>>17170341
does anyone have an idea?

Self confidence/esteem does not truly comes from exercise. People often mistakenly think it does, but it comes from accepting yourself and who you are.

Congratulations on the weight loss! It probably feels great to have achieved that, but you've still got plenty to do. Learn to love yourself and unabashedly be who you are, and the rest will come.

Losing weight and body fat percentage is purely for your own self confidence, you're right about that. The next thing you need to do is put yourself in a social situation where you are in your element about the conversation topic so you can exude confidence when you speak to somebody. Start by joining some clubs with topics that interest you or you know a bit about and just practice talking to people.

The greatest advice I can give you is that even if you don't think you did well in a conversation with some strangers, YOU NEVER HAVE TO SEE THEM AGAIN. Take that going into the conversation, you don't owe anything to them and they dont expect anything out of you either, so just do your best for your own sake to practice. Eventually when you have enough to say about something and can lead a conversation, you can probably lead a girl enough to stay interested in you and then let her pilot the conversation and turn to a listening role. But its all about practice. Keep working on your training as well, use your progress as a conversation booster if you think it will help.

>>17170417
where can I practice something like that?

>use your progress as a conversation booster
wouldn't this be considered showing off?
I thaught schowing off is a bad thing

>>17170425
Well assuming you're the age of most of the people around here, colleges have a lot of clubs that people can join with different interests, otherwise striking up a conversation with a bartender or someone at a bar on a weekend night is relatively easy, people are actually quite friendly and relish a conversation if they aren't with somebody else.

I should have clarified, I'd really only use it as a puff piece if the conversation leads that way. Say someone mentions something fitness related or something like that, you can just quietly mention how you recently got back into the gym as well and you've lost x amount of pounds and you feel great. Leave it at that, either you'll get a "thats awesome good for you" or they won't care, either way it gives someone a little information about you at no cost.

>>17170341

>tfw 5'9 and 312 lbs
>tfw get pussy on the regular

You fell for the meme, son. Also, you live your life in societies image, which is a huge mistake. Pave your own way.

>>17170440
well, I am 24
master student
not from the usa, there are not many extracurricular activities at university
I did not join a GYM
I do not feel great about my weight loss... should not have gotten fat in the first place

>>17170463
I don't get it

>>17170405
>Learn to love yourself and unabashedly be who you are
So you are suggesting that I should love who I am "inside"
that would be:
a overweight fatlord
eating trash and junkfood all day
playing videa or jerking off to rancid porn all day in some basement
maybe at best having interest in some obscure hobbies, no one ever is supposed to know about

so basically being a total creep...
you think going back to this will make me happy or get me social acquaintances?

>>17170508
so, what should I do?

>>17170341
OP still does not get it...
pls help

Today /adv/ was really disappointing

>>17170508
if you hate these things about yourself, then stop doing those things.

eat healthier.
play less video games.
watch less porn.
be more productive with your time - learn an instrument, read about things online that interest you, educate yourself on things.

You will not be happy with yourself until you cut out the things in your life that you are ashamed about. It can be a hard thing to do, but it can be done.

>>17170931
I am OP...
that's what is inside me, who I am

I changed that and still feel shitty and can't make a social life
that's the point about the post

>>17170938
Those things are crutches, they do not make you who you are -- everyone has a crutch, and it is ok to lean on one from time to time, but it is our ability to overcome them that defines us.

You may be placing too much importance on achieving social status. You think that you can only be happy if people like you. Not only is that untrue, but it is a way of thinking that will turn people off of you.

If you learn to accept who you are, with all of your positive attributes as well as your flaws and insecurities (we all have them), you will be seen as a likeable person.

>>17170962
the thing is just that there is nothing positive about myself that matters

and I do not have a single friend or kollegue or anybody....
I am very lonely

>>17170984
You are insecure. There is plenty about you that is positive. Taking the initiative to lose the weight and get in shape alone is an invaluable character trait that millions of people struggle with and give up on every day.

No one will love you until you learn to love yourself. That doesn't mean brag about your accomplishments, it means accepting who you are, and not letting anyone make you feel shitty about yourself.

For example, if someone calls you ugly (not saying you are): own it, don't disagree. Say yeah, I know i'm fucking ugly, but i was still good enough for your mom last night.

Just one example out of millions. If people see you don't care what others think of you, they will like you, because you are secure with yourself.

I would start by meeting people online. Not dating sites, not girls, you're not ready for that yet. Find an online community or social media app and join a conversation, feel things out. Kik is a great little app that lets you join a group conversation and you can join in or leave whenever you want. Find a clean group chat (There's always one posted on /soc/) and start talking to people.

>>17171016
ty,
that sounds helpful
Imight try out this kik app