I never thought I'd even date a Christian vegetarian, let alone fall for one. I'm fairly apathiest/agnostic in my views on religion. I'm not a vegetarian. She doesn't believe in sex before marriage.
But nevertheless, it's happened. We get along really well, she has a great sense of humour and I think she's amazing. We have nothing in common. She's a bit of a greenie, she's into saving the world, ending poverty, battling climate change through policy change and Art. I'm into nothing - discussing philosophy, chilling out, hanging with friends, meeting people, travelling - mostly boring stuff. That is to say I have no real interests so I take a mild interest in almost everything and can have a conversation with almost anyone.
It's also a LDR (4 hours drive) and she's still in her final year and doesn't know where she'll be next year. Neither do I to be honest, as I still have a 2 year masters degree to sort out, somewhere in the world.
Biggest kicker - possibly nothing beyond kissing until she's "sure". Which could be for ages. She's also a commitment phobe and unsure of whether this is a good idea. She's unsure if she likes me or just doesn't want to hurt me. In short she's unsure about anything right now. And I'm starting to question it myself.
Is this a good idea /add/?
>>17171802
It's going to be hard. And you got to think will this chick be worth it in the end after all the long talks, and waiting. Probably not so ditch her and find someone that won't change you to become something that she's looking for.
>>17171817
Nothing else bothers me other than the fact that she's unsure. I don't mind waiting and I don't think sex is that important, but I wanna know she's on board I guess. Also I should mention I don't usually fall for anyone and this is maybe the 5th girl I've actually liked. I've never actually dated anyone I've liked before. And all the girls I've been with before I haven't really liked. I'm fucking scared desu.
>She doesn't believe in sex before marriage
Love the wording here. Like it is something that you have to believe in. Unlike the Christian God, Sex before Marriage is a thing that actually exists. A better wording would maybe be something along the lines of: She fell for an organization that tries to regulate peoples sex lives and to gain influence and power in general through the institutionalization of spirituality.
Have fun getting shitty handjobs until she drops her fundamentalist belief system (all sorts radical views are often rethought when you hit your 20s) for some new thing that gives her existence a false sense of purpose like yoga or drugs and loses her v-card to some guy who most likely will not be you.
>>17171910
*declines sombrero*
Seems like a lot of work for a ton of uncertainty. But love, man, I feel you. If you want her in your life, then you may as well give it your best shot.
>>17171917
well meme'd
>>17171910
I'm not sure i'm even getting handjobs, but thanks. It's nice to know guys like you exist, but that's not me. I actually really respect her views, which I think is a prerequisite of a relationship. I just don't know if I can live with them.
>>17171910
*slurps vape pen*
youforick!
>>17172085
>>17171917
keep spouting memes and sucking organized religions cock i guess
>>17172077
I just find it pitiful that young people miss out one of the most beautiful things in life for so long in their lives just because of dated and archaic principles.
>>17171910
your right LOL you're post is LIT LIIIT! ;D
>>17172153
You are the one that deserves pitty. Your condescension and elitism is undesired and unappreciated. No one cares how you feel. You are not important. You truly deserve to end your life.
>>17172077
I guarantee that dink has never touched a woman. Don't listen to it.
If she really is a Christian, and she knows you are not and has chosen to date you, then she's already willing to break the rules of her religion for you. It sounds like she's not a good Christian based on that, which is good news for you.
>>17171910
>has never fucked a virgin
It's actually not that great actually. But when you fuck a girl and she isn't doing a good job, she'll want to get better so it;s pretty rewarding when she finally gets good and sucking, clenching, and riding.
On the up side, you get to basically train her for your dick.
>>17171910
>this post
Looks like I must have accidentally gone on reddit without realizing it
>>17172304
This is an advice board isn't it? So my advice is as good as any even if i don't conform to your delusions. I find it great and all that wishing really hard for something to exist that doesn't exist to be true makes you feel good inside, but my advise is to search for a gf who actually wants to sleep with you and values you more as some contrived belief systems from 2000 years ago.
I really don't need any pitty since i'm not the one chained to a wall of small cave interpreting shadows.
>>17172366
You didn't even give advice you pretentious drop out, you just insulted the OPs girlfriend and provided literally nothing of use or substance.
It would have been more helpful for everyone here if you had just killed yourself instead of posting at all. In fact, the only way you could positively impact anything at this point is if you killed yourself as soon as possible.
>>17172316
>If she really is a Christian, and she knows you are not and has chosen to date you, then she's already willing to break the rules of her religion for you.
Absolute bullshit
>>17172364
>muh special 4chan club
>a-a-am i one of you guise yet?
wouldn't want to differ from one of the collectively preformed opinions on any given subject would we now
You surely are free thinker, a special snowflake on not like the rest of those normies and stupid sjws
>>17172376
the advise is obviously to not take that shit and get laid
>>17172318
matter of fact i have fucked 2 virgins. me and my first gf lost our virginities to each other and it was great and romantic and all. the waiting does not make it better and is nearly impossibe and marrying when you are young just so you can fuck is also just a terrible idea
>>17172376
>muh fwelings were hurt
maybe you should go to tumblr or something were people don't talk so mean and never say something confronting :(
>>17172381
>You surely are free thinker, a special snowflake on not like the rest of those normies and stupid sjws
This is actually what you're claiming to be you retarded faggot
>>17172402
>maybe you should go to tumblr or something were people don't talk so mean and never say something confronting :(
I told you to kill yourself and pointed out that you contributed nothing
I've never been on tumblr, but if you don't like being told to end your own life and think that somehow indicates "hurt feelings" then maybe that's where you should be
>>17171802
No meat? No pussy?
No deal.
OP again here. What the fuck this blew up into some sort of argument. All advice is appreciated, though I won't listen to all of it obviously. Only good points made are worth anything. No idea why you're talking about sex since she's basically said its off the table and I'm fine with it. Her being a Christian doesn't phase me. She doesn't go to church every week but religion is kind of a personal thing. She's free to choose who she wants to be. I'm not the type that would restrict her or get angry about it.
I've done it with 3 other girls, one of whom was a Virgin. It's not that great desu. Takes a while before she gets used to it and likes it.
As I said, it's not that important to me. What might be important to me though is that she might not want to do anything at all (probably not even handjobs) because she says in previous relationships she felt she was forced at times, which I really don't want her to feel with me.
Fwiw she's said she doesn't mind me jerking off to porn or whatever if we do end up dating. Currently very awkward between us, only planned our first date and started talking about mutual feelings.
