Whenever I push my personality into extroverted territory in order to interact with people, I feel as though I become obnoxious, conceited and insufferable. I can tell I'm annoying my friends. How do I attract women? I'll get nowhere staying in my laid back comfort zone.
>>17193817
>Whenever I push my personality into extroverted
You're beta, stop trying to be someone you're not and live with it. You'll eventually surround yourself with like minded people. Stop trying too hard and chill the fuck out.
>people don't like me when I try to be someone I'm not
No shit.
>>17193817
this is gonna sound retarded but
1) be yourself
2) externalize yourself in a way that lets you interact with people.
we arent entirely sure what you mean by 'extroverted' territory. but im gonna work under the assumption that you mean going out and meeting basic bitches in mainstream ways.
consider taking what you actually enjoy, externalizing that and meeting girls (or rather, people) in that way.
keep in mind that there is a difference between your 'comfort zone' and 'who you are as a person'. comfort zone implies that you should be doing more but aren't. like being able to approach a girl in general. but 'who you are as a person' implies that say, you dont like to go out to clubs and bars cuz they jus arent your thing, and forcing yourself to go is not productive or healthy or this or that or the fifth thing.
Maybe try monitor how you act when you're one on one with people. Then replicate that with larger groups of people. Try not to take over the conversation if you don't have any of value to say and just relax a bit. If you can try get a bit of beer into you beforehand.
>>17193841
>thinking this actually helps people
>>17193817
Whoa, take it one step at a time.
You've gotta develop your own distinct personality, you've gotta hone your emotions, and you've adjust and fix your issues that you have already.
It might be too late, depending on how old you are.
