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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
Boys - how crazy is 'too crazy' for you?
>>17302146
It REALLY depends on the type of crazy.
Sexual repression is the most patrician of tastes; patience it takes, but sweet when it breaks. Nary an expression of the passions that hide; no better trait I'd want in a bride.
Clingy girls are among my favorite, though; I love girls who hold tight and never let go. I love the kind called yandere by weeaboos, mostly because I'm yandere too.
Daddy issues can be the worst or the best, depending on whom she wants to impress. But clingy is still much better, I deem: if she loves as fiercely, or moreso than me.
But I don't play well with histrionic or BPD; that sort of crazy just isn't for me.
>>17302162
Dear God what did I just read
I have this housemate (16 people house) with whom I often watch movies and then proceed to make out for hours. I have fingered her and we've been naked in bed spare the panties and my boxer.
When I do finger her she seems fine with it, but after a while (say 5 minutes) she reaches down and stops me.
She never tries to go down my pants. I once placed her hand on my crotch but she just left it there and later moved her hand back up.
How do I physically escalate this?
have any girls been in a long distance relationship before?
>>17302162
>>17302162
Just me having a giggle m8
>>17302199
>puritan tipping
Awesome, saved. Thanks, anon.
Boys and Girls:
Is There a Moral Duty to Disclose That You’re Transgender to a Potential Partner?
>>17302208
I believe so. Honesty is important, especially if you cherish someone. You wouldn't want them to get the wrong impression. After all, there's a good chance it could ruin what you had built til then between you.
>>17302208
Yes, absolutely
>>17302146
Not a huge fan of BPD or HPD, but everything else is fine.
Gotta be at least a little crazy or else she's too boring.
After all, i don't come here to interact with normal people, i come here to read shit like >>17302162.
>>17302208
Yes. It's a gigantic dealbreaker for many people and it's only common courtesy to let them know as soon as possible.
Girls:
Do you feel at all self conscious about wearing yoga pants?
Guys:
What do you think of women wearing yoga pants, sexy or neutral?
a girl who I've been trying to get with for 3 years told me she loved me today but I'm such an emotional wreck of a human being I know I'm only gonna drive her away from me and continue to damage myself emotionally because I knew I couldn't make it work.
is the best thing to do here in this situation suicide?
>>17302208
I would say after a date or two, or before escalating beyond making out, or when they show genuine romantic interest.
>>17302224
Stop thinking you'll wreck it and actually work towards not wrecking it. Let yourself be happy and stop sabotaging yourself or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
If you just mess it up and don't try you deserve suicide.
>>17302220
So, I guess schizophrenia is an assured 'no', then?
Girls:
At one point would you consider an ugly attractive enough date him?
Guys:
If you were ugly how hard would you have to work to get the girl's attention for dating?
My wife and I have a pretty boring sex life, but lately I found that if I make her cry she puts out.
Last 2 times we had sex, it was after I made her cry. I didn't mean to, but it just happened.
To give an example from last night:
I was talking to her about how I wanted to take a trip, solo, to get away from my life. To recharge my batteries. She was fine with that, as she thought I'd leave in the morning and come back late at night. But no, I mentioned staying the night somewhere in some hostel so I can do my own thing and be my own man, no responsibilities. She flipped her shit, she thought I was escaping from HER and she started crying. I made up and assured her that it was just work stuff. Later that night she jumped me saying she was horny and she was already naked under the covers. We had pretty wild sex, it was good.
The time before that, I said that I was struggling with our sexual incompatibility (I can go every day, she cannot) this made her cry and, 2 minutes later we were making out and fucking like never before.
I'm starting to see a pattern. Is she fucking me because she is afraid, or is she actually turned on by the emotions / crying? How do I ... Experiment with this?
>>17302230
As an ugly guy, I would not even attempt to engage romantically with someone I deemed more attractive than me. I don't want to feel like the relationship is one sided where I have to work and the other side doesn't.
>>17302231
You're seriously oblivious. She's having sex with you in an attempt to make you change your mind, or at the very least make you reconsider in the event that you are having an affair with another woman.
>>17302227
I want to try and make it work but this is my first real relationship, she rejected me twice before but I had changed a lot since then and grew as a man these past 3 years and to top it off I'm not gonna be able to see her for like 4 months and its just wrecking my psyche...there's nothing more I want than to fuckin be with her right now but distance is keeping us apart until I can relocate. Its straining man ;_;
>>17302237
At first I thought that as well.. But I'm sorta thinking she likes the emotional abuse?
>>17301963
>Boys, why don't you text back?
I do, usually immediately. IMHO, it's disrespectful to ignore people.
The girl i'm talking to feels differently though. She frequently ignores questions, drops the conversation, etc over text.
This is probably just individual variation.
>>17302224
>a girl who I've been trying to get with for 3 years told me she loved me today
>is the best thing to do here in this situation suicide?
Stop worrying. Just tell her you're not very good at relationships and she should take the lead, if you need to.
And consider seeing a fucking psychiatrist.
>>17302228
I'm fine with it as long as you have it reasonably under control: violence is the limit for me.
It's the limit for a lot of people, i'd guess. For example, i know a woman who married a schizophrenic doctor, but left him after a couple of violent episodes (choking her, etc).
>>17302208
It's unacceptable if you don't disclose it.
>>17302224
The fates just handed you a freebie. Chill and go with it.
>>17302230
If I were ugly, I would likely focus more effort into becoming wealthy and lower my standards a bit.
>>17302222
It is appropriate for the gym, but I find it inappropriate for daily regular use.
>>17302228
I didn't mention that in my long-winded post, hmmm. I would think it fine for dating if not disruptive, subject to review for getting serious. But I'm /x/ af, so grain of salt.
>>17302220
I'm glad you were amused.
Girls:
If pregnant, would you give equal rights or consideration to the baby's father regarding a decision for abortion?
Guys:
If your partner got pregnant, would you like to have equal rights or consideration regarding a decision for abortion?
>>17302239
>grew as a man these past 3 years and to top it off I'm not gonna be able to see her for like 4 months
That is good, let yourself be happy and don't sweat the small details, with the exception of why she rejected you twice and is now in love with you.
You owe it to yourself to make sure that this isn't a flaky turnabout on her part or you were simply the last option or the just the easiest option. Don't be the rebound.
If this has been building over a long time, then you have far less to worry about. Either way if she and you are both sincere and willing to make it work, it will.
The will is simple, but so long as its there the work will get done. Don't let her get away bro, 4 months is nothing. Go be happy, man.
>>17302256
>Girls:
>If pregnant, would you give equal rights or consideration to the baby's father regarding a decision for abortion?
While we take as much care as possible not to accidentally fall pregnant, my boyfriend and I have discussed, as any sensible couple should, what we would do if it happened. It's not like we'd have to make a decision when it happened, because we're not stupid enough to wait until then to have the talk.
