I'll be talking with a girl, and then suddenly out if the blue she'll say something like "am I annoying you?" or something along those lines. I've noticed I get this a lot when I start getting closer to girls - they seem to have a huge sense if self doubt or the feeling that they're unworthy of happiness. What's the correct way to deal with this? Or should it be seen as a red flag?
Chad what the fuck are you doing on 4chan man
all girl/women are like that deep down, some show it more obvious some less
> "am I annoying you?"
you asking me if you're annoying is annoying
>>17298668
Are you absolutely sure you are not unconsciously signalling boredom or annoyance in your face or body language? Maybe it is not they who are at fault.
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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
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Here's a question for the girls
>Set up online dating account years ago
>Enter wrong birth year - it says I'm a year older than I am as a result. Don't bother changing it (just never get around to it)
>Start seeing girl who is a year older than my actual age
>Seem to hit it off, really like her
>She asks when my birthday is
>Remember my fuck up on the website, realise...
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Bump...I thought these threads generally took off more
>>17296560
I'd start to question what more he is hiding. The lie in itself isn't that bad, one year here or there, unless you are underage, doesn't really matter. You should've come clean when the opportunity came, I don't think she even remembered your age from the site.
How should I answer these questions?
>Why do you want to work at <pizza restaurant>?
>Do you consider yourself a leader?
>Can you provide examples of how you were able to effectively manage employees at past jobs?
>I need a job
>Yes
>Yes I can
>>17300799
>to further my cooking experience and gain experience on what it would be like in a restaurant cooking all day
>are you going to be stupid and say no
>use an actual example or make one up, if it's babby's first job name or make up a real world example
>>17300799
*pizza restaurant* offers great pizza for a _____ price. People get excited when they order a pizza, and it's usually a special treat. I love baking, rolling dough, and making sure that we're able to reliably deliver a great pizza to our customers.
Yes, I do consider myself a leader. In the past, when I worked at _____, one of my favorite memories was when I helped my team to _____ . I think that real leadership is helping to bring out the best in people and creating a great, inclusive atmosphere.
When...
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How do I get revenge on the guy that psychologically abused my family for years? And I need it to be subtle enough that he doesn't know it's me, but it still drives him insane,
You don't.
>>17300750
Not going to work. He's got watly more practice than you, and even he couldn't keep you from knowing it was him.
>>17300750
By becoming better despite his shit
What am I doing wrong? I just seem to fail with every girl I'm into
>Girl 1: High school, See that she's one of those quiet types,might possibly be shy,but ultimately seems more social than I was. Thought she probably hasn't went on many dates, or ever been asked out. She somehow keeps, "forgetting" that I asked her out.
>Girl 2: High school. Shes a cheerleader, one of those really popular girl types for lack of better description. Flirted with her as a joke, not expecting much wasn't...
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>>17300693
Simple, you care too much. Just let shit happen naturally instead of feeling bad that other people are living their lives. Live your own as well and everything will fall into place.
The last one is funny though, Asexual? That's conman speak for "Not into your body, but maybe your wallet."
>>17300693
Okay maybe there is no Cont. Just thought i should point this out incase yore waiting for more.
But over the course of this time period, I've changed quite a bit, some good some bad. I've actually became a hell of a lot more social than I was in high school. But I just cant figure out where I'm going wrong.
Theres this girl I'm really into right now, and i'm almost certain i'm going to fuck it up.
Tl;dr
2 weeks sober here and it's getting harder everyday. Depression seems to be getting worse, like a lot worse. Before I was just drunk and gloomy, now I'm sober and suicidal.
Any /adv/ice?
One drink won't hurt.
Keep going forward. Don't hide your problems with alcohol, face them instead.
workout, eat better, find something to do and stop drinking.
Busy beats sad. Tell yourself it'll get better.
read the book "feeling good" david burns. Go search the pdf or w/e.
Get therapy if you can. Switch therapists if it sucks.
Is trying to get with someone at work a bad idea? I just started a new job about 2 weeks ago and there is this ridic cute redhead that works there. We catch eyes ocasionally and smile and we've joked around with each other. I don't that much about her because I'm usually too busy working but she seems aiite.
I know i need to pull the trigger before any interest/tension wanes but im hesitant to start something because what if it goes wrong? I really like working there, and although I feel I could handle any fallout, I don't want anything to get awkward....
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>>17300561
>Just curious as to your guys' opinion about dating in the workplace.
If the job is not important to you and it wouldn't affect your life if you lost it, go for it.
If you need this job in any way, keep your dick in your pants and be professional.
Dating someone at work is generally a bad idea.
If it's a large company and you work in different depts and don't really see each other, it might work.
Think of it this way, if things go south, one of you will probably need to quit.
