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Rephrasing my question from last thread: how can i get my bf fond of the idea of having sex in public? Obviously not in a way that anyone can tell/see
Putting this in from the last thread.
To girls:
Would you consider it interest in a person if a girl often wants to chat with you and doesn't hesitate to message first (it's not such a big deal where I live but it's something) or just overall talk, is honest and open, can talk about both serious and funny/random things, jokes around and so on? I'm a fresh fool with low amount of social knowledge when it comes to these things.
Also should say that the girl we're talking about has said that she likes me/finds me interesting but that was a while ago and I'm not sure how it is now and how if I should even pursue such a conversation.
>>17343049
If he's not into it, then he's not into it
I like to have sex with sluts but I'm sure as hell I don't want to get involved with them in any serious way. This has led to problems, since some party girls want to date again while I don't find them worthy of more than one fuck.
Dating sluts but marrying a virgin (or close to that) girl is what I have in mind, but I wonder if my hypothetical nice-girl-wife would be bothered by my past.
Riddle me this: I had zero success with women all my life, no one ever gave sign of being interested in me, plus I'm extremely weird, poor and uncool, with cheap clothing, no tatoos, piercings, car or money
But since few months ago, I started attracting girls to the point I can't choose one, without doing fucking nothing. they just take the initiative to talk to me. damn, even a married older woman gave me her number
I'm even balding holy shit. what the hell is happening?
>>17343100
They might be, I you would have no right to complain or you'd be a hypocrite. You're as much as a slut as the girls you sleep with
>>17343102
Maybe because you're older, I suppose older women are more likely to be confident enough to come up to you?
>>17343100
Am close to a virgin (literally actually), and yes this would bother me. I am not looking for a viriginal partner but there's a difference between having had relationships and a life, the occasional one night stand, and someone who fucked around like a sleazebag but simultaneously feels like he's alright and the girls he fucks are scum. No, you are what you surround yourself with.
Everytime my gf is feeling upset/sad and doesn't feel like talking/texting I fear she'll end up dumping me. Even if she's upset over anything that has zero to do with me.
I know this is an irrational fear. How do I stop getting those?
>>17343049
Same guy from last thread.
If it is public the risk will always be there, just go to liveleak and see for yourself.
He might be morally against it too or simply doesn't find it hot.
Sounds hard to create interest in it.
>>17343049
I've been wanting to do this with my bf for a while. He recently deeply tinted his car windows to the point where you cannot see.
First time was really spur of the moment. We were actually at a family banquet, drinking and having fun. We went outside for a moment and everyone was inside, I could tell he was in that happy/horny buzzed state and we got in the back of the car, we didn't have sex because we didn't want the car to shake and have the embarrassing moment of a family member catching us. But I gave him a sensual bj in the car.
We've taken any chance we've gotten similar to this when it comes up. I think that spur of the moment scenario got him swooned on "public" sex.
>>17343123
>>17343083
Oh well. Thanks for your replies though
>>17343053
I'd say to not ask her interest through messaging or texting.
Ask her if she wants to hang out in person, have a good time, and just try to roll with it from there. Even if it's just blatantly asking if she has feels.
>>17343118
Look up techniques taught by therapists to help control/lessen unwanted thoughts and paranoia. Or see one yourself it's that bad and you can afford it
Why do I have better luck on tinder and with women in general in cities and states that I don't currently "live" in.
I live in AZ, but I'm in NC for business. I match left right and center in other cities but where I'm stationed its like pulling teeth for a decent woman to see me as approachable.
In other words - Women:
How do I boost my chances of finding someone tolerable where I live and how come its so different AND EASIER when I'm visiting somewhere out of town?
Bonus question: As a 5'3 male, How do I increase my masculine/sexy traits while at the same time not projecting. Its like a double edged sword - I just need help with it from the sex I'm trying to impress.
Dudes: The super charger kit for my car is around 6000 in parts, do I pull the trigger? Or do I build a 240z/280z datsun with an LS in it?
Bonus for guys: What the hell do you all do to keep your nails clean? I'm a helicopter mechanic and a huge turn off for me is having my nails dirty.
>>17343112
Maybe, but there are two highschool girls that I'm sure are into me. One gets clingy and calls my attention all the time, the other blushes and gets shy when I talk to her
>>17343124
We do have sex in the car and i've given him a hj in an airplane and yesterday i sucked his dick for a few seconds because we got very horny whilst bathing in a river.
I just love the excitement of the possibility to get caught. I just don't want to overwhelm him or get him into troubles.
>>17343143
Other thread guy here.
It seems to me that he has already at least some interest in it. Have you talked to him about it?
>>17343143
Problem is for some people the risk of getting caught is exciting, to others it's a complete turn off.
Why do women want Western men to act like betas while they jump on the cock of highly sexist refugees?
Forgive my wording:
Are most white American women crazy ass feminists? Are they all super liberal and hate white males?
Are their any that think this pc neo feminist bullshit is actual bullshit. I have the most respect for the original feminists and the courage they had.
Who is the majority?
>>17343157
this is a fucking mystery to me as well.
It's like since im white and I look at them the wrong its sexual assault. Refugees gang rape them and they dont report it.
Im pretty much given up on my race of women.
>>17343138
>How do I boost my chances of finding someone tolerable where I live and how come its so different AND EASIER when I'm visiting somewhere out of town?
This is some bizarre phenomena that I have no answer to. Could be your race if you're something "normal" in your hometown, but something exotic in where you travel to. Could be that a travelling man is more sexy than one just around the area. This might be appealing to women on tinder if they're just looking to hook up, they don't want to do it with someone they have the chance of running into often.
>Bonus question: As a 5'3 male, How do I increase my masculine/sexy traits while at the same time not projecting. Its like a double edged sword - I just need help with it from the sex I'm trying to impress.
My bf is about 5'4. I've never thought he's had any issues with his masculinity. He's got a nice muscular body. He's charismatic and confident. Never told me insecurities about his height. He usually laughed it off being the shortest person in high school and etc. Since I can tell it doesn't bother him, it makes me know that he's confident in his appearance.
Granted, I think this could be a population thing. Most guys in my area are not tall. Very rarely do I see a man over 5'10. And my preferred race of men, which is my bf's race, pacific islander, are generally not tall and I still find them attractive. So, short men have never been an issue for me attraction wise. I don't even consider height when I'm pursuing a man. I think a lot of girls dont. At least in my area since population here is mostly asian or mexican, there really isn't an array of tall men to pursue.
>>17343167
No they aren't the majority lmao
>>17343153
>>17343153
I sometimes watch amateur public porn and it happens a lot that the guys have difficulties even getting a boner/maintaining an erection/actually cumming. I suspect it's because they're anxious and that's a turn off for them. I don't get why they would even do it then. But i fear that i might slightly pressure my bf into it because it gets me so excited and he loves it when something gets me excited. Iow, i fear that he might just go with it because i like it, when in fact it doesn't do anything for him or even make him anxious. We have briefly talked about the topic and as far as i can recall, he was pretty neutral about it.
That's why i wanted to find out if guys in general are into public sex or if it's something seen as very risky and inappropriate
>>17343175
Thanks! Now to move where you live so I can find a qt who doesn't mind my height
>>17343167
Idk, I live in california and most of my female friends are generally liberal. I lean liberal too, but as for dating men, I'm not shoving my ideas down their throat, I usually keep my political thoughts to myself and only put it on the ballot.
They aren't like die white cis scum. Most of them actually date white men. But usually, liberal hippie dippie white men.
However, my sister is very liberal and a self identified feminist (although she isn't that radical) and she's dating a super conservative army guy.
However, my same-aged female cousins live in Indiana and they're all ridiculously conservative republicans. So it's really not all of america. I live in a highly liberal area. Of course, southern california suburbs is where you'll find the liberal women, generally progressive cities too.
>>17343132
Alright, thanks, I'll try to do it when we're in person. It'll only be September though, that's when she comes back from vacation and we'll also be going to our new school together, but I guess it'll do.
How would I go about this girl actually sharing a bed with me?
I'm taking her out for something to eat on Saturday evening and by the time I take her home, it'll probably be late.
Need a smooth way to get in her bed.
Posting this from reddit because they're fucking Austists. Tried to get genuine answers but got greeted with "muh triggered feely-boos."
To Ladies:
>When a guy who is younger than you asks you out or starts hitting on you, how do you react/feel?
replace guy with whatever your sexual preference is
>>17343344
>replace guy with whatever your sexual preference is
go back to le leddit pls
>>17343250
I could use an answer to this too...
>>17343351
she'a already in your bed with one asscheek. you would have to push her out again to not get her in. try to not be as cringey as you are normally and everything should be fine
>>17343344
How much younger?
