Is being in a happy relationship hopeless for a 39-year-old female virgin like me?
>>17195814
Not hopeless at all, some people start new relationships in their 80s, twice your age. There's no reason you can't find someone. It may be harder for some people due to age, appearance or other circumstances, but keep in mind that there's always someone of the opposite gender who are in a similar situation.
One piece of advice I can give is to drop your standards. You're not fresh 20 year old pussy anymore, so don't expect chads to be jumping at you. In particular, consider looking at older men (45-50+) as well as men in your own age group.
>>17195814
Yes and how in the fuck are you a 39 year old virgin? You know there are young guys who are into that if you wanted to lose it.
>>17195837
Well I never expected chads to jump at me. Even back when I was younger, it wasn't like I looked like a Victoria's Secret angel.
I don't mind older men (had some teacher crushes when I was very young) but I don't want some creepy neet.
I'd ask for pics, but you probably won't post them.
Could you post someone similar to your current self?
>>17195843
You ain't got to lay a neet. You're a female. Literally all you have to do is ask a guy and somebody will pump you.
>>17195852
Not her but we girls don't want to be pumped and dumped. We want a guy to our taste who pumps AND COMMITS. Which is nearly impossible to find. Just getting pumped is not what we want and it's not good enough, it's just a waste of time and an exposure to shame and ridicule from cunts like you.
>>17195841
Girls aren't interested in casual sex.
>>17195866
Somebody is defensive. Been hurt by a guy before I take it? I thought she just wanted to lose her virginity. You're the typical girl who gets burned once or twice and goes on damn crusade about how all guys are trash. Fuckkng get over yourself. There are guys who are willing to pump and commit you must just be picking the wrong ones.
>>17195873
The ones I fucked casually told otherwise.
>>17195873
Some are.
>>17195866
>>17195873
girls can get a relationship with a guy just as easily. make an okc, you will have about 50 guys to choose from each week
women choose whether to be single or in a relationship, its men who have to strive for anything
>>17195875
>I thought she just wanted to lose her virginity.
>>Is being in a happy relationship hopeless
Are you a mouthbreather too?
>>17195884
This is the truth. A girl will get bombarded by messages on okcupid or Facebook. It might not be the guy she wants or ones she's interested in though. A guy on the other hand unless he is either extremely wealthy, handsom, etc probably won't get much attention.
>>17195875
>I thought she just wanted to lose her virginity.
You are a stupid faggot:
>"Is being in a happy relationship hopeless"
>"happy relationship"
>"relationship"
>>17195887
Of course I'm a mouth breather I'm on 4chan we must all be mouth breathing, neck beard, neets because that's the stereotype. I admit I misread OPs post. I made a fucking mistake. Way to go with the name calling. That's why your ass keeps getting pumped and dumped lol.
>>17195847
Can't really find a pic that resembles me, but maybe like this and older
>>17195893
Let's highlight my mistake and completely derail this thread with pointless argument and name calling. I swear this board gets worse and worse.
>>17195898
If you look similar to this you should be fine. Put in a little effort and you'll find a guy and have a happy relationship. Try online dating maybe.
>>17195909
But I am already 39 plus like that girl in the pic I am not exactly in the "hot" category. Men who want kids will not pick me.
>>17195852
>>17195884
Fucking redpillers. Did they cut the bans back to six days now, Boner-Boy?
Girls don't just end up virgins at your age. Either you're horrendously ugly, super vile and unpleasant, or some combination of the two. Women don't have to try to get a relationship. There's a reason why no guy wants to touch you and it has to be a pretty good reason for it to be the other way around than it usually is.
Spill the beans, OP. Whats the actual reason you fucked up something that you don't even need to try for?
>>17195916
Shut the fuck up, go kneel at some bitch's feet or something you white knight, soft-dick jabroni. Never been banned before so I don't know what you're talking about. Way to sell out your own gender faggot. Everything isn't white and black, I ain't got to be a red killer but I damn sure ain't about to be a jabroni like you.
>>17195915
>gets advice
>bounces it back
ur hopeless.. what is it that you really want from us?
>>17195929
What advice? All that poster said could be summed up as "try harder"
>>17195915
True guys who want kids will be very difficult to find. It may be too late for that but it's not too late to be happy and in a relationship. Go seek that out. By the way this advice comes from the so called "redpiller" woman hater.
>>17195938
No I mean I don't want kids, but guys who want kids will not pick me and I reckon a lot of guys want kids (most couples have kids, no?)
>>17195944
lol you're gonna be the "my husband's son" lady
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
>>17195962
...what?
>>17196061
there's this thing here that triggers people, and that's when someone tells a story about his "wife's son" and everyone calls him a pathetic cuck not realizing it's a troll
well you're the female equivalent of that. see, here in this lovely community we make fun of people who raise other people's kids, because that makes you a cuck and a laughing stock.