>>17302268
>being the rebound
how exactly would I figure this out, this thought popped into my head too but its been a couple weeks and she's still showing interest in me, my emotions are going critical though trying to figure out if its just a lie or something though. i thought I was just scared of something so drastic happening to me but I mean it can't hurt to be a little paranoid I guess...but thank you
>>17302281
and to add into that it has...been building for quite some time, we used to talk for hours at a day sometimes until I became more busy
>>17301961
Asking the girls: I'm physically disabled from the military (back is all messed up and about 10 other things wrong) and can't work. I do what I can to take care of my mother and do repairs around the house when needed, which I cannot do much.
I don't really have much to offer a woman outside of my companionship and company and the extra money for having a wife. Don't get me wrong: would never marry a woman for the extra money. Getting hurt put me back to square one. While i'm not truly in the market for a relationship right this instant (mainly because the last one was me basically getting used) what real chance do I have if I ever did?
Pretty sure i'm mostly boned.
>>17302281
You're only possibly a rebound if you're the first guy she's dated after a relationship that lasted at least a fair amount of time, and only if she didn't have time to heal afterwards.
If her last relationship was 5 years long and it ended a month ago, you are definitely a rebound and that almost never works out.
If her last relationship lasted a month and that ended a month or two ago, you might be fine, but should still watch out.
It has a lot more to do with the time since the last relationship than anything else. If she's been bouncing from guy to guy, then they're all rebounds of each other. Ball has to have time to hit the floor, so to speak.
>>17302313
she hasn't dated anyone in the last year and a half as far I am well aware, thanks though, helped put my mind at ease a little.
>>17302323
Sounds like you're in the clear. Congratulations and good luck.
>>17302256
>If pregnant, would you give equal rights or consideration to the baby's father regarding a decision for abortion?
We already talked about it, before even having sex.
In general, yes.
>>17302231
She fucks you because she's scared you'll leave her.
>>17302302
I would date someone physically disabled if he didn't make his life about his illness - if his disability doesn't become an excuse for every bad behaviour, for every thing that doesn't work, for lazing around.
I personally deeply respect and adore people who used their bad experiences as a chance to grow as a person, so if you managed to do it, it would be a HUGE plus.
Also if that would mean having a sort of "stay at home dad" deal would be pretty cool for me.
>>17302480
>Also if that would mean having a sort of "stay at home dad" deal would be pretty cool for me.
Translates into
>you would stay at home taking care of the kids while I'm out getting drunk with my colleagues and having affairs
>>17302497
More into
>I'm finishing my medicine degree and I'd like to not have to worry about bending my time schedule to take care of the house and the kids
I don't like partying and I've never cheated on my partner (which is my first and only).
>>17302230
>At one point would you consider an ugly attractive enough date him?
I consider various things when it comes to dating - the most important is the intellectual and emotional connection, then there's the physical attractiveness and the whole "sharing values and plans" thing.
I think that if I click with someone emotionally and if he challenges me intellectually, and we share values and plans and I feel like things would work in long term, I'd date him even if he wasn't crazily attractive.
I wouldn't date someone grossly overweight. Or someone with bad hygiene or bad teeth. I wouldn't date someone much shorter than me. But other than that, most things would be acceptable.
Girls
How do I introduce myself to a girl via social sites in the least creepy possible way? The thing is, I have no mutual friend with this girl. When I entered faculty of engineering, due to apparent lack of girls here, I and my friends lurked around other faculty's public groups and this is where I found this girl's online profiles. I don't even know where she usually hangs out, so I can't see her rl and just happen to be there.
Apparently her hobby is writing and she has a writing blog, and I'm happened to be a writer too. I can say I just find her blog and introduce myself as a fellow writer, but I don't really have proof like blog or online published stuff.
>>17302146
I can deal with your standard bipolar, borderline shit if and only if they are seeking help for their issues and try to have a decent handle on them.
Right now my friends roommate is trying to absolve all of the bullshit she's doing with the bipolar/anxiety card, and no one is buying it. That shit right there is absolute nonsense.
>>17302208
At the very least it should be disclosed before you guys do anything physical.
>>17302256
>If your partner got pregnant, would you like to have equal rights or consideration regarding a decision for abortion?
I don't see why I wouldn't want that. Regardless this is something you should talk about before it's ever a problem.
>>17302208
yes
>>17302222
Never, it's like wearing any other type of pants.
>>17302230
As long as a guy is not overweight or deformed, his looks aren't important. It's more about how he treats you.
Boys:
Do FWB relationships ever work?
How do you clean smegma?
>>17302518
Comment on her blog a few times and then ask her if she wants to talk somewhere else.
>>17302524
>Do FWB relationships ever work?
no
Guys: How many of you watch porn that has 2-3 girls on one guy?
I found my bf's porn stash and while it's all pretty vanilla (blowjob duo, triple handjob, cumshot compilations, etc) I'm still a little deterred by the idea that he wants another girl to come into the picture. Just trying to see how common this is and how many guys would actually act on it or if it's just a fantasy (assuming you were in a committed long-term relationship).
>>17301961
Ladies: If you were interested in someone who could sing, would you hassle them to sing a song for you?
If you weren't interested, would you hassle them anyway?
>>17302573
I think I ledt out something important, the song that this girl wants me to sing is one I've done before when I was in highschool. It was Fall for you by Secondhand Serenade
>>17302208
I would say so.
Personally, I wouldn't care if someone I'd been fucking turned out to be transgender without me knowing - if I didn't even notice, what's the difference? But the fact that they would refrain from telling me that when that's considered the default thing to do would give me pause.
More importantly, it's just kind of a significant thing to go through in life. I don't see how it could naturally just never come up, so the fact that it hasn't been said screams that they've intentionally kept it hidden from me, which isn't very cool.
Not automatic dealbreakers, but they'd require explanation and create issues regarding trust.
>>17302572
>Guys: How many of you watch porn that has 2-3 girls on one guy?
Eh, used to appeal to me but it sort of got boring somewhere along the way. I guess I started being more enamored by the idea of throwing all of my energy at one woman, but in a threesome its inherently split.
>>17302222
>Do you feel at all self conscious about wearing yoga pants?
I didn't until a male friend (who's never seen me wear them) commented of another girl that 'no girl wears pants like that if she doesn't want people checking out her ass.'
>>17302256
>If pregnant, would you give equal rights or consideration to the baby's father regarding a decision for abortion?
Automatic abortion, non negotiable. He would be informed of this policy and have to click an 'agree' box before he can dick my vagee box.
If that's not cool with him, no judgement, but I decline to participate in any potentially impregnating activities with him.
Everyone should talk about this before having PiV sex, then it's a non-issue no matter what.
>>17302572
Depends on the person, of course. However, most of the time pornography is nothing more than a release for guys. It's visually stimulating, and far more about achieving a release in the moment, rather than fantasizing about real-life scenarios of having multiple partners.
Do nice manic pixie guys exist?