He'd surely have some level of disadvantage. I usually get along better with people older than me, so unless he proved me he's alright I would be a bit meh about it.
I liked a guy who is 2 years younger than me (20, 22), but he's very stable and mature for his age.
>>17343034
girls and boys (I'm female myself but it is generic question)
If you are looking for a relationship are you searching something that lasts "forever"? Not for instance that you would like to try a relationship for a year but you know that you want to be alone after that and if you still get along, you'll be friends? Do you want children, marry, live together? Is it ok to have a relationship for some years if you are not that type that wants to live in one country and have continuous social contact with anyone?
I have never been around the same people even a year because I find it tiring and have lived in different countries and cities. I move almost every year. The only friends that I've had continuous contact with are from childhood but I speak to them rarely, often don't contact for a year and even the period we hang out I meet them maybe for couple of days and then I'm alone for months. Actually they are more like acquaintances than friends. I hate that homely feeling of being someone's girlfriend and having "my man", all that belonging thing. I am also asexual (but would probably try with someone I like), have never had any relationship or sex, kissed only because of social expectations and didn't understand what was happening because it was too fast. Have never felt any romantic/sexual jealousy, for me it makes more sense to ask them to "join" which is exactly how I approach new people too. Because I don't find all people interesting, I am amazed when someone I like finds someone else But mostly those other people are jealous and monogamous.
Do you think that having a relationship for 1-2 years or less is unfair for the other? Should I tell it before? It wouldn't be monogamous anyway, I'm not interested in sex but want to have close connections with many people, When my social period passes, I want to be alone, maybe move somewhere new where nobody know me.
Children and belonging together - when and how did you start to have that wish?
>>17343371
cont
Children usually don't want children or marry. When did your mind change that you want to be with one person, live together, date or have children? I thought for a long time that wanting children and marrying is learned social behavour to show that you are "normal" or some soviet custom, with rare exceptions. Children themselves want to become astronauts, entrepreneurs, famous actors and scientists, they rarely want just to repeat what everyone else has done before.
Btw I like children as people but that lifestyle path has already carried out for so many times and has a circular meaning - to have children so they could have children and so on. I think that most of everyday circular activities, like making the bed and brushing your teeth are pointless, so why to create more? You just have to do those but you wouldn't invent those unless absolutely necessary.
>>17343371
>belonging together - when and how did you start to have that wish?
as long as i can think.
you have intimacy issues. big ones. you might think you are a special snowflake and be happy without all that "normie shabang". but deep down you can't.
>>17343390
>everyday circular activities, like making the bed and brushing your teeth are pointless, so why to create more?
because humanity would go extinct if everyone thought the same way. and if a species makes herself go extinct on purpose, that's a perfect example of natural selection. you are one of a small percentage of humans that has already reached that level of degeneracy. lets all hope you stay in the minority. also, brushing teeth is not pointless unless you want your mouth rot to death. making your bed might be up for debate, though
>>17343344
Young boys are nice, my only objection is that they might get hurt. Not everyone does but when I remember how I was at that age I wouldn't mess with young boys (18-24).
I am over 30 but younger boys often think I'm around their age. I find it very unethical to fool them that way because I don't really need anyone specific and am much more disconnected than I was when younger.
>>17343049
>being this whorish
Disgusting.
You are the reason some men hate women.
>>17343412
>fool them that way
how would it be "fooling them"?
>>17343110
>You're as much as a slut as the girls you sleep with
Not really. I put a lot of effort into picking up girls. Girls just go along.
>>17343394
It is funny how the term "special snowflake" is used. Human genetic code is much more rare than a structure of snowflake and that doesn't take the life experience into account.
If you think that I'm this tumblr or r9k person who hates the opposite sex and is bitter or has learned this behaviour being online you are not really right. There have always been people who are attracted to hermit lifestyle. Who think their creation is more important than having social contact just to look normal. Caring about friends is a totally different thing, you can be a loner and still help anyone who needs the help. You can still be gentle to your friends, ask them how they are, talk to them but be alone on daily basis.
I am actually autistic, that's true. But I'm happy that way "deep down". You can take it as extreme introversion where you need a lot of alone time to load your batteries.
>>17343420
>19 thinks 30 is 20
>30 plays as 20
Has anyone here gotten together with a girl after they dumped or rejected him?
Asking because I'm trying to win back a girl after I fucked up and was being needy.
>>17343420
I don't know, I just asume that they are as naive and sensitive like I was when I was younger. Besides, I'm always worrying too much about the other person because I need to make sure they won't get hurt. My own feelings are so unreliable.
>>17343417
>some men
glad you could contain yourself and add "some"
>>17343430
Not the same person.
You are are not sure of your priorities, it seems.
You really need to do some introspection.
Some questions you asked have very clear answers but i can't answer them right now, i'll come again later.
>>17343421
You think that matters? You've still slept around regardless
>>17343397
You are implying that the existence of human species has some intrinsic value. That is not what I believe in so I can't really argue with you. I think that every human who is living now should have normal living conditions and enjoy their life, but that's it.
>>17343100
I had one partner.
I wouldn't date someone who slept around, and of course I wouldn't marry him.
First, I think it's very hypocritical to expect your partner to hold herself to standards you're not able to hold yourself to.
Second, I don't want to date people who have different views from mine on sex and dating. To me, sex is a way of sharing myself with someone I love, a moment of intimacy, a way to show my feelings. I don't date every person I find attractive, and I didn't have sex with every person I dated. I want someone with a similar mindset.
>>17343452
All that is very vague and can be said about everything. I hope you'll give some concrete examples later.
>>17343431
either i missed something or you misundersttod something, because i haven't seen anybody imply they lead young guys on by making them believe they are younger than they really are.
>>17343473
>I am over 30 but younger boys often think I'm around their age. I find it very unethical to fool them that way
That's what i got from what she said.
>>17343430
>extreme introversion where you need a lot of alone time to load your batteries.
i can respect that. infact, i'd say the same about me. i also don't think you are either of those things
> tumblr or r9k person who hates the opposite sex and is bitter or has learned this behaviour being online
however, what i DO think is that you should not try to convince yourself that this is healthy behaviour. it is not.
you asked if we have had that drive to life the "socially accepted" lifestly all our lifes or if it suddenly appeared. no, it didn't. it's true that kids want to become astronauts and actors and scientists. but they also want to be a mommy and a daddy and they also want to be a garbage truck man and the guy working at mcdonalds because he might get to take the leftovers home after work. what's ACTUALLY true, is that kids don't have the drive to search for realtinoships with the opposite gender (girls stink phase). that's not because it's a "learned social behaviour" but simply becuase they haven't reached puberty yet. if you grow up without ever wishing to be a mommy or daddy, then that is weird. and yes, i'm serious. i worked with loads of kids at all ages and it's extremely unusual that kids don't have a deep rooted wish to care for little babies. even kids that are almost still babies themselfes. and it's also very unusual to not be interested in the other gender once you hit puberty. and if you already hit puberty with a bitterness about love (as in, i only want relationships to last one year tops), then there are major bonding and intimacy issues at work. my sister used to say she never wants kids or get married. she's now married and has two kids. the reason she said that was because my parents had a really horrible relationship and she couldn't imagine it being something worth having.
>>17343481
>I find it very unethical to fool them that way
well, if she doesn't correct the,, then yes, that's pretty fucked up. agreed.
>>17343455
>intrinsic value
i'm actually not. what i'm implying is that all depate about the meaning of life, every species has an instinct to procreate. if a specie suddenly starts to lose that instinct, it's doomed. i never said it's a problem if humanity is doomed to go extinct. just that it would if the percentage of people with that mindset would go up drastically. if that's a thing to be sad about or not is a whole other discussion. for the sake of this anons question, lets assume that whether or not human life has intrinsic value, the single individual still has a drive to try and be "happy".
Where can I torrent the Sims 3 for my shitty old iMac?
>>17343100
They almost certainly will be. I'm a virgin and I would not have chosen my SO of he wasn't also a virgin.
You need to have the same values to have a successful relationship, and someone who sleeps around does not have the same values as someone who chooses not to.
From a guy to both genders:
I work at a gas station part-time and my side business is flourishing. I seen maybe 5-7 chicks come in my gas station on the verge of crying because they got kicked out of their homes. They often use my phone since my coworkers distrust the public. Since I currently rent a house alone, would it be creepy to tell a chick that she can live there? No strings attached. I'm lonely and don't want the police to be the first to find out I'm dead when I die because I have colon cancer.
Long-winded question.
