What are tips when you're talking to a really depressed friend? Like I try talking to my friends and I try talking to them about their issues and things they can do to help them, but it never seems to be enough. Anything to add on to this, or if I shouldn't do that at all, tell me how I should do it?
>>16621230
Depressed people can be really suspicious of others, seemingly at random. Did you ever announce your intention straight up, ie, "I want to see if I can help you out with your situation."?
>>16621243
I do if it's a new friend or someone that I haven't had a conversation like that before with. But if it's the same friend I've had a couple times I don't. Should I?
As a severely depressed person, here are some tips:
> don't imply you know what your friend is going through unless you've dealt with a severe depression yourself
> Let him know that he can always talk to you if he feels like letting his worries out
> If he does, let him do the talking. Don't interfere, don't judge, don't rush him
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Is it possible to learn to be less "safe"? I'm always sensible, always careful, always plan ahead, never spontaneous, never take crazy risks. I bore even myself. But is that something I can even change?
When I hear that Taylor Swift song 22 I think, "I will never ever look like bad news," and it makes me really sad.
>>16621196
>How to fuck up my life just to look cool?
FTFY
I think you can work on becoming a more lively and spontaneous person in everyday conversations without becoming less safe or less careful.
>>16621196
To an extent, yes, you can change it. Just don't do known high-risk shit like playing in traffic or huffing bleach and you'll be fine.
Do something you wouldn't normally do, and where the outcome is unknown, rather than stuff you know for a fact is just a dumb, bad decision. The first is exciting; the second will just leave you hating yourself in the morning.
If you don't know where to start, just pick something. If you're anal retentive like me and really can't pick something,...
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A couple of days ago my brother hit me in the side of my head with his elbow, leaving a little bruise. After this I didn't have a headache, nausea, numbness, or sleep problems. I only felt dizzy and a bit lightheaded. My cognitive functions seem up to par as well. I smoked weed yesterday and I felt fine. Am I making myself dizzy and lightheaded, do I actually have a concussion, or am I just being a little bitch?
>>16621187
>A couple of days ago
>reposts word for word the exact same thread that was posted last week
probably the reason nobody's replying is that everybody replied the last time you posted this thread. did you at least go to a damn doctor?
I don't think you have a solid reason to worry for now. You're doing the right thing by paying attention to your cognitive functions, keep an eye out in case anything gets worse.
If you had a concussion you wouldn't be on 4chins shitposting.
Hey guys, quick question. So I'm currently in community college, my second time around because my first time I didn't care about school and flunked basically. I know what schools are my top 2 landing spots, but I'm confused on how to apply because I won't meet their minimum transfer requirements until after the spring semester ends, in May.
So what would I do? Considering that I'm applying for financial aid in February and want to apply ASAP for early decision. If I apply would they see my application and understand that I'm in the midst...
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>>16621177
Everyone applies in midyear, and admission is always conditional on your completing your current education successfully. So go ahead and apply.
>>16621674
That makes sense. I guess all I gotta do is make the grades
Since this thread is here, I might as well ask:
is it hard to transfer to an out-of-state school without your full Associate's degree? State school.
I fell with this girl online, It just came to me that I might be stalking her and I didn't even know it until now. But I also spent 23 hours not even focused on her. Never felt the need to like some ever until I met her. How in the hell did this happen, and how do I stop this? I don't want her to be out of my life.
Not enough details.
>It just came to me that I might be stalking her
What makes you think that you're "stalking" her?
>How in the hell did this happen?
I don't know, tell us the story
>how do I stop this?
You can't "stop" love. Especially because you don't want her out of your life.
Hey guys!
Do any of you used booking.com? If so how does it work? I put there credit card number and everything and now should I wait for bank transfercto happen or will it take money from card when I come to reserved hotel? Thanks!
Depends on the option you chose. You can choose the "pay later" option and pay at the reserved hotel, or, in some cases, get a cheaper price and pay immediately. Check on your reservation.
Usually, you pay at the hotel.
I don't know how relevant this is to this board exactly but I just wanted to see what people's opinions were. I am a 20 year old male and I have only one special talent, a very useless one. I can count the letters in a "normal sized" word, say 3-12 letters, almost instantly. Do I have any sort of disorder (autism or anything like that)? I am generally introverted and like to keep to myself, but I can fake interest in social situations and talking to others. I also have a general lack of empathy for others.
>>16620970
I don't think so.
>>16620970
Motherfucker, the reason why you don't have other fucking talents is because you never developed them.
Stop spending your fucking life worrying about finding your inner self or worrying if something is wrong with you and start building skills and character that make you 'right'.
>>16620970
So can most people.
I'm a man. 90% of my friends are female, but I'm worried that its fucked me up because not only do I not realize when a woman is hitting on me now I don't know if I will be able to distinguish a date from just hanging out. What are some tips for how to treat women I am attracted to vs women I want to be friends with. My solution so far has been to be friendly with every girl I meet. So long as shes not a negative asshole.
> "Is this a date?"
She will either say yes or no
>My solution so far has been to be friendly with every girl I meet
Acting friendly will give you friends. Try acting flirty. Yes it takes confidence and yes rejection hurts.
