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Relationship gradually have gotten fucked, at the end of my rope. What do
2016-06-23 09:10:05 Post No. 17284504
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Relationship gradually have gotten fucked, at the end of my rope. What do
Anonymous
2016-06-23 09:10:05
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>girlfriend oftentimes will do something that doesn't make sense to me
>I ask questions to understand first, to make sure I'm not hearing anything wrong
>See that something could have been done a lot better and in a way that would benefit both of us
>Normally she used to understand and say she sees what I mean and agrees, then we move on with no problems
The thing is, this sort of thing usually involved both of us, and got me stressed out a bit, IE: she says something that is rude without meaning to, knowing she didn't mean it I bite my tongue for my response, and try to calmly get to the bottom of it with her and clear things up. The problem is, we both take things personally, and can get defensive easily, which USUALLY isn't a problem because we can contain it, but recently...
>She has been stressed out from her new job a ridiculous amount, too much
>We've talked about this and shes aware its stressing her out so as not to take it out on me
>Same thing happens, only now she takes it personally, and starts getting
defensive, taking it personally, etc, and starts arguing and getting upset.
>We end up calming down, fix the problem and make up, but it happens again
>and again
> and again, to where its been going on for a few months like this and I have long since had it.
>I've lost my temper countless times, and we've gotten so bad we are saying horrible things to each other (that I know we don't mean) and things that aren't okay (like personal attacks) that we vowed we would never say
>slowly stopped apologizing and fixing things all the way, instead delaying our talks to fix things until we're calm and have had time to think.
>keeps happening, "breaks" between talks are getting longer and longer.
>just basically not getting better, at best doesn't get worse, but sometimes does.
>see things going down the shitter, but don't want to let them fail, want to fix this shit and restore our relationship to what it once was, and better.
>what do I do