>>17343582
Offering is not creepy, but you have to consider the female perspective. If you move in with a guy who offered you a place when you were desperate, that gives him leverage over you and places you in a kind of uncomfortable position. Will there be any expectations? There are guys who would expect sex for that. There are guys who would not expect sex yet still feel irrationally fucked over if she started bringing a guy back to their place. It's a risky bet and a woman would need to be sincerely desperate and confident in her intuition, or just all around stupid, to go with this.
So don't take it personally when you get shot down, and propose it as practically as possible. Stress that you have rent covered so she can look for a job in peace - do not offer rent free living. Say you were considering roommates anyway. Basically try to make it seem as casually and non-heroic as possible. If you present yourself as the deus ex machina, you are likely to scare off the sensible women and be left with opportunists.
my bf usually cums pretty quickly when we have sex. he's insecure about it. how can i easy his mind so he believes me that i DO enjoy our sexlife?
>>17343599
I can totally understand that, but what if I presented the truth to the chick? Exactly as I've done here. I mean, I can always help with getting back on her feet. Would I be wrong to ask for housework in exchange for rent-free living? Housework such as cooking, cleaning, and basically being a stay-at-home wife without the relationship.
I actually fear a relationship coming out of this more than I fear rejection. Having 6-24 months to live means I could go through trial and error until the cousin of death becomes death itself.
>>17343671
I had a whole reply typed out but only now realized that you actually have cancer, I read it as you not wanting to die alone at some point and wanting to change your lifestyle early on. I'm sorry to hear that.
Then yeah, everything's fair game.
>>17343582
the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Question. for all the femanons here. Tell me what you think are
>approvable traits
>unapprovable/beta/omega traits
in a guy. I need this, and people don't answer me when I ask.
>>17343707
> I need this, and people don't answer me when I ask.
This is bad
>beta/omega trait
This is worse
>>17343707
I don't see the point in listing shit. Also, every person has their flaws, not just things that are imperfect but also things that are really fucking irritating for their surroundings. What matters at the end of the day is whether you can redeem yourself with your qualities and your overall stance in and towards life, not whether your pros outweigh your cons on paper or whatever.
Having said that to me the primary qualities of a stand up man (or woman, for that matter) are taking yourself seriously in life, holding yourself to standards, taking responsibilities. When you don't (always) need others to kick you in the ass before you realize that you might be lacking in an area of life or the way you treat others. When you are not just passively going through life focused on what you want others to do for you, but also are involved with the kind of person you want to be, what you want to offer to others and/or your community. Having the courage to really face yourself, and then both the compassion to forgive yourself and the ambition to better yourself.
If you are true to your own nature but also looking to bring out the best in yourself, at the end of the day it matters little whether you're extroverted or introverted, whether you care more about relationships with people or about your career, whether you are emotionally sensitive or thick. You can work with everything as long as you want to and are more interested in doing that than in blaming others and making excuses.
This is what makes me respect a person the most. All concrete traits I appreciate beyond this have more to do with practical compatibility with me than with any moral judgment.
>>17343691
So I'm guessing you're saying to go all-in at every chance I get? I mean I wouldn't really tell the truth about why I'm doing something like this unless the chick asks me.
Being able to play the "cancer" card is good in theory, but I also learned that not all people will be sympathetic. Coworker taught me that the hard way.
>>17343704
Since I was 13, I made myself happy by helping others. Since I was diagnosed, some of my seemingly "good" intentions have become more selfish and/or incriminating.
I'm 20.
For all femanons.
What makes you attracted to a guy ? I mean what is the border between liking a guy and feeling attracted to him ? Did it ever happened to you that you started feeling attracted to a guy , which you have known for a long time because of something, meanwhile before you never thought of him in thaat way?
>>17343743
I'd say suggest it to someone you have a good feeling about it, open up that you are dying if she shows distrust. I don't see another way, or well, maybe it will work out for the time you still have left but the women who won't hesitate to live rent free for a random man just for some cleaning are not the people you want to be around usually. It is normal to want to pull your weight and be on equal foot with someone especially if they already did you a big favor.
>>17343743
It would be nice of you to offer, just careful how you go if you're doing it because you are lonely. I wouldn't expect anyone to immediately move in long term with you like it seems you want, but maybe for a few days until you get back on your feet
>>17343744
Yes, I was best friends with my SO for years before I started having more feelings. He's the only person I've ever felt this towards, so I think it's safe to say I need that initial close friendship and lots of time for any romantic feelings to grow.
>>17343034
My real first name is Brandon lol
>>17343744
Immediate attraction is impossible to pinpoint. It has to do with the little things like how someone moves, the vibe you get from them, their smile and the look in their eyes, their smell.
Sure, if I see a hot guy it doesn't take much for me to feel some level of attraction. But with the people I really immediately get that "I want to fuck you" feeling for, not just recognizing and sensing that they -are- conventionally attractive but feeling hot and naturally imagining your bodies pressed together, that's always had to do with that je ne sais quoi.
I typically grow more attracted to every guy I know as long as I like them. I have recently started to feel a bit too physically attracted to a friend I used to find absolutely unattractive when we met years ago. It's a combination of factors, he has become more mature and pleasant than when he was a teen, his acne cleaned up, I have grown more fond of him and he gained a bit of weight (which I like).
I think this is pretty common, look up the mere exposure effect. People appreciate people (and things in general) more the more they see them.
You can also start seeing people in a different light or notice physical things about them you never did before. Especially if you suddenly realized that you have more in common than you thought you did, or you witness them do something that intrigues you and makes you realize they could be an interesting person.
>>17343049
maybe I'm just a pervert, but I don't see this being that difficult. Take what he likes behind closed doors and do that in public. For example, if he gets really turned on by dirty talk, then whispering something sexual to him(i'm not wearing any panties, i really want you inside me right now, etc) in public should open him up to it
>>17343744
I have various levels of attraction.
The most basic one is finding someone attractive. Which is pretty meaningless and easily forgettable.
Then there's the... spark, I guess. I usually either develop it immediately, or after a while if we start to flirt and stuff and we click emotionally and mentally.
Then there is actually liking someone - which is the "spark" + liking someone's personality and his body. Then eventually love.
>>17343763
then fuck off
>>17343747
If I sound desperate, I'm all for it honestly. I understand the usual situation with wanting roommates to carry their own weight. Honestly, I got no family and no bright-future friends so the person that would want to accompany me for the remainder of my life would be given roughly $10k in physical, real-world possessions and another $8k++ if they chose to sell my business instead of letting my partners keep running it.
Also the type of chicks that are locked out of their houses are 16-24 y/o and can actually hold intelligent conversations. Even though most of them wore slutty clothing, these chicks seem like they just need guidance that their parents never gave them so they use their beauty as a front.
>>17343798
I fully understand what you're saying but I do think that you need to realize that the cancer card is the one thing that turns this from odd, shady deal into completely human and reasonable. So I would go for it anyway and take the risk that someone gets scared off.
>>17343186
it shouldnt matter if hes not "into" it as long as hes not completely turned off about it. There are things that I'm neutral about but my gf enjoys, so I do it just because it gets her off. Not to mention, if your bf really does care about you (and your pleasure) he will start to like it because you like it.
For example, if it was up to me, I would never choke my gf or really get off on it, but it makes her super horny. So when we're going at it and things are good and all of a sudden my hand is around her throat and she reacts, that reaction gets me off, not the action that made it happen. Hope that helps/makes sense
>>17343798
Also just wanted to add, in case you get a younger girl make sure that you leave her money in a way that she won't be able to access (or only up to a smaller amount) for a while. If she's young and lost and you give her a in her eyes small fortune, that's very high risk in terms of becoming a serious addict. Smoothe this over legally to minimize the risk that it's used destructively.
>>17343803
Would you still be saying that regardless of the chick's age? From against the law to have a sexual encounter with to someone who I may potentially outlive (drugs, age, conditions, etc).
>>17343810
If it's someone younger than me, I thought about hiring someone like Saul Goodman to send cash to her every week until the money runs out... if my partners liquidate the business in the future, that is.
when my girlfriend is sad she just shuts down, doesn't want to talk to me about how she feels. this lends me to feel guilt although it isn't about me
how can I help her? I always tell her that I'll be there if she needs to call me or whatever, but never does. Am I supposed to just let her be until she stands up again in her own?
Ladies: Why do girls want me to add them on snapchat?
It's cause they're interested, right?
>>17343787
>>17343765
>>17343758
I very appreciate your insights so i will dig deeper:
So there is this girl, we have know each other for sometime (>3 years). For me shes really attractive and basically the most interesting girl I've ever met. I've never been good in most social situations, having a twin made things even worse ( not knowing how are you talking too is harsh for some people) which lead me to some cringy situations with her, but it all was forgotten. The thing that stayed was the fact that she knows i'm into her, and pretty much ignores this fact which has it pluses and minuses.By the way she acts i cant see any rays of hope in the near future.