>>17302480
I've been a stay at home dad, and let me tell you, it messed me up pretty bad, but mainly due to overwork, not work in general. It was mostly due to her not picking up after herself and having me do everything for her and the two kids. Most of it was ok, but for example I usually had to carry dinner upstairs, which engages my core and it's after a long day of Mr.Moming it up. Never mind it not working out because despite her working she wasted all her money and left me paying the bills. You know its bad when her teenager son (who you've been a dad to since he was 4) is glad to see you go because he's sick of seeing you physically hurt and miserable from being used.
Stay at home Dads get resented 99% of the time because they're not working, and their partner learns really fast how annoying, boring and useless it gets explaining the situation to everyone.
Anyway, walking is a chore as I have feet problems too and I have chronic migraines usually spurred by excessively loud noise for a period of time and bright light. I have reactionary and preventive meds for it but without them it's fetal position-level of pain. I always have some handy and with them i'm ok so long as I remove myself from the situation.
I still take care of things here, but its far less to deal with and i'm in far less pain cause of it.
tl;dr: I'm not big on going out, never was and I always lazed around when not training because it was recovery time. Now I don't train like that so for me it's normal besides not having the training.
Regardless of the 'reasons', i'm still mainly boned if they can't accept that.
Guys.
I've been dating a guy for a year or so. He was going through divorce when we started dating, and he (jokingly?) said he'd never marry again.
Things got more serious than we thought and I honestly want to spend the rest of my life with him. He often talks about the future with me. Marriage isn't necessary, but it's something I'd definitely like to do.
Should I talk to him about this or wait? I don't want him to feel pressured into it, but it is stressing me a bit.
>>17302621
That's kinda what I thought, thanks for the reassurance. I just got kind of nervous; my boyfriend was a virgin when we met and I've been the only person he's been with, keep having nightmares he'll use that as leverage for a threesome.
>>17302190
My first and only relationship thus far was a long-distance one. We met up irl four times though. It lasted for about eight months.
>>17302629
She honestly sounds disrespectful. I've been the one working while my partner was staying at home and I still did my part - I cleaned after myself, I cooked all meals for both of us and of course paid most of the bills (we paid accordingly to what we earned). He mostly run the errands and cleaned and did grocery shopping because he had a more flexible schedule, and that's it.
It would be handy for me in the future because of my job, but I don't see it as an excuse to not do my part as a partner, a mother or in the house.
I'm sorry for your experience with it, anyway.
"Lazing around" doesn't mean "resting". I hate when people excuse themselves with their physical problems to not do things they could do. It's perfectly acceptable and obvious that I'd want my partner to rest and not be in pain if he needed, but people who bitch and don't do things because "oh I'm so sick" make me go insane. It's the passive attitude that makes me angry, not the problems.
>>17302189
>no replies after hours
how to ask a girl out?
>>17302651
>Hey do you wanna have some coffee later today?
>>17302662
she isn't a random girl, what if she says no, everyone will know...
girls
What do you expect a guy should have by 24 years of age?
>>17302621
>However, most of the time pornography is nothing more than a release for guys.
>nothing more
It's unhealthy. The brain has a certain wiring it should abide by, as nature intended. Porn wasn't part of the plan, it's crashing your brain with no survivors.
>>17302701
You got a single fact to back that up though?
Only problems porn do is giving you "higher standards" but even those don't mean anything when you're horny. Especially since porn is just visual and real life there's also tactile and smell.
There's not a single problem porn does to you that doesn't get fixed after 3 days of not watching porn.
I need some relationship advice. I broke up with my girlfriend some two weeks ago. It was mainly because she didn't prioritize me or pay attention to me needs or really adopt any meaningful change (we were in an LDR for a few months) for the sake of our relationship. So I broke up with her, I didn't believe it was worth being in a relationship with someone who couldn't adapt or change (in reasonable amounts, of course).
Now she comes back to me and tells me that she misses me. She admits she was stubborn and that she took my love and care and effort for granted. While I'm happy she admitted that, I still don't know if I should get back with her. I don't know if I should trust her again, I don't know if she'll put some real effort again.
Are there any tips or signs I can try to look for to help my with my decision? Any questions I should ask myself or help? Any help would be really helpful honestly. thanks.
>>17302572
Instinctively it's the norm for men to want multiple women. However, many have various views conflicting with that and ultimately reject the idea, your boyfriend could well be one of those.
I don't think that the type of porn he watches necessarily has any implication in this regard, as I absolutely am for polygamy, but when it comes to sex I'd rather have it one-on-one even if I could have threesomes.
Bottom line is that unless he's a huge dick, he's not going to dump you over you not wanting a threesome either way.
>>17302710
then keep on watching buddy, if it makes you happy
some of us choose abstinence and discipline
that industry won't lose money anytime soon, so we're not really a threat
Girls:
How important are a guys looks? Does he need to be a 9/10 for you to at least consider the potential relationship?
>>17302714
Is it still an LDR? If so, it doesn't seem to me like there is any extra effort required on your part to get together again and break up again if she's still shit. Realistically, she'll be different for a few weeks then go back to how things used to be, but again I don't see what you have to lose by trying.
Do girls only text first when they are desperate?
I know the "if she's interested she'll show it" meme but can girls still expect the guy to do every first move? Does it ever make sense for a guy to be insistent/persistent? Do girls ever actually play hard to get with someone they consider a potential partner?
>>17302734
Women can lie to themselves and believe it well enough so that a 4/10 "looks" like an 8 to them. This requires training tho
>>17302512
>I wouldn't date someone with bad teeth
I actually don't mind bad teeth on a girl, would probably even consider it a plus.
Kind of like not wearing makeup, dressing casually when everyone else is dressed up, not having a facebook account, etc.
Not another boring cookie-cutter girl.
>>17302622
>Do nice manic pixie guys exist?
Yes.
Though most people think such behavior is cute for girls, but incredibly obnoxious for guys.
>>17302741
>would probably even consider it a plus.
spot the brit
Girls and Guys
has anyone here ever "went dark?" F
for a while? I've been pretty depressed the past few weeks. I just feel so sad and irritated over a lot of things that I'm thinking about going dark for a few weeks (meaning 0 contact with anyone other than what is required while at work). I'm thinking about shutting my phone off and deleting my social media accounts. I just want to like fall off the face of the earth for a little bit. I feel like a fucking failure, and just need some time away from everyone, including friends.
>>17302741
>bad teeth a plus
Wow... well, I'm sure ugly girls are happy that guys like you exist. Because teeth is a important feature.
>>17302763
are you female?
>>17302763
yah that sounds pretty much like me for certain periods of time
>>17302763
Sure, but tell your family/friends if you do it,
>>17302741
Dressing casually when everyone is dressed up is just cringey - it means that you're not able to tell how to dress in certain social situations, or that you don't know how to dress properly for it.
Having bad teeth is just gross - means that you either take zero care of it and you're generally unhygienic, or that you don't care enough to go to a dentist and have it fixed.
The way you present yourself (clothes, make up, hygiene) is the way people perceive you, not caring about it is fucking disgusting.
