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What Could I Have Done Better
2016-06-23 14:25:35 Post No. 17285250
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What Could I Have Done Better
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2016-06-23 14:25:35
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I matched this girl on Tinder who I've known remotely the past couple of years but never really connected with beyond saying hello to in the work place.
I asked for her number and then asked her to come to the beach with me. She agreed. So we hang out at the beach for a while, like a few hours. We're talking and sharing a lot about ourselves, our music tastes, etc. We seem to get along really well, I'm enjoying the moment and so is she. I do things like touch or hold her hand, put my hand on her leg or put my arm around her so I don't seem like too much of a "friend".
I offer to buy her dinner and she agrees. We go out to eat and we're listening to music in the car and I'm blown away because she has music tastes that are almost identical to my own, hah.
Later that evening she starts talking about her ex, how they dated on and off for a couple of years. I asked if she's still seeing him she says no. Apparently she thinks she fucked up by not being honest about her past with him (it actually sounds to me like she's still sorta into this dude). I mention that I've been single the past 5 years and it just hasn't worked out with the girls I've gone on dates with, she says "yeah I should probably be single for a while too, I haven't been since I moved down here". After some more words I just hold her hand and say "well I do really like you but we can go whatever pace you want, if at all". She just smiles and says "I think I just need friendship and support right now".
I know this is the kiss of death. I know it is. But I'm hoping to find out what I did wrong so I don't repeat the same mistakes. Was I coming on too strong with telling her I like her so soon? Should I have just changed the subject away from ex-talk? Should I have not been more mysterious? Or was there nothing I could have done and I just ended up not being her type?
Curious to know any thoughts. Pic totally unrelated.