Hey guys, not really sure where to turn to for help, so I figured since I've been a "4channer" for a fair few years I'd try this advice forum.
tldr: I'm sad because I have no RL friends.
So, pretty much I live in a small township with about 4000 population, and used to drink every weekend or so with friends and have a great time enjoying their company and generally just being around them. We'd look out for eachother, make eachother feel better when we were down etc, pretty much everything good friends would do for eachother. But now...
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Should also put as a sidenote here, that I'm not in any danger of commiting suicide or anything like that - I've tried that sort of shit in the past when I was younger and I know that its not worth it. Nobodys mother should be put through anything like that.
Start a neighborhood beautification committee or something
I don't think that would work very well - the last person that tried that here about 5 months ago failed pretty miserably.
I am with my Bf for 8.5 years now, we have met when I was 17. He is a loving, good person. We have a good complicity and never yelled at each other. We live together for 5 years now and are going to Europe for 2 weeks in July. I know I love him, but i'm not sure if i'm still attracted to him as a lover. Daily life together is soothing.
I have an online "friend" that I know for 6 years now and I always had feelings for him, but our relation has always been complicated. We have seen each other like 10 times in the past and it always been awkward du to...
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>>17194608
Just cheat on him you know you want to
I feel sorry for your boyfriend.
You shouldn't be talking to other men while you are in a relationship.
I would not be able to live with this guilt. That is not what I want in relationships anyway.
Should I feel bad that I don't want to go to my Moms new husband's family thing for Memorial Day?
He's a good guy but they want me to leave at noon to go to his family's place for a bonfire. And I take care of 3 dogs and have really bad tinnitus.
Should I feel bad that I don't want to go?
>>17194571
Yes. Tinnitus isn't a reason to not do something. Neither is having dogs to take care of. You say mothers new husband instead of stepdad. Are you autistic or do you have aspergers?
>>17194580
I got really bad social anxiety, even with my family I'm always there for a couple hours then I go somewhere else in my room. But no I say my mother's new husband because I only have one father and there was my grandfather.
>>17194583
Also don't want my dogs to s*** or piss on my bed
Hello /adv/
I have a question, what would happend if you are not from the U.S but you commit a cybernetic crime and a U.S cop catches you?
I do not understand international laws and this is keeping me up at nights
if you get arrested online, you get arrested in real life
>>17194452
I don't know if it was a cop,
Also i don't live in the states so hoq does that work?
Inb4 it was on kik
Is she into me
Too many exclaimation points. Apologize to her
Can't tell from two messages. Stop spamming her though
>>17194429
I don't know. Why don't you ask her and find out?
How do I be more edgy? Anybody have some starter packs for me?
>>17194405
Start by not referencing NOW THAT'S WHAT I CALL anything!
>>17194405
Really?
>>17194496
Yes
Why?
What's so bad about it ?
Aren't women sexually aroused by men's hard cocks ?
The same way men are turned on by women?
men would suck a woman's asshole if given the chance.
>>17194389
>Why?
>What's so bad about it ?
Cum is disgusting.
>men would suck a woman's asshole if given the chance.
Nope. Men with zero self esteem would.
>>17194394
Men don't toss your salad because you're an uptight prude
>>17194396
This
Don't you a like a guy to lick your asshole before he shoves his cock up it?
>>17194371
one thing you have to realize is that girls are not safes with a lock to crack. there is no perfect code thati f you do it right she will go to you.
otherwise life would just be a girl bouncing between two men in a perfect pattern cuz they keep cracking the code over and over again.
if you like a girl, make your move. if you think you can woo her over time go for it, but chances are you cant cuz ur a tripfag
>>17194371
investigate if she is into polygamy, if yes, keep it up dude go for her, if dont, stop this
>>17194381
>implying this doesn't happen.
>>17194371
Find a girl that like to cheat. It's usually an emotional predilection.
I´m asking for advice because /adv/ actually helped me last time I was in need.
Long story short, I fucked up. I had a stable relationship with my girlfriend, and after my best friend told me she had feelings for me, I broke up my relationship, because, as I told her when I ended things, it wouldn´t be fair to her to be with someone who as not 100% committed to her. Then I came down and realized, without a doubt, that she is the only thing I want.
So after 3 weeks of trying to talk to her, we talked and I told her that I was sorry for not telling her earlier that my bestfriend had told me she had feelings for me, and I told her I missed her. Of course we could not start dating again, but this was a good opportunity to get to know each other as friends (we started dating almost immediately after meeting). In the end I told her that I still had feelings for her, and I would wait for her because now I know what I wanted.
Here is where I need your advice or some perspective: We have hung out some times, and I believe she still enjoys my company, but I don´t know how to get us to a dating dynamic again. If I don´t talk to her, she doesn´t talk to me, if I don´t make plans, she doesn´t make plans.