>>17302774
No
>>17302779
why, sometimes, I think they wouldn't notice anyways.
>>17302739
Girls do dumb shit and there's no blanket rule for how they will react to a certain approach. If you're not worried about your pride, then being persistent (after a more careful initial approach) gives you some extra chance to get with them, thus it's not a bad strategy in that sense. That chance is still pretty fucking small though, and if a girl never initiates anything, 99% of the time they won't be into you.
>>17302734
Nope. There are some things I care about, but usually looks aren't a huge deal.
My boyfriend is not a greek god and all his friends wonder why I'm dating him, but he has a 10/10 personality and he makes me want to be a better person. I would never leave him.
>>17302222
There is this meme about men liking yoga pants but i don't think they are sexy or anything, most girls look bad with them.
>>17302230
I wish i knew if i'm ugly or pretty or whatever...
>>17302763
>>17302784
Your post seemed feminine and superficial. You are young. Look at this chart and simply continue to age. Neuroticism is your thing.
>>17302816
I'm 26
>>17302821
chart dont lie nigga
be patient
Girls, how hard does being horny affect your decisions at the time?
>>17302256
What the fuck is "equal rights" in that situation? It's literally impossible.
>>17302825
What am I waiting for
Girls: How ugly has a guy have to be to be a deal breaker when he asks you out?
>>17302736
Yeah, it is an LDR still. At least for a few more months. Is there a way I can check or see whether she really means she try harder now? Or is it one of those things I only learn by experiencing it.
>>17302793
What about him earns him the 10/10? why would you never leave him?
>>17302875
leftover-from-Chernobyl ugly. Your attitude is more important, because, let's face it, beauty tends to diminish with age. I'm in for the long haul, though
>>17302875
Normally, its the total package. How does he speak? Does he seem interesting? Do we seem to have a good amount in common? Etc etc. It would be naive for me to say looks don't matter because attraction is important, but it's the totality of him (from my experience with him as a whole) that matters to me.
>>17302256
Guy answering: Not my body, not my decision. But i at least would've wanted her to take my opinion into consideration.
>>17302914
I've been told by a few girls that I look attractive, and that I have a beautiful personality. Yet, I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend before. And I haven't had sex in 5 years
>>17302256
Guy here. Considering being pregnant is a huge deal and probably the fact that I don't think I'll ever want to have kids, I'd say it's the girl's choice. I don't know if I can get attached to a fetus enough to think it's my kid, I guess only if it actually happens to me I would be able to decide.
>>17302783
I mean "bad teeth" as in "not politician/hollywood perfect", not "bad teeth" as in "never brush them or go to the dentist".
For reference, i'm an american med student, the vast majority of girls (and most guys) have them perfect.
I take care of mine, brush/floss/mouthwash twice a day, etc, but to get them to photoshoot standards i'd have to have ~6 of them grinded down and reshaped, then ~8 grinded down to stumps and capped. Then a jaw realignment on top.
And why? All to look prettier for other people?
It just gives me the huge feeling of "here's the mistletoe, now pucker up and kiss it, whoville!".
The funny thing is, I do put a lot of effort in how I look, dress nicely, shave carefully, style my hair, etc. Much more than most guys, and i usually dress a couple notches above as well.
But if I was a girl instead, I'd probably care much less about clothes and makeup than most.
I suppose i'm a contrarian at heart. I like interesting, strange people. People who stand out in a crowd, who don't try to be just like everyone else.
>>17302937
>I've been told by a few girls that I look attractive, and that I have a beautiful personality. Yet, I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend before.
People lie, anon.
>>17302895
There are many things I love about him. It's hard to explain, but I'll try.
I find him interesting and challenging. I never get bored of talking to him. We can talk about bullshit and joke around, and his sense of humour and interests are very similar to mine, but also can have mind-blowing discussions about psychology, ethics, religion, politics. He's very intelligent and knowledgeable.
He makes me feel very strong around him. When I feel insecure or week, he's the person who gives me strength. He is reassuring and loving, but at the same time he's able to point out my mistakes. He takes care of me and I never doubt his love, he always manages to make me feel adored and remarks all my qualities, but he also calls me out on my bullshit.
He's extremely empathetic and probably the best person I know. He's genuinely kind, devotes his life to others, loves to take care of people. He is a really nice person, he'd help everyone.
He's chaotic, but not overwhelmingly so. I'm a very organized, structured, rational person and I love how he can surprise me, make me doubt everything I know, how he can make me feel alive.
He is introverted and he appreciates our silences, other than our conversations.
He makes me feel wanted and attractive, we constantly tease each other and the passion we share is extremely strong. Talking to him gets me hornier than fucking with other people did.
We compensate each other in many things, and we are a lot alike in others - I think we work out amazingly well. We've been together for 3 years now and I can't see myself without him.
He's totally my 10/10 and I don't give a shit if he's not amazing looking.
>>17302956
That's a 10/10 post.
How can i get closenes again after i doubted my bf's love? Or is this irreversible?
>>17302956
>you will never find a love this pure
JDIMSA
>>17302946
why lie?
And, these girls that told me that were my friends. Why would they lie to me? people here on /adv/ even said I'm attractive when I've posted pictures before. I'm no 9/10. But people say I'm definitely not ugly
How much time should pass from heavily crushing on a friend and breaking friendship up, to reinitiating contact.
She was perfect, adv.
I don't know what would i do if she got a boyfriend. I don't want to know it.
>>17302956
Damn girl. That man is lucky to have you.
>>17302989
Well I would trust anons more than your friends in matters like this to be honest. I would never tell a friend they are ugly. But since you also got good replies on the internet I'd say you can be confident enough. You can also measure it if you've had girls who wanted you irl I guess.
>>17302990
+1
same boat, also interested
>>17302956
Well frankly by this post i can tell you're probably not very attractive either sorry. The chances of a smart girl who is also attractive is very very very rare.
>>17302968
Thank you!
>>17302982
Why are you so convinced you'll never find that?
When we met, he was 28 and I was 20. A lot of the things I love about him are things he heavily worked on during his 20s. He also went through a few shitty relationships. Now he seems pretty happy, tho.
Don't lose hope. Keep working on yourself and meeting new people.
>>17302991
Thank you, anon. I'm pretty lucky myself.
>>17303013
Oh well, if you say so.
I'm not a Victoria Secret model for sure, definitely not a 10/10, but I have never had problems with guys.
Cute face, 5'6" and 145 lbs, nice boobs and butt. Can't complain. Would fuck myself.
>>17303013
Why would you think that she's smart? She falls for memes like kindness and selflessness, she's probably average.
>>17302208
Hahahahahahhaahaaaaaa
Yes, if you don't disclose before anything physical happens (and I mean like kiss, not fucking) you basically deserve whatever happens to you. Legit it's your own fault if you end up bleeding out with no teeth in a dumpster.
Ideally you shouldn't ever be anything but upfront in the first place, there shouldn't be anything to disclose, but realistically most of you are obviously never going to do that.
