At what age should a man settle down and start having kids, and how old should the girl he settles down with be?
I'm in a bit of a weird situation and could use advice
>I'm in a bit of a weird situation and could use advice
Then tell us your situation so we can give you advice
>what weird situation?
I'll be 26 in july, my girlfriend is 17 and she's staying at my place for the summer. She's got a year left of highschool and when that's done she wants to move in permanently, be the housewife, get married, have&raise my kids.
>a bit of context:
She goes to a fancy boarding school nearby, her parents are rich religious nuts and dickheads, they got an ugly bitter divorce and dumped her at that school, neither of them want to deal with her since they're having too much fun being single again, she hasn't seen either in over 9 months.
We kept running into each other around town, we started smalltalking then flirting then dating, popped her cherry on halloween night when she was still 16, been inseparable ever since, we went to my folks' place for the holidays, she's living here for the summer. My friends like her, her friends like me, my parents adore her, her parents couldn't care less, my boss met her by accident and told me I have a keeper in my hands.
Skinny, smart, tallish, long black hair, nerdy, good sense of humor, supportive, devoted, submissive, up for anything and everything in bed, reads a lot, religious but not too much, cooks & cleans.
I'm not against the idea, but I do think it's too much too fast, I'm trying to reach a compromise with her.
And before anyone says anything:
It's legal in Massachusetts
26 to 29 is optimal
Her age = [(your age/2)+7]
>>17259501
Okay, so your age is 25
(25/2) + 7 = 19.5
>>17259501
>I'm not against the idea, but I do think it's too much too fast, I'm trying to reach a compromise with her.
About what? About her moving in and you getting married once she finishes school?
Look, if you don't want to do it, don't do it. In this day and age, 26 IS a somewhat young age to settle down, and 17/18 is definitely very young. You don't sound comfortable with this situation, and that's just fine, and to be expected.
Plus, from what you've said, there may be an element of her being, well, a teenager. You're the only bit of stability in her life at the moment, and you're the only one she can depend on. She's emotionally vulnerable, and she might have latched onto you because of that. I'm not saying it's your fault, I just suspect that's what's happening here, whether you realise it or not. Not to mention, she's just not mature enough to make these decisions right now.
>>17259501
Don't let societal disapproval ruin your perfectly fine relationship.
>>17259514
So he should just make sure that they don't have kids. Otherwise it's no big deal.
>>17259523
Getting married isn't to be taken lightly either. Nor moving in. The whole situation isn't simply "hurr durr, you get to tap that sweet teenage ass" - she wants an adult relationship, when she isn't even an adult and, let's be honest, still developing.
>>17259527
The only thing that isn't reversible is bringing a kid into the world.
>>17259492
whenever they feel like it, and hwenever they can afford it. there is literally no other reason to have kids. stop worrying about what the world thinks you 'should' do and worry about what oyu actually want.
that being said
>>17259501
>shes 17
all girls thikn they want to marry their highschool sweetheart (which oyu technically are) and just live happily ever afte.r what they dont realize is that the honeymoon phase is a very real thing and after that their life is essentially over.
even if you're that into her, dont do it. encourage her to go to college. if you guys can survive college get married.
Gotta work in the morning, hope the thread is still alive by then
>>17259492
>>17259501
Okay so
Red flags
>you're 10 years older than her
>you've only known her for a year
>she's still in highschool
>her parents got divorced
>she probably has issues with her parents
>her parents have a lot of $$$$ and she isn't completely estranged from them
but I mean you paint a lovely picture so it's hard to weigh this as a third party. I'd definitely tell her to pump the brakes a little so you can get to know eachother better
>>17259492
>>17259501
I'm just curious, why are you attracted to her? Even as a 17 yr old I could never deal with other 17 yr olds--I can't imagine even trying at 26
I feel like the maturity gap would be too much for me
>>17259492
>>17259501
Is she hot?
How's the sex?
>>17259529
Anyone who has been through a divorce knows it's a really big deal. She'll take a lot of shit.
>>17260591
This is gonna sound fruity and nonsensical, but here goes:
I just feel happy around her.
She has this weird aura around her of positivity, optimism and joy. She's a legitimately good person that always looks at the bright side of life, looks for the best in people, doesn't hold grudges(not even to her scumbag parents), her faith in god feels genuine, she feels genuine. Always with a smile and a nice thing to say. She doesn't get angry, she gets sad.
I'm a grumpy old fart trapped in the body of a 25yo and her aura works on me too, I feel happier around her, less bitter, more generous, funnier, more relaxed, I look forward to things now.
As I said before, sweet as can be, supportive, submissive, devoted, a trooper and a fast-learner in the bedroom, cooks and cleans and gladly.
I actually like the maturity gap, she thinks I'm smart, funny, mature and looks up to me, she likes to hear me talk about whatever and learn from it, she's always eager to try new things.
Plus the whole thing of her parents abandoning her and me swooping in to take care of her tickles my rescue/protect/provide instinct and makes me metaphorically harder than diamonds, on top of her already making me physically hard as diamonds.
I like to be depended on, relied on, looked up to, given control to; she gives me just that and I love her for it.
