I'm going to be direct, I'm a male virgin extremely hormonal ever since I masturbated for the very first time last year, for the past year and a half i became addicted to masturbation to the point of doing it 3 times a day even though each session just leaves me frustrated and depressed that I had to resort to masturbation for release.
I extremely want to have sex, but sadly I have no experience on how to do this and unfortunately losing my virginity to a hooker doesn't sound like it would help. I feel if I did it that way it would just make me too used to paying for it and crave sex with someone who WANTS to do it for free thus my problem wouldn't go away it would just evolve.
Plus I recently learned from the closest experience I had to getting laid I don't stay aroused unless I'm fully sexually attracted to a girl otherwise I will go limp extremely fast before its time to get down to business.
Now that the prologue is out of the way, most of my friends in addition to poking fun of my situation just casually suggest I see a therapist and I'm unsure of how likely that is to help me, even a sexual therapist doesn't sound like they'd help. Plus I'm extremely hesitant to spend money on something I'm not sure will provide be with results.
So for those who's been to either of them how were they and did they actually help?
I get laid at least twice a week and I masterbate one or two times daily.
As for the limp thing, that's probably because you're nervous as hell and is also normal.
>>17189673
Wouldn't mind masturbating as much as I do so long as I knew what the better alternative was like. I think the mystery of the unknown is what makes me feel angry and depressed at myself for masturbating.
The limp happened twice with the same girl on different days which was the reason why I went to the doctor to check myself and after stating their opinion that it was most likely a matter of attraction they suggested masturbation and when I did it for the first time thats when the addiction started and the urge grew stronger.
>>17189658
it works as far as I know, but it is usually something one goes to with their partner.
>>17189685
Quite honestly I wouldn't call it better. It's just a different alternative to getting your rocks off.
As for the limp, I'm still thinking it's nervousness, but if you think it's attraction, ask if she will do something you find sexy. Like a blowjob, handjob, 69'ing, porn, or face fucking. I've had times where I've been nervous/not as attracted as I could be and I have a huge thing for face fucking so 10 seconds of that and my dick is diamonds and I'm ready to have sex.
>>17189697
That's what I hear, thing is I don't have a partner. This issue is on me alone, and I'm curious exactly what a sex therapist can do to help someone who's having issues that DOESN'T involve premature ejaculation, Lack of sex drive, or impotence.
What on earth could they do to help a person who has a unusually strong desire to have a healthy sexual experience for their first time and their constant masturbation just fuels the urge?
>>17189707
Sex is what you make it of it and always better than masturbation if done well and as long as you're into it SO I HEAR.
And I had the girl give me a blowjob(Which she was terrible at), massaged her and shake her ass for me and all that while it still kept me erect during those moments but like I said when it came time to stick it in I went limp incredibly fast.....She personally suspected it was the condom.
A sex therapist is for people/couples that are having problems with sex.
You don't have a partner and you have never had sex therefore, a sex therapist is pointless for you.
Occupy your time with other things.
Keep your hands busy with drawing or writing or woodworking type activities.
>>17189709
they can help you stay hard, if that's what you're after, and diagnose why you can't. Though, like others have suggested, you're probably having trouble staying hard because you're so nervous.
>>17189720
Ah ha so a sex therapist IS truly for couples at their core. So why the hell do people keep pushing me towards that option?
And I do occupy my time with other things, I write,exercise,type,draw, play video games(Which helps a decent amount actually)
But the thing is there's 24 hours in a single day and I work for 8 hours of it, when I come home there's plenty of time for my urge to push me towards that habit sooner or later and the longer I go without it the stronger the urge anyway...
>>17189721
I was given Viagra by the doctor before to assist with masturbation the first time and while that helped oh man I did NOT like how unnatural it felt. What other methods could be used to stay hard naturally anyway?
As for the nervous suspicion well there's only one way to find out, but I need someone willing to test that out, but since I'm not with the I tried with anymore that's the hard part..
>>17189719
I see them as two different things.
>blowjob(Which she was terrible at)
If she was bad at it, it doesn't help lol
Other than that I'm still going with nervousness, you're so focused on having sex that your body is cock blocking you. You need to calm yourself down and have fun, if that involves making a joke or lots of foreplay, do what you gotta do. This is just my opinion, but I've been in your shoes.
>>17189742
Oh I love foreplay and teasing, the easiest things you can do without actually getting laid and I'm always aroused by that at least but then again I've done those before.
Still quite interesting description with my body cock blocking me. Still just gotta find someone who's willing to let me be calm, patient and have fun with me that's the trouble I'm having the most.
>>17189735
>So why the hell do people keep pushing me towards that option?
because they have no idea what a sex therapist actually is.
>>17189753
Do you think if I tried to schedule an appointment with one and tell them my situation they'll dismiss me since I'm single and sexually inexperienced so I can tell all of my friends who suggested it it was pointless?
>>17189747
Saved you a trip to the sex therapist, which probably wouldn't have helped you.
>Still quite interesting description with my body cock blocking me.
If you think about it, it makes sense.
Anyway, I hope I've helped you out OP. Good luck in the search for a girl to help you on your way.
>>17189767
all you can do is call and ask. Sounds like it's something you'd want to talk to a regular doctor about first though, and then get a referral to someone appropriate.
>>17189658
stop watching porn. not that hard
>>17189829
Ya know back before I ever masturbated I did casually watch porn and it never bothered me or effected me too much other than a erection that I did nothing about.
And right now even if I don't watch porn I still get that urge and my imagination is enough so yeah that wouldn't help.
>>17189849
>when I was young
kek. It takes over 3 months to actually see change in your body of any type. Stop watching porn.
But you really like porn enough to have ed so you wont stop. Ive seen people like you before. Its really sad. Im just glad I was mentally strong enough to stop.
>>17189883
Like I said It's notporn that gets me to masturbate, its a strong curiosity and urge to have sex but my only alternative right now is to masturbate using my imagination and the occasional arousing imagery. Once I have sex and it's actually enjoyable I'm hoping that I won't care so much about masturbating.