I wonder if there is something I can do other than constantly improving myself little by little ?
>>17343629
bump
>>17343813
Honestly yeah. Perhaps my judgment is not that exemplary in this regard because I had a safe and sheltered childhood and would not easily get wrapped up in a situation like this to begin with, but I'd get suffocated just entertaining the idea of a guy expecting practical favors in return for rent free living. I'd feel like it was a ticking time bomb until he expected me to fall in love with him or at least have sex with him, and that even if that didn't happen I'd be trapped in forcible gratitude for a huge favor I couldn't possibly return. Whereas with more context it is perfectly clear how valuable simply my company and attention would be.
Ultimately it's up to your judgment of course.
>>17343462
I'm too tired to write what i wanted fully so i'll be brief.
You seem to think you can only be intimate if you are in relationship, but you can. It feels like you want a true friend.
People want to be with their SO either forever or want to see how it goes, but nobody enters a relationship with an expected expiration date.
Kids like kids
Not everybody wants to have kids and there is no exact time to change this view if it ever happens.
People start to want relationships when they reach puberty; that's when they start to want an intimacy that friendship doesn't provide.
>>17343847
I never really thought about how the other end would feel if things were to work out smoothly through this situation. You've actually made me think about it and I'd probably have to focus more on the value of receiving attention rather than my nature of giving attention.
Now all I need is a clone of you in Michigan to make the most of my time heh.
>>17343838
I'm afraid there's nothing you can do. Part of the issue is that she knows that you like her. As awful as it sounds, people are typically pretty firmly rooted in how they see others. A typical example would be the family reunion, where the kid brother is still being talked over and humored despite being an accomplished person now. You don't perceive people objectively, and to them 10-20 years of having him around as the baby in the house leaves a bigger impression than what would technically be their first impression if they met him today.
She has you mentally written off as a suitor whose interest she does not reciprocate. And the bleak reality is that only something dramatic could make her update that impression - if you were to get a girlfriend, for example, and she sees another girl go crazy over you, it's likely that she puts herself in her shoes and suddenly realizes your appeal. But if you keep just doing gradual things, she won't catch up and adjust her image of you, you're too familiar for that.
So as depressing as it is, I would advise to just try to move on with your life and keep improving yourself without necessarily having her in mind.
>>17343731
Thanks femanon, but I just can't help but think, by default, that almost all women only want Chad and that almost all women are very shallow and cruel. But I will study your words in greater detail later.
>>17343870
You're welcome, I hope you find a way to create some beautiful experiences and indeed make the most of it. Good luck!!
>>17343883
Thank you, getting a GF is doable but at the same time kinda meaningless with my current mindset. Thus I will try to focus on things I have control over.
My girlfriend takes forever to reply to texts. I know she's bad with replying back, but I don't hear back from her in hours sometimes, whereas I reply within a minute. Is it petty to do what she does, and take equally as long to reply back? I'm hoping she'd recognize what's going on and hopefully change her ways.
>>17344014
Yes
Unless you've texted her something important, she's not obliged to text you back instantly. If she's bad at texting like you say she might not enjoy it. If it really bothers you then speak to her instead of playing games
>>17344025
I've brought it up once or twice before. She said she'd work on texting a little quicker, but there hasn't really been much change.
>>17344029
When my boyfriend tried to play that game with me, I bitched at him that I'm not always looking at my phone, that I have a life too and made him realize he too sometimes takes hours to reply when he doesn't feel like saying anything or is just busy with whatever else, just like me. Ever since then he's stopped being an insecure bitch and has adjusted to my pace, and he doesn't freak out when I don't reply for hours just like I've never freaked out when he didn't reply for hours either. You should stop being an insecure petty little bitch too.
>>17344093
Well put
Girls, I think I'm a fun person to be around but I'm sort of a prude. I don't like things like drinking or smoking. To me the best times are smallish get togethers with good friends. I'm also prudish with relationships. I like going out and doing outdoorsy stuff like hiking but I'm reserved and don't believe in sex before marriage. So my question is what should I do when I transfer from cc to a state school. I want to make friends and date bit I want to meet girls that think like me. I guess this applies to guys too as friends but where can I meet girls who are more reserved and not into party culture on campus?
>>17343034
Question for girls:
I've been casually dating this girl for a couple of months. She's Japanese and shy af so it hasn't progressed in any way whatsoever. But we've had some long-ass conversations about every deep topic under the sun. We've talked about what we want from the future, what age we want to be married by etc. and we've pretty much always been on the same page.
I've been feeling for a while that she likes me, and I've started liking her pretty seriously. Today there was a massive misunderstanding between us because my attempt at subtlety couldn't jump the language barrier, and to save it I had to do something completely out of character.
Basically I replied to her message detailing the misunderstanding and just coming completely clean about my feelings towards her, bluntly and openly.
I feel like a total pussy. Generally I prefer to be more subtle and do things in person. But the language and immediacy of it caused me to act like a child and just be like "I like you" in a text message. Feeling gay af.
My question:
If you were dating a guy and slowly beginning to like him, and he sent you a text message telling you he liked you and wanted to be your boyfriend, would that turn you off?
>>17344108
>I don't like things like drinking or smoking. To me the best times are smallish get togethers with good friends.
This can generally be worked around, and there are lots of girls who are okay with this and feel the same
>I'm also prudish with relationships.
>don't believe in sex before marriage.
This is more of a problem. Even 'conservative' girls like affection and sex. Your best bet is to date someone who's a virgin for religious reasons.
>>17344111
Jesus even explaining it on here makes me sound like a high school kid.
>>17344111
>>17344117
Normally? Yes. But I'm not her, and from my understanding of Japanese culture (which admittedly comes from anime and manga consumed during my teen age years), that sort of thing is fine.
>>17344113
Do religious girls really make up the majority or ones willing to wait for marriage? At first I believed this but recently I think it's not really the case. Few girls are religious and most don't even believe they should wait, whereas I know non religious girls that are dating and holding out until marriage.
>>17344111
You've been dating. Are you this awkward?
>>17344125
I was in a LTR relationship from 16 to 21. This is my first time actually dating. My only experience starting a relationship happened in high school. Yeah I'm awkward af.
>>17344118
Kind of makes me feel better, thanks. I guess I'll see how she replies in the morning.
>>17344120
I honestly wouldn't know. I can't imagine that they wouldn't be though, most non-religious virgins I know are only virgins because they don't feel like they've found the right guy. The girls I've heard of who are waiting for marriage tend to be the sort that believe relationships should be like Disney and will settle for nothing less.
>>17344150
The ones are waiting for the right guy are fine desu, I'm not actually concerned as much about marriage than someone who is waiting for the person they are serious about. It's not like it needs to be after our wedding night.
>>17344120
Depends what religion. Get yourself a Muslim girl.
>>17343034
why women want a man that doesnt want them and why you treat men like shit if they do want you?
oh yeah and how you´d prefer a man to appreach you, in the bar casually or at some other place? regards trying to get couple one night fucks before giving dating a chance.
ps. what turns you on about a man?
>>17344163
Well are you against sex before marriage or not? Girls who are waiting for the right guy and girls who are waiting for marriage are waiting for different things
>>17343113
>i have no experience in this area but this is what i think
he wasn't talking to you
>>17344174
Sorry I only say marriage because if u don't people suddenly ask if any "serious relationship is okay" even though serious to me is not the same as serious to many others. So both are okay with me, but when I say serious I mean similar to marriage, not some 2 year highschool relationship.
>>17344188
Well I'd say most girls are fine with that then, and there are definitely similar girls out there. They do tend to be the more quieter, or, if I'm being brutally honest, the less attractive ones, though. You may also have a problem where your idea of a 'serious relationship' is not the same as theirs and they want to have sex before you do or vice versa
>>17344199
When they feel ready is something I'd just discuss with them. I also don't mind if a girl isn't that pretty, so long as she isn't fat. So my question is still where I can meet them on campus. I would guess things like art clubs or libraries? I'm open to other hobbies too.
>>17344208
I have a couple of friends who are the sort you're looking for. One likes to go out for walks and hikes or to the gardens in her city. I don't know how happy she'd be to be approached by a random guy though, and I know she's definitely not the type to give her number to a random stranger. Another is pretty plain, and if she's out, it's usually with more attractive friends. She's pretty reserved when it comes to guys too, and she doesn't take much initiative.
To be honest, I think you're asking a lot, unless there's been some sort of misunderstanding.
>>17344218
I've been asking a lot? You mean for a lot?