>>17302518
Dont use term fellow. It screams reddit.
>>17302603
I prepared to rage at the first sentence but then I actually ended up respecting your ideas. Well hardlined, femanon.
>>17303031
>he was 28
Proof that there is always hope fellow anons
Use your current youth to your advantage
Always improve. Always move towards perfection.
>>17303031
Alright well you're a rare oddity.
>>17303040
You can tell shes intelligent by the way she writes, very nicely composed and above average usage of language. Her intelligence is probably the sole reason why their relationship is so compatible.
>>17302996
>I would never tell a friend they are ugly.
True for most people, but personally I'd never tell a friend they were attractive if it wasn't true.
The good thing is that nobody's tested this in a while.
Just yesterday i had a conversation with 2 girls, M and R.
>R says she's not pretty enough for some hairstyle
>M: come on, yes you are. Anon, do you think she's pretty?
>look at R and say "yeah!" without skipping a beat
>M: hahaha, i thought you were just going to blush and look at the ground or something
>R: he's just saying that since he's nice, he'll say "yeah" to everything
I was laughing my ass off inside. M's lucky she didn't ask me if SHE's pretty!
There's a reason I don't have many friends, after all.
>>17303013
>The chances of a smart girl who is also attractive is very very very rare.
It happens. This post actually reminded me of a friend who fits those criteria that i have to go continue a text conversation with (got interrupted by a visit from my grandma just now).
>>17303057
Do you think they think you are cute? I mean, she expected you to do a cute thing.
Girls when you call someone cute what does it mean?
I have had 2 or 3 girls calling me cute but i get the feeling this means "not ugly but i would never want a relationship with you"
>>17301961
This is a question for both genres:
I'm a 19 yr old girl and I'm probably going to lose my virginity within the next week. What should I expect? I am very very tight. This is an issue for me and it's partially why I've never had sex until now. I've never wanted to tolerate the pain, but I don't care about that anymore.
>>17303077
You need to get really aroused. Maybe touch yourself of have him lick you for a while.
>>17303077
It's a myth that losing your virginity has to hurt. Your vagina is designed to get fucked, that is no issue. The reason why most girls find their first time uncomfortable or painful is because of nerves and rushing through it.
It doesn't matter that you're tight either, when you become aroused and relaxed your muscles relax as well, causing your vagina to become deeper and looser to allow for proper penetration. So basically what you should focus on is making sure that you want it BAD by the time that he's going in. If he wants to and you're feeling nervous more than horny, tell him "I'm not ready yet". That's all. Make him eat you out and/or finger you, feel you up, enjoy the feeling of your bodies pressed together, make out, go down on him, whatever. It helps to really take your time so the first anxiety about intimacy numbs.
>>17303082
Not the anon who asked, but can fantasies be enough?
>>17303065
Cute means attractive. Don't overthink it.
>>17303077
I can barely fit a finger in, normally, but have zero problems during sex. When you're very aroused, you get deeper and wider.
Don't get worried. Have a lot of foreplay - make out a lot and have him eat you out. Make him go slow. Don't do it if you don't feel ready.
>>17303089
In theory, if you enjoy them a lot and trust that you can vividly fantasize during a tense moment. But why would you want to rely on that when you're with someone so you can have fun together? Fantasizing is always an option.
Why can't I have female friends as a male ? Every time I tried to make one they tried to fuck me. I didn't touch these girls I made no sexual comments I talked to them like I talk to guys.
>>17303098
It's probably either or a combination of you being exceptionally attractive and them not being used to a guy giving them real person to person attention, as opposed to throwing lines at the hot girl.
>>17303106
I don't think I'm attractive at all id say average or below. I was just trying to make friends, but I stopped trying to do that with girls. They all got salty when I didn't make a move or was oblivious to their advances. I'm just really friendly to people if I interact with them and they are nice too.
>>17303118
I think it's mostly part of the zeitgeist. It's not common anymore for men and women to be true platonic friends, most of today's male/female friendships stem from a broken/failed attempt at a relationship. I don't think it's really something a lot of people think of that a pleasant person of the opposite sex who is interested in their company could have absolutely no sexual agenda. This is a common complaint among girls as well.
>>17303118
maybe the girls were really ugly and was shocked a guy wanted to be around them?
>>17303123
Nah they were all good looking. Guys I knew would comment on how hot the girl I was taking to was.
>>17303091
I always get a feeling that something is off. Cute is such a weird word, it can mean pretty but can be a nice escape from saying ugly, or it can mean nothing.
Ambiguity is so hard...
>>17303122
I don't consider myself sexually attractive to the opposite gender so I don't try to hit on girls. I have no sexual agenda and was just being friendly I assume if they didn't like me they would stop talking to me. A lot I met in class.
>>17303136
Dude. Cute is attractive. It either means "everyday attractive" (eg: a supermodel is hot/sexy, the girl next door is cute) or it's a way to both say that you find someone attractive and have a personal soft spot for them, find them engaging. That it's more than just finding their looks pleasant.
I have no idea why anyone would use the word cute to not say that someone is ugly. That's an extreme difference. And there's also "he's not too bad", "nothing wrong with him", "looks like a normal guy" if you must comment on appearance without giving away that you dislike his. Why in the world would anyone then say a positive word instead?
You find it a weird word because you're way overthinking it. If a friend said "she's a cute girl", you wouldn't think he secretly meant she was ugly, would you??
>>17303143
I meant in a direct conversation.
If you don't want to say someone is ugly you can say cute because i can mean the person has a 'cute' personality; I have seen people doing this.
Sure, if the person is not present it's more clear.
>>17303158
It* can mean
>>17303158
If you don't find someone attractive there is absolutely no reason to comment on whether or not they are attractive, unless they are fishing for compliments in which case I will concede that "nooo you're cute" can be insincere. But that's not the word's fault.
>>17303165
Ok then. I will try to not over think things now.
Thanks.
>>17303065
>Do you think they think you are cute?
Probably. I think they both like me, actually.
This is only because M is practically manic-pixie-dream-girl expressive and basically unable to hide anything.
For example, another moment in that conversation:
>talking about their nightly routines
>R: And then... that other thing...
>M looks at me and smiles
>M: should i tell him about that other thing?
>R: NO!
>M: ok, ok.
As for the word "cute", guys and girls use it differently. When a girl says it, it means attractive.
When a guy says it, it's more complicated (one of the few cases where this is true): for example, R and M are extremely cute. This other girl, D, is much more attractive, but not very cute at all (she's cold, guarded, and maybe slightly sociopathic, which makes it impossible for me to think she's "cute". She has nothing in common with puppies, and i never get the urge to squeeze her tightly and never let go).
>>17303191
>I will try to not over think things now.
That's a good plan. Overthinking can be fun (just see above) but rarely leads to any useful conclusions.
What do girls think of men that usually add in words such as "honey" or "miss" in conversation?