>>17300595
This. It's a better chance of something happening, so don't shit where you eat. Unless you're OK with working around someone you no longer have good vibes with, and most people are not.
Is cosplaying, trying to roleplay as shared otps too cringey?
>>17300536
Nah sounds fun. I wouldn't tell anyone about it though.
Privately, no.
Publicly, yes.
>>17300547
I wouldn't either, of course
Are you a boy or a girl, anon?
I am a girl and it's hard to imagine guys can put up with it.
What should i do if i quite possibly have ptsd and have no money to afford therapy to get clinical help and a proper diagnosis
Avoid what causes it?
Where are you located, OP?
>>17300512
I would save enough to have proper diagnosis before you try to treat something you THINK you have.
>Start talking to girl
>Text all day every day for 2 weeks
>Constantly entertaining each other
>Develop crush
>Think she might have a crush on me too
>Decide to go for it and ask her out
>Don't actually use the word "date"
>She says yes
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Ask her if she knows any cute boys faggot
>>17300490
She's either clinically retarded or a complete bitch. Or both. Likely a combo of both. What she did was wildly inappropriate, even if you were just her friend. She shouldn't be that chummy about her sex life 2 weeks into knowing ANYONE, friend or potential partner.
Time to bail, OP. She's fucking gross.
>>17300497
She thought I was gay in highschool
>>17300499
I honestly feel so disgusted/disappointed. I just don't want to feel even worse about it that I didn't do anything else later on.
Is it weird to not like women? Not in a homosexual way, but I just don't like them as people. I don't care about anything they have to say. I don't find them funny. I don't enjoy being around them. I still want to fuck them though. How do I explain this?
>>17300439
Women are fucking dumb
More news at 11
People are afraid to admit this even anonymously.
This thread is bait for white knight shitposting.
either gender will find 95% of the other gender pretty unappealing to say it nicely.
When i was young and antisocial I never had a good conversation with a girl and at some point just stopped because they were of no interest for me. But in college things changed and i got along with them better, found some girls who are chill and friendly and then I found my first GF and other chicks that are nice to talk to.
Has anyone here completely changed their career? Got sick of being an office wagecuck and decided to get out and do something different? What were you doing before, and what are you doing now?
>>17300423
I went to school for something unrelated to what I'm currently doing.
I succesfully switched from having a career to having no career.
Pls respond
picture of my ex came up on my facebook with her new boyfriend. Breakup was bad, everyone took my side, and it was 3 years ago, but it put me in a sad mood. also have been having dreams about her and I dont like having them.
I'm always teetering on depression, was diagnosed with moderate to severe depression about 4 years ago and put on lexapro. it worked but the side effects were worse than the depression, and I found that weightlifting and better diet helped almost as much, but i still have this aimless feeling about life.
I know there isnt an easy answer,...
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>>17300372
I wish I knew, but honestly I just went through 8 years of depression without knowing what the fuck I was doing and now I feel okay.
>>17300376
looking back I've had pretty bad depression for most of my life and I just didnt realize that it wasnt a normal amount, and I had irrational anxiety over things as far back as being like a 4 or 5 year old.
college made things a lot worse though.
Ok, so I dont want to be a leech, so I'll post things that ive found helpful in situation like this (while simultaneously bumping my own thread)
Working out. not running as I hate cardio, but lifting weights for at least an hour, even up to 3 hrs a day have immense effects on my mood for the rest of the day. I had been told that side effects of working out are better mood and neurotransmitters and stuff, but i never really wanted to do it, until I started doing it. after almost 3 years its become a regular part of my life. I do see a significant change in my overall...
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Where do I find comfy 28-40 year old females?
Not Craigslist shut-in types but like the well adjusted and interesting to talk to kind that give me faith in the female gender?
Also how do I impress them enough to date as a 21 yo student?
Btw for anyone who wants to make fun or post buzzwords, this isn't a physical fetish or anything, I think I just found a genre that hits most of my criteria.
>not social media obsessed
>not crippilingly anxious
>doesn't project...
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>>17300365
Your mum
>>17300378
I was thinking more like yours m8.
But seriously.
I'd like at least one serious reply.
Just called a law firm, said they charge $1000 to take my case, the attorney said to hire an attorney relatively soon to get the paperwork filled out before the next arraignment, then hung up. Should I even bother with this shit or just take the $200 littering ticket and get it taken off my record later? It's in MO and I believe it's a misdemeanor. No doubt the case would get dropped right off the bat if I hire a lawyer.
>>17300358
Well, did you litter?
1000 vs 200
HMM
>>17300398
OP isn't sure if it's a felony. A felony sticks on your record and is generally something you'd want to avoid.