging every man in your insecurity camp?
>>17361663
Definitely defined. Round cheeks can look cute but I prefer hot over cute.
>>17361742
Your heart isn't telling you shit. You just know subconsciously that this guy isn't a long term option.
>>17361909
Bit short sighted view there, none of my friends who make six figures use social media for work. Are you from US and A?
>>17362315
Be always open to new people and don't expect shit coming your way. It's a fucking huge topic, nigga.
>>17362340
Guy here and I would never date a fatty, they are just too repulsive. I don't care too much about career prospects or sex drive as long there is any, now common interests matter; but liking all the same things would be fucking boring, so I'd prefer somebody who only got few things in common with me, so we can enjoy the world from two different perspectives.
>>17362388
>17
>23
Don't even bother.
>>17362549
B funny, just not totally random. Make a joke related to her profile.
>>17363998
Genetics
My girlfriend goes to bed around 2h before me and I spend that time playing video games. Is this something which could affect our relationship in a bad way? She doesn't seem to care, but who knows.
>>17364097
Here's a novel idea: Ask her.
>>17363188
>>17363197
>>17363226
>>17363253
>>17363264
>>17363277
Seriously? I thought (and hoped) this whole virgin-shaming and promiscuity peer pressure thing was overall a myth or insignificantly common.
If that's the way it really is for most people, that's disgusting and sad. You shouldn't feel pressured to sleep around, especially not if that's not what you naturally desire or are inclined to.
Instead, cherish your connection of intimacy and value to sex, and seek out a life partner who feels the same as you do.
>>17364101
I wouldn't say it's peer pressure for me, I just feel like it's something I might regret not having done later on in life.
Like, experiences missed. Suddenly I'm 60 and have only slept with 3 people, you know?
But as I said as soon as I get in a situation where I could "expand my horizon" I end up chickening out and not really wanting to sleep around anyway.
>>17362595
No. She sounds pretty silly and underage.
>>17362693
Live your life.
>>17362736
Your mommy would probably have celebration sex with daddy afterwards. The problem is, what you will tell the girl.
>>17362764
European here too, and I have no idea what you're talking about. I could've afforded my own place even as a student without a job.
>>17362792
Why did they mean so much to you? Analyze the shit, realize how ridiculous the idea is, b happy. Err, at least content.
>>17362855
>1st time I met her I was rubbing my hand on her leg and she didn't really respond to that.
Perhaps you overdid already and she felt unconformable?
>What more could I have done if she didn't respond to me touching her?
Having a connection. Watching TV on a third meeting speaks against it.
>>17362974
B much better than her boyfriend.
>>17363049
Sure. As long you're funny, being fat won't affect your chances too much with most women.
>>17363101
Ass obviously. How is this even a question?
>>17363169
B urself. B confident. Also specify the question.
>>17363188
Sounds bit low on the sex side but perfectly fine for relationships. If you feel that you're missing out, just do more people. Why do you expect random anons to know what's best for you?
>>17363206
You sound not ready for a relationship, might as well bang some hot chicks on the way until you are.
>>17363812
My bestie had to because her parents are religious. They're cool with it by now though. (I think the guy being a millionaire helped them a bit)
>>17363830
>But maybe i'm overthinking it?
Sounds like it. Your post hurt my head.
>>17363998
Genetics. Don't fail for all the snake oil shit, there is not much to be done. Sorry, brah.
>>17364008
Preferably don't. If you established a connection from RL already, just be funny with sexual hints. HINTS.
>>17363101
Ass is for niggers.
Tits are for whites.
>>17364114
>No. She sounds pretty silly and underage.
I wish she was, she's in her mid-twenties.
Guy, girls and everybody in between: What was the most impressive thing you accomplished so far?
Add age and maybe country please.
>>17364137
Thanks for the reminder, faggot.
>>17364137
Female, 23, New Zealand. I'd say either putting myself through 6 years of uni without a student loan or other debt, or potentially being a published author of an academic paper.
>>17364137
29 M USA
The things that make me proudest are /x/-tier, so you can take your pick between being published at 17, getting a Master's degree without a penny of debt, and teaching myself a couple of languages.
>>17364137
Female, 23.
I saved someone's life. I had to give first aid to someone who was dying and I did everything well and now she's alive because of me.
Other than that, academic accomplishments (I'm in med school, I have a scholarship and great grades) and some social ones (I've been a positive influence and an inspiration for some).
And doing all this with a chronic disease makes me feel pretty badass.