Guys, what do you think of your girlfriend hanging out with a guy friend one on one? Something like getting lunch together
question for the ladys:
I'm in love with the sister of my sisters boyfriend.
The thing is she didnt really notice me much since the relationship started and she got a boyfriend. Also i got some self esteem problems. Well with some training i could get over my self esteem problems and also wait for her relationship to break, but i dont know how to get near her to be like friend or something, without making it to obvious that i want to date her or without making it looking weird that i want to be friends with her.
btw sry for my english i hope you can understand me, sadly english is not my mothertounge.
>>17344228
I mean you're expecting a lot more than is realistic
>>17344234
I assume your question is "what do I do?" to which my answer is "anything but your plan."
Don't hover around her waiting for her to break up with her boyfriend, that's stupid. You're literally putting your life on hold for something that may not even happen. It's going to be super obvious you're an orbiter too.
>>17344234
The best advice I can say is: give up on her, find someone you're comfortable talking to, who's single.
Second best advice: Do this "training" to improve your self esteem before even thinking about it. Starting a relationship with low self-esteem sucks for both people.
Worst advice: Ask your sister to try and hook you up.
>>17344231
I don't like it, but I keep it out of my mind because I know it's normal to have friends and I don't want to be consumed with jealousy. Gotta fight that shit.
>>17344236
Why is it unrealistic? It's not like I'm asking for someone who makes a lot of money, is really attractive or, works super hard. I just want an average looking girl who likes spending time with me and has similar morals/views. I personally don't feel like it's asking for much. I personally actually look pretty good, am fit, doing well, and still easily fit what I'd want in a partner. I'm not trying to be arrogant but I feel like what I'm looking for isn't really difficult to be. I'm not asking for great genes or success.
>>17344231
first thought i had is she´s cheating but then again you´re allowed to have male friends and i´m allowed to have female friends. lunch is okay and um, if it´s more than that for love of god do not get caught okay coz that´s the point where the guy just has to kick his ass
>>17344171
Different reasons for different people. It could be that they're scared of actual intimacy and thus stick to people who are distant. It can be that they like the chase more than a relationship. It can be insecurity, the whole "I don't want to be part of a club that will have me as a member" mentality.
Treating someone like shit for no reason is just a cuntish thing to do, no justification for it.
Not sure how valuable this is as I'm not open to casual sex, but personally I'd prefer it if a guy struck up conversation and was a bit flirty (doing the up and down glance without hiding it, making flirty comments, steering the topic a bit towards sex if a possibility arises) but didn't go right in with hitting on me very sexually.
Having said that I told you my position so this is just my two pennies, perhaps a girl who not only wants casual sex but seeks it out herself would be long glad with immediate honesty.
Deep voices. Confidence. Laugh lines. Being secure in/open but not obnoxious about their sexuality, like when you catch them checking a woman out and they just give that "guilty" grin. Bodyhair, especially the way their happy trail blends into their pubes, and facial hair. Their hands. Full body laughing, stretching, yawning. Playfulness - bonus points if they go all out with making an ass out of themselves to entertain a kid. Being cute with animals. Their smell, nothing wrong with a good male fragrance but especially just the natural smell of their skin and sweat. When they tease me, banter. Dimpled cheeks, scars. Being able to dance. Being passionate about the things they love. Being a good conversational partner with surprising observations. When they sit with their hands draped around their crotch (not to the point of being blatant and douchey). Certain accents. A personal style and well fitted clothes. When they make noise during sex.
>>17344231
Case-by-case basis. I have several female texting friends, but I don't hang out with them irl, especially not alone. If there were any indication the dude is into her (no, you're not a good judge of this), I would not be pleased.
>>17344108
You sound like me. My only advice is good fucking luck.
>>17343100
You're a whore; stick to your own kind, degenerate.
How do I be less insecure in a relationship? I posted this yesterday, but my last relationship left me fucked up, and I'm having some serious issues with insecurity in my new relationship. I'm happy, she's happy, but I just sometimes get this awful feeling in my stomach and my insecurities and fears just hit me like a fucking truck.
>>17344259
It's unrealistic because your morals and views severely limit the girls you're going to date. Add on your other criteria, plus the likelihood of finding someone who you're compatible with for the 'serious relationship' you're after, PLUS the fact that you're a reserved person who prefers small intimate gatherings among existing friends. And you haven't said whether you want the girl to be a virgin, but if you do, that just adds more restrictions.
All of this together makes it really quite unlikely you'll find a girl to date. I'm not saying you need to lower your standards or anything, but you need to compromise somewhere. Something like putting yourself out there more could be enough.
>>17344284
I mean even if I'm shy, if my only choice is to talk to more people I'll do it. Finding a girl to be my partner in life is really important to me so I'd even look outside the country if I need to.
I've been texting this one girl and it's been going well. We plan on meeting up soon. The thing is, and this is completely coming from me, I plan to move within the next 3 years (probably 3 years to be exact). Is this something I should bring up? I've never dated before and this is probably as close as I've ever gotten and if I wait to move and then see what's out there, I'll be in my upper 20s with no experience whatsoever.
>>17344292
>if my only choice is to talk to more people I'll do it.
Then go for it. Just be aware that there's no guarantee that you'll find a girl of the kind you're looking for, it just increases your chances of doing so
>Finding a girl to be my partner in life is really important to me
That's fair enough, but don't make that your lifelong mission. Don't get caught up in notions of 'soulmates' or 'The One'
>I'd even look outside the country if I need to.
Unless you live in Europe where other countries are a 30 minute drive away, don't do this.
>>17344307
>Unless you live in Europe where other countries are a 30 minute drive away, don't do this.
Not him, but some of us have already resigned ourselves to importing.
Girls
If youve been seeing a guy (not dating, but "seeing") regularly for over a month. Would that cause you to stop caring about all guys all together, including a male friend?
This girl I've been friends with for over a year started seeing some guy (she claims they arnt "dating" but obviously they are banging) and it seems around the time they started having sex, we haven't been talking very much. It hurts my feelings quite a bit to be honest. This girl is a important person in my life, infact, I spent a bit of money and I'm going to be visiting her area and we were planning to go on a short trip together this fall. I'm starting to worry because we talk so little now, I'm worried she is abandoning me. Although I trust her so much. Is this normal?
I'm tempted to message her and ask if she still wants to see me, and if she doesn't care about me anymore..
>>17344342
When people start dating or 'seeing' someone, they tend to put their friends second. It's normal. Stop being so needy.
>>17344342
This is pretty normal behavior, it's not nice but a lot of people develop blinders when they are in the extreme infatuation/honeymoon stage with someone they are starting a relationship with. Chances are she'll come around once the novelty has worn off.
Having said that, it does sound like you are way more invested in this friendship than she is. You say that you spent (a lot of?) money to visit her, has she ever done something like that for you?
>>17343629
idk, just sound enthusiastic about it
>>17344231
not really cool with it, but if she's going to cheat she's going to do it one way or another
>making out with this girl
>when we stop I look at her
>she looks away
>''don't look at me''
What does this means? She did the same when we were walking down the street. I mean, I'm not ugly, and I know she's into me.
>>17344379
She sounds awkward. Probably just self conscious.
>>17344231
In a way I wouldn't like it but I don't want to be someone who says they cannot have no friends of the opposite sex. If they cheat, it's their fault for not controlling themselves.
I was in a situation where I had 1 or 2 female friends who I met up with for a bite to eat but my ex took it as me taking them on a date. I let her see 2 of her male friends and she ends up kissing them.
>>17344371
She said "I started seeing a guy a month ago, we aren't really "dating". I might start a relationship with him, but who knows. I'm young, and anything can happen". It irritates me because she never even told me she was seeing a guy. Obviously, I don't own her or anything, I don't expect to know every single aspect of her life. But it kind of hurt she didn't tell me this, especially after she's already known that I like her. We both know a relationship between us won't work. But I don't know why she would hide this..
She hasn't had the ability to visit me yet because of money, but she has been saying for the past year she's saving so she can come visit me next year. I want to visit her this fall, and bought tickets and everything already. but since we talk so little now, it hurts. Like. She will read my texts, and won't reply for HOURS. Even tho it shows her online. yet just a few months ago, and especially when we first met. We would talk nonstop all day long. And she's been so nice to me in the past, and done sweet things for me that she didn't need to do. She did them because she wanted to.
I just feel bad because she's a important friend to me. I know we won't be in a relationship. I'm ok with her dating people, but it hurts that we talk so little now. She's been the most significant friend I've had in a very long time..
Do guys get put under pressure from their families/ mothers to reproduce? Not just to settle down but demands to provide grandchildren and be guilt tripped at all
Serious question
>>17344398
>It irritates me because she never even told me she was seeing a guy
Why should she? Especially considering
> she's already known that I like her.