>>17195896
>posts ad hominem based on reading mistake
>admits to mistake with more ad hominem while literally complaining about ad hominem
You ARE a mouthbreather. I'm not OP btw, I just find your stupidity fascinating.
>>17196066
And relationships with someone with kids almost never ends happily, right?
>>17196235
>relationship that ends happily
>ever
ayyy lmao
>>17195814
hhahahhaa this is so bait
>>17195944
For a guy who doesn't want kids finding a girl who wants a serious long term relationship without kids is really hard
Try online dating, you can easily date for sure and stress the no kids part not all guys want them
This can't be real.
>>17195873
Some of us are. my best friend has had more partners than I can count, most of them not her bfs.
>>17196235
Lol no, it was a train wreck that didn't even last two months. Not because of the baby but rather the baby mama. It's not worth it imo. But who knows, maybe I'm just too young (early 20's) to think its noble or w/e to raise someone else's baby.
>>17195814
No just give up, I'm 26 and already gave up. Some people just don't get happy endings, we are unwanted trash by nature we aren't meant to exist.
>>17195921
>Either you're horrendously ugly, super vile and unpleasant, or some combination of the two. Women don't have to try to get a relationship. There's a reason why no guy wants to touch you and it has to be a pretty good reason for it to be the other way around than it usually is.
Don't want to agree with "girls get laid easy" guy but there's SOME truth to his point. What exactly is wrong with you?
This woman just doesn't get that the world is not as she sees it.
She's waiting for her prince charming, who will never come.
>>17195814
Does your name start with a J?
This has nothing to do with OP but i dont feel like making a new thread.
I'm a 22 y/o male virgin and i've been seeing this girl the past couple weeks. Before i started seeing her i was masturbating 6 times a week with no problems getting an erection, even w/o porn. Then i stopped masturbating all together and after about a week we were about to fuck but i couldn't get an erection. I assumed it had to do with a bunch of shit that was on my mind since our situation is complicated and school has been stressing me out. Then we tried again a week later and i still could only get semi-erect, and now i can't tell if im just letting it get to my head or what. Since then i've tried jacking off with my 3/4 erect dick and it actually hurt when i came, not a burning sensation but more like an aching feeling, maybe because i was trying to force it without being hard enough. I seriously don't understand why this is happening. I feel really comfortable with this girl and she's really supportive of me so i don't think it's performance anxiety.
I don't think it's a physical problem since i'm relatively healthy; i workout and stay well rested. And like i said i had no problems with my dick until i stopped masturbating for that 1-2 week period when i started seeing her.
Would really appreciate some advice here.
>>17197126
Performance anxiety. Relax.
>>17195814
Post your voice. I'm curious.
>>17196282
But the fact that I have never dated before despite my age may be seen as a red flag by some guys.
>>17195866
this the fault of feminist you wanted sexual liberation and this is the future you chose. feminist have created a new generation of men who only want to use you for sex.
>>17196936
It's not real. The odds of this being real are astronomical. Virginity later in life is almost exclusively a male trait. There haven't been many studies done on this, but the studies that have been done all reached the same conclusion, that barring extreme anomalies, only men maintain virginity later in life.
And we all know why that is. In human sexuality, women are the selectors. They are the gatekeepers. This isn't a modern phenomena. By studying DNA they've found that (over thousands of years) 80% of women continued their genetic line, while only 40% of men did.
I'm a 27 year old virgin and I wouldn't date OP (not that I would expect her to be interested.) I'm not really interested in dating anyone though. I lost interest in that years ago (not that it matters.)
This thread isn't real and anyone assuming it's real is an idiot. The only way this thread is potentially real is if OP has been morbidly obese her entire life, as in several hundred pounds, is physically deformed in some hideous way, or severely mentally ill. Those are pretty much the only conditions that render older female virgins. Simply because having sex is not a challenge for women, even for the bottom rung of women. It's a past time.
>>17195866
yeah go fuck yourself you piece of skin made for our pleasure. i dated a girl for three years and I gave her great sex all the time and she dumped me for someone else and now complains to me about how her new guy can't make her cum like I did women are a fucking JOKE FUCKING THOT ASS BITCH
>>17195814
You can get a kissless virgin male your age
>>17195814
have you looked into the Computer Science department, plenty of Committed guys in there. trust me.
>>17197968
Wew lad, we men have been treating women as property for far longer than feminism has existed. You must be a child.
>>17198011
>implying socially retarded women don't exist too
>>17198017
It's okay anon, in a few years when you've learned to detach from objectively shit people and stop being strung along on a leash, you'll begin to pick up the pieces of your heart and start anew. You may even find yourself a nice piece of ass that is not objectively shit.