I swear i don't speak them in the same way those flamboyant gays do
>>17303492
My culture doesn't use these terms of endearment or respect. Honey freaks me out because of that reason. Miss, I suppose would be fine but I guess would make me feel old. Less is more, as they say. I would refrain from using them altogether. My best friend gets called "hunny" and "darling" by her boss, she literally thinks he wants to fuck her and is disgusted. But then again, we are not used it culturally, so it's just weird.
>>17303514
Where are you from?
>>17303516
Sweden.
>>17303527
>>17303530
>>17303492
Unless you're over 60, it's not ok.
Why not throw in a few "m'lady"s while you're at it?
>>17303492
As a texan dude, i'd wonder where the hell you're from where young people still say that shit.
I've met guys from bumfuck, alabama that post about shooting muslims and still fly the stars and bars and even they don't say "honey" or "darlin" anymore.
How does it feel to be cummed inside? Will my girlfriend notice? I want her to be the mother of my child.
Is being raped generally worse or better if the guy is bad at sex?
Asking for a friend.
Why do guys pee standing up?
>>17303691
Longer range.
>>17303646
If you do that without her knowing, you're a piece of shit. You really are.
I can sometimes feel if my boyfriend cums inside me, depends on how hard he comes. Also, you can fucking see it, smell it and feel it after he cums anyway. Cum looks and feels and smells different than vaginal fluids.
>>17303691
>women will never know the pleasure of hitting all your pee on the drain handless while taking a shower
>>17302631
Wait a while desu.
>>17303691
Nobody likes it when their dick touches the bowl. It's cold and uncomfortable
>>17303709
>tfw peeing over the edge of a cliff so tall you've already zipped back up when it hits the ground
Had a casual sex encounter with a girl. I got nervous and couldn't get it up. She said we could try again other time. And in fact she wrote two days later, we set a meeting place, but she didn't show up. She apologized and said next day but then she stopped responding.
Should I keep asking or do I wait for her to write? She did mention she is busy at times.
>>17303691
Several advantages.
>Your dick may touch the bowl if the toilet is too small/dick too big
>if you're fat or /fit/ to have big thighs your balls could get squished
>You can aim your piss on the edge of the toilet if you need to be silent for whatever reason
>>17303781
>>You can aim your piss on the edge of the toilet if you need to be silent for whatever reason
This too.
Peeing standing up has many mini-games possibilities.
>>17303787
Do guys actually spend so long pissing that you need to be entertained?
>>17303801
You try to achieve something with your aim and speed to have fun.
Like trying to hit only the ceramic so you don't make a sound or not hitting the ceramic, try to make it last as long as you can or make it go as fast as you can, when you take a shower there are many things you can try too.
Girls, what is your opinion on a shorter guy dating a taller girl? Not an inch shorter, say like 5
>>17302974
Bump
>>17302974
>>17303946
are you still going out?
>>17303933
I find it odd, but whatever.
Wouldn't date someone much shorter than me, personally.
>>17303953
if I rejected a girl (I did) would she think it was because she was tall? or if I was short? like which would you presume
it was because I was self conscious of being shorter btw (and understandably so, apparently)
>>17303952
Yes. We move in together in 2 weeks...
>>17303984
well no offence but if you violated his trust and truly hurt him I don't see it lasting long
Is "accidental anal without lube" a thing?
A friend claimed they recently had sex where the dick went in the butthole due to bad aim, and the butt was wet enough just from vaginal fluid (very aroused) that they could just go at it this way.
>>17302162
Beautiful
>>17302222
They only look good if the person wearing them is gorgeous.
>>17302763
Story of my life
>>17302256
>If your partner got pregnant, would you like to have equal rights or consideration regarding a decision for abortion?
Yes but I know it will never work like that. However if my partner got pregnant and aborted when I wanted to keep it I'd cut her out of my life permanently, regardless of whether I'd been with her for 1 year or 10 years.
What are the chances my crush is making threads about his girlfriends on 4chan? A quiet guy.
What was my girlfriend thinking?
>be me, with new girlfriend of 1 month
>says she loves me, gets butterflies etc
>apparently she has a 'dare' to kiss her ex and some guy that really likes her
>she told me this, said she didn't know what to do (maybe coz I said to keep us on the low as some people wouldn't approve of us being together), I get mad and tell her if she does I will leave her
>she tells me she loves me and only me no one else wouldn't change me for anything starts saying sorry and promises me she wouldn't do anything
>I was her first kiss btw, so maybe this is some immature game they made up like some contest between ex and new guy (not knowing she's with me)
So do I have anything to worry about? Up until now she's been open and honest with me about things. Was she testing if I was going to be a beta and tell her I don't like it but its 'okay' ?
>>17302763
For as long as I can remember unfortunately. I'll regularly plunge into depression where I can't do anything but lie on my bed for days and fantasise about killing myself. Fortunately I'm not suicidal. Small things trigger depression too, like a person saying something or reflecting on how awkward I am. This usually doesn't last as long.
>>17304314
4chan has 27,700,000 unique visitors per month, according to 4chan. You have to divide that number by the number of english speaking males the world has and you'll have the chance.
>>17304327
right in the feels
Ladies,
I'm trying to turn my life around and be more confident. How can I be confident without looking or feeling arrogant?
>>17304364
just b urself my friend
I haven't introduced my dog to two girls I've been seeing yet (both about two months spontaneously). He's a small 11 pound Norwich Terrier I rescued two years ago. He loves women, but I don't want to use it as a pity test. My dog is really important to me. When's the right time to show my dog?
>>17304369
I do my best. Mixing both humble while confident is a bit tough as of now though, so that's where my concerns are coming from.
>>17304325
Are you 12?
Girls
If a girl is dancing with a guy you've known for a while and she starts to press her back up against his chest, would you say she is attracted or is it just a dance thing?
Ok here's my situation that I was thinking of and maybe overthinking a little
So I met a girl at a party and we were talking but it was more of shoot the shit conversations. We started playing beer pong and she started talking shit but in a joking matter so I started talking shit in a joking matter. Busting balls really. Is this a good sign coming from a girl? Does this mean she was comfortable with me?
Sorry for the probably stupid question just had me thinking.
(Here's a bulge for your girly eyes to feast.)
how do you know what size a guys dick is?
now that I think of it, how do guys know?
has every guy literally held a ruler next to their boner at some point in their life?
>>17304613
Girls literally have no idea how big a guy's dick is. It's no fault of their own, perception fucks things up and no one except carpenters and autists have time to completely memorize how long five inches is. Girls can only approximate, and what ends up happening is they quickly find out their last boyfriend that had a ten-incher was really only six and a half.
Guys on the other hand always have a dick to their ruler, pushing in against the pelvic bone, so not even THEY know how big a dick really is because they will hurt themselves to try and get an extra inch out of it, so that way they aren't in the four-inch club.
tl;dr: NO ONE HAS ANY FUCKING IDEA HOW BIG YOUR DICK REALLY IS
>>>17304613
I don't know exactly how big mine is. My guess is average.
>has every guy literally held a ruler next to their boner at some point in their life?