> I'm ok with her dating people
Clearly not if you're so upset about this. And what do you expect her boyfriend would think about her talking to you so much?
>>17344403
My boyfriend's parents have started joking about grandkids, but it's not serious, especially considering we're only 23
>>17344403
My exes mom did that. My bf's mom hints at it too, but in an acceptable way. I guess most moms would like to be a grandma sometimes. My one ex was an only child, so there was some pressure about being her only hope for grandkids. The other ex was the only son, so the pressure was to "pass down the family name".
>>17344411
>And what do you expect her boyfriend would think about her talking to you so much?
:(..... Yeah I understand.. It's just, when we first met she was in a relationship. And he was ok with us talking often.
this really sucks :(
>>17344398
I don't mean this in an accusative way because it's understandable, but I think you are in denial about still having feelings for her and not liking her dating someone else.
It is normal to not appreciate it in a friendship if something like this comes up, but it's not normal to care this much, most people can shrug it off when their friend does something less than ideal. You sound very invested in this friendship in a way that makes me think you're not as over her as you ideally would be.
>>17344403
I do.
"You're getting old and running out of time," tells me my mother all the time. "It will be hard, dearie, to raise children at fifty, and at your current rate, I'll be dead by the time you procreate."
In all seriousness, she's told me a few times that she has given up on me, and she tried to set me up with a single mother since it is, according to her, the only way she'll ever get grandchildren.
I do get plenty of family members asking what's wrong with me or if I'm gay too.
I used to work in an office where I was the only one who wasn't married, so I got teased incessantly by my superiors. "Hey, when are you getting married? It's about time you get on that." "Oh, that anon, he's never getting married!" I had the president of the company tell everyone I'm going to be bachelor until my mid-40s.
>>17344411
>>17344415
My mom used to pressure my ex. "Next time you two party, tell him not to wear a party hat."
How do you make friends when you've lost all your old ones?
>>17344403
my mother is the grandmother of 9 children (all my brothers and sisters kids) and I still know she'd be disappointed in me if I never had kids.
A man who never reproduces is not a real man.
>>17344431
I'll admit, I'm not over her. And honestly, I don't think I ever will be. I told her that I support her as long as she is happy. As long as she is happy with this guy, than that is what matters to me and she has my support.
What makes me feel bad is everything's changed. I'll send her a message, she'll read it, and reply hours or in some cases, DAYS later. Even tho it shows her online or other stuff. we used to be very close and we would talk about everything. I've told her more than some of my friends who I've known forever. We've helped each other when we were down. and motivated each other.
It just feels like it's all going away, her friendship is special to me. Even tho she's seeing some guy, I don't want to lose her friendship. I don't even know if that is what is happening. It's just this is all so different.
But I DO accept the fact she will eventually get a boyfriend, which in this case she's seeing someone.
>>17344426
Get some more friends and stop being so invested in this one friendship, because this is how you get hurt
>>17344441
>
I used to work in an office where I was the only one who wasn't married, so I got teased incessantly by my superiors. "Hey, when are you getting married? It's about time you get on that." "Oh, that anon, he's never getting married!" I had the president of the company tell everyone I'm going to be bachelor until my mid-40s.
This is what lies ahead for me... I don't want to get married. Hell, I already get criticized because I don't want a girlfriend. But now I'm going to have to deal with this shit my whole life? :(
>>17344441
Cringe at that party hat comment.
>>17344461
No, they didn't tease me because I don't want to get married. They teased me because I do.
>>17344403
yes, and varying degrees of seriousness. Mom/aunts/sister really push it, but the male half of my family understands
I'm gun-shy as fuck around relationships/intimacy thanks to a false accusation, so the familial pressure makes me want to be buried alive
>>17344454
fuck..
It's really not easy to get friends.. But, yeah, I'm fucking hurt if this is what I thinks happening.
I just sent her a long message. I hope she actually responds to it. fuck my life
would you date a guy 8 years older than you?
>>17344475
I was diagnosed with PCOS I suspected I had for years and after years of being terrified of the idea of being a teenage mum, so much so I had no intention of having sex until I was at least out of uni, I realised I may not be able to have children anyway so accepted I may not have any.
Since I left my teens, my childhood idea of having kids left and I have no interests and more scared of the idea of me being a mum, or worse, trying to and not being able to if my PCOS is that bad.
My sister is gay and has never had any interest in having kids before or after coming out until recently, where she has been dangling a carrot of the possibility at my mum of having some somehow as many of her gay friends have had kids recently.
My mum was very strict about me going out incase I messed around. Now she is saying I should skip my pill and even suggested sleeping around behind my bf to get pregnent to give her grandkids. You can imagine the arguments that followed.
Guys why would you ask someone this?
I met a neighbor a month back at a housewarming party and he seemed friendly but we didn't talk much and he stared at me a bit. Then we bumped into each other today at another party and the first thing out of his mouth was 'Hey do you remember my name?' with an almost condescending tone.
That just rubbed me the wrong way for some reason but why would that be the first thing you say to someone? Is he self centered?
>>17344494
Depends how old I was.
I used to work with a girl who started dating her partner when she was 17 and he was nearly 30. They have been together nearly 10 years and happy.
I'm just over 30 now and would consider it more than I would have in my late teens.
>>17344494
>would you date a guy 8 years older than you?
Yes, I am dating someone 9 years older than me.
But we match perfectly and we're an amazing couple, and incredibly in love with each other.
>>17344506
Sounds like a colossal knob to me in the negative way.
>>17344498
well, cheers for being pressured into situations we have no interest/business being in
>>17344509
>I'm just over 30 now
I'd say you should date any dude who is willing at that point.
>>17344506
women do this too
>>17344511
oh good, I couldn't articulate why it rubbed me the wrong way but i'm glad he does appear to be a knob
Question for Christian girls if there are any out here.
Would you date an atheist..?
least assume you get along pretty well and you trust him.
>>17344443
bump on this question
>>17344581
The only times i managed to.make friends was when i was in education, even then the higher the level the lower the number and friendship.
>>17344403
Not really, my family knows I'm not really a "people person", and my mother is red-pilled as fuck, often telling me "Don't get married, don't have kids. She'll take all your money and kick you out, it's all a scam".
Based red-pilled mom.
Always warned me and my brother about how easily a woman could fuck us over in divorce courts and shit.
Amazingly, my parents are still together, if anyone was wondering. But our mother is more red-pilled than our dad (he's a whiteknight).
>>17344602
I blogged and forgot the advice.
I would go to places where people have to spend more time together, that's why i talked about school.
>>17344612
>my mother is red-pilled as fuck
That's why your parents are still together
>>17344616
Probably true.
A woman who'll straight up say "marriage is a scam, and the system is rigged so I get to hold a loaded gun to a mans head at all times" is a helluva lot more trustworthy than a woman who'll say shit like "Yeah, but if you love them and trust them, you should feel happy with that gun to your head, keep focusing on the 'love' and nothing else".
>text girl regularly and get texted a lot in return
>take her out once
>go on a short vacation with her+friends once
Over the next few months:
>ask her out a few times and she turns it down because she's busy (showing complete schedules)
>on multiple occasions she invites me somewhere and cancels plans because she's sick (showing illustrated explanations)
>stay in touch
>start working together on a hobby-project online
>offer to work together in person and she turns it down because that's just how she works on that hobby
>we both have to go to the same place in a certain time period for different reasons, offer to go together and hang out, which she ignores
>haven't seen her for months
>she's still eager about online contact and does so daily
She only lives a few miles away, but from the look of this non-relationship you'd think it's long-distance. She's sickly and mostly sticks to herself and her family, which means she doesn't meet up much or deeply talk to others in general.
I don't want this digital leash. I just want to see her. What can I do to close the distance?
how do i get a gf
Should I really talk to a girl about my smaller dick before sex or not?
I've really only bad a small amount of experience with sex and its all been bad. Everyone says that a small peen can't be blamed, but it always came down to girls commenting on my dick to pretty much sum things up. Naturally, It's become an extremely serious insecurity of mine.
Is a conversation about this something I should have with the girl I'm seeing before sex or not?
>>17344666
how small are we talking about?
>>17344668
How small some be acceptable?
I'm around 5.2" long, and 4.5" around. I guess its the girth that gets me, it has seemed to be the issue before.
I used to believe that being below average was fine, but everything relating to small dicks is terrible and everything relating to big dick is praise and so now I'm being to think it really is all down hill from here.
>>17343034
For girls
Would you be ok with dating a guy with small disabilities like a guy that can't walk properly ?