>>17364137
Male, 22.
My biggest accomplishments;
>Jerked off 6 times in one day.
>Developed a strategy to figure out if someone can read my mind, without them realising that I know they can read my mind.
>Speed ate a burger so fast nobody saw it disappear, and caused me to give a pretty damned guilty look.
>Managed to create an almost artist contrast in peoples opinions as they read this and try to decide if it's funny or sad.
>Caused, hopefully, at least 1 person to be confused as to whether I'm secretly a genius, or just a fucking moron.
>It's the latter, but if anyone thinks I am smart, shit, that's another accomplishment.
>Learned how to cook "italian" style. MELT CHEESE ON EVERYTHING.
ladies (and guys too I guess)
So i know this is probably answered by the FAQ, but my situation is a little complex. Basically,
>Get really close with a girl last semester
>we go on a date, it was all super nice
>a few days later I land an interview for an internship
>If I got this job, I would be 500 miles away over the summer, if not, we would be in the same place
>I guess I didnt want to make a move because of that uncertainty, didnt want to start a relationship and then have to say 'lol peace see ya in 4 months'
>completely fucking failed to communicate this to her. We talked about it a little, but I didn't come close to getting my point across
>two weeks later, find out I didnt get the job, and it's now the last week of the semester.
>After my constant flip flopping, she tells me she doesn't want a relationship anymore
That was about 2.5 months ago. Since a couple weeks ago I've talked to her a couple times, basically just texting smalltalk shite. I can't help but think that had that interview not come at the worst possible time (and had I spoken my mind) things would be different.
My question is, I'm pretty terrible at conversation through a phone, so i want to ask her to meet up over coffee to catch up. Given the above, would this be horribly ill-advised?
Is there anything wrong with a male looking for a older women like 1-3 age difference just because young girl arent as mature. Does anyone have bad experiences with this type of relationship?
>>17364248
6 times a day isn't shit. I've broken 20 plenty of times. Get it together dude
I've also avoided a bar with good food because of awkwardness due to how fast I ate a pizza. They didn't even think I ate the whole thing because my girlfriend was there but she'd already eaten and didn't want any.
>>17364327
After teenage years, no one actually gives a shit. When you start having responsibilities and living like an adult, being a couple of years older or younger than your partner isn't a great deal.
I dated a guy who is 2 years younger than me and he was great. After him I started seeing my boyfriend, who is 9 years older than me.
>>17360946
So, I have this ex. We're still on good terms, see each other from time to time, but we're not together anymore.
Lately, she's been interested in this one guy. Normally, I wouldn't care (not the first guy she's been interested in since we broke up) but this guy is Bad News. How do I get through to her that being around him is dangerous?
>>17364248
When you went meta the quality dropped pretty fast.
>>17364344
You are the hero we need.
>>17364362
Scheme a situation where he shows his danger.
>>17364404
She knows about it. She's all "oh he's so isolated, he needs someone to care for him" nurturing modes.
Been dating a guy for about 7ish months or so? It's been super casual for the most part, the level of contact fluctuates from time to time. He pays for things when we go out, and we haven't done more than make out.
The thing is I told him I don't want anything serious and he knows I've talked with other guys in the time we've dated. He was talking to a girl I worked with and when I told him I didn't care if he talked with other girls but don't want my work and personal life to mix, he chose to stop talking to the other girl although she was offering to fuck him after a week of talking.
So my question is why is he still giving me his time? i told him I didn't want to lead him on if he was expecting anything more (relationship, sex) and all he said was he was ok with what we have but wouldn't mind more. At this point I feel bad when we go out since it feels like I'm almost taking advantage of him. There's not any reason for me to cut off what we have either, I just wonder why a guy would put up in this given situation. I mean he's just wasting his money (he refuses to let me pay) and he's not gonna get his dick wet, so if he would be ok with something more (does that equal to wanting something more?) why doesn't he push for it? Or look for someone who would give it to him and quit wasting his time?
>>17364410
Then the question is moot, no?
She will believe what she wants and unless you have António Vieira-tier oratory you'll never convince her otherwise.
It's better for her to have you as a friend when he knocks her teeth out than not having you.
>>17364421
Would like to add he's always the one initiating things too like texts and going out somewhere. The one time I texted him first asking if he was free he kept thanking me for texting him and wanting to meet up.
I just feel really bad at this point I can't see why he would keep things up with me for so long
>>17364436
Why do you even keep going?