Plus she's a huge dork that loves horror movies, mexican food, halloween, pro-wrestling, documentaries, big fat novels, candy, working out, shitty foreign soap operas, the winter. A big goof always horsing around.
It's the thing where she thinks she needs me, but I'm pretty sure I need her a lot than what she needs me.
How's that? Did it make any sense?
Sounds like a keeper. Seems to me that your problem comes more from the having a kid part. Kids are fucking expensive and time consuming. Set a date, like when shes 25 or something to have kids. For now enjoy being young. Go out, travel and do all that shit. That gives the relationship time. Don't be like my mother who had me at 19 and she wasted her youth taking care of us and not actually having fun.
>>17260913
Sounds like you're trying to recapture your youth, what a stereotype of an older man that likes younger girls. Don't expect her to stay with you or for her feelings to last, she's a child and as her brain develops more she might decide she doesn't like you. If you do end up getting married and living happily ever after you will be the outlier in this type of situation, it's unlikely.
>>17260604
>Is she hot?
Tastes are subjective of course, to me she's the hottest thing in the world.
Bodywise she's like Lupe Fuentes(the pornstar) pre-boobjob and white&pale as fuck. Short, skinny, tight little butt, small perky tits, flat belly, cute feet, long long black hair, beautiful smile and eyes that scream jailbait. She's got a snow white/perky goth thing going on, likes to dress older, with a good mix of sportful and girly.
>How's the sex?
Amazing, still on the honeymoon phase so we're still going at it like rabbits, and these past days doing the housewife thing have been an aphrodisiac for her.
Eager to try new things, fast learner, prefers to please than be pleased.
Likes my kinks.
>>17259501
What part of Mass do you live in?
>>17260913
>>17261324
That sounds less like love and more like her pussy-game is crazy strong, like a succubus
Be careful with her, bro
>>17259492
No earlier than 87 and the girl should be 18.
I'm 25 and got married to a girl one year older than me at 24 after 5 years dating. She wants kids in 2 years... I don't think I'll ever feel ready for them and it feels kind of gross to me but I know logically it's part of my social responsibility to create the next generation and balance out all those uneducated people reproducing.
There's nothing more I dread than the day when I have to pretend to be happy or excited about the birth of my children.
>>17259492
I support the idea of setting a date (24 years?) In order to let her develop. If you are still ok, go ahead and donthe rest
Good catch OP
>>17261324
What kinks? Butt stuff?
>>17261639
Cringe, edgelord detected.
>>17262389
The usual vanilla stuff: Missionary, cowgirl, doggy, 69, shower sex, kitchen sex, car sex.
Public sex, but we gotta be careful with that since she's still technically a minor.
Impromptu sex if that's a thing, like tonight when I was leaving to hang out with friends she got on her knees to blow me.
Roleplaying: She puts on one the uniforms from her school, cooks up a scenario, gets into character and we get going. We're also preparing to do maid and nurse.
Blindfond with light bondage and a bit of spanking.
I haven't been up her ass yet, we're saving it for my birthday in a few weeks, she's been doing research and is very excited about it.
>>17259492
ugh that character looks so familiar... what cartoon is she from? it's driving me crazy that i don't know
>>17259492
>>17259501
>26
>17
Nice b8
You're in the honeymoon phase so it seems like a good idea right now to settle down when she is finished school but its not. She's young so she'll want to do her own thing once she gets a little older. Relationships and their dynamics also change after 1 - 2 years in.
>>17259501
Seems like it's not going to work. Some things to consider;
>an age gap add a complication to the relationship and make it less likely to survive - in your case it is also an age gap that will cause social stigma, and whether that's fair or not in your case, it's something else to battle
>she is not nearly done figuring herself out yet... the risk if very real that if she goes along with this whole plan, she is going to resent you for taking her youth away
>as mentioned every sweet teenage girl thinks she's going to marry her boyfriend, does she realize what it entails? does she really realize that while her friends will be out flirting and dancing, she's going to be rocking a crying baby on three hours sleep? are you sure that she's going to shape up to the task and not going to shirk her responsibilities?
>if you get married under 25 the risk for divorce is already rampant compared to late twenties
>this remark "I like to be depended on, relied on, looked up to, given control to; she gives me just that" is a red flag because it seems like your relationship is unequal and you are sort of a father figure to her - which means that one day or another, she's going to want a peer she can be wild and crazy with and not feel judged by, you leave fathers when you grow up, that's the deal
>she comes from a bad home situation, which puts her at a disadvantage of knowing how to take good care of children and ups her chance of divorcing herself
>you are still in the goddamn honeymoon phase and you should never marry anyone until you've experienced them out of the honeymoon phase and look at them without rose tinted glasses
And last but not least:
>if you are so amazing together and she is mature enough to understand what starting a family and marriage entails, why not enjoy each other for more years before taking that leap?
So is nobody call this guy out on being a bonafide rapist?
>>17264970
>Implying is not a neck beard writing his fantasies
>>17264970
How is he a rapist?
>>17261006
>recapture your youth
The dude isn't 40