I had a accident in january and broke both femur
the left one was an open fracture and my left leg is pretty fucked up now
To add to that 3 month staying in a bed made my legs weak (i can only push 90 kilo on the bench press )
I can still drive and walk short distance with a cane
Also should i tell girls online that i have these disabilities right away or wait for at least the first date ?
Does she want me to send a dick pic?
Doesn't really matter how we got to the conversation but we were talking about it and I asked her if she wanted to see me and she said "wellimnotgoingtostopyou"
Virgin here. I heard premature ejaculation is a problem for noobies. I was trying on a condom to see if i had the right size and it seemed like it really numbs the sensation. I actually tried master bating with it on and it was basically impossible. Is that normal? I have kind of a firm grip so that might partly be why.
>>17344685
I would be sad for you, but positively impressed by your determination to recover. As long as you don't expect me to pity you, it would be a plus.
Tell this kind of things before the first date, but after a certain amount of texting. Maybe set the date and mention it when choosing what to do.
>>17344683
>>17344666
Not really something worth mentioning, to be honest.
If someone likes you enough to fuck you, they will like your pretty average dick.
>>17344738
Hum yeah i see thanks for the answer
>>17344747
Is my girth really that average though?
The consensus on it( 2 girls and mine) was that it was thin.
>>17343049
Just rape your bf in public.
My gf and I were on a bus a while back, and I had my jacket on my lap. She reached under it and just jacked me off on the bus.
And that's how I got into exhibitionism.
>>17344506
Sounds like a genuine question to me.
You guys didn't talk much when you met, and he was just some random neighbor you met a month ago, so he probably thought you might've forgotten his name by now.
>>17344506
That's a little weird and rude in some way
But he might just have a low selfestim
And he got a little bit autistic
>>17344683
>>17344752
Bump.
Really need some more perspective on this, my anxiety is only getting worse the I consider it.
>>17344752
Google howlongismtshlong
>>17344845
This has been asked and answered to death. Just look at the archieve and stop being a child.
>>17343049
>>17343124
uhhh, is exhibitionism something most women like? It seem very common in them but as a guy I don't see the appeal.
>>17343167
Kind of varies where you live I think. Most women I know dislike women going on about ~rape culture~ and other nonsense. Generally pretty reasonable people. If I went a bit south to a certain liberal city I suspect many of them would empathize if not agree with those kind of crazy third wave feminists.
i'm at the point of just going outside by myself and asking random chicks out, flirting with them in public. i've tried tinder and dating apps to no end and it's just been a very tiring experience. i don't even care if women call the cops on me because it's not like my life was good anyways.
i made a thread but i'll post it here too
how do you deal with being a short, ugly balding man with almost no money, no car, a shitty job, a family who's abandoned him and kicked him out of the house 5 years ago and friends who never call or reply?
I'm 24 and I find it really hard to stop thinking about suicide and self-harm every day. Biking through the city seeing people driving cars, seeing people with their friends, seeing couples holding hands, it all just reminds me of how much of a failure I am and how much I hate my life.
I've really tried to be a decent person. I guess I just wasn't good enough.
basically smoking weed, watching Trump speeches and infowars, movies about Jesus, reading the Bible and playing overwatch is the only thing that keeps me going anymore. my friends all think I'm crazy and stopped talking to me. they probably made the right choice.
>>17344853
might as well kill myself
>>17344858
unless I'm using it wrong I can't find much related to my concerns.
>>17344403
>Do guys get put under pressure from their families/ mothers to reproduce?
Eh. They definitely want grandchildren, but I suspect they wouldn't give me shit if I decided to go child free. Part of the problem is most of our family forgot to have kids during their generation I guess. Legitimately, family gatherings went from 100+ people to about 30 as people have passed on.
My generation within the family is beyond tiny. It's me, my brother, and two cousins. One of the cousins is infertile, the other is probably on the spectrum even if he's a nice kid, my brother is a stereotypical neckbeard and I have my own issues.
So there's this feeling, that even if they'd respect none of us having children like they did they hope we act differently.
>>17344868
just get good at eating them out or find the right girl.
Some girls literally can't take anything bigger than average because it hurts them so average or below average is ideal.
>>17343167
>have the most respect for the original feminists and the courage they had.
Like many modern feminists they were cowardly hypocrites.
>He had three small daughters, which saved him from conscription, and his attempt to volunteer was turned down in 1914 because he was short-sighted. But in 1916, as he walked home to south London from his office, a woman gave him a white feather (an emblem of cowardice). He enlisted the next day. By that time, they cared nothing for short sight. They just wanted a body to stop a shell, which Rifleman James Cutmore duly did in February 1918, dying of his wounds on March 28.
>She could still talk of his last leave, when he was so shellshocked he could hardly speak and my grandmother ironed his uniform every day in the vain hope of killing the lice.
> 15-year-old boy lied about his age to get into the army in 1914. He was in the retreat from Mons, the Battle of the Marne and the first Battle of Ypres, before he caught a fever and was sent home. Walking across Putney Bridge, four girls gave him white feathers. “I explained to them that I had been in the army and been discharged, and I was still only 16. Several people had collected around the girls and there was giggling, and I felt most uncomfortable and … very humiliated.” He walked straight into the nearest recruiting office and rejoined the army.
>>17344866
save up and go see a therapist or borrow money from family.
Yeah your life might be shit, but so were a lot of peoples at one point.
It's illogical to think that because something is trending a certain way that its impossible to change it.
>>17344882
Its not like girls wear a sign that says "small vagina", nor is sexual organ comparability a guarantee of anything else.
Is it really that bad, though?
Girls
How interested do you have to be on a guy to accept going out with him?
And if he asks you out and you can't make it the next few days but you don't suggest some other day does it mean an absolute no?
>>17344895
so bang lots of chicks until you do find one.
it's not like having a small dick won't get you laid.
Basically no woman is going to see you naked and then just leave. And if they do they are a phenomenally shitty person anyway so good riddance.
Heres a new one:
Ive never had sex without a condom. Fair possibility that will no longer be the case soon.
Where do i blow my load? Obviously im going to want to fill that p to the brim but generally when i have sex i cum first but stay hard, or worst case scenario get half-chub for a minute before getting back at it. In the past ive always just popped on another condom and kept plowing away.
Is hitting your own sloppy seconds messy as fuck or is it alright? Should i blow on her stomach/ass/ect and wipe it off? Or just berry my dik so far in her etc etc??
Girls and guys
I just had sex with a girl a few hours ago, and I feel really.. Bad. I feel really guilty and wish I didn't have sex. It's been a few years since I've last done it, but for some reason I feel terrible. she wasn't even ugly, she was a 7.5. But I just feel like shit. My night is ruined. She just texted me saying "I loved your kiss :) " and it made me cringe.. I don't know what to reply.
Has anyone else experienced guilt after sex?
>>17344976
There's a reason you're feeling that way, and you're not listing it. For instance I would totally feel guilty about sex if I was emotionally manipulating someone.
>>17344976
You shouldn't feel guilty for being a human being. People fuck other people, it happens. There's no need to be shameful.
girls, i have schizoid personality disorder so that makes me kinda unable to flirt, what are some things i can do to get your attention that arent flirting because im clearly shit at it and i cant tell the signs
>>17343034
Do girls enjoying orgasiming from clitoral stimulation more than penetration. Which is more effective for achieving an orgasim?
>>17344302
Bumping this.
>>17343515
I think that wanting kids and caring for babies are completely different things. I personally feel very compassionate for little children and animals or people weaker than me but only see myself as their older sister. I don't really remember that anyone who had even a little imagination was talking about wanting children in kindergarten. Usually it was talked about in that context of showing off, like wearing each others clothes and having one best friend. It was a weird social game I wasn't interested in.
I haven't reached puberty myself, at least mentally, or even that phase when boys are yucky (except as counterreaction), I simply don't see gender and sexuality. I'm 31 now.
If there are people who devote their all life to creation or even just hanging out with friends, I don't see anything bad in that. When I've been talking to friends, I've noticed there are these types who want a little bit of everything, to have a balanced life between relationship, family, work, hobbies, friends and so on. They devote 1-2 hours on one activity and then do something else. And there are few of those who take a long, long time to begin and feel distracted if there are any plans where they need to meet anyone, even small talk with flatmates is extremely annoying, they need a private space to work on one thing for days or weeks and they do nothing else. I'm in that category. I'm actually not even interested in a relationship but would want to try out after few years.
Also, being social and having commitments would be something out of ordinary for me like a meditation for someone else. I almost haven't been talking to anyone all my life, the social periods I've have had can be put in 1-2 years, that includes the childhood. Now I don't even miss it, because somehow I've learned to make friends by going to lots of events and meetups. Even though more than 1 person talking at once or almost any background music makes it impossible to understand anything
>>17343543
yeah, how you explained I don't see any problem of the humankind going to extinct.