>>17195915
but that is where ur wrong. i'm a 33 year old male looking for a woman to have children and a family with. she must have absolutely no slutty past, a couple of boyfriends would be fine ofc i'm not a virgin either.
i have always been drawn to older women because they tend to be more interesting. OP would definitely be on my radar. i'm 6'5", 200lbs, good looking, well adapted (as far as that is possible for someone on fucking 4chan), educated and financially stable.
there are plenty of good men out there that are looking for a srs relationship.
also, fuck typing on my phone.
>>17195814
What powers have you unlocked sorceress?
>>17198525
>Wew lad, we men have been treating women as property for far longer than feminism has existed. You must be a child.
Women aren't treated as property in western first world countries. Granted, women had a lesser role for most of the last two centuries by most measures. It can easily be argued in the last few decades this has been inverted. Marriage has essentially becoming a binding contract wherein a man risks losing his property, access to his children, and even a portion of his future income while women stand to lose nothing. (This is why marriage rates continue to decline from historical lows with no end in sight.) In that light it is difficult see how anyone but the man is someone's property in the context marriage; all of the things he may consider valuable are literally at the whim of his partner's happiness (an inherently flimsy and undependable thing to hedge all that you own on.) Of course, they didn't teach this in your Women's Studies class, and you seem to have something of a guilt complex, so I don't expect you to agree.
>implying socially retarded women exist
Even socially retarded women usually have sex before they reach OP's age. Simply because women are not expected or required to have social acumen in order to get laid. They aren't expected to be the initiators; they aren't expected to have any sort of confidence in social situations unless you believe saying "yes" requires confidence. Furthermore, in this age, they don't even have to place themselves in what we consider social environments (e.g. bars.) They can simply make a dating site profile and watch the deluge of inquiries come in. I can replicate the process right now with a fake profile.
This is merely one reason why virginity later in life is almost exclusively a male trait, but it's an important one. Social competence is merely one additional criteria that women use to filter out inferior mates, and by extension inferior genes.
>>17195814
There is nothing a woman's hole can't do for me that I can't do with my hand. Same for you, you don't need a dick.Lots of things fit in your hole, start exploring it. Your probably an ugly whore if someone has touched that shit yet so please keep your masturbation off the internet. I don't want to see some old hag remove cob webs from their ancient pussy.
>>17195866
tis bait me lads
>>17198633
Jesus dude, stop projecting your evil SJW fantasy onto every person who disagrees with your rhetorical bullshit.
All you've given me is the perspective that allows you to agree with hand-waving generalizations.
I know this is hard for you to understand, but all opinions lie on a spectrum. Only children can fit perfectly under some singular label.
>>17198651
I'm the one projecting? You start:
>we men have been treating women as property for far longer than feminism has existed
>we men
Thanks for including me, and about 50% of the population, in your male guilt complex/fantasy. And I'm the one projecting?
>All you've given me is the perspective that allows you to agree with hand-waving generalizations.
I don't see the fact the vast majority of assets transferred when a marriage fails are from the male to the woman to be a generalization. I believe that is a fact which can be verified (and has been) and therefore is by definition not a generalization. But we can simply label things we disagree with as generalizations, that's how they teach refutation when you study social sciences and liberal arts today I suppose.
>I know this is hard for you to understand, but all opinions lie on a spectrum. Only children can fit perfectly under some singular label.
Then please don't lump me (or anyone else for that matter) in your "evil male slave driver of women" stereotype. It's offensive and, to use a phrase you seem to like, childish. (I assure you I'm older than the majority of people on this site, not that it matters.)
>>17198698
>I'm the one projecting? You start:
>>we men have been treating women as property for far longer than feminism has existed
I'm sorry, but you appear to be retarded. "but but it dont happen so much these days in merica" does not invalidate my statement.
>I don't see the fact the vast majority of assets transferred when a marriage fails are from the male to the woman to be a generalization.
Excellent analysis of the complex situation based on one variable that is tossed around by MRA hillbillies like a baseball.
>Then please don't lump me (or anyone else for that matter) in your "evil male slave driver of women" stereotype.
Talk about overreacting and completely missing the point of my original post. Do you get this triggered every time someone disagrees with your rose-colored worldview?
>>17198715
>I'm sorry, but you appear to be retarded. "but but it dont happen so much these days in merica" does not invalidate my statement.
Actually, it does.
>we men have been treating women as property for far longer than feminism has existed
"Treating" implies we are currently in the process of something; in this case, treating women as property. And "we" implies you and I are currently doing so. Since this website is used almost exclusively by people in the Western first world, your statement is objectively false. I don't believe when people say "we" on 4chan they are referring to denizens of Saudi Arabia. And you seem objectively retarded in hindsight, no?
>Excellent analysis of the complex situation based on one variable that is tossed around by MRA hillbillies like a baseball.
I've seen no other analysis, nor a refutation of the posited one. Only crying.
>Talk about overreacting and completely missing the point of my original post. Do you get this triggered every time someone disagrees with your rose-colored worldview?
