When you msg a chick and you ask how are you, and she responds with working, is she getting annoyed if you talk to her more then?
>>17186150
idk specifically about girls but if I'm working and busy and you try and get a conversation out of me, it's at your expense
it'll only annoy me if you act like I'm obligated to drop what I'm doing and chat
it'll also suggest that you can't read social cues, so if you're looking to be more than friends with said girl, it's probably a bad idea
>>17186165
I guess Im confused because when a guy friend of mine used to work up at a hotel on nightshift, I could message him and he'd be chatting me up until he had to leave in 10 minutes.
>>17186614
that's because your friend probably didn't have too many responsibilities at work/didn't care about his job as much as the girl does.
I get so sick of my anxiety just out of nowhere taking over literally at it's worse making me sick and at it's very worse I start to feel like I'm being electroshocked whenever either randomly or due to stress. I mean I take meds and some ways have improved like breathing ive tried working on.
I just want this shit to end and I feel like it never will at least get to a manageable level where I literally won't get sick.
OP Here, any advice about coping would really help me right now. I really just want it to be at a point where it never sucks the life out of me. I mean I have to live life and not have this control me anymore like it has for 20+ years.
lay or sit and meditate
http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=107
the only advice I've got is to just analyze and get to know your anxiety, if you learn to know how it works you'll be able to identify it when it's coming, and you can train yourself to calm down because you know it's just anxiety
Is a 12cm erect dick (without pulling back the base) and a 13cm girth enough to pleasure women? If I pull back the base it grows to 15cm, is there a way to lose fat on that area?
>pic unrelated
>>17186128
>12cm erect dick
Tiiiiiiiiiny penis.
>>17186135
I know so what can be done?
>>17186144
Uh, nothing?
Is it possible to keep on fighting gender dysphoria? Being depressed and having suicide ideations are normal for me and I just don't know what to do. Physically, I am an attractive male, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'll be a conventionally attractive female, let alone pass as one in the first place. Day by day, I feel that my death is imminent and that I'll die as a young virgin. The most impact I'll have is the pain I'll give inevitable leave for my friends and family.
You need to explain your question with clarity and precision. Try again.
>>17186090
> go to >>>/lgbt/
> go to /repression gen/ (assuming tranny mods didn't delete it again)
> ¿¿¿
> profit
>>17186098
I guess what I'm really trying to ask is, should I keep repressing the dysphoria and live miserably, or commit suicide? Transitioning is fruitless due to my wide shoulders.
I'm 26, no work experience, no degree. How do I start rebuilding my life?
Obviously I'm only qualified to work min wage retail jobs, so should I start there? Although I feel like once I start working min wage, I'll be there forever. I don't think real employers give a shit about how fast I can flip a burger.
>>17186068
Learn to code
>>17186073
So he can waste his time? No one's going to hire someone who claims they can code over someone who has a qualification that says they can code.
OP, if you have no work experience, you need to apply for anything and everything, including wage slave work
>>17186077
I hear you. I guess I'm just worried that even at 40+ hours a week working as a wageslave, I'd never be able to leave my parents' basement.
I will apply for any demeaning position I can, but I dunno how I'm going to eventually pad out my resume to make myself seem hireable.
Im almost 21. Since I lost my first and only long term relationship (2 years) about 3 months ago I've felt really starved for intimacy. I really want another relationship, and I've tried, but I feel like it's kind of hopeless at this point. I've never been really good at wooing women (like I said I've only had one long term relationship) and most of the time when I try they usually just end up blowing me off, making excuses not to see me or just being really shitty in general. (Rarely do I get a straightforward, sorry I'm just not interested) to...
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Bunp
>>17186045
go find some intimacy.
>>17186642
Thanks?
I've always been apt to read for fun, but now as I go through the "classics" I'm shocked to find just how little I'm enjoying things. Here are all the books I've read this year:
Macbeth by Shakespeare
Stoner by Williams
As I Lay Dying by Faulkner
The Sun Also Rises by Hemingway
A Farewell to Arms by Hemingway
Of Human Bondage by W. S. Maugham
The Count of Monte Cristo by Dumas
Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain
Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston
The Great Gatsby by Fitzgerald
Those are just the...
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>>17186027
>I think something might be wrong with me
There is no objective list of books (hell even activities, anything) which every human being HAVE TO enjoy.
Because enjoying stuff is SUBJECTIVE.
Maybe you are just reading heavy literature which is considered by Wikipedia "worth of your time". Seems like all big novels.
Change genre. I always liked books with action. Like Tolkien The Lord of the Rings. You can try to read some red library, detective things.
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>>17186050
I have already read all Lord of the Rings books and they were only okay. The weird thing is that all the people with the same problem as me ones that naturally read Young Adult books or action-heavy stuff or whatnot, but I feel more of an attraction naturally to stuff /lit/ likes.
For example I loved Hamlet when we read it in class and thought it the most profound thing I'd ever read, but nothing has given me that sensation since and I'm scared to go back and reread Hamlet since I'd probably...
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Classics maybe classics, but writing styles, topics, conventions and the audience has changed so much that it would be super surprising if you sincerely like all of those. Not liking any of those is a bit odd, but seems like your just more honest with yourself and your taste then most /lit/ards.
My girlfriend has low self esteem, what can I do to help her with this issue?
>>17186019
beat her
>>17186019
Raise her self esteem.
>>17186019
lick her asshole after she has just taken a shit and tell her it tastes great.