But I've thought that maybe it is an evolutionary strategy that humans in too dense populations want to procreate less because it is not beneficial in long term. The best genes are still carried on because people are more picky who they want to have babies with. But the rest just naturally dies out and maybe it is the part of evolution (or anything is because evolution doesn't have a purpose)
What do you guys do in order to stop yourself getting involved in things that don't concern you? I seem to keep getting involved in things when I know I shouldn't bother.
Do girls actively judge every guy they see as they walk by them? I have a really hard time approaching women and one of the biggest issues I have with it is whenever I'm around new women I can feel myself being negatively judged by them. I know it's silly, but I can just kinda feel it in the air.
So does it happen? How do I stop these feelings from fucking up my psyche? I honestly don't have a clue if women in general find me physically attractive or not.
>>17345072
take anti anxiety medication
>>17345063
Elaborate please what things.
What I do in a general sense is to ignore the thing completely and you will forget about it and even if you think about it now and then you won't give a duck anymore. For instance I fucking hated getting Facebook notifications on my devices/emails so I just turned them off and now I don't spend as much time looking at Facebook just to get rid of notifications.
I also had a bunch if friends who I knew from school and after a while we grew apart so I just cut off all contact with them and now they don't bother me anymore because they know I don't give a fuck about them.
>>17345082
Such an American answer.
>>17345082
>take anti anxiety medication
Fuck, so it is just me......
Damn.
>>17345001
But I really feel like shit.. I shouldn't have done it..
>>17345000
I really didn't do it intentionally, we were drinking and watching a movie. And it just happened, it wasn't my intention to have sex
I think I'm going to shoots myself in a few years.
Should I?
>>17345104
I have that feeling too, man.
A lot of girls, also, have an evil nature.
>>17345173
This is the most personal decision a can think of. It's up to only you.
Do girls mind man boobs, ive worked out and have decent chest strength but theres little balls of fat that wont go away, ive always insecurity offf them
>>17345248
Guy here,
Post a picture, because I think I have the same problem as you
>>17345248
Me
>>17345248
Me no shirt
Literally everthing else i dont care about but my fucking man tits i absolutely hate
I got my first credit card a few months back. Ever since I've just been paying it whenever my phone app says there's a charge to the account
I just checked it today and now it says there's a "$10 minimum charge" that needs to be paid back by august
did I miss a credit card payment or is this normal?
>>17345396
lmao, go to a gym you massive titted faggot
>>17345422
looks like legit gynecomastia, no amount of lifting would get rid of them
>>17345399
What's your credit card?
>>17345472
>>17345479
That is your credit card payment. You should pay the full payment and not just the minimum.
If you've been paying off your purchase as you've been buying them, you won't have to pay anything.
>>17345503
Yeah, that's what I've been doing. I've just never had this minimum payment warning come up before. I just don't wanna fuck my credit score up from a dumb misunderstanding
>>17345509
Did you get a call or email about missing a payment?
You probably just made a purchase at the end of the billing period and weren't able to pay it off before then. It won't negatively affect anything provided you pay your bill by August 8th.
Have you checked your make a payments page to see if you actually owe anything?
Heres a new one:
Ive never had sex without a condom. Fair possibility that will no longer be the case soon.
Where do i blow my load? Obviously im going to want to fill that p to the brim but generally when i have sex i cum first but stay hard, or worst case scenario get half-chub for a minute before getting back at it. In the past ive always just popped on another condom and kept plowing away.
Is hitting your own sloppy seconds messy as fuck or is it alright? Should i blow on her stomach/ass/ect and wipe it off? Or just berry my dik so far in her etc etc??
This one is for guys. I'm also a guy, but I need advice on this.
So, I'm talking to a girl online. I'm crazy about her, and since talking to her my libido has like gone full caveman mode. I'm hard practically all day, and I can feel my dick leaking precum or some shit without any physical stimulus.
What do I do? Just jerk off more? Is this normal?
>>17345574
this is the cringiest post i've ever seen
>>17345574
>he masturbates with a condom
>>17345427
Is there anyway to get rid of them without surgery
>>17345617
sorry dude, but no. Losing weight could help them go down in size but you'd still be left with the mammary tissue that's the cause of true gynecomastia.
I feel you though, I have gyno too except mine look like legit A-cup perky lady tits. Except hairy.
>>17345633
What does it feel like? I'm a different guy than who you responded to, but I'm slightly concerned. My man boobs don't sag like that guy's so I'm thinking it may just be a weird fat distribution.
Guys would it hurt your feelings if you liked a girl but then she sends you a screenshot of her tinder convo that she finds funny? I'm on tinder because I'm bored and I'm friends with a guy who I think likes me but I'm not sure as I recently met him. I had some tinder guy ask me to marry him after I never responded and i thought my friend would find it funny but I don't want to hurt his feelings. Or he might think I'm not into him if he knows I have tinder?
>>17345638
If you have love handles, pinch one. Feel how it's squishy and has a lot of give?
Now pinch your boob a little wider than your areola. Does it feel like your love handle? If so congrats, lose weight and your moobs will hit the road
if it feels like there's significant resistance and like there's something /more/ than just fat, like you can't even pinch very deep down, then you probably have true gynecomastia and will need a mastectomy to remove the breast tissue.
>>17345645
Tindr is pretty much entirely used by people for dating or just casual hookups, so I wouldn't let him know that you have it.
>>17345646
hmm shit there does seem to be about a grape sized slightly tougher part under there. How expensive is the mastectomy generally?
>>17345653
Aww ok, it was a rly funny convo though. I'll post it here so someone else can laugh at it. I've actually never hooked up with anyone from tinder as most people on it are kind of sad and weird, pic related
>>17345659
if you can prove it's significantly hindering your life your insurance will do it for free
otherwise I have no idea. Google says $6500 on average.
>>17345664
Still, just having Tindr will give him that impression. Do you like him back?
Also that's funny and weird. I knew Tindr had some weirdos but damn.
>>17345675
Haha yeah I get weird messages like that a lot! I don't know if I /like/ him yet but I like him enough to not want to throw it in his face. He kinda knows I have tinder though? The 2nd time we met he inadvertently saw the icon and was like 'haha tinder?' And I said 'shut up haha' but that was 2 weeks ago and we became a lot better friends. Have another pic related
So I have my first girlfriend
She's 25, I'm 23. She has a lot more relationship experience than me, and generally she likes most if not all aspects of me. Thing is, we are both pretty shy, me personally when it comes to "romantic" moments
How do I pull these off without seeming corny? I keep imagining scenarios where I go in for an awkward kiss and then just look blank for the next few seconds wondering where to go after that. Are these usually a big / relationship affecting issue? It's really just this aspect that's getting to me, we otherwise get along well and have a lot of fun together
>>17345683
I think just still keep Tindr on the down low till you know if you do like him or not.
Maybe Tindr is just weird in your area? Most of the people I've seen on it are pretty normal, I've never seen any like these before. Either way it's hilarious to see.
>>17345694
Learn to laugh at yourself. We all do stupid shit, and first relationships are a time when people particularly do stupid shit.
>>17345694
I can't imagine at the start of a relationship this being something that is second nature to either of you. You ease into this sort of thing, it's less about "experience" and more so guidance and connection. Trust me, you'll know when the moment is right, just go with the flow. It's a really personal thing. Once you get used to it in private, which should be where you start getting this comfortable together in the first place, then, in other situations it will just be a simple thing for the two. And it's not constant so chill, every single time you are together doesn't have to be a super romantic moment. Just cute little kisses makes up most of my relationship, the deep passionate shit is special and not every day. You'll be fine, be yourself.
>>17345696
Ok I'll keep it on the dl until I know for sure then! Yeah maybe tinder is just weird in my area??? Or I give off a vibe that says 'please message me weird shit I love it!' Lol tinder is just funny as hell. Last Pic related, hopefully I'll find real romance
This is probably a dumb but fairly straightforward question, how do I know when to make a move?
Just some background, I'm technically a virgin (done just about everything but full penetration), I've messed around with attractive girls before, but literally every time it has been because they get more aggressive and make the first move. Idk what's really wrong with me, Im just really awful at picking up hints and cues I guess. I always feel too unsure to make the first move because I'm not 100% sure if she's also into me enough, (hence why every sexual experience I've had has been initiated by the girl)
Currently seeing this girl I met on tinder, we've hung out twice, and I like her a lot, so I'm unsure whether I should just make a move and risk scaring her off by being too aggressive? Or if she's gonna end up getting bored because I'm not really trying anything.
Tldr - how do I know when I should make a move on a girl?