I'm overreacting? You start by implying modern American men are evil slavedrivers of women, and act surprised when someone calls you out on your feminist fantasy spiel? I'm genuinely sorry. Sucks to actually be countered when you're accustomed to going about your day dropping cheeky, politically charged comments, and no one has the audacity to refute you. Frankly it's why you have such a cherry-picked world view; like most male feminist warriors you're not accustomed to anyone saying, "you know that's bullshit," and when it happens, it must be an overreaction, right? Better call them "retarded," that's not childish at all.
Painfully weak minded, man. Please fuck off back to whatever safe space you frequent where you can pollute the discourse with hollow barbs and remain completely unchallenged in your worldview if that's what pleases you. This is one of the few places that's not a requirement yet.
>>17198765
Wow. You actually don't understand tenses. Keep projecting if it makes you feel better about your closed mind. I made a single claim that you have overblown to SJW propaganda and you're crying about bullshit that you read between the lines.
It's amusing for you to go on about my "safe space" when you close yourself off to all sources that disagree. Sounds pretty sheltered to me.
And you STILL continue labeling me as the opposite extreme in your naive two-party worldview.
I'm done responding to your mental break. Keep rambling. I pity you.
>>17198822
>Wow. You actually don't understand tenses. Keep projecting if it makes you feel better about your closed mind. I made a single claim that you have overblown to SJW propaganda and you're crying about bullshit that you read between the lines.
If I am "doing" something, I am actively engaged in that thing. This is referred to as the present continuous tense. (The key word there is "present.") You don't understand the technicalities of grammar or even the fundamentals of English. I don't expect much in terms of intellectual rigor from your kind though.
>It's amusing for you to go on about my "safe space" when you close yourself off to all sources that disagree. Sounds pretty sheltered to me.
I'm on here arguing with your dumbass because you think it's okay to drop cheeky insults and continue on your day unabated. Of course there's no arguing taking place, because you can't refute anything, only drop more cheeky, ineffectual and inapplicable insults, peppered with the occasional namecalling. I assume this is because you're never challenged, and don't know how to actually respond like an adult. So namecalling, appeals to the stone, and red herrings it is.
>I'm done responding to your mental break. Keep rambling. I pity you.
You never responded in the first place. So by all means return to your safe space where you can be comfortable, unchallenged, and ignorant. We wouldn't want to hurt your fragile ego little one.
>>17198862
>I'm on here arguing with your dumbass because you think it's okay to drop cheeky insults and continue on your day unabated. Of course there's no arguing taking place,
>of course i'm triggered and that's why i'm going off on such an obtuse tangent about my deepest issues
>>17195814
Likely, even better, it might be karma bitch-slapping you
No one is "alone" after 35 without a damn good reason
tldr: feminism
>>17195866
If you want us to commit, three easy rules
1) No nagging
2) No cuckoldry
3) We're the breadwinners ergo we keep the money
That's the kind of reasons why prostitutes are lighter on our minds than relationships
>>17195814
>39-year-old female virgin
Literally how?
>>17195898
OK now I wanna date you.
Also hug.
>>17200383
Extremely reclusive personality. Never actively looked for somebody
You sure the dating game wilp be ok for me? I am not young anymore
>>17195814
how can being in a happy relationship be possible if you cant be happy on your own?
>>17200440
It will be
Also some guys don't want kids and relationships at thst age will fall appart as most women will want kids
you seem like a total catch in every possible way
Being a virgin isnt a problem, you can always say you wanted to wait for the right guy and in hs/college you were too busy with school and later with your career
As a guy i would be impressed as fuck
>>17200446
Not her but
Having a person you can spend time with, relax, talk, enjoy life in general
Love yourself bullshit only goes so far
>>17200446
>>17200459
Relying onto someone else for your happiness doesn't work, unfortunately.
>>17200511
Its not relying on someone to be happy
Its about sharing the happiness with someone
You dont have to love yourself to be happy, you dont have to be happy to love yourself
But spending time with someone you like makes you happier and less lonely
>>17200456
>Also some guys don't want kids and relationships at thst age will fall appart as most women will want kids
Don't get this
>>17195814
lose weight you fat piece of garbage.
>>17200640
Women want kids
Guys who don't can't stay with a girl who does
At 30 it begins to get hard as most women push for kids, at 40 if they dont have then they ger really desperate for it
A women at 40 with no kids and not wanting kids is a blessing
>>17195814
you're a female, you'll be fine. Some guys may have a problem with it but they are morons anyway and you don't want to deal with them
The virgin age limit thing only applies to guys
This thread is fake as fuck. Either post your pic, explain what's wrong with you (more like admit that you're fat) or kill this thread
>>17197084
It probably starts with a G hahaha
>female
You can make a guy do anything if you eat and dress properly