How do you tell between genuine friendliness and making fun of someone?
I can never tell
i cant tell either. bump
Determine whether or not the individual is actually your friend
It requires decent intuition and intelligence. Experience builds on this.
You must be able to read body language, faces, subtleties...
Has anyone found a good relationship off of 4chan?
Maybe I've just been here way too long but it's getting hard to imagine dating someone who doesn't browse
>dating someone who browses 4chan
That's asking for disaster
>>17185993
hahaha yes! dating 4chan user is a horrible idea
>>17185997
Have an upboat xD
I literally need someone. How do I stop being emotionally codependent. My ego is extremely fragile and I'm over emotional. Been diagnosed with anxiety disorders and bipolar, I'm 19, a male, and so far my life went to the shitter.
How do I stop needing other people. How do I become my own person? I feel like I have nothing to call my own, no one to call my own, no one I can depend on and at the same time nothing I am a master of.
Going back to Uni after mental breakdown and two years of psych wards, homelessness, etc. this fall.
Any advice appreciated....
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I'll be your friemd, Opie.
I'm going to be honest with you OP. I don't give a flying fuck about you or any hope for your future.
So then why am I commenting? Because even through what you have been through (and it's not that much;19 years is nothing. I'm 28 and went through what you are going through..it doesn't get easier) seems like the end; it's not. And shit is going to get better. Even with anxiety and being bipolar.
You do need to take things day by day. And to add onto that, Do one thing every day that makes you happy. There's going to be a billion...
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>>17185966
>>17186452
When I mentioned doing something artistic, that can also help you with something to call your own. It doesn't matter how shitty you are or begin with (Everyone has to suck to get better) it's more of enjoying the process of creating that is going to give you something to call your own. In turn, that usually attracts people to you, people want to be your friend, people want to get to know you.
If your upset about having noone to love...
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Are there even any hairstyles for me? I haven't cut it in about a year. Also how to cope with being bald at 20? This isn't fucking fair.
I'm so ashamed of it that I can't go out without a hoodie while it's windy, can't go to a swimming pool or go swim somewhere with my friends nor even drive a bike or run. It's not like it happened in a past few months I've been blessed with these hairs since I hit the puberty and I've been bullied and made fun of at elementary school and in retrospective I think it was the main cause for...
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Im on the same boat, 19 and my hairline looks just like yours, maybe a bit more sharp. Im also boyish looking and cant grow beard, so either embracing the manly balding hairstyle with beard or just getting a clean cut wont work for me...
>>17185897
hard to tell since you cover your face, and we kinda gotta see your face to know for sure what style would suit it.
but yeah that is an unfortunate hairline. i have one too, not as bad as yours but it is / will get there.
you should consider starting a savings account and putting aside al little money each month. hair transplants arent all that expensive compared to the other nonsense that exists in terms of plastic surgery.
i hear about 4000 dollars to fill in major gaps or something....
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>>17185916
It's fucked up, man. I couldn't have afford it in million years. I'm currently in college and I'm glad when I can get me some food from time to time. Sure I'm gonna have some job at summertime but still...
>>17185912
Sorry to hear that. I can't grow a beard either yet, but I doubt that it'll fit my face. Can't even shave my head because of fucked jawline.
How do you deal with a suicidal man-child?
My brother is almost 27 and still lives at home. He's a kv and has never worked a day in his damn life. He does fucking nothing to help anyone ever but himself. No chores, no cooking. He's never made a bed in his life.
He's emotionally ignorant and extremely unappreciative of the fact that his whole materialistic lifestyle in his little room is all the backbone of my elderly mother's hard work.
Yet he uses anger and threatens of suicide as a weapon, ignorant to the effects of peoples' emotions...
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As long as your mother supports him you can't do anything.
>>17185896
>suicidal
Sounds like the problem can work itself out just fine if you stop resisting it. It'll hurt, but it's less of a lingering hurt.
>>17185898
She won't stop supporting him.
So I should suppress my anger towards him and just let things carry on as they are?
Hello /adv/,
I have had problems being addicted to porn and masturbating for quite some time. However, the relationship I am in has become quite serious, and with it, sexual. To better maintain intimacy (and to improve my life), I need to kick this to the curb.
How can I prevent myself from masturbating all the fucking time?
>>17185847
there are ways and i will list them, but the majority of people simply say
>that would never work cuz id just find a way around it
and that is true. advice is not magic. it is simply advice. you still need one tiny spark of motivation to get it done.
here are your options the further down you go the more effort it requires but the less easy it is to slip back
>put porn blockers on your web browsers.
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>>17185853
>>put porn blockers on your web browsers.
>they exist
Oh shit, I totally forgot about this sort of thing. Thank you!
The rest are kind of an impossibility - I need my laptop for school and work.
>>17185858
whatever works.
I'm a 20 something year old girl and recently started getting small zits/pimples on my butt cheeks. I know it's normal for people to not have perfect skin but I wanna have sex with a guy and this makes me feel kinda embarrassed... Help? Any advice how to get rid of it or deal with it? D:
I'll have sex with you and your pimply butt
1. pay special attention to washing your ass. perhaps get an exfoliator -- i use this: http://www.lushusa.com/Buffy/9999902127,en_US,pd.html
it makes your ass super soft and you can use it all over your body if you want
2. cotton underwear
3. less tight shorts/pants until the problem goes away
>>17185766
It's not actually acne, it's folliculitis. Listen to >>17185775 . It'll clear up in a few days to a week.