I have a gf that does not know about my time spent on obscure places on the net (both tor and clear net). She has skewed opinions about sites like 4chan, anything deep web, and sometimes even YouTube. However, for the past few years I have been subtly pushing her in the direction of a memer's life and/or a tor network dweller. I dont intend on turning her into a robot from /r9k/ or a NEET. We're still wagecucks for now :)
Being an anti-religious girl from strict christian parents, she was robbed of her expression and sense of worth, and then someone like me comes along. We will most likely get married as the relationship is really solid but...
I try to teach her the ability to think critically, to have her own opinions, to form her own aesthetics. I cant help that I influence her SO MUCH tho. Her personality is so malleable as she learns to find herself, and I can already see her agreeing with me even tho she might not even know what I am talking about.
So far I have turned her from a radical SJW teen caught up in misdirected outrage to a calm 20 something that can disagree and discuss, change positions and learn. She has already started to laugh and take notice of things normal people would not too.
I hate to hide a big part of my life, even tho if I wont have to if I continue. On the other hand, I wish for her to become more than just another me. I would have to hide part of myself in that case, but hiding that isnt so bad. What should I do, /adv/? Should I let her be or should I keep influencing her innocent nature into something like me?
TL;DR : Why does corrupting the innocent feel so great. Should I let her live a normal life, /adv/? Or should I continue to be her Virgil, to my Dante, leading her down through the 9 gates of meme hell?
Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading. I ask for opninons from both guys and girls, so if you could state which you are, that would be very appriciated. Thanks
>>17344040
Be honest with her and let her decide. My bf does all the same and some stuff I don't agree with and is a bit of a turn off but he's allowed to be his own person. He doesn't judge my interests either.
>>17344069
What are some of the stuff he does that you disagree with?
I cant think that I do anything that my gf might disagree with, its just at this point, if she knew she would overreact way too much. She doesnt understand yet that some places that have bad people can also be a haven for good too
>>17344040
Grill here, oldfag (age starts with "3")
You first partner always has a massive influence on you, so don't worry all too much. You two sound young (early 20?). Your personality isn't fully formed by that so it's bound to change.
If you want to refrain your influence, ask her first what she thinks about shit and then only give your own opinion. Try to be mindful of how you react to her.
As for you, some things tick me off. It's like as if this girl was an ongoing project of some sorts that you'll get to blossom eventually into her full potential. Try not to engage that vision of her, and not to treat her like that, because that will give her the subtle message taht she isn't worthy of your unconditional love as she is now. It might be the reason why she so readily takes to everything you bring up in the end, she's trying to win and secure your affection and love - it does sound like she didn't have enough of that at home. So be careful with her. She needs a steady base to grow and explore but allow her to go in directions you don't approve of. Also, not every aspect of your life is something she should share. You can continue browsing here and your l33t web and she doesn't need to know necessarily all about it or use it herself or know all your memes. Heck, who cares if she's an SJW even. True love is more akin letting your gf go picket while you shitpost on /pol/ and still love the crap out of each other I guess, while she gets to call you a trumptard and you call her a berniefag. I suppose you got with her for other reasons than "seeing potential".
>>17344075
Porn but most guys watch it so as long as it's when I'm not home, and our sex life doesn't go down hill, then I don't give a shit. He watches a lot of hard core movies with rape too. And typical b/ threads. Probably the amount of time he spends online is unnerving sometimes as well, but it's usually when we don't have anything else to do. I still love him though and just accept we have different interests. So your girl might too. If your relationship is that good then it shouldn't be too much of a big deal. You just need to respect she might not like it or agree with it so don't force or manipulate her too
>>17344107
OP here!
Please dont get me wrong, She is not a project to me. I can see down to her root personality and I love her dearly, its just I wont her to grow into her own woman. The problem lies with the fact that I have to balance her just blindly agreeing with me and wanting her to really be her own person, because her parents didnt instill that into her as I have said. Poor wording I guess
Either way I doubt anything I do now, or anything she will end up doing later will bring us apart. We love eachother very much.
Also, I am feeling the bern very much, kek
>>17344130
I probably don't understand what you mean by that balancing between about agreeing with you and being her own person I guess.
I think it should all be about her being her own person. Relationships need to help each other grow. I hope you get things out of her too, and she helps you grow in your own way. Otherwise it's bit onesided.
you´re not influencing you´re manipulating coward who ruins people´s lives
>>17344140
OP here!
>a bit onesided
Yes thats the issue.
I am trying to make it not onesided. She has been a loner that was forced to hold in her opinions and emotions all her life and I believe it a natural tendancy of her to just agree because she trusts me and I trust her.
Also, because all humans at the root are selfish to varying degrees, there is slight comfort in simply letting her turn into me because that is how I feel safe. Its a natural condition of all humans to tend towards to safest option in all matters.
Know that I dont watch porn or shitpost on /pol/.
>>17344151
No, I do not manipulate. What I do I simply show her my interests, hobbies, tastes, likes and dislikes. My flaw is letting myself find comfort in the safety of her becoming me.
I do want her to be her own person. I feel I have been vary clear on this point
>>17344151
You're fucking clueless
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