>>16621261
For those of us who aren't used to acting flirty, how do we flirt effectively?
anon what do you do when you still love a girl from years a go and have been in a steady relationship for 4 years but said earlier girl still keeps coming around every so often and you remember how much you love her, but when you bring it up she says it will never work out BUT keeps fucking you, figuratively and metaphorically, anyway?
Stop contact and break up with the current gf? Lol cmon
>>16620981
Current gf is the only thing thats kept me steady through the past couple of years though. I feel like I owe it to her to not break anything she wants while at the same time I guess I'm just a scum bag leeching whatever I can to get through.
Yeah, pretty much. You've already been cheating on her and using her asa means of support everytime you get rejected by the other chick. seriously break up with the current gf because obviously she isn't the one for you, otherwise you wouldn't do this shit
I'm stuck, and I'm not totally sure what to do.
Right now, I'm at a point where I just want to disappear, and seclude myself from the majority of people. I want some time to work on myself, but the problem is, I also desire companionship- with the opposite sex, that is/ a girlfriend.
Im an attractive guy, but kind of socially awkward, and all my relationships in the past never worked out. My most recent one, I decided to dissolve because not only would her family never accept us because I'm white (they are chaldean), but they would never accept...
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>>16620958
use the force luke and force yourself upon a girl
>>16620969
Kekd pretty hard
>>16620958
You need to look within and ask yourself if you are in any position to really be a companion to another in your current state of mind. The issues that you don't work out amongst yourself will carry over into the relationship... sometimes for the bad and sometimes for the good. Mend yourself and be content, at least, with who you are and what you want and or desire and then you should be ready to embrace another and give them everything you have to offer without certain "baggage". I hope that makes sense.
I am a girl who is currently living abroad for one semester? Should I ask out a local if I don't feel like losing my virginity to him (I get the sense that it will leave the impression that I am skanky)? I understand that post high school dating often involves sex though? Does dating a guy that I can't have a long-term relationship with seem skanky?
>>16620938
Nah it shouldn't look that way IMO you should be fine.
Just because you ask him out doesn't mean you have to have sex with him.
>>16620959
Most college students have sex though
It's cold and I want to smoke inside.
Does the smell stay?
>>16620933
yes dumbass
>>16620933
smoking cigarettes will stink up any room for 48 hours at least. weed in small amounts (like a bowl or one hitter) around 8 hours
just go outside you bitch, i live in minnesota and it's 18 degrees right now yet I go outside
>>16621001
minnesota senpai.
>>16620933
weed, you can get away with if you use a sploof.
cigarettes are a no.
smoking weed in the shower also works (blow your hits at the stream) and i imagine it might work with cigarettes, too, but i've never tried it.
So, if I cum pretty fast from jerking off, say like just 4 minutes after finding something I want to look at when I have a boner ready to go and jerking away, will I cum even faster during sex? Keep in mind, I've had a lot of time alone to hone my technique perfectly, and I jerk pretty fast usually. It's to the point where I can barely make myself cum with my right hand but left is perfect.
>>16620911
You may have trained yourself to finish back, there's no telling if that'll happen during sex too.
>>16620994
what do you mean finish back?
>>16621005
Fast
I am having an issue with premature orgasm. nothing too bad (I can still get the job done) but enough that I want to do something about it. it takes a lot of pacing and control to keep from orgasming right away.
how do i train myself to last longer? yes I have "edged" and such and can last for hours when pacing myself masturbating. but when inside a real pussy nearly imediately have to fight the urge to cum. what else can I do? my personal theory is that masturbation just feels nothing like a real vagina and so the moisture/heat/softness etc drives my cock crazy.
would...
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The only way is practice. So get a gf and go to town.
>>16620881
have one, that's what i'm talking about, I want to last longer with her.
I do alright, I wolud say I average about 2 orgasms for her each session which i'm quite pleased about but it takes a lot of effort on my part (manipulating rhythmn and angles and such) to pull it off.
and sometimes I want to be able to pound her into oblivion and leave her a puddle of sweat, orgasm, semen and satisfaction after giving her 4-5 straight brutal orgasms.
I really enjoy doing art but my art sucks fat cocks and now I'm committed to art school but it fucking sucks dick because it isn't teaching me anything. I can't even get a bigger audience than the average brony that draws ponies with dicks on ms paint. I want to kill myself because I'm worthless at this point.
What's the question(how can we advise)? I'm an artist like yourself so maybe I can help
keep deawing babby
and maybe you can change your style from a niggerfaggot animoo style into realistic and cool but with a touch of identity that is unique to your style, then do cool stuff with it, nit just portraits and bodies but scenarios and situations maybe spice it up by making a comic,
or you could just drink mexican shmegma for the rest of your life in a tex mex brothel. either way its either eat the shmegma or pay someone else to eat yours or something like that.
I dated and artist, we had a room set up for painting crafts etc, she said why don't you go paint something, I said I did the know how, she said your not trying get to sell it so just go paint. I did, was a blast. Are creating art for yourself to have fun, or for others.