Can you weight in on this? I can give more details if necessary
You gotta chase her bro. Its going to suck for you and I am sure it does now, but you just gotta keep at it. Realize the possibility of failure, but doing something is better than doing nothing.
Keep hanging out with her, keep talking to her, but if she starts dating somebody else than you gotta know when to call it quits, but for now I would stay diligent.
>>17194233
Thanks man. I know I screwed things up. I was her first serious boyfriend, and she gave me a lot of her intimacy, and I only realised that some weeks ago. So I am okay with having to prove to her that I am committed.
As for she starting to date someone, I told her that I would wait for her because this time I knew what I wanted, and I told her that the only thing I asked from her was that if she started to have feelings for someone else I wanted her to tell me that
>>17194222
Just jerk-off and go on with your life. Fucking forget about her.
How do i make it clear i wanna go on a date with a person?
Do i just say " hey wanna go on a date"
Like if i invited her to do something already, is it too late to call it a date? How to make sure she knows its a date
Yeah, its not a date until there's a firm verbal or textual confirmation that its a date. So ask.
>>17194214
A date is just a number on a calander, anon. If you mean a romantic outing then yeah you should probably let her know. Otherwise a simple "hey wanna grab some coffee/tea/food/whatever with me?" would be fine.
>>17194214
I think it depends on the culture where you live.
I don't think the word "date" needs to be said, but you have to somehow make it clear, that you want to have only you two in the meetup and you have to make it clear that you're interested romantically in this meeting.
You don't have to sound cheesy or romantically or something other over the top. If you let her know that you want to have only the two of you in order to be able to get to know each other better, because you want to...
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>have long term bf
>used to work more hours at one job, but this was short term, im permanently part time
>when i made more money, my bf and i thought it fair that (since we made about same amount of money) we generally go dutch on dates
>then i started making less money
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>>17193860
>has a bf
>uses jim from the office as a reaction image
you're already planing to cuck him
>>17193869
I actually just picked a random image. its not related, but once I saw it posted, I realized it seems like it adds a negative connotation.
>>17193860
Perhaps it's not so much the money but more the fact that he will be spending less time with you now?
Should I stop smoking weed?
Long story short I started smoking weed pretty late (age 23) after being pretty straight edge throughout HS & uni. It was fucking awesome and blew my world open. My buddies and I moved into a place together a little while after that and it didn't take long for it to become a stoner nest, which was pretty sweet for a bit, but soon I noticed I had real trouble talking to people when I was high. Like even answering the door for pizza or having a roommate come home when I was high was torture. I noticed that nobody else seems to have this...
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>>17193766
If you have to ask whether or not you should quit smoking weed you should probably stop smoking weed.
Smoking weed is degenerate. You will make it a personality crutch if you don't cut it out.
I started smoking everday at 16 and only stopped recently. I am 21. I feel legitimately better. Keep it out of your life. If you really have to, I'd recommend not letting it get habitual. You will stagnate as a person. It's not worth it.
>>17193766
I'm the same way. Makes me socially autistic and I get all introverted and can't form sentences to save my life.
You don't have to stop, just cut back on it. Make it the thing you do when you're alone and just playing vidya or whatever. Don't partake in social situations. If your friends are stoners, they'll probably pressure you about it because for some reason it's not fun to be stoned around sober people.
How ugly am I? Do I have a chance for a girlfriend?, truthfully.
>>17192851
Shave that half ass beard and meet a woma of your race and you'll get a GF
Put deodorant on
>>17192851
7/10. 8/10 if you lift.
I seriously think 4chan has poisoned my mind. I am growing increasingly misogynistic and sometimes think all women are money grabbing whores looking to fuck over providers and make babies with genetically superior men.
How can I change this? Give up 4chan?
Leaving this site is probably the best because it sounds like you really agree with the shit posted on here and it is negatively affecting you.well I am in the same boat as you and have taken a few steps to start getting off 4chan. It's a slow process because I'm so enthralled but it is starting to work.
Block boards that push that dumb message you are talking about. I am specifically talking about r9k, pol, fit and probably v as well. It's a hassle for me to turn the block off so I just leave it as is.
Find other sites to go to that aren't so consciously...
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>>17192774
>leaving 4chan
>>17192718
Don't use the internet for a few weeks, you'll return to your normal optimistic self within a few days: it really works.
What jobs are there out there that really reward competitiveness, while also allowing workers AT LEAST weekends off?
Sucking dick
What are your skills and interests? "Competitiveness" without talent doesn't mean much except "I will treat my co-workers poorly"
>>17192373
Work at a commercial bank, most banks don't open weekends, and if you stand out as strong in sales and leadership you will climb quickly. Aside from paycheck, you get quarterly bonus based on performance and commissions for large investments you bring to the bank.
Source: work at bank, but mine does open weekends :(