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Mono/Poly relationship
2016-07-06 23:02:55 Post No. 17331640
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2016-07-06 23:02:55
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I need some advice and this is one of the few places I know where to go for it.
So my gf is polyamorous while I am not and because her feelings for others had been bothering her for a while I decided to let her date others but I don't actually really feel comfortable with it. It hurts to see someone I loved for so long and who actually helped build me up and love me go on and love someone else. And my thoughts and emotions are having a fun time with jealousy and anxiety.
One reoccurring thought in my head is "She's not yours anymore and you shouldn't be doing the things you did with her anymore" and with that I guess I haven't been trying to do anything sexual with her and I feel a bit sad and try not to do anything too romantic with her and I don't because I feel like she's not mine and that I don't deserve to be with her. Another thought is "You're just a glorified friend" and one other is "She's replacing you". I feel that if I don't do romantic or sexual things she's going to just replace me but I already do feel replaced. I love her a lot and I'm afraid my emotions and thoughts are going to make me push myself away from her.
I don't want to seem controlling or anything like that and I certainly don't want to fuck it up or abuse her but I just don't really like knowing that the one I love is out with another person or persons. It hurts so much and I know that we're probably really incompatible but I want so desperately to make things work. I also feel like my thoughts and feelings are taking quite a toll on my emotional health and self esteem. I feel like a selfish monster for wanting her to myself and I feel like I'm so undeserving of her love. I should be happy because I have her and I'm still in a relationship with her but I just can't be knowing and feeling like she's not mine.
Many have told me that we should break up and many have called me a cuck but I just really want advice on how I can make things work.
What can I do?