I haven't, i'd feel like a retard with my hard dick in one hand and a ruler in the other, trying to measure precisely so i can compare with a bunch of freaks here who are probably lying their asses off anyway.
>>17304613
I just roughly estimate how big my boyfriend's dick is. One day I was curious, yet determined, so I just used my index finger and estimated how many finger lengths it was, then I measured my index finger and multiplied.
Because I was not going to bust out a measuring tape and my bf is slightly above average, but I didn't want to make him feel inadequate just because he wasn't 9 inches or anything.
But honestly, my boyfriend's average penis is the biggest penis I've ever seen in real life. I've seen porn penises and stuff, but I've never been with a guy over 6 inches before I met boyfriend. I feel like if I tell him that, he'll think I'm lying. My last two boyfriends had literal thumb nubs for dicks... while hard.
So it seems like in clubs and at music shows, the only way to catch a girl's attention is to be really good looking. Where are places you can actually have a conversation with someone? Bars I guess? Salsa dancing? I've heard people say the grocery store, but that seems creepy.
>>17302162
>>17302146
If you ever break down crying when it's not appropriate, I'm breaking up on the spot.
>>17303787
>>17303781
I'm a girl and I can pee silently.
>>17304325
>Said she didn't know what to do
Congrats, you got yourself a cheater.
>>17304724
Explain.
>>17304728
just lean to the side a bit
Just started some summer college classes, and theres this one acting class that I was forced into taking for a gen ed. Today was the first day and this hot spanish chick sat in front of me and we talked for a minute. I found out she's a freshman, and I'm a senior. Whats the best approach to asking her out/becoming friends
>>17304364
Arrogance is "Everything will go my way," confidence is "I'll be okay whether things go my way or not."
>>17304421
Simply acknowledge that when you achieve something, it's not because you're awesome and deserve it, it's because you put effort in and/or were fortunate.
There's nothing arrogant about basking in a task anyone could learn to do - if I cook a great meal, it's not arrogant for me to (if invited) talk about the process of getting there, any more than it's arrogant to talk about elements that made a movie I just watched really enjoyable. Because I'm not talking about me, I'm talking about a concept that I happened to participate in. And anyone could theoretically do it, so I'm not closing the door on anyone - if people want to know how to do it too, I invite them to discuss it on the same level, my experience doesn't outweigh their potential.
It's a fine line of course, because sometimes an attitude of 'anyone could do it' goes too far and becomes 'anybody could do it but you still somehow fail'.
Also acknowledge, silently or otherwise, the forces that allowed you to make this achievement - thank your friends for dining with you, thank your mother for cooking with you as a child, thank the books that taught you, etc. To downplay the achievement itself would in a way be an insult to those who helped and believed in you.
Again, look outside yourself. Scenario 1, someone says a thing you made is great and you say it isn't. Scenario 2, someone tells you their favourite food is great, you tell them it isn't. The former can be confused with humility, the second is transparently rude.
Don't argue against a compliment, just say thank you, and if you feel the need/invitation to, let them know why it means something to you - instead of "no, the meal is terrible, I forgot to add the lemon zest," say "thank you, I was worried when I forgot the lemon zest so it's great to hear it turned out well."
>>17304735
Fuckin' ninjutsu tier.
>>17304493
>Is this a good sign coming from a girl? Does this mean she was comfortable with me?
Yeah, I'd say so.
>>17304735
>>17304728
Or sit a bit closer to the front of the bowl.
But Australian toilets aren't filled to the fucking brim with water like American ones, so maybe it's easier.
>>17304735
>>17304808
But that's not as fun...
How do I deal with my girlfriend's two "go-to" responses for whenever I'm upset?
>She does something hurtful that makes me upset
>I'm upset
>After an hour or two she accuses me of emotional blackmail because I'm upset
#2
>She says something hurtful to me (like saying I'd be a bad father because I was startled by LOUD knocking in my apartment where I live alone)
>I get upset
>"URGH I always have to watch what I say around you!"
It feels like she doesn't understand that if she says/does something hurtful or mean spirited I'm going to be upset.
>>17305244
She sounds like a pretty huge bitch, to be honest. Although, an hour or two of sulking is maybe overboard.
>>17302524
I assume that you are referring to smegma which is found under the foresking of a penis, not smegma found between the flaps of bodyfat.
In either situation, we should not have smegma. In South Africa, people have to wash everyday. That means washing your penis/fatflaps everyday.
The only time that someone has smegma is if they are generally not hygienic.
Is it weird for a 21 year old girl to have never (intentionally) watched porn in her life?
What kind of wildly inaccurate assumptions could you make about that person?
>>17305661
No, I wouldn't say it's too weird. My girlfriend who was 20 at the time mentioned she never watched porn. I will admit I was a little like, "Oh really huh", and then we just moved past it.
Later we'd sometimes watch fucked up porn together just for fun.
>>17305661
Why do you care if it's others would consider it weird or not? It won't have any bearing on your behavior, will it? My friend is 27, and she never has; I thought nothing of it.
Girls, What do you do if guys harasses you on the streets ? Example, catcall, follow you, giving you dirty looks.
Boys, what should you do if your girlfriends experience it ? If you're around when it happens and when you're not around when it happens.
ladies one of my friends just played "sex" in words with friends for a lot of points... I know it was just a good move but do you think theres a slight chance it might be a hint
For girls:
If you were in a stale relationship and then another guy you like started hitting on you in a subtle way (like you both know that you like each other, but nobody would admit it (you won't since you have a bf and you arent a slut and he won't since he respects the fact you have a bf)).
What would be the best course for action for that other guy to get you? Would you prefer more direct flirting approach or would it be better to simply build a connection and wait until you break up?
How do you get over a girl?
I've fallen hard for a friend of mine who I've known for quite some time now. Unfortunately she has a bf, and I really care for our friendship as it's one of the most genuine that I have, so I don't want to do anything stupid. She has never flirted with me or done anything of the sort, I've fallen for her because of who she is(and her attractiveness helps), I have tried my very best to not leave hints that I like her as to not ruin anything, but I don't know how long I can keep this up as it's making me feel sick knowing that it may never be. But like I said it is a really good friendship.
Wat do?
>>17305705
Slowly distance yourself, for your own sake. Put more time into your work/studies, your hobbies, and the gym.
>>17305709
I really don't want to but should I cut the friendship off? I feel like that would make me feel worse and I'd get depressed. Should I just distance myself for a while until I start to feel a change? This sucks and I hate that this happened to me, I guess it's just easy for me to fall for someone since I have no experience.
>>17302230
I have trouble with this myself and had to ask advice. My family has told me that my husband is to "ugly" for me but I don't think so. I think it's because he is very very clean. So based on that I would think just keeping up self hygiene and it would be a go..
>>17302256
Absolutely. It may be my body but it is our (hypothetical) child which means his future as well.
>>17305701
If I got to that stage, I'd have broken up with my boyfriend.
>>17305698
That isn't really a thing where I live. The most that happens here is when a teenager in his first car honks his horn at the urging of his friends that he's illegally driving around.
>>17305733
>If I got to that stage, I'd have broken up with my boyfriend.
And what if the relationship wasn't that stale?
Guys
tell me something that would make ou blush like a doll. i know there is something....tell me!!
>>17302573
Never. Anyone who has ever been good at anything and made it public knows the uncomfortable situation that something like that does to you.
>>17305735
Then I wouldn't be reciprocating that other guy's feelings.
>>17305738
But what if you do but you still stay with your bf? I really don't get it.
>>17302573
nah. i'd want to be his girlfriend, not a groupie.
>>17302689
A sense of self respect, purpose, and not live at home with his paternal units.
>>17305700
s\\\]]\omeone?
>>17305739
If the relationship is stale enough for me to catch feelings for another guy, why would I want to stay with my boyfriend?
>>17302734
Looks are literally the least important thing to me. Don't be a fucking grease ball with no idea how to take care of you and yours and it should all be okay.
>>17305736
One time I was at an appointment with a prospect in her 60s. She wanted further information about the product, so I got my manager on the phone and passed it to her.
What I heard could loosely he translated to:
"Oh, my day is going good, just sitting here...enjoying the company...with this hansome young man you sent me." [winks at me] "Haha, he's turning red."
>>17305748
That's exactly my previous question. I still don't get it tho.
>>17305753
You're being played for attention, my friend. She's never going to leave her boyfriend for you. You're the male equivalent of those girls who wait for their married lover to leave his wife for them where he keeps telling them that 'it's not the right time' or 'XYZ happened and I can't leave her right now'
>>17305759
Well, she had 3 boyfriends in 3 years, so making a comparison with a married man isn't exactly correct. Also what's the point of playing me for attention if she has a bf who should do it?
>>17305765
What's her boyfriend like and what are you like?
>>17303492
Welp. Where I'm from these are terms acceptable and used on a daily but only by close friends/family. When I waitressed many moons ago I often called my regulars Hon, sugar, and pumpkin.
>>17304493
Yep
>>17305767
i guess a nu-male would be the best definition for him.
i'm an shy optimistic guy who seems cool and confident from the outside
>>17304724
Ditto it isn't magic.
>>17305698
Nothing? If they start following me or get physical I will literally break their fucking face but other than that I don't care. Freedom of speech and all.
>>17305777
Well then I guess she likes the security and stability he provides but she probably finds her boring or he doesn't give her enough attention, while you give her just enough of a buzz to keep her happy, but not enough for her to leave you. Like I said, she's playing you for attention.
>>17305784
Ok, so what's my course of action? Her "security and stabily" lasted 1 year least time, and she has been like for 10 months with his bf.
>not enough for her to leave him
so what traits of a nu-male i do need to give her security and stability?
>>17305785
Like I said, she's not going to leave him for you. you're her bit on the side, and you'll never be anything more. I don't know any more about him and her than what you've told me, so I can't really answer your questions.
Also there's the possibility that she's being completely platonic and you're misinterpreting what's going on, you know (again, I don't know the details so I could be wrong about this)
>>17305790
It's not platonic, i can assure you that.
>Like I said, she's not going to leave him for you.
That's why i'll wait for a month or 2 until/if she leaves him and then i'll make my move.
My question is how should i behave myself meanwhile to keep the connection growing?
>>17305244
Kek. She just sounds like a bitch.
I don't get offended, hurt, or angry, but I'm sure she wouldn't want an emotionally cold robot.
So yesterday i walked with my friend in a park. Suddenly from nowhere this cheery and bubbly girl runs up to us. She's an animal rights activist. She tries to persuade us to join and is all hyperactive and all over the place.She followed us through the entire park asking nonsensical questions to me. I joined only to get her number, but she said "she isn't allowed to give out her number during work, but if i wanted to act like a psycho stalker i only needed to search her name on facebook".
Now is this an invitation or a subtle rejection?
>>17305823
Dude, she's an animal rights activist, stay away, those people are nuts, and what you've described of her throughout this post just reinforces that.
Animal welfare, yes. Animal rights, no.
>>17305736
>anon has a small penis
>>17305736
Dolls don't blush.
Idiot.
Male here
I've dated two girls in my life. Both times, they've left me without telling me what I did wrong or why they didn't want to continue the relationship, cut off all contact with me, and almost immediately started dating high-functioning autistic (literally, not figurative or 4chan meme autism) men who are in the military.
Is this probably just a coincidence or is there a lesson I can learn from this? Does this say anything about me as a person? How do I stop this from happening?
>>17305934
Bad luck, probably.
Not sure what to do, went on social network this morning. Had a message from my ex (we broke up in 2013) cant even really call him an ex we went on like two dates and talked on the phone due to long distance. Any way I didn't ever truly feel fully attracted to him, so called it a day to save him getting to invested and being let down massively. So got with my partner were super happy, loads In common its like her was created in a lab to my specifications haha! So any way back to the point. Get a message off this guy telling me hes so sorry he fucked shit up, and hopes he could make it better, but said he thought id have moved on because someone as amazing and beautiful as me couldn't stay single long. I chose to block and ignore the message, but told my fella. I now feel so guilty and awful, hes understandably hurt and upset, but I don't know what to do. I wanted to be honest with him and not hide secrets, because if he ever did find out about it, it would look suspect that I hadn't told him right? But now I feel like I've crushed his world. Basically I dont know how to put it right....told him how much I love him, and explained this guy meant nothing to me, but has any one got any advice as to what I could do to make this right?
>>17305934
Unless you're an overemotional fop who wasn't very good at keeping to plans or schedules, it's bad luck.
>>17305979
The first step would be unblocking the first guy and telling him properly that you're not interested. If he insists, then block him, but blocking without answering is just being a piece of shit.
>he's understandably hurt and upset
There is nothing understandable about it. Some guy wanted to go out with you, you stopped it before it even started, you've done nothing wrong in this regard. You didn't even need to tell your BF, but told him anyway, just so he's in on it. Either ask your boyfriend to explain what his problem is or just give up and wait for him to get over his bitchfit.
>>17302256
I would definitely take his opinion into consideration, since it's his hypothetical child as much as mine, but currently I definitely don't want a kid in my life. If I had a boyfriend I'd tell him that before we ever got intimate though, and should he want a kid I suppose we wouldn't work out.
Trickier if I got pregnant accidentally and suddenly he does want to keep it. I'd say I would get an abortion all the same, might ruin my relationship but that's a decision I have to take.
Obviously I wouldn't want (or even demand) him to pay for anything related to the whole business.
>>17305244
1: lift her up
2: into the trash she goes
>>17305999
Thank you for replying. Ive already blocked him and told him I wasn't Interested. Just feel really guilty. I'm sure my bf will get over it soon, but yeah you are right. Think a sit down and talk about this is needed. You've actually given me a new perspective that isn't that of self loathing, thank you :)
