I am a little bit confused about my sexuality. I had no sexual experience to my 21. For a long time I thought I am gay since I don't mind masturbating to gay porn but when I had some funny business (touching, blow job) with a guy I felt nothing arousing so I figured I must be straight. Yesterday I was out with my friends and they thought we should visit a brothel wheere I had sex with some girl and it felt exacly the same. I just couldn't feel anything and I didn't finnish. So what the fuck is wrong with me? Why does masturbation feel so much better than sex. I mean I don't have problem masturbating four times a day if I am bored. Am I just destined to be miserable in my sexual life?
Are you aroused by either men or women? Do you think about a relationship with either?
Maybe you've been masturbating too much/got used to porn. Maybe you've been using death grip. Maybe random sex doesn't feel good to you, and being romantically interested in the person would make it better.
>>17225997
I think about getting a girl a lot but I have some intimacy issues.
I have never heard about death grip. But when I think about it it takes so much work to get off to porn maybe that's the problem. Thanks.
>>17225982
Sexuality isn't always so simple as being straight or gay. For example I thought for the longest time that I'm asexual, since I was the same could masturbate to any kind of porn, but didn't feel anything in particular while having sex. Didn't sleep with anyone for a couple of years, until I met my current SO and sex with him is fantastic. I guess at least I just needed the emotional connection that I never had with any of my other partners. I'd say experiment if the chance present itself, maybe you'll come across someone or something that suits you.
It's pretty normal for a guy to not finish or not get hard with a prostitute, there's time pressure, they're strangers, etc. It's actually a pretty uncomfortable situation and doesn't satisfy the emotional aspect. One of the reasons why I vastly prefer professional escorts over random prostitutes.
Maybe the same situation applied with the guy (random hookup? Did you just want to get laid?), especially if you lack sexual experience this could result in a similar situation. Maybe try finding a partner of either gender and see if the attraction is there and if the sex feels right with them.
>>17226022
I guess emocional connection plays a big role in pleasure during sex. I am so used to hear form my friends how they banged this and that girl and how they dumbed her afterwards I assumed it's a norm for a guy to want that.
>>17225982
Forget sex for a moment. Where do your romantic fantasies lie? Do you imagine yourself 10 years from now loving and being loved by a man or a woman?
Where the emotions are, sexual attraction will follow.
