I've been seeing this girl for a couple of months now and I really like her. She's really attractive but I don't find her as sexually attractive as I find other women. Maybe it's something to do with there not being much good porn with girls that look like her (slim and black). I feel like maybe my brain has been warped by porn. Sometimes I also find myself looking at trap porn. Since I've been with her my porn habits have been quite healthy and when I do watch porn it's usually something normal but every now and then I find myself looking at trap porn. I feel like porn has fucked up my brain. What do I do? We haven't had sex yet so maybe it'll all fix itself once I have sex with her (I'm a virgin btw). Sorry this post is such a mess, I just find its better for me to write things down as the thoughts come from my head otherwise I end up writing nothing when I think about it too much.
>>17283018
It is completely normal. You just don't cheat.
>>17283018
Porn can and will fuck you up. I'd suggest you stop cold turkey if possible.
do you realize that your attraction to different girls will never end? even if you traded your gf for a more attractive one, you might look back at your slim black gf and say how you wish you can now be with her instead. it's natural for us to constantly want more in life, but for certain things like a gf/wife, you just accept that you found her and you can still appreciate the beauty of other people you see, just not act out on it. it's kind of like if you already owned a house and instead of just appreciating and taking care of your house, your constantly looking at mansions down the street. then if you got a mansion, you'd want a castle or whatever. It's endless and stupid.
To put it simply, when you dip your virgin dick into her pussy, you will probably love it.
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>>17283027
If I ever do something as stupid as cheat on her I'd have to do everyone a favour and kill myself. I don't want to be that kind of person. I just finished fapping and have decided that I'm not going to not watch porn again. If I need to fap I'll use my imagination. I've just came so right now this is the easiest thing to say and I imagine when I'm super horny again it will require a lot of will power to stick to my word but I'm going to try my hardest. Does anyone have tips for going without porn like this? Eventually we'll start fucking so it should get easier
>>17283100
I think you are going way too extreme in every choice you are making. Do you hear yourself talking? Cheating on your girlfriend or NO PORN AT ALL EVER GRRR...
Dude, the way to deal with it isn't some crazy will power. That only makes it worse. The way to deal with it is to just calm yourself down. It's okay to find girls sexy looking (your girlfriend thinks guys besides you are attractive too) so fap to porn once in a long while if you miss it, but don't do it every damn day. Eventually enjoy her pussy and on days where you fantasize elsewhere, fap a bit, then go back to your girlfriend and have sex some more. Fapping to porn is okay, and just realize it's just a fantasy to get out of your system. It's actually better to use porn than actually going out and cheating.
>>17283135
Also, if your gf is chill and your both secure with your relationship, you can actually share fantasies with each other and feel even more intimate. That intimacy is only acquired through relationship. It's something special you can't get from a one night stand or a hooker. It gives you both a reason to never leave because you have a special connection. Tell your gf how much you like it when girls wear certain clothing or do certain fetishes. She might actually help fulfill your fantasies the best that she can without you having to cheat. That generosity should be able to make you really love her if you both have the courage to communicate it.
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>>17283068
This is good advice.
But just because I like to hear the sound of my own keys clicking,
>so maybe it'll all fix itself once I have sex with her (I'm a virgin btw)
I think this is pretty likely, dude. Past the first couple times (which don't always suck, but usually aren't mind-blowing) sex is damn addicting and it releases pair-bonding chemicals which make your partner seem more attractive to you (as well as making you adore the shit out of them.) So I really wouldn't stress about this.
I'd also like to echo the point that cutting down somewhat on porn is probably a good idea (for all of us, really), but you don't need to go all-out and quit it cold turkey. It's not meth. It just shouldn't dominate your sex life.
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>>17283204
I hear what you're saying but I feel as if it's the porn that's making me desire women other than my girlfriend
>>17283254
Okay, well hurry up and have sex with your girlfriend. Everything will be solved.
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>>17283068
This is the exact reason why closed/exclusive monogamy is an overrated meme in contemporary human society. For most people including myself, polyamory, casual sex and open relationships are more sensible and realistic and sensible in lieu of the misleadingly noble and needlessly limiting qualities of traditional closed monogamy, which let's be fair, is a remnant of Judeo-Christian's legacy on Western society.
>>17283254
So stop watching porn.