>>17364137
I got some #1 DPS parses on world of warcraft
One at a time ladies
>>17364440
its going to make me sound terrible but mostly validation I guess? He started talking to me after I got out of a relationship and has been the longest I've been seeing one person since. So even though I don't see him as a potential partner and it's kind of boring to be with him now, I like that I know he's there. When there's not a lot of stability in your life and you're becoming increasingly isolated, it's nice to know that you can rely on someone to reach out or just be around?
So pretty much just for selfish reasons which makes me feel even more bad about myself. I kinda wish he wasn't so passive when I confront him since I have no idea what his take on this is. If I did I would have more incentive to end it but as is I've got nothing to loose by continuing seeing him
Girls, how have you dealt with boyfriends who had heavy emotional baggage and how did it make you feel?
>>17364588
That's very selfish.
I would ask him what you asked here and end it up because:
It's moraly wrong
He has a fucking problem, who knows what the fuck goes through his mind
To try to be more independent. Using someone only for emotional backup means you have some problems that need to be dealt with.
Those are my 2 cents.
Girls around 20, how offputting is it when a guy your age is already balding, but fit and otherwise good looking?
>>17364248
>Learned how to cook "italian" style. MELT CHEESE ON EVERYTHING.
Death to whoever puts cheese on seafood
>>17364633
Is it really morally wrong? It feels like I'm taking advantage of him but in reality he's doing it all out of his own free will. I've never asked him for anything, tried to offer things in return, and even turn down somethings at times.
But you're completely right about everything else. I'm sure he stands to gain SOMETHING out of this, but I can never tell what he's thinking. Maybe we're keeping it up for our own (perhaps similar?) selfish reasons... Which gives more reason to end it.
You're also right about using him as an emotional crutch of sorts. Kinda keeps my mind off of what I ultimately need to face
>>17364663
Death to whoever puts sea"food" anywhere near actual food.
>>17364694
>He talks about Italian cooking
>He shuns seafood
Your opinions are wrong
Women
How do you feel about womens roles in political movements?
>>17364649
Bald>balding
>>17364623
GET AWAY NOW
They're like leechs, I've seen it, I've lived through it. They will take all from you.
Ok but seriously it's exhausting and really not worth it. I dated a guy that threatened to kill himself every time I tried to break up with him... And I kept coming back because I got invoved and I rooted for him, because I have depression too and I know how he feels but he is not going to come out of that hole with me having to do all the work cheering him up and dragging him along... Same for your guy.
Lucky for me I just ended up tired and wanting all that time back... But a friend wasn't so lucky and got her will to live ripped from her... It's just... You give them so much and it's so heartbreaking how they don't apreciate it and start blaming you for stuff ...
>>17364716
>I dated a guy that threatened to kill himself every time I tried to break up with him...
Hey I dated a chick like that. She started cutting herself once because I didn't want to go to a concert she was interested in.
Fun times.
>>17364421
You are so giving that even when he's ok with what you give him, you want to give him more out of pure suspicion...
That is something I've never seen in a guy, might I add. We are so perceptive and giving it makes me sick how they take advantage of our feelings...
Feminist rant aside, don't worry. If a guy wants something he either asks or leaves. They're not commited enough to hide their feelings.
>>17364737
>We are so perceptive and giving it makes me sick how they take advantage of our feelings...
Are you serious mate
>>17364737
I don't really understand the first part of your post? I don't plan on giving more either, just wonder why he sticks around when there's such a difference in give and take.
Thanks though
girls: do you prefer a guy who is too clingy or not clingy enough
>>17364775
Oh I see.
Don't mind me, I allowed myself to ramble because lately I've seen a lot of girl friends getting used and tossed by men, and it's been rustling my jimmies...
Anyway, I already publicly humilliated 2 of them so I'm not just complaining, I'm also taking action
>>17364849
It's relative. If the not clingy enough guy still shows little signs of comitment and care, then I prefer him. But if he seems totally uninterested why bother
We tend to go for the challenge because in other natural situations it tends to be worth it
>>17364849
That question implies that being clingy could ever be a good thing.
I guess for women.
It's 12:04 pm in Austin. My date just canceled on our hiking date tomorrow not too long ago. She said that she has cramps and they are bad; she is sorry and that she has to cancel tomorrows date. I message her back saying I understand and if she wants to reschedule at all. No answer back.
Is she just wanting to get out of this date? This is our third one btw.
>>17364909
If she wanted to bail on you, she wouldn't wait until the third date. Stop thinking the worst of